FabGuys.com forum: Confused about my sexuality

By *immy7994 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Elgin

I enjoy heterosexual sex with women and find women generally more attractive and very rarely do I find myself attracted to any men who I meet yet I find both the thought and the act of sucking a man's cock the horniest thing ever. I can't help it i get so hot and hard when are guy takes out his dick and presents it to me to suck on, the taste of that juicy dick as I lick and suck on it and cover it in my saliva, occasionally stopping to lick the balls and suck them gently whilst I slowly wank the cock and watch it grow in my hand getting harder and bigger and then I start to take it deep in my throat gagging a little but looking at you as I work that big dick with my warm wet mouth. I bend over as I suck and offer up my arse for him to use his fingers to poke my tight arsehole making me wriggle my bum and push back on his fingers as I start to really suck his cock now before finally swallowing his hot cum.

Am I gay? I'd love peoples advice and opinion

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By *treyu500Man
4 weeks ago

Australia

Only you can answer that question to be honest.

I was a bit "confused" for most of my life and to a degree I'm still figuring it out. I like dick, I'm physically attracted to some men. Anal, I'm still not that bothered with although I do still partake. Not liking anal really confused me because I thought that was a huge part of "gay sex". Am I more straight than gay because anal doesn't appeal to me that much ?

Who knows and it doesn't actually matter. I enjoy sex with men. I enjoy sex with women. Use whatever label you want. I used to correct people if they said I was gay - I would remind them im Bi. But as I got more comfortable with my sexuality, I really don't care anymore. All that matters is how I feel about my sexuality.

There's lots of guys on here that say they have no attraction to men romantically and merely like cock. I personally think that's a result of compartmentalizing their sexuality.

And, liking dick or ass would fall into the category of attraction on my opinion.

I like tits and fanny - am I not attracted to women ?

Don't put too much weight on other peoples opinions because it's really about how you feel, what makes you happy/horny etc.

Maybe ask yourself this question? Could you ever see yourself in a relationship with a man? If so or if not, why? And if the reasons are based around other people and their opinion, that could be a place to start working on.

I got a bit of over the phone counselling years ago that helped me come to these conclusions. If you or anyone else feels like that could help you then just pm me for details on how it works.

I hope this helps

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By *ndyBristolMan
4 weeks ago

Keynsham

my view is this,

if you fancy women but also like cock then you are most likely bi.

Being bi doesn't have to include anal or oral, you might just enjoy touching or seeing cock.

That is my view and I am sure other people may think differently.

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By *immy7994 OP Man
6 days ago

Elgin

Thanks for your input it's very welcome. I work in a very male dominated industry where you still get homophobic comments and attitudes on a regular basis and I know if my clients found out I was into cock the work would quickly dry up. I could see myself in a relationship with a guy if it was somewhere more relaxed to same sex couples but I know the reaction here would be catastrophic. Anal sex does worry me a little, I've only been fucked once and whilst I enjoyed it it was painful at times and the guy wasn't gentle with me and my hole was sore for a couple of days and carpet burns on my knees. I'm sure with more experience I'll come to love it but then you worry if long term it'll damage my arsehole

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By *treyu500Man
5 days ago

Australia

Honestly, people will surprise you . One of my best friends (66) is a train driver. He's a masculine, normal guy of that generation. It's a very blokey bloke type workforce - There literally wasn't a woman on the work force until the 00's. He has driven trains over 40 years. He "came out" as gay decades ago. 99% of the guys were fine and they still say homophobic stuff sometimes but it's not in a targeted offensive way. And a lot of people don't realise the harm that saying that kind of stuff can do. I remember saying it myself as a teenager, it was just the language that we used at the time and obviously I would have wanted to blend in so I used it too. I never wanted to hurt gay gays/bi or make them feel like they couldn't come out or be themselves. I realised the irony too and stopped using it as soon as I had the maturity/life experience to care less about what my peers thought.

Another friend of mine didn't want to come out because his sons used that language with their friends at the house when they hung out, watching TV, playing console games. He thought they would NEVER accept him but they did and his new male partner is only a few years older than his boys. His X wife is also very happy for him.

The few negative comments that my train driver friend got over the years were quickly handled by colleagues that would come to his defence - not that he needed it tbh.

But, it goes to show you that we really underestimate how much things have changed. Years of listening to the comments "such a faggot", that's "gay" etc. it's hard to see the positives to be honest.

Not much more I can say really. I don't advertise my sexuality at work and most guys/girls don't. So very few people know. Tbh, I never told most of my friends or family - they will figure it out eventually that I'm bi. It's none of their business anyway. I don't go up to straight friends and start asking them about that stuff.

Regardless, it's just a job. Live your life for you, based on what you like/want/need. Not based on what other people MIGHT think.

My dad - a deeply religious catholic man told me when I told him that I like men:

"you're only on this mortal plane for a short amount of time, so all that matters is that you're happy while you're here".

Obviously, I'm very lucky to have such a wonderful father. But, even if he was a sour old cunt - the message here is what matters. We get one life. Live it however you want to.

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By *iscreet99Man
5 days ago

Cashel

Gosh thank you for a really well crafted and inciteful post. We need more like your's on this site!!! Well done.

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By *ardsoloMan
5 days ago

Harlow

I do question my sexuality at times. I'm finding myself attracted to men lately, not sure if it's being too horny and needing that nakedness feeling, touching and being touched by another man. I believe I'm bi but sometimes think am I more. It doesn't help that I'm married also.

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By *ranform71Man
5 days ago

Hinckley

Don’t question your sexuality. Relish it. I was the same. For years I was confused and questioned my own mind about being with a man sexually. I see beautiful men in changing rooms and try not to stare. But failed miserably. It wasn’t until I met my now wife, that I was able to explore. I’d come home from work early. She was on the pc with her legs open playing with herself. Shocked. But instantly horny, I ask her what she was doing and watching . She instantly closed the pc and looked extremely embarrassed. She started crying and apologising. Confused. I took the pc. Opened it to find the screen filled with bisexual people doing bisexual stuff. I’m already feeling horny. She explained that she loves watching gay/bi porn, it turned her on so much. A sense of relief flowed through me. I gave her a huge hug. I think we need to talk. We chatted for hours. Me telling her about my hidden secret. I told her everything about what I thought and wanted. That’s when we decided to join fabswingers as a bisexual couple. I joined Fabguys. As you can see by my profile, I’ve never looked. We’ve had an amazing adventure so far. Our relationship is stronger now than ever.

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By *ear3000Man
5 days ago

Colchester

Myself I ha e always been gay all my life even from a young age I knew

About 2 years ago a very good close friend, women ask me if I had ever tried it with a women I said no

Then she offered for me to try it with her

So we did

First time ever a women seeing me naked hard etc and it was so thrilling and we had so much sex

But now I'm still feel I'm questions myself but I feel I shouldn't

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By *treyu500Man
5 days ago

Australia

"Myself I ha e always been gay all my life even from a young age I knew

About 2 years ago a very good close friend, women ask me if I had ever tried it with a women I said no

Then she offered for me to try it with her

So we did

First time ever a women seeing me naked hard etc and it was so thrilling and we had so much sex

But now I'm still feel I'm questions myself but I feel I shouldn't "

As you say in your profile you enjoy sex and having a connection. This woman was a friend so the connection was there. We're very sexual beings and we can get more out of sex than just sexual gratification even if we don't realise we need it. Theres feelings of belonging, giving, receiving, social needs, curiosity needs, intellectual needs and most importantly.....intimacy needs.

Maybe we overthink these things sometimes and try to label everything. You enjoyed the experience and that's the main takeaway

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By *orthBlackpoolMan
5 days ago

Blackpool

I personally don’t like applying labels to people. Everyone is different. We like what we like and as long as both parties consent enjoy yourselves. It’s all in private and no one else’s business. Labels just hightens anxieties. I identify as a gay man but have met enough married men over the years to understand they enjoy a bit of male on male fun every now and again. Not sure if this helps you?

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