FabGuys.com forum: Discovering more about myself

By *irralGuy20 OP Man
3 days ago

Wirral

This isn't a story/fantasy, it's more me sharing recent experiences and putting my thoughts about them out there - to maybe help others finding themselves in a similar situation.

I'm posting the 1st part, if feedback/interest is good i'll carry on.

I recently did something that I had been wanting to do for some time but always found an easy way to get out of actually doing it. I would get really brave about the idea and then would find the easiest way to talk myself out of it. I chat to a guy on here (purely a Fab Friend) who had done it several times and he was forever encouraging me to give it a go but even then I always found a way to get out of it. For me it was that fear of (a) being discovered and (b) being totally overwhelmed by it all but if I am being honest with myself I was also concerned about how/if it would change me sexually.

I'm not overly experienced with men, there honestly haven't been that many that I have given myself to ‘fully’ but the ones I had played with I had met more than once. The regular chap I was meeting at the time was fantastic for my bisexual awakening, he taught me a hell of a lot and helped me by pushing my boundaries but only at a pace that I was happy with (i can never thank him enough) but recently he told me that our times together were coming to an end as he was about to be moving away to work. To say I was gutted would be an understatement, I was so comfortable with him sexually that at times I forgot I was having sex with a man but here it was - all coming to an end.

I talked to him about it, i even asked him if he knew anyone suitable that could replace him but he said no. He did say something in passing that set me thinking, he told me that my confidence was so much greater than when we had first met and that I should perhaps consider trying new things and maybe open my mind up a little more.

On the drive home from his after we fucked for the last time I thought about what he said. The sex we had just had hadn't been ‘the best’ we'd ever had but it did make me realise that I did not want to go through a period of abstinence and that my bi side needed to be satisfied still - probably to a greater extent than ever before. I got home and messaged my Fab mate and told him that I had just lost my fuckbuddy and that I didn't know what to do next - what he said next made TOTAL sense to me in light of my feelings both then and also in relation to the ones that I had been putting off for some time. He said ‘time for you to start thinking about that sauna visit again lol’ - and a light bulb illuminated right there and then in my head as he said it. All that uncertainty totally vanished at that point, I knew he had been before - and often - and after a chat about it via text I was moreorless sold on the idea. He added at the end ‘if you want i'll even come with you’, on hearing that i asked ‘how soon can we go’?

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By *reefreeMan
3 days ago

Wirral

Looking forward to this. We’re fairly local so I’ve seen your posts here and on fs over the years, plus we are big fans of the same venue.

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By *lim gym guyMan
3 days ago

Ormskirk

Sounds really interesting especially as I also go the place you’re referring to

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By *ich65Man
3 days ago

Chorley

Well written, and looking forward to more.

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By *irralGuy20 OP Man
2 days ago

Wirral

A date was agreed, we would visit on the 1st Friday of the month which just so happened to be a Bi Day at the Sauna and I chose this for one reason predominantly, which was to give the visit some form of ‘legitimacy’ (in my head) in that i would not be visiting a gay sauna. Make no mistake, I wanted to be around men and had no real interest in the women who may be there but the female presence meant I was not ‘turning gay’ and that if I was to meet someone there who I knew I could always say that I was there for the girls - it was my get out of jail card.

That Friday arrived & I picked my FAB pal up from the agreed meeting point. We had never actually physically met/spoke before but once in the car we just clicked, we covered lots of topics on the journey - sports, politics etc - but the predominant one was about what I could expect once there. I had explained my previous anxiety to him and he was fantastic at reassuring me but he did allude to the fact that I would probably be about to see things I had never seen before and he told me tales of previous visits he had made. He does not drive so his visits had been minimal but he did enjoy the times he had been. At times in the past my bottle would have started to go, but not this time and I found myself getting more excited as the journey progressed.

We arrived more or less bang on High Noon (the irony wasn't lost on me), I recognised the building from pics/videos I had seen online and the realisation of what I was about to do hit me. First thing I noted was that the car park was absolutely full already - no spaces left - and so my buddy directed me to an area i did not feel very happy about. It was the first negative thought of the day but I parked and we began the walk back to the entrance. We had both made a decision (independently) to wear a baseball cap which (for me) was to preserve anonymity and we agreed on a plan for the day. The plan involved a time we had to leave by (regardless of what was happening) which was 3:45pm as my pal needed to be home before his (female) partner was home from work and I was absolutely fine with this as - by then - I will have had four hours and that should be enough for me for a first visit. We arrived at the front door - no turning back now.

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By *eddyfMan
2 days ago

Rainham

Nice

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By *ugerlugsMan
2 days ago

Europe

Can’t wait to hear about your adventures mmm, I used to visit saunas often before I retired, I was a continental trucker so had ample opportunity all around Europe, I often replay in my head some of the hot times I had while having a wank xxxxx

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By *ountyladMan
2 days ago

chelmsford

I think there is some mileage in this story.😃

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By *ich65Man
1 day ago

Chorley

🔥🔥🔥😈

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By *irralGuy20 OP Man
1 day ago

Wirral

We walked in and the door closed behind us and up ahead was the counter. I looked around, noticed the two staircases and suddenly began to relax while we waited for our turn at the desk. I took off my cap and I instantly felt a sense of ease, no nerves, no shakes, just a sense of ‘belonging’.

Formalities dealt with and it was off to the changing rooms - towel in hand - and on entering i was greeted by the sight of a lot of men in various states of dress and undress. This was going to be a huge test for me as I have always been nervous around men - especially in places like public toilets and gyms and always tended to hide away were possible. In toilets I would often seek the safety of a cubicle, in the gym I would turn into a wall or corner but in that precise moment I found myself undressing with absolute ease and disregard for my appearance. I am not the biggest ‘down there’ but at that precise moment I simply did not give two fucks. I turned and faced INTO the group without a care in the world and I didn't care who saw me. I wrapped my towel my waist, I was ready.

My mate nipped to use the loo and I took this opportunity to walk into the hallway to have a quick look at what was nearby and my curiosity took me to the outside area. The first thing I saw was a couple in the hot tub - ladies top half exposed - and it was at that moment I knew I had arrived. My mate caught me off and took me on a quick tour, we started in the bar area and then into the spa area. I saw men in the hot tub just chatting and naked guys walked by me on the way to shower after using (what i found to be) the steam room.

I was then taken upstairs,again walking past towelled men - and then I saw my first fully naked guy, his towel over his shoulder without a care as to who saw him. In the gym if I looked at a fit guy I always had to make sure it was done discreetly and quickly but what I found here was that I had all the time I wanted TO look and what's more I was looking at men who WANTED to be looked at. This again was another potential trigger overcome and I felt another sense of safety wash over me. The tour continued and I was quickly shown all the key areas. It was all a whirl and I did become overwhelmed at what I thought i needed to remember but my mate reassured me and said I would soon get my bearings.

He then said to me that he was going to one particular area - ‘why dont you take yourself off and explore, i'll see you later’. ‘Shit’ I thought, i'm now on my fuckin own here, what do I do next’? but again, with no sense of panic. My mate walked off, I turned the other way and headed off, I knew exactly where I wanted to go first.

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By *onyryan1972XXXMan
22 hours ago

Stockport

More please

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By *irralGuy20 OP Man
14 hours ago

Wirral

The spa area had caught my eye on the short tour I took - especially the hot tub. Earlier in the week I had treated my wife to a Spa day and hot tub, sauna and steam room where three of the areas we relaxed in. I was fully aware that these 2 spa areas probably really could not be compared so it was with a little bit of nerves i re entered the hot tub area.

I chose the hot tub first, I wanted a moment to relax and take in all I had just seen and as I entered i noted three guys were already in there. ‘Shit, there's somebody already in there’ I thought but then another voice said ‘but that's kinda the point’ - my angel & demon working their magic - and at this point I decided ‘i'm going in’.

This meant me needing to remove my towel and potentially being seen but I didn't seem to be bothered. I turned to face the hangers - hanging it up along with the condom and lube I had been given on arrival and then i turned to face the pool. I was now fully exposed to anybody who wanted to see me. I am usually quite body/cock conscious but those thoughts simply weren't there. I stepped toward the tub and made my way in, it was warm and deep but felt really good. I took up a position where I was facing the door and this meant I could ‘people watch’. I sat and watched people come and go from the steam room area heading for the shower, I also watched men exit and enter the tub - all the while having the ability to look at and appreciate the physical specimens before me the way (i hoped that) they'd viewed me.

I did note that there wasn't much in terms of interaction in the tub so I got out after ten mins or so and headed for the sauna. There was one other guy in their who was leaving as I entered. I had the place to myself and being aware that this was my first time alone since arriving I discovered a little inner peace for myself. I stayed there just enjoying the ‘me’ time but soon after I decided it was time to carry on exploring. I left the sauna and headed for the showers and one was available. My towel now rehung i pressed the button and the water flowed out, I stood underneath it and enjoyed that feeling of a warm rainstorm and began to soap myself up and as I did - I still don't know why I did it - i turned to face the room. In a normal shower situation I would be facing in but here i was totally exposing myself and rubbing my hands everywhere. Anyone watching would have seen me soaping my cock, my balls as well as my arse crack. My eyes were closed as I did all this so had no idea who - if any - were watching me do this. This wasn't me attention seeking, this was simply me very comfortably settling into an environment I had never entered before and after rinsing off - again with my hands everywhere - I dried off and decided it was time to head back upstairs.

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By *endeepMan
14 hours ago

Gt Yarmouth

You could be writing about my first time in a sauna...i think its similar for most of us guys....xxx keep writing

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By *irralGuy20 OP Man
13 hours ago

Wirral

"You could be writing about my first time in a sauna...i think its similar for most of us guys....xxx keep writing

That's kinda what I an trying to do, I'd also like it to give other newbies the confidence that I sadly lacked until very recently ❤️

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By *atureSMan
13 hours ago

Ormskirk

Lovely messages. Genius really appreciate. I know the place like explore saunas and people. There is action everywhere sometimes I can have impression its dirty place but I will always find something for myself. Like exploring and being explores

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By *ycling_Bi2Man
9 hours ago

Liverpool

I’m sure this story resonates with quite a few of us, it certainly does with me. My first time there was on my own so really had to force myself through that front door, now I’m a regular visitor. Definitely want to hear more of this adventure 👍

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By *autiously_curiousMan
9 hours ago

Craigavon

Never been tonone but would be curious to go as an observer or to have a bit of light fun.

But our localnone is in a bad way form what I gather and the next closest is 100 miles away lol!

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By *tiffunMan
8 hours ago

wantage

Progressing nicely

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By *arethwallaceMan
8 hours ago

portsmouth

I hope this continues as I like what you are saying it’s so helpful to how I feel

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By *ashitMan
7 hours ago

Sutton

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By *att44UKMan
39 minutes ago

Bolton

Thank you for posting this. Interested to hear more. I’ve not tried sauna yet but I’m curious to try.

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