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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile "

Nice idea

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By *uckmytitsMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

It does surprise me that isn't an option. It would be handy.

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By *allguy1959Man
over a year ago

Southsea

Totally agree

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By *ezzadMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too.

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By *estcum2020Man
over a year ago

Workington


"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too."

You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would be a great function

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By *cillybiMan
over a year ago

isles of scilly

I have bisexual on my profile but am more gay and single

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By *nglishMan101Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

This would be a great addition to the site

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

I'd like this option too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how do you define gay ? I’ve often been angrily told on here that anyone who touches a cock is gay regardless. So thats everyone then ?????

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"So how do you define gay ? I’ve often been angrily told on here that anyone who touches a cock is gay regardless. So thats everyone then ?????"

It's people on here that classify themselves on here as gay, not bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While they're at it, I wish they could develop a filter to filter out people whose attitude is far from acceptable.

I categorised myself as bi even though I haven't actually had a sexual experience with a female but as I get turned on by gay, bi, straight and lesbian porn and fancy some females, I believe that I am bi. I'm not out as bi to friends, family nor work colleagues as it seems to be easier to just say I'm gay.

I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day

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By *nglishMan101Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Seems highly unlikely

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By *aveLondon2Man
over a year ago

nearby


" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day "

I hope so.. but sadly there are some folks that think being bi is not a real state of being.. or really just an apprenticeship to being gay.. Tolerance preached but not practiced fully in our? LGBGT+ community.

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
over a year ago

Heathrow

There is search button for guys only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is as option you can choose either Gay, bi-sexual, Bi-Curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day

I hope so.. but sadly there are some folks that think being bi is not a real state of being.. or really just an apprenticeship to being gay.. Tolerance preached but not practiced fully in our? LGBGT+ community.

"

This is a good site.

Admittedly, there are some who would prefer it to be gay only, and I understand and respect that.

But at the end of the day....

...we are all individuals with different sexual preferences.

This site caters for all and I'm thankfully for that.

We don't need to get so hung up on labels.

Just seek out connections that appeal to us as individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All such classifications are human constructs, whether they refer to race, colour of skin, sexual orientation etc etc.....

They serve to encourage division rather than unity......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But your down as bi yourself

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By *eepthroat1000Man
over a year ago

Glasgow, Scotstoun

I have been on a few different sites and find so much toxic masculinity on this one , the way a lot of the ,and i am truly sorry i have to say this,bi/marrried brigade treat people and all the phobic terms that are used it is like being in Glasgow in the seventies all over again

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By *rchard thiefMan
over a year ago

Accrington-ish

As he wants a search facility for gay guys, I'd assume he is only looking for gay guys. I'm a gay guy and I'd like a search facility for bi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too."

There already is just a CD/TV search option and I think that's what's spurred the question as to why there is not a search only for gay men option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best meets I had been with gays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on a few different sites and find so much toxic masculinity on this one , the way a lot of the ,and i am truly sorry i have to say this,bi/marrried brigade treat people and all the phobic terms that are used it is like being in Glasgow in the seventies all over again "

Haven't seen too much of that myself, and for those that do I just have a right good chuckle to myself. More often than not the ones bleating on loudest about masculinity / not attracted to men / won't kiss other men etc are also the same bi/married who continuously post pic after pic of themselves in women's underwear. Nothing very masculine about that I'm afraid. No point saying to them to come out the closet, as they seem far too busy with jumping into the wifes/gfs at every opportunity to come out of their own.

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By *einmeMan
over a year ago

Comber


" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day

I hope so.. but sadly there are some folks that think being bi is not a real state of being.. or really just an apprenticeship to being gay.. Tolerance preached but not practiced fully in our? LGBGT+ community.

This is a good site.

Admittedly, there are some who would prefer it to be gay only, and I understand and respect that.

But at the end of the day....

...we are all individuals with different sexual preferences.

This site caters for all and I'm thankfully for that.

We don't need to get so hung up on labels.

Just seek out connections that appeal to us as individuals.

"

Quite right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But your down as bi yourself "

The option to opt out isn`t available , when completing the profile.....otherwise I would have selected the 'rather not say ' option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its like guys who say they are“straight” but looking to meet guys, puzzles me

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By *aveLondon2Man
over a year ago

nearby


"its like guys who say they are“straight” but looking to meet guys, puzzles me "

Demand!.. some gay guys like it, look for it, so supply meets it.. most don’t really mean they’re str8 anyway.

There’s a guy advertising here who is a power top, fucks guys senseless for long sessions.. he says he’s straight..

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By *arly RiserMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. "

You can

There's an option to see men only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

"

Click the drop down box that defaults to "anyone"

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By *arly RiserMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Thank you. But, presumably we're all men as far as the site/computer is concerned? Just men presenting themselves in a .... feminine way?. But thank you for your reply. I,ll go and have a look. Enjoy your day.

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By *arly RiserMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Cindy Dreams: Got it!! Durrr! Thank you mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cindy Dreams: Got it!! Durrr! Thank you mate. "

No probs.

Happy perving

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By *nglishMan101Man
over a year ago

Liverpool


"All such classifications are human constructs, whether they refer to race, colour of skin, sexual orientation etc etc.....

They serve to encourage division rather than unity......

"

No they don't. Some people, me included are gay and want to use that "label".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding single gay guys on here is hens teeth.

Any genuine out there, message me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too.

You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'."

You can but you still get the guys who identify as 'man' in their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

"

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section.

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By *ondon RimmerMan
over a year ago

Islington

And ability to search profile text please.

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By *owymanMan
over a year ago

Chorley

A cock is a cock, if its a guy one or bi one, what's the difference??

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By *eepthroat1000Man
over a year ago

Glasgow, Scotstoun

it can boil down to the attitude that a lot of bi/married men have

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By *ompeytopMan
over a year ago

Chichester

There are lots of improvements that could be made to the search facility but sadly I don't think anything will change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In your details be box you can enter your personal sexual detail bi-sexual Gay bi curious top or btm etc and preferences

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By *endyinascarfTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day

I hope so.. but sadly there are some folks that think being bi is not a real state of being.. or really just an apprenticeship to being gay.. Tolerance preached but not practiced fully in our? LGBGT+ community.

This is a good site.

Admittedly, there are some who would prefer it to be gay only, and I understand and respect that.

But at the end of the day....

...we are all individuals with different sexual preferences.

This site caters for all and I'm thankfully for that.

We don't need to get so hung up on labels.

Just seek out connections that appeal to us as individuals.

"

I wonder where this one went he didn't last long

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By *rivate blokeMan
over a year ago

winchcombe

I kind of think that's unfair on blokes who are bi who can't come out as gay to anyone but prefer gay men. Personally I find bi men who are comfortable with their sexuality a lot less hung up on labels. Don't ask for equality on one hand then ask for inequality on the other.

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By *arti G xTV/TS
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford


"Finding single gay guys on here is hens teeth.

Any genuine out there, message me x "

Single & gay & can even accom, not that, that makes any difference, guess comes down to what the guy is looking for at the end of the day, plus not always easy as have to work things around as most can't meet at weekends or evenings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lobot200Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Yes please good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Gay search.

Cd. Search

That would save a lot of times wasters. In my opinion

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By *onny567Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Ad love a secret gay boy friend to be lovers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The search function needs improvement for sure. Where are all the guts hiding ... Gay or otherwise. You think there hard to find try finding a top tv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex with Gay men is so much better. I'd love a gay top boyfriend

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By *arti G xTV/TS
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford


"Sex with Gay men is so much better. I'd love a gay top boyfriend "

Would love one of those also.

Will have to put in an order.

Make mine Mature top, chunky build, FWE cropped/bald, trimmed beard/goatee. Genuine & lives local I Wish.

Guess they are out of stock lol

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By *quafina152Man
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

I personally would like to be able to filter Bi-curious, Bi, Gay etc. We have the ability to filter via ethnic background and race rightly or wrongly. Yes we are all one people and need to treat each other with respect and shouldn't put up boundaries so i propose a new filter which is: No, i'm not married and have a wife and kids at home so i will never develop a meaningful relationship with you or put you first. Or Yes, i do.

Just a thought!

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By *einmeMan
over a year ago

Comber


"its like guys who say they are“straight” but looking to meet guys, puzzles me

Demand!.. some gay guys like it, look for it, so supply meets it.. most don’t really mean they’re str8 anyway.

There’s a guy advertising here who is a power top, fucks guys senseless for long sessions.. he says he’s straight.. "

What's his name ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex with Gay men is so much better. I'd love a gay top boyfriend

Would love one of those also.

Will have to put in an order.

Make mine Mature top, chunky build, FWE cropped/bald, trimmed beard/goatee. Genuine & lives local I Wish.

Guess they are out of stock lol "

amazon prime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a fantastic tool, I am not sure if I am listed as bi on here but would be nice having the option for gay (guys that aren’t married)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion most gay guys say there bi any way. Not many genuine guys on here

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By *eepthroat1000Man
over a year ago

Glasgow, Scotstoun


"In my opinion most gay guys say there bi any way. Not many genuine guys on here "

maybe on this site but most out gay guys are just that out gay guys, so your opinion is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile "

Here! Here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section. "

I find that very frustrating too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a ltr/nsa option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section.

I find that very frustrating too."

Yep me too

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By *oose1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I’m bi and like to meet bi and gay guys

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago


"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too.

You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'."

Unfortunately that doesn't work - you can specify the types you are " into " but it doesn't stop your profile being flooded by the category you ain't interested in !!

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I know it's live & let live etc - I get that & understand it - BUT - when you are a GAY GUY INTO GAY GUYS only who look & dress like MEN - I really do find annoying to see lingerie lovers as the main focus on here these days - despite clicking the original types you are looking for or not looking for page at the start.

Am beginning to think the site is geared at TV's & CD's & no longer aimed at GAY MEN - rant over - throw the bricks & I'll throw them right back

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By *enny58transTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Wigan

Well do prefer to be with a gay guys but always happy to enjoy company whatever a person see themselves as

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By *ay12345123Man
19 weeks ago

Nottingham

Love to gay tops let them take turns on me

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By *iny cock xMan
18 weeks ago

Chester

Here

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By *oodster111Man
18 weeks ago

biggleswade


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section.

I find that very frustrating too.

Yep me too"

Me too. I'm here to see / meet men, not men who think they look great in women's clothing. They're a total turn off. Just give us some proper filtering so we can decide if we or don't want to see them.

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By *ornyphil260Man
18 weeks ago

Barton

Would be good

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By *en22Man
18 weeks ago

renfrew


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section.

I find that very frustrating too.

Yep me too

Me too. I'm here to see / meet men, not men who think they look great in women's clothing. They're a total turn off. Just give us some proper filtering so we can decide if we or don't want to see them."

Totally agree. So many guys under "men" and their pic is of them in their poor wives underwear

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By *aveagoMan
18 weeks ago

Southend on sea


"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts.

You can

There's an option to see men only

I agree.. gay guy here looking for 1-2-1

This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section.

I find that very frustrating too.

Yep me too

Me too. I'm here to see / meet men, not men who think they look great in women's clothing. They're a total turn off. Just give us some proper filtering so we can decide if we or don't want to see them.

Totally agree. So many guys under "men" and their pic is of them in their poor wives underwear "

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By *WM04Man
7 weeks ago

Preston

Hear !! Hear !! I agree totally with your sentiments - it is frustrating when all you want to search for are gay guys & yet everytime I click on the men only gallery - there are always images of guys popping up wearing female attire , lingerie or not , I'm aware some of these guys might be gay & find dressing as such their thing but it's not to everyones taste - I just wish these types of photos were restricted to the CD/TV gallery - yea , I know each to their own etc - live & let live but as a gay guy - seeing men in female attire is just so NOT appealing !!

I know you'll say just click on by, I do , continually , but I just don't want to keep seeing them there in the first place - rant over - for now !!

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By *evGuy370Man
7 weeks ago

Beverley

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

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By *onny567Man
7 weeks ago

liverpool

Sorry guys am bi but love being with gay guys

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By *oveitrawMan
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

Are some gay guys refusing to meet a guy if it says bi on his profile?

We're all on here looking for men aren't we? I don't care what they label themselves as

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By *arridMan
7 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

I didn’t realise some men didn’t want to be with bi guys. I’m sure if a gay guy met a bi guy he could be certain the bi guy had cleaned any cunt-spunk off his cock.

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By *awihMan
7 weeks ago

Aldershot


"I didn’t realise some men didn’t want to be with bi guys. I’m sure if a gay guy met a bi guy he could be certain the bi guy had cleaned any cunt-spunk off his cock. "

Quite simple really they may not want to hook up with bi men for their own reasons, just as they may not want to meet gay men who are already in a relationship especially if the person’s partner doesn’t know.

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By *eordieBumFunMan
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

I've no interest in meeting people cheating on their partners, and I totally don't have a problem with people not wanting to meet bi men when so many on these sites are just blokes married to women and sneaking about. I'm bisexual myself and single and out, but with some of the experiences I've had with those identifying like me I can see why some guys just don't want to bother. We all have preferences, chosing a sex partner is by definition exclusionary. People getting annoyed about being excluded is a red flag to me.

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By *treyu500Man
6 weeks ago

Australia

It just makes sense to have that option. Many of us are bi but it is a gay website.

I was quite hung up on the moral dilemma of meeting married men on here at first. Purely based on my own personal morals. But, I also didn't want to risk the drama of being dragged into something if they got caught because I lived in a reasonably small community where everyone knows everyone.

Unfortunately when I started meeting guys, I met a man at his home. He looked familiar but I couldn't place him. Something didn't feel right. Long story short his wife came home and I had to make a swift exit .....out the only exit which was the front door where I passed by her in the driveway. I was pissed off and mortified. I later learned that he had planned it because he gets off on the excitement of nearly being caught. Then I remembered he was a local butcher lol. Total cunt for doing that to me and to her. He also put me at risk of being outed .

Nowadays I don't care so much morally- it's their relationship and it's none of my business. Plus, "I'm out" and actively date both men and women so I'm less bothered by the secretive nature of some meets.

The gays are generally in open relationships anyway and many definitely break the rules of their open/monogamous relationship/. Whether it be with me or with someone else, I generally don't care and I've learned not to ask as I'm not the one in the relationship.

Others do care which is fine. They should have the option of preferences. I have met guys on here that I genuinely liked and we either became friends or friends with benefits because we didn't have to hide the fact we know each other.....

They were all out bi/gay men with the exception of one. And the hiding things became too tedious with that guy because his paranoia of being caught was contagious.

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By *awihMan
6 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too.

You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'."

Correct BUT you can’t filter out CD’s most of which from observation are listed as some form of Bi. Being able to filter as those identified as Gay only should exclude most with CD images.

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By *lderguy4youMan
4 weeks ago

ROTHERHAM

Mmmm we definitely need a rim and suck only site..as I don't suck cock...yes very selfish I know..never sucked a cock never will...but will take a nice deep wet rimming and sucking from BI.gay straight. And tvs .tgirls.women...as long as they rim my nice clean ass I don't care who the tongue belongs too.lol..

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By *ookingaroundMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile "

Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?

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By *oose1Man
4 weeks ago

doncaster

A bi back door is no different from a gay one

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By *awihMan
4 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile

Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?"

Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people.

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By *ookingaroundMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile

Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?

Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people."

You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down.

We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people.

The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid.

I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group.

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By *awihMan
4 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile

Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?

Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people.

You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down.

We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people.

The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid.

I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group.

"

Well you asked the question, I have given you the answer honestly from my perspective, if you don’t like it that is up to you. Personally I don’t have anything against bi guys, I have and do know a few BUT if I’m looking for something regular or more permanent then Bi just isn’t going to fit the bill.

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By *ookingaroundMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol


"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile

Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?

Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people.

You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down.

We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people.

The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid.

I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group.

Well you asked the question, I have given you the answer honestly from my perspective, if you don’t like it that is up to you. Personally I don’t have anything against bi guys, I have and do know a few BUT if I’m looking for something regular or more permanent then Bi just isn’t going to fit the bill."

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

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By *treyu500Man
4 weeks ago

Australia

It's a matter of preferences and getting what you want without wasting each others time. Most of what was said about bi guys in here is very accurate. And this is coming from a fellow bi guy.

Some of the bi guys on here can't even admit that liking a man's cock or ass = being attracted to a man.

If he wants to filter those guys out - it's not hard to see why. Stereotypes exist for a reason. And this website has a big cohort of closeted married men. Let's call a spade a spade.

Theres lots of little quality of life changes that could make this website more enjoyable- more filter options, more sub categories in the forums for CDs/wife/panty talk. But, it's never going to happen. It's just a cluster fuck of unorganised chaos. And that's also part of the charm lol

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By *awihMan
4 weeks ago

Aldershot


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum."

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

I think the overall search facility can be improved.

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By *ampshire 555Man
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Split off FabBi.com as a separate site?

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By *rogger7Man
2 weeks ago

mytholmroyd

Maybe try fabguys..?

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place."

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"Split off FabBi.com as a separate site? "

Where is Fabgay?

I thought it was Fabguys?

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By *rabtreerobMan
2 weeks ago

kingsbridge

Prosume they ate not camp

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be."

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

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By *upertedMan
2 weeks ago

Nelson

I'd love more options for positions.

Oral is so all encompassing but it could be Oral-Giving and Oral-Receiving.

Be cool to also have Top Top Versa Versa Bottom Versa Bottom.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only."

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. "

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site."

You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing.

What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay.

Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part.

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site.

You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing.

What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay.

Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. "

What is it to you if we prefer to meet gay guys?

The simple fact that bi's have turned this site into a paradise for cheats who talk publicly and crudely about their wifes and girlfriends should be reason enough for you to understand OUR preference.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site.

You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing.

What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay.

Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. "

I’ve given my reasons (which is more than you deserve and quite frankly none of your business)

You want to make this about some form of discrimination when it is about personal choice and practicality.

I’m Not going to respond to any more of your ridiculous responses - as I’ve said before if you don’t like my answers that is your problem, and you are not going to dictate what my personal preferences should be.

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By *ookingandgenuineMan
2 weeks ago

Dumfries


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site.

You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing.

What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay.

Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part.

I’ve given my reasons (which is more than you deserve and quite frankly none of your business)

You want to make this about some form of discrimination when it is about personal choice and practicality.

I’m Not going to respond to any more of your ridiculous responses - as I’ve said before if you don’t like my answers that is your problem, and you are not going to dictate what my personal preferences should be."

How are you?

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"

I don’t understand your response.

Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it?

Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum.

Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue.

The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people.

Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet.

If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place.

You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be.

Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for.

I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea.

As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only.

I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you.

The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction.

That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males.

You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd.

Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to.

I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences.

I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for.

And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site.

You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing.

What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay.

Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part.

What is it to you if we prefer to meet gay guys?

The simple fact that bi's have turned this site into a paradise for cheats who talk publicly and crudely about their wifes and girlfriends should be reason enough for you to understand OUR preference.

"

See this is exactly my point. You distilling it into them and us. The Bi’s and the Gays.

That’s why I am calling your bullshit out, it’s the same divisive horseshit that saw (still sees) gay and bi people getting battered in the streets for their sexuality.

If you reduce people to a crude stereotype like you are doing and judge them on that basis you are nothing but a nasty little bigot.

Your bigotry is the same bigotry homophobes trot out, yours is no better.

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia

With all due respect, It's not prejudice. He's identified what his preference is based on his personal experiences and I assume he has a lot of that by his age.

He knows what he wants.

Let's say there's two barrels of fish.

Barrel 1: you've got a 20% chance to catch what you want.

Barrell 2: you've got a 1% chance to catch what you want.

If you're aware of these chances and still pick barrel two then you're not "optimistic". You're intentionally wasting your own time and probably theirs too.

Another reason it's nonsense is many of the bi guys on here identify as bi in secret (no judgement). But they separate themselves and they don't want to be associated with anything gay or LGBT, which is their choice and that's fine too.

Theres lots of bi married men on here that will only meet other bi married men because They're very afraid their secret will be spilled. Being in the "same boat" gives them some peace of mind that the other guy won't say anything, I suppose.

I would be wrong to accuse them of prejudice...... That's just what they want and what they are comfortable with.

All that sneaking around, although fun at first..... I got tired of it myself, so I have a preference for "out" guys. Just a preference, not a prejudice .

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

Every bigot in history felt fully justified because the group they are othering is making their life harder. Thats how bigotry works.

But to want to bar other sections of the community because you only want it to be your specific little group is grubby and bigoted.

Biphobia, which is what some respondents are displaying here is bigoted as much as homophobia or heterophobia, no matter what you feel the reasons for grouping all Bisexual people into one “other” are and how justified you feel about it.

The fish analogy doesn’t work as you wrote it, it would be more accurate to say a barrel of fish which swim only clockwise and a barrel of fish which swim in all directions. Because the fish themselves are the same and can do exactly what you are needing them to do, it’s just that the person has a bias for fish all swimming in the same direction. But the fish are all the same.

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia

You're either trolling or you genuinely believe the bs you're peddling.

Either way it's a bit sad. If you look at what I said and feel victimised or marginalised - then it's a you problem buddy.

And most of what was said above that you feel is offensive is also just your opinion. Bisexuality is not a choice. Nobody said it was and that's what biphobia is. As an out bi man, I encounter that all the time "it's a choice" - I've also been called "greedy" or told "pick a side", that being bi is just a stepping stone to gay.

Hiding sexuality from partners, cheating on partners, being less available to meet, being emotionally unavailable, being afraid to meet in public or socially - all this is largely is a choice. It's a consequence from a series of choices that we make as adults. And gay men understand all the factors that lead to these circumstances. If anyone understands, they do. It doesn't mean they want to be a part of it.

These things are not synonymous with bisexuality. They can happen to anyone. I have certainly encountered it with gay men on here and other apps/websites.

But, the result is the same. And there's a theme - you're more likely to find a diamond if you dig in the ground. So if someone wants something from here with another man and it's less likely to come from people in that situation above. It's not phobic. It's common sense. Repeating the same action and expecting a different result is illogical. Good/consistent meets are more likely to happen with people that are available. I see you have no verifications so I'll lean back to the troll comment.

Mental gymnastics around it all you want. Play the victim card if it gives you some solace. But, it doesn't change the facts. Maybe you're annoyed about your own personal situation. Who knows, that's your business.

People have preferences. If, hypothetically, I like/prefer Asian guys. It doesn't make me racist towards whites, blacks etc. It doesn't mean I think other races are unattractive. They just don't appeal to me as much sexually.....

Someone could view me as a racist but that would be their issue to deal with. They're filling in information with their own insecurities and projecting...

It's not difficult to comprehend.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"You're either trolling or you genuinely believe the bs you're peddling.

Either way it's a bit sad. If you look at what I said and feel victimised or marginalised - then it's a you problem buddy.

And most of what was said above that you feel is offensive is also just your opinion. Bisexuality is not a choice. Nobody said it was and that's what biphobia is. As an out bi man, I encounter that all the time "it's a choice" - I've also been called "greedy" or told "pick a side", that being bi is just a stepping stone to gay.

Hiding sexuality from partners, cheating on partners, being less available to meet, being emotionally unavailable, being afraid to meet in public or socially - all this is largely is a choice. It's a consequence from a series of choices that we make as adults. And gay men understand all the factors that lead to these circumstances. If anyone understands, they do. It doesn't mean they want to be a part of it.

These things are not synonymous with bisexuality. They can happen to anyone. I have certainly encountered it with gay men on here and other apps/websites.

But, the result is the same. And there's a theme - you're more likely to find a diamond if you dig in the ground. So if someone wants something from here with another man and it's less likely to come from people in that situation above. It's not phobic. It's common sense. Repeating the same action and expecting a different result is illogical. Good/consistent meets are more likely to happen with people that are available. I see you have no verifications so I'll lean back to the troll comment.

Mental gymnastics around it all you want. Play the victim card if it gives you some solace. But, it doesn't change the facts. Maybe you're annoyed about your own personal situation. Who knows, that's your business.

People have preferences. If, hypothetically, I like/prefer Asian guys. It doesn't make me racist towards whites, blacks etc. It doesn't mean I think other races are unattractive. They just don't appeal to me as much sexually.....

Someone could view me as a racist but that would be their issue to deal with. They're filling in information with their own insecurities and projecting...

It's not difficult to comprehend. "

Nice try pal but you have absolutely missed the point.

We can go around in circles or we can’t, but either way you simply don’t get it. You don’t understand that someone’s physical appearance is very very different to their sexuality which has no external manifestation whatsoever.

Nice try at accusing me of trolling when it is you who simply cannot comprehend and understand your own prejudice because it appears so very ingrained.

You do you, but do not pretend you don’t know that you are no better than a homophobe. It’s a choice you have made and by all means do it.

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia

Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la.

It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention.

Try knitting or something.

Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained.

Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la.

It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention.

Try knitting or something.

Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained.

Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain.

"

I love how you keep telling others they are missing the point the go on, without fail to demonstrate that it is you who is unable to grasp the difference between physical attraction and discrimination on the basis of sexuality.

Over and over again, round and round we go. It’s fantastic and would almost be cute if you weren’t so boring.

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By *oodpeckerMan
2 weeks ago

Falkirk

How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? "

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!

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By *oodpeckerMan
2 weeks ago

Falkirk


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!"

Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!

Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big "

🤣😆

There are some colossal dicks

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia


"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la.

It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention.

Try knitting or something.

Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained.

Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain.

I love how you keep telling others they are missing the point the go on, without fail to demonstrate that it is you who is unable to grasp the difference between physical attraction and discrimination on the basis of sexuality.

Over and over again, round and round we go. It’s fantastic and would almost be cute if you weren’t so boring."

Theres no others. Just you. Just you who skips past or mental back flips around all the points I made that destroys your warped logic. And the other guy explaining why he has his preferences.

You're the one going around and around lol. Reading over all the nonsense, I'm not even sure you know what discrimination is.

I feel sorry for you at this point, there's probably something else going on there. It time to stop feeding the troll .

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la.

It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention.

Try knitting or something.

Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained.

Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain.

I love how you keep telling others they are missing the point the go on, without fail to demonstrate that it is you who is unable to grasp the difference between physical attraction and discrimination on the basis of sexuality.

Over and over again, round and round we go. It’s fantastic and would almost be cute if you weren’t so boring.

Theres no others. Just you. Just you who skips past or mental back flips around all the points I made that destroys your warped logic. And the other guy explaining why he has his preferences.

You're the one going around and around lol. Reading over all the nonsense, I'm not even sure you know what discrimination is.

I feel sorry for you at this point, there's probably something else going on there. It time to stop feeding the troll . "

Just saying things doesn’t make them true.

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By *oodpeckerMan
2 weeks ago

Falkirk


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!

Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big

🤣😆

There are some colossal dicks "

Indeed 😅

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By *oodpeckerMan
2 weeks ago

Falkirk


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!

Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big

🤣😆

There are some colossal dicks

Indeed 😅"

… for which I'm thankful, truly 🙂

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol


"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay?

I think this opens a whole new dimension!!

Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big

🤣😆

There are some colossal dicks

Indeed 😅

… for which I'm thankful, truly 🙂"

We all have that in common

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By *evinmanMan
2 weeks ago

Dublin

Totally agree

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