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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile " Nice idea | |||
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"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too." You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'. | |||
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"So how do you define gay ? I’ve often been angrily told on here that anyone who touches a cock is gay regardless. So thats everyone then ?????" It's people on here that classify themselves on here as gay, not bisexual. | |||
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" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day ![]() I hope so.. but sadly there are some folks that think being bi is not a real state of being.. or really just an apprenticeship to being gay.. Tolerance preached but not practiced fully in our? ![]() | |||
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" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day ![]() ![]() This is a good site. Admittedly, there are some who would prefer it to be gay only, and I understand and respect that. But at the end of the day.... ...we are all individuals with different sexual preferences. This site caters for all and I'm thankfully for that. We don't need to get so hung up on labels. Just seek out connections that appeal to us as individuals. ![]() | |||
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"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too." There already is just a CD/TV search option and I think that's what's spurred the question as to why there is not a search only for gay men option. | |||
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"I have been on a few different sites and find so much toxic masculinity on this one , the way a lot of the ,and i am truly sorry i have to say this,bi/marrried brigade treat people and all the phobic terms that are used it is like being in Glasgow in the seventies all over again " Haven't seen too much of that myself, and for those that do I just have a right good chuckle to myself. More often than not the ones bleating on loudest about masculinity / not attracted to men / won't kiss other men etc are also the same bi/married who continuously post pic after pic of themselves in women's underwear. Nothing very masculine about that I'm afraid. No point saying to them to come out the closet, as they seem far too busy with jumping into the wifes/gfs at every opportunity to come out of their own. | |||
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" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day ![]() ![]() ![]() Quite right | |||
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"But your down as bi yourself ![]() The option to opt out isn`t available , when completing the profile.....otherwise I would have selected the 'rather not say ' option. | |||
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"its like guys who say they are“straight” but looking to meet guys, puzzles me " Demand!.. some gay guys like it, look for it, so supply meets it.. most don’t really mean they’re str8 anyway. There’s a guy advertising here who is a power top, fucks guys senseless for long sessions.. he says he’s straight.. | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. " You can There's an option to see men only ![]() | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() Click the drop down box that defaults to "anyone" ![]() | |||
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"Cindy Dreams: Got it!! Durrr! Thank you mate. " No probs. Happy perving ![]() | |||
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"All such classifications are human constructs, whether they refer to race, colour of skin, sexual orientation etc etc..... They serve to encourage division rather than unity...... ![]() No they don't. Some people, me included are gay and want to use that "label". | |||
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"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too. You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'." You can but you still get the guys who identify as 'man' in their profiles. | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() This option falls flat on its face when you select "men only" only to get a matter of 5 pictures in to next see a guy wearing female clothing, obviously it should have been in the TV/CD section. | |||
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" I wonder if it is coincidence that this thread was started close to bi awareness day ![]() ![]() ![]() I wonder where this one went he didn't last long | |||
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"Finding single gay guys on here is hens teeth. Any genuine out there, message me x ![]() Single & gay & can even accom, not that, that makes any difference, guess comes down to what the guy is looking for at the end of the day, plus not always easy as have to work things around as most can't meet at weekends or evenings | |||
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"Sex with Gay men is so much better. I'd love a gay top boyfriend ![]() Would love one of those also. Will have to put in an order. Make mine Mature top, chunky build, FWE cropped/bald, trimmed beard/goatee. Genuine & lives local I Wish. Guess they are out of stock lol | |||
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"its like guys who say they are“straight” but looking to meet guys, puzzles me Demand!.. some gay guys like it, look for it, so supply meets it.. most don’t really mean they’re str8 anyway. There’s a guy advertising here who is a power top, fucks guys senseless for long sessions.. he says he’s straight.. " What's his name ? | |||
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"Sex with Gay men is so much better. I'd love a gay top boyfriend ![]() amazon prime ![]() | |||
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"In my opinion most gay guys say there bi any way. Not many genuine guys on here " maybe on this site but most out gay guys are just that out gay guys, so your opinion is wrong. | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile " Here! Here! | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() I find that very frustrating too. | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() Yep me too | |||
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"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too. You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'." Unfortunately that doesn't work - you can specify the types you are " into " but it doesn't stop your profile being flooded by the category you ain't interested in !! | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() Me too. I'm here to see / meet men, not men who think they look great in women's clothing. They're a total turn off. Just give us some proper filtering so we can decide if we or don't want to see them. | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only ![]() Totally agree. So many guys under "men" and their pic is of them in their poor wives underwear | |||
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"Morning guys. Personally, I'd like to look at the Hot Pics without seeing CD and TV stuff. I know we,ve all got our Prefs, but maybe categories - Men only (being men)/non Men(being whatever). Just my thoughts. You can There's an option to see men only I agree.. gay guy here looking for 1-2-1 ![]() | |||
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"I didn’t realise some men didn’t want to be with bi guys. I’m sure if a gay guy met a bi guy he could be certain the bi guy had cleaned any cunt-spunk off his cock. " Quite simple really they may not want to hook up with bi men for their own reasons, just as they may not want to meet gay men who are already in a relationship especially if the person’s partner doesn’t know. | |||
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"Would be useful to search excluding cd/tv too-I’m not in the slightest interested in seeing it though I’m sure a cd/tv search would be useful too. You can untick TV/TS from search options or choose to search for this only in 'advanced search'." Correct BUT you can’t filter out CD’s most of which from observation are listed as some form of Bi. Being able to filter as those identified as Gay only should exclude most with CD images. | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile " Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like? | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like?" Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people. | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like? Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people." You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down. We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people. The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid. I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group. | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like? Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people. You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down. We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people. The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid. I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group. " Well you asked the question, I have given you the answer honestly from my perspective, if you don’t like it that is up to you. Personally I don’t have anything against bi guys, I have and do know a few BUT if I’m looking for something regular or more permanent then Bi just isn’t going to fit the bill. | |||
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"Can there be a facility to search for gay guys only frustrating going through every profile Why, what does a bi guy have that you don’t like? Think it comes down to things that have been covered in other threads. Finding time for meets being one of them. Also all the wife chat on a man on man site is quite off putting, as is all the dressing up in wife’s clothes. All this is on top of the problem of finding people who are reasonable local. Why just add to the problems if you are trying to actually meet people. You are generalising and stereotyping an awful lot and rather re-enforcing the point that if a gay guy thinks all bi guys want to chat about their wives and wear women’s clothes, they are somewhat letting themselves down. We rightly rail against lazy and negative stereotypes of gay people and I suspect we should be doing the same for bisexual people. The fact that some people have boring chat on here doesn’t make everyone else who shares a sexuality with them invalid. I really don’t enjoy much of the overt chat that gay or bisexual folks have on here, I find it puerile and sometimes grubby, but that’s me, not them. It would never ever make me think that I don’t want to engage with either group. Well you asked the question, I have given you the answer honestly from my perspective, if you don’t like it that is up to you. Personally I don’t have anything against bi guys, I have and do know a few BUT if I’m looking for something regular or more permanent then Bi just isn’t going to fit the bill." I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum." Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place." You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. | |||
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"Split off FabBi.com as a separate site? " Where is Fabgay? I thought it was Fabguys? | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be." Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only." I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. " I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site." You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing. What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay. Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site. You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing. What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay. Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. " What is it to you if we prefer to meet gay guys? The simple fact that bi's have turned this site into a paradise for cheats who talk publicly and crudely about their wifes and girlfriends should be reason enough for you to understand OUR preference. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site. You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing. What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay. Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. " I’ve given my reasons (which is more than you deserve and quite frankly none of your business) You want to make this about some form of discrimination when it is about personal choice and practicality. I’m Not going to respond to any more of your ridiculous responses - as I’ve said before if you don’t like my answers that is your problem, and you are not going to dictate what my personal preferences should be. | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site. You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing. What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay. Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. I’ve given my reasons (which is more than you deserve and quite frankly none of your business) You want to make this about some form of discrimination when it is about personal choice and practicality. I’m Not going to respond to any more of your ridiculous responses - as I’ve said before if you don’t like my answers that is your problem, and you are not going to dictate what my personal preferences should be." How are you? | |||
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" I don’t understand your response. Am I not meant to question suspect acts or beliefs? Am I meant to just take what you say and not point out the hypocrisy and inherently unfair behaviour behind it? Apologies, I thought this was a discussion forum. Well we are discussing the issue are we not. You may not like the answers you get to the questions you ask, but that is your issue. The search facility has filters so that people can filter the results to get better matches in their results to the kind of people they are looking to meet - after all we all have different things that attract us or put us off people. Some of us would rather exclude bi men from our search results because we are less likely to meet them for obvious reasons (as per another thread on the problem of getting away from the wife and family for example) so would rather only see people we stand a higher chance of actually getting to meet be that a one off or regular meet. If you can’t accept that, as I have pointed out that is your problem, mine is not being able to narrow searches to better meet my requirements - it is nothing against bi men as such, but about the practicality of actually meeting them in the first place. You seem to be trying to make this as combative as possible when it really doesn’t need to be. Not in the least. We all have our own preferences in who and what we are looking for. Filters are a mechanism that allows us to narrow our search results to closer matches to what we are looking for. I know I’m not going to be everyone cup of tea, but some seem to object to my being able to filter them out because they are not my cup of tea. As I have said that is their problem not mine, I don’t have a problem with them being able to filter out people of my age, so why should they have a problem with me being able to restrict my search to those who are gay only. I understand the point you are making but I don’t agree with you. The reason is that age carries with it a lot of directly attributable factors such as appearance, which have a direct, tangible impact on our attraction. That a person is bi or gay does not. There are absolutely no markers that can be attributed to attraction and sexuality if you are a man looking for men and are perusing bi or gay males. You may as well ask for a filter for Lancastrians or people from Gwynedd. Because you have a specific prejudice against Bi people and what you are describing is a prejudice, even if it is not one of antipathy, it is still prejudiced against people because of their sexuality, when they may indeed still be exactly what you are looking for, apart from the full gamut of who they are attracted to. I do not agree that the reason for filtering age and sexuality is comparable. There are material differences which set them apart and the reasons why one exists and the other doesn’t could well be borne of those differences. I have set my point out repeatedly in as polite a way as I can. To put it bluntly i don’t want to activity seek out Bi guys as they are not what I am looking for. If you don’t like that, that is your problem not mine and it is MY CHOICE. I’m not forcing anyone else to limit their choice, just looking for the options for filters to give people the best match to what they are looking for. And no I’m not prejudiced (as you put it) against bi guys (I do know some) just not what I am actively looking for on this site. You keep repeating and arguing points which no one is arguing. What you have not been able to make clear is what you are looking for that a bi person cannot give you purely because they are bi, that a gay person can give you purely because they are gay. Everything you have stated is borne of inaccurate presupposition on your part. What is it to you if we prefer to meet gay guys? The simple fact that bi's have turned this site into a paradise for cheats who talk publicly and crudely about their wifes and girlfriends should be reason enough for you to understand OUR preference. " See this is exactly my point. You distilling it into them and us. The Bi’s and the Gays. That’s why I am calling your bullshit out, it’s the same divisive horseshit that saw (still sees) gay and bi people getting battered in the streets for their sexuality. If you reduce people to a crude stereotype like you are doing and judge them on that basis you are nothing but a nasty little bigot. Your bigotry is the same bigotry homophobes trot out, yours is no better. | |||
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"You're either trolling or you genuinely believe the bs you're peddling. Either way it's a bit sad. If you look at what I said and feel victimised or marginalised - then it's a you problem buddy. And most of what was said above that you feel is offensive is also just your opinion. Bisexuality is not a choice. Nobody said it was and that's what biphobia is. As an out bi man, I encounter that all the time "it's a choice" - I've also been called "greedy" or told "pick a side", that being bi is just a stepping stone to gay. Hiding sexuality from partners, cheating on partners, being less available to meet, being emotionally unavailable, being afraid to meet in public or socially - all this is largely is a choice. It's a consequence from a series of choices that we make as adults. And gay men understand all the factors that lead to these circumstances. If anyone understands, they do. It doesn't mean they want to be a part of it. These things are not synonymous with bisexuality. They can happen to anyone. I have certainly encountered it with gay men on here and other apps/websites. But, the result is the same. And there's a theme - you're more likely to find a diamond if you dig in the ground. So if someone wants something from here with another man and it's less likely to come from people in that situation above. It's not phobic. It's common sense. Repeating the same action and expecting a different result is illogical. Good/consistent meets are more likely to happen with people that are available. I see you have no verifications so I'll lean back to the troll comment. Mental gymnastics around it all you want. Play the victim card if it gives you some solace. But, it doesn't change the facts. Maybe you're annoyed about your own personal situation. Who knows, that's your business. People have preferences. If, hypothetically, I like/prefer Asian guys. It doesn't make me racist towards whites, blacks etc. It doesn't mean I think other races are unattractive. They just don't appeal to me as much sexually..... Someone could view me as a racist but that would be their issue to deal with. They're filling in information with their own insecurities and projecting... It's not difficult to comprehend. " Nice try pal but you have absolutely missed the point. We can go around in circles or we can’t, but either way you simply don’t get it. You don’t understand that someone’s physical appearance is very very different to their sexuality which has no external manifestation whatsoever. Nice try at accusing me of trolling when it is you who simply cannot comprehend and understand your own prejudice because it appears so very ingrained. You do you, but do not pretend you don’t know that you are no better than a homophobe. It’s a choice you have made and by all means do it. | |||
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"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la. It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention. Try knitting or something. Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained. Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain. ![]() I love how you keep telling others they are missing the point the go on, without fail to demonstrate that it is you who is unable to grasp the difference between physical attraction and discrimination on the basis of sexuality. Over and over again, round and round we go. It’s fantastic and would almost be cute if you weren’t so boring. | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() I think this opens a whole new dimension!! | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() Already covered by Rather not say, Average, Small, Pretty Big and Very Big ![]() | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() ![]() 🤣😆 There are some colossal dicks | |||
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"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la. It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention. Try knitting or something. Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained. Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain. ![]() Theres no others. Just you. Just you who skips past or mental back flips around all the points I made that destroys your warped logic. And the other guy explaining why he has his preferences. You're the one going around and around lol. Reading over all the nonsense, I'm not even sure you know what discrimination is. I feel sorry for you at this point, there's probably something else going on there. It time to stop feeding the troll ![]() | |||
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"Ok. So you are trolling lol. If not, perhaps consider seeing someone because you're the one missing the point - with your hands on ears singing la la la. It must be a very bleak/boring world if you run around looking for ways to be the victim for attention. Try knitting or something. Maybe meet a man for sex to keep you entertained. Just be careful not to have any preference on his appearance because we wouldn't want you to have racist,fat phobic,height-ist,transphobic, blue eye or black hair phobic notions in your sensitive brain. ![]() ![]() Just saying things doesn’t make them true. | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() ![]() Indeed 😅 | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() ![]() … for which I'm thankful, truly 🙂 | |||
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"How about being able to search for customised search terms like Bolshey bi-curious, ballsy bisexual, or gregarious gay? ![]() ![]() We all have that in common | |||
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