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"They shoukd tell you" You should ask. My profile states mine. | |||
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"Guys are afraid to go get tested not man enough" agree with this, but have a category for positive or negative on here won't change that. | |||
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"They shoukd tell you" Why? If they're diagnosed they're most likely undetectable and their fore none of your business. If their undiagnosed and your playing raw and not on prep then your bad. | |||
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"I have mine on my profile, its updated every time I’m tested." me too | |||
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"Could you develop the site so users can include their status. Would be a big boost to user safety " You are responsible for your own sexual health. The only safe sex is no sex. Condoms lower the risk of most STDs If you bareback, you run a risk of infection. Read up on Prep. Education is key. | |||
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"Most guys now just want random fucks breed you then walk ,never see them again. If they get tested and it's a positive diagnosis ,they do t know how to deal with it so never go back,like a kid ,if I hide my eyes you can't see me ,utter fools. As for medication issue ,as with all meds there can be side effects,if you want to avoid the side effects take them before going to bed,sleep them off. Hiv+ is no longer a death sentance. It's modern man that's the issue" It's very true. It comes back to the lasting stigma and lack of education on the topic. I didn't know anything about it myself until a few years ago. A friend of mine (who has a mild intellectual disability) was meeting a married man. The married guy wanted to BB and convinced my friend that he was "safe" and only barebacked with him. My friend is a bit innocent and vulnerable. He believed him and the used to have sex in a graveyard of all places  .
Long story short, the married guy got very ill and he discovered he had aids. As far as I know, it takes HIV years usually to progress to aids so he had been burying his head in the sand for a long time.
Anyway, he didn't take it well, he refused to tell his wife so she could get tested and kept harassing my friend, blaming him. The married guy convinced himself of his own BS that he was only doing BB with my friend. My friend took prep thankfully everytime they met.
The cops nearly had to be involved to stop the harassment. It was a real moral dilemma for my friend. | |||
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"They shoukd tell you Why? If they're diagnosed they're most likely undetectable and their fore none of your business. If their undiagnosed and your playing raw and not on prep then your bad." And this ladies and gentleman is why I don't bareback. Fucking hell. | |||
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"Some people don't know. And some people would lie." Exactly! | |||
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"Could you develop the site so users can include their status. Would be a big boost to user safety You are responsible for your own sexual health. The only safe sex is no sex. Condoms lower the risk of most STDs If you bareback, you run a risk of infection. Read up on Prep. Education is key." Exactly this, guys need to fully educate themselves as ignorance is not bliss Firstly FACT: someone who is HIV positive takes in a majority of cases one small daily tablet. They achieve and undetectable viral load, effectively a blood cannot detect the virus which means it CANNOT be passed on Guys on PREP prevent HIV So the guys who are high risk and ones I wouldn't meet are guys who never get tested. And it is these guys that are spreading STI's and HIV | |||
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"Could you develop the site so users can include their status. Would be a big boost to user safety You are responsible for your own sexual health. The only safe sex is no sex. Condoms lower the risk of most STDs If you bareback, you run a risk of infection. Read up on Prep. Education is key. Exactly this, guys need to fully educate themselves as ignorance is not bliss Firstly FACT: someone who is HIV positive takes in a majority of cases one small daily tablet. They achieve and undetectable viral load, effectively a blood cannot detect the virus which means it CANNOT be passed on Guys on PREP prevent HIV So the guys who are high risk and ones I wouldn't meet are guys who never get tested. And it is these guys that are spreading STI's and HIV " I agree with this in part. Prep is stopping the spread of HIV and that's a great thing. Treatment makes HIV undetectable and non transmitable- also a great thing. But people with HIV should still disclose it in my view, as the risk of getting HIV from sleeping with someone who has undetectable HIV is v small, but is higher than sleeping with someone who doesn't have HIV- because its possible for their status to have changed and for them not to be aware that it has (as I said, the risk of this is fairly small if medication taking properly and regular testing done. What I would say is that prep is driving a higher amount of unprotected anal which some evidence suggests is driving an increase in STIs. Again that's not a disaster if people test and treat- but we know that lots don't. | |||
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"Could you develop the site so users can include their status. Would be a big boost to user safety " Who will know about his status if they are active in a shag site? Are you joking ??if they say they are negative because they got their result today , they might still be giving you a wrong information without knowing they will be positive tomorrow . | |||
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"Could you develop the site so users can include their status. Would be a big boost to user safety You are responsible for your own sexual health. The only safe sex is no sex. Condoms lower the risk of most STDs If you bareback, you run a risk of infection. Read up on Prep. Education is key. Exactly this, guys need to fully educate themselves as ignorance is not bliss Firstly FACT: someone who is HIV positive takes in a majority of cases one small daily tablet. They achieve and undetectable viral load, effectively a blood cannot detect the virus which means it CANNOT be passed on Guys on PREP prevent HIV So the guys who are high risk and ones I wouldn't meet are guys who never get tested. And it is these guys that are spreading STI's and HIV I agree with this in part. Prep is stopping the spread of HIV and that's a great thing. Treatment makes HIV undetectable and non transmitable- also a great thing. But people with HIV should still disclose it in my view, as the risk of getting HIV from sleeping with someone who has undetectable HIV is v small, but is higher than sleeping with someone who doesn't have HIV- because its possible for their status to have changed and for them not to be aware that it has (as I said, the risk of this is fairly small if medication taking properly and regular testing done. What I would say is that prep is driving a higher amount of unprotected anal which some evidence suggests is driving an increase in STIs. Again that's not a disaster if people test and treat- but we know that lots don't." Nothing increase the amount of sti other than people who are not willing to test themselves . Blaming prep takers for sti is totally wrong as they reg get tested and treated and the chance that you get sti from them would be much less than any straight / bi gay guys sleeping around and don’t test themselves | |||
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Circling back to my opening statement about people who would lie… this of course would be an extremely low number of people but it happens.
Better to protect yourself in the best way you feel is right | |||
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"Ive seen one guy organise a Bare Back Gangbang with a guy and two days later he organised an the same with a female bareback and to fill all her holes. Why would anyone take such a huge risk with strangers? " It’s never a terribly positive thing to start getting judgmental about what other people do. The only thing beholden on each of us is to make sensible risk analysis of our own sexual activities and our sexual health needs accordingly. | |||
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"I agree and disagree with many of the above comments. However and I can't avoid this fact. Your sexual health and protection is your and yours alone to ensure your own safety. Even if you ask or his profile says he is safe. How do you know. He may belive he is safe. Very few people who discover they are HIV+ know it's coming for most it's a huge shock. Often it's the result of a mistake a one off meeting. 99% of the they use protection they are health and you would never think they present a risk. The only plus side to being open is if a guy is on treatment there is a huge chance they are undetectable and this makes them one of the safetest people to play with. Far safer than someone who has no idea. Anyway I will finish were I started. It's down to your own risk assessment and don't take anyone's word is unfortunately the only safe method for pure self protection. Stay safe and have some fun Alpha "good words of wisdom | |||
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"I agree and disagree with many of the above comments. However and I can't avoid this fact. Your sexual health and protection is your and yours alone to ensure your own safety. Even if you ask or his profile says he is safe. How do you know. He may belive he is safe. Very few people who discover they are HIV+ know it's coming for most it's a huge shock. Often it's the result of a mistake a one off meeting. 99% of the they use protection they are health and you would never think they present a risk. The only plus side to being open is if a guy is on treatment there is a huge chance they are undetectable and this makes them one of the safetest people to play with. Far safer than someone who has no idea. Anyway I will finish were I started. It's down to your own risk assessment and don't take anyone's word is unfortunately the only safe method for pure self protection. Stay safe and have some fun Alpha good words of wisdom "Thank you. | |||
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"I agree and disagree with many of the above comments. However and I can't avoid this fact. Your sexual health and protection is your and yours alone to ensure your own safety. On a final note People living with HIV on effective treatment, will achieve an undetectable status. They CANNOT transmit HIV. It's not low risk or highly probable , it's U=U Check out the partner study Even if you ask or his profile says he is safe. How do you know. He may belive he is safe. Very few people who discover they are HIV+ know it's coming for most it's a huge shock. Often it's the result of a mistake a one off meeting. 99% of the they use protection they are health and you would never think they present a risk. The only plus side to being open is if a guy is on treatment there is a huge chance they are undetectable and this makes them one of the safetest people to play with. Far safer than someone who has no idea. Anyway I will finish were I started. It's down to your own risk assessment and don't take anyone's word is unfortunately the only safe method for pure self protection. Stay safe and have some fun Alpha good words of wisdom
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And if anyone wants to confirm any of that, just speak to a clinic in person or over the phone.
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"U=U mate. It’s the ones that don’t test you wanna be wary of. Many more sti’s to worry about than just the hivvy " Very true, someone who knows he has it is responsible enough to get tested and take medication and isn't a worry at all. The biggest worry for HIV id say on this site and others are married guys who won't go to the clinic to get tested as they are to scared incase they get seen there by someone their wife knows.  | |||
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"U=U mate. It’s the ones that don’t test you wanna be wary of. Many more sti’s to worry about than just the hivvy Very true, someone who knows he has it is responsible enough to get tested and take medication and isn't a worry at all. The biggest worry for HIV id say on this site and others are married guys who won't go to the clinic to get tested as they are to scared incase they get seen there by someone their wife knows. "The supposed safer married man, could have stage 2 Syphilis and not know it. Regular Testing is needed if you are sexually active and have several sexual partners. | |||
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"U=U mate. It’s the ones that don’t test you wanna be wary of. Many more sti’s to worry about than just the hivvy Very true, someone who knows he has it is responsible enough to get tested and take medication and isn't a worry at all. The biggest worry for HIV id say on this site and others are married guys who won't go to the clinic to get tested as they are to scared incase they get seen there by someone their wife knows. "Agree there, especially the married guys who have bareback as an interest on their profile....WTF? | |||
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"Loving the comments on this thread. Last few partners Ive had have all asked and I love that. I protect myself with meds and regular testing. You must remember too if youre part of the gay commumity a lot of this is drilled into us, but if youre bi or 'straight' awarenews is a little lacking. " Not necessarily, maybe with some Bi guys, not not all of us. | |||
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"I know it's not all of you but most get terrified by it and think because they feel ok it will go away" Thanks for clarifying  | |||
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