FabGuys.com forum: Mental Health

By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

Would like to start a forum for guys wanting to post or want to talk about issues around their mental health.

There is a post on Sexual Health.

Can the site set up a separate section on help, advise and a forum for us to talk about Mental issues?……..

Your thoughts and opinions welcome.

Sin

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

C’mom guys, no one wants to share there feelings on this topic??

Sin

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By *londebiguyMan
4 weeks ago

near Southport

I don't think the site will set up a separate area for this

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

And why do you say that??

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By *londebiguyMan
4 weeks ago

near Southport

"And why do you say that??

Because the site has changed very little in many years.

It's also mainly free to use

Look at the sections for areas. They could definitely be changed and many have suggested it.

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

Okay, thanks for your reply, much as I respect your views, doesn’t mean we don’t have a go at trying to bring this subject up…

The fact that you and me are talking is a point?

Regards.

Sin

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By *oss432Man
4 weeks ago

Kilcock

surely there are enough web sites already dealing with mental health

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

We can never have enough, especially when we talking about our mental well-being..

Also the more we post on this forum the more we can begin expressing how we feel.

Please carry on…..

Thank you for yours??

Take care.

Regards.

Sin

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By *treyu500Man
4 weeks ago

Australia

"We can never have enough, especially when we talking about our mental well-being..

Also the more we post on this forum the more we can begin expressing how we feel.

Please carry on…..

Thank you for yours??

Take care.

Regards.

Sin

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I've posted quite a few bits of advise on mental health in different forum threads - particularly the ones about sexual health. Many of the sexual health clinics provide some free mental health counselling over the phone or in person and do not require you to hand over personal information. I have used it myself.

You can talk to them about anything - it doesn't have to be related to sexuality etc. many guys have pm'ed me for links or advise on the topic.

I don't think a forum dedicated to mental health is necessary or would it get much traffic.

What would be useful, particularly as it's mens mental health month would be links to free services, help lines etc.

Just like the links to sexual health advice on government websites which stops the endless fear mongering posts about sti's and the misinformation.

The last thing we need are people on here acting like psychologists in the forums lol.

Links to these things should be here Imo.

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By *mma_EvansTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Colchester

You could start your own thread in the lounge. I have seen many threads regarding mental health

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By *harlotte67TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bridgend

I’m being referred for a mental health assessment x had problems all my life x just ignored them x but think that I could be bipolar x my father was diagnosed with that x 😃👍😘 xx

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By *mandaWhenDressedMan
4 weeks ago

around

I've had bad bouts of depression and anxiety since mid teens. I've made it to mid 50s.

I'm no expert but if anyone wants to just chat or vent feel free to pm

A separate forum is a great idea.

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By *cd69Man
4 weeks ago

ash vale

I haven't worked for a few years due to mental health issues

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

Thanks, I have started a separate thread in The Loung also, but, so far no response….

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By *onkeyvdonkeyMan
4 weeks ago

cleethorpes/sheffield/travel

I think it's a great idea. Make a change to the tedious 'rate the pic above' threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Its this site and the people on it that is not good for your mental health. Thank God my membership is expiring soon .Hallelujah

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By *iscreetly100Man
4 weeks ago

lancashire

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By *iscreetly100Man
4 weeks ago

lancashire

It is an excellent idea but like others have said it has been brought up before and so far no change.

I have suffered in the past and found that talking to someone is the best thing, but you have to choose carefully. Sometimes you just want someone to listen. Say nothing just listen....

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By *hubbyGayTraffordMan
4 weeks ago

Stretford

I just had a thought.

The Online Safety Bill is due to come into force in July 2025.

Surely , by allowing a Forum like the ones suggested then the owners of Fabguys and Fab Swingers would be showing a duty of care to their regular users, more so to us paid up members.

Hope they take this all on-board.

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By *976BeardedManMan
4 weeks ago

Essex / London

For sure

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

You sound like a Hypocrite, on the one hand you welcome the space to talk then on the other you criticise this Forum.

At least we are now talking……???

Let’s express more of our feelings….

Please guys, let’s support this Forum, let us find a space to talk………Please……..

We are not here to judge, jury and execute, but, to learn to empathise and , by so doing understand ourself better.

Please keep posting your comments..

Best wishes.

Sin.

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By *airless man pussyMan
4 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I ignored Mental health for a while and just recently diagnosed with PTSD

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By *oodpeckerMan
4 weeks ago

Falkirk

I look at this thread and consider it to be a fairly good example of why it's generally a misguided idea, if you have genuine/serious mental health problems, to discuss them in a public online forum. Even well-intentioned people can offer up inappropriate, unhelpful or even harmful advice, not to mention those with bad intentions!

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

I guess it’s the old cliche about shooting the messenger???

Sin

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By *treyu500Man
4 weeks ago

Australia

"I look at this thread and consider it to be a fairly good example of why it's generally a misguided idea, if you have genuine/serious mental health problems, to discuss them in a public online forum. Even well-intentioned people can offer up inappropriate, unhelpful or even harmful advice, not to mention those with bad intentions!

Yep. Totally agree. Providing links to resources, help lines and accurate information would be far more appropriate.

Listening to each other and sharing stories is great (within reason). But, it's potentially very dangerous for people to be giving out personal opinions and advise or for a vulnerable person to share too much personal information. Have a look at the other thread.

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By *ld 68yo experimentingMan
4 weeks ago

Doncaster

I find crossdressing helps me feel relaxed

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By *ookingaroundMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol

"Would like to start a forum for guys wanting to post or want to talk about issues around their mental health.

There is a post on Sexual Health.

Can the site set up a separate section on help, advise and a forum for us to talk about Mental issues?……..

Your thoughts and opinions welcome.

Sin

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Don’t you think over exposure to social media is the root cause of a large proportion of mental health issues anyway? I don’t see how encouraging more social media use is going to help?

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By *acingfanMan
4 weeks ago

Huddersfield

The issue could be that forumites are probably not qualified mental health practitioners so things could go wrong. I wish good mental health to all and always advocate professional help for all medical issues.

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By *ainbiMan
4 weeks ago

Motherwell

This is meant to be fun come on guys get a grip

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Heathrow

"I’m being referred for a mental health assessment x had problems all my life x just ignored them x but think that I could be bipolar x my father was diagnosed with that x 😃👍😘 xx"
hope you're not relying on the NHS it's shit

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By *incsvillagerMan
4 weeks ago

lincoln

Think this sounds great personally

I previously suggested some support signposting for sexual addiction on this site also, but was shot down

I think often sexual behaviours are a symptom of depression. I definitely think there’s a place for this angle on the site

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By *ilson2001Man
4 weeks ago

bearna ,spiddal

Probably best to seek professional advice on the topic rather than a site like this.

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By *ookingaroundMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol

"Probably best to seek professional advice on the topic rather than a site like this."

Very well said.

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By *inIam OP Man
4 weeks ago

Hitchin

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

Very well said, Woody.

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

" … I think often sexual behaviours are a symptom of depression… "

And here’s a prime example.

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"… Its this site and the people on it that is not good for your mental health… "

And another.

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By *amesey112Man
3 weeks ago

north

This site is for people to escape their mental health issues and fit in with people who are in the same boat (there’s plenty of us) it’s a sex site, turning it into a mental health forum I feel is asking for trouble. If people form connections on that kind of level they can message privately, there’s no need for a public forum. I’ve found I connect more through sexual desire than straight up admitting a mental health problem

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By *treyu500Man
3 weeks ago

Australia

"… Its this site and the people on it that is not good for your mental health…

And another.

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I actually tend to agree a little. it's not good for SOME people's mental health lol. Lots of guys post stuff on the forums to get approval from other guys to confirm their delusions and live in denial.

Like the one about "becoming bisexual" because of an "accidental" encounter in a public toilet.

As if they caught a dose of liking cock like a flu and it's not simply a natural part of their sexual identity.

Not a very healthy delusion to be reinforcing but it's a forum on a website for anonymous hookups.

A pinch of fucking salt please lol.

Like I said earlier. Maybe fabguys could provide links to mental health providers, chat lines and other resources (like sexual health). Let the website users make adult decisions about their own well-being.

Theres no onus on fab to provide a platform specifically for mental health. It's nonsensical and potentially quite dangerous for vulnerable people. There was a few posts in the other "mental health" thread that I'm surprised we're not taken down.

Excuse me while I go get advise from my mechanic about my upcoming heart surgery.

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By *uath2Man
3 weeks ago

Dumfries

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By *ersguy0404Man
3 weeks ago

newport

I have complex PTSD and I don’t think a hook up site is the best place for people to be discussing their mental health. Misinformation can be dangerous, there will be people on here that will take the piss or come out with none helpful comments like get over it etc. links to proper mental health websites could be useful.

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"… Excuse me while I go get advise from my mechanic about my upcoming heart surgery.

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Oh, he’s brilliant. He knows everything. He’s my lifestyle guru too. His feng shui decluttered me entirely. And the things he made me do with his wrench…

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"I have complex PTSD… "

Get over it!

( x )

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By *ersguy0404Man
3 weeks ago

newport

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By *itherMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds

The amount of wind up merchants and time wasters on here is affecting my mental health.

🥴😜😄

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By *anillamanMan
3 weeks ago

Dalbeattie

"surely there are enough web sites already dealing with mental health"
Exactly!

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By *hunky4uMan
3 weeks ago

LochLomond

You talk about a seperate section to discuss mental health but, there is one already and your doing it right now in the FORUM and here you are you have a discussion about mental health.

Adding another whole section onto the site, creates more work for the moderators and i dont think that would be a good use of their time, when you consider many of the infractions that need moderation in this existing site, there just isnt enough time in the day for it. And if fabguys ends up paying for extra server space, then ultimately this is cost that will be passed onto us.

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By *ookingaroundMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

Lots of people mistake dopamine addiction for good mental health.

This is the opposite.

Talking about something feeds our addiction, but doesn’t necessarily make us any better.

Feeling good isn’t good mental health.

Good mental health is having the tools to navigate difficulty without going off the rails.

You don’t get those tools here. You get dopamine.

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