FabGuys.com forum: Non paid up members ruining this site.

By *ive or Take OP Man
2 weeks ago

Just north of Tyne tunnel.

Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

How would that stop timewasters? If someone gets off on wasting other peoples time, then paying to be a member ain't gonna stop ‘em.

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By *ave.CMan
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

"How would that stop timewasters? If someone gets off on wasting other peoples time, then paying to be a member ain't gonna stop ‘em. "

I guess it would stop them to a certain degree, if cancelling their profile also lost them the money they’d just paid

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By *uneatonBiguyMan
2 weeks ago

nuneaton

Some people just dont want to pay and have it leaving a 'paper trail', and why should they? Other than the ability to add few more pics daily and the ability to watch vids or use the chatroom, what difference would it make to anyone else? The best thing about this and its sister site, is that it actually free unless you want those extras.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Quite agree, so many blank profiles, and talk about wives/GF’s on a man on man site is putting people off - especially paying members. Site has gone down hill because of this over the past year IMHO.

Which is a shame really, as this was a good site, and available at a very reasonable price. Had some interesting conversations with some people, but getting a bit pee’d off with a certain troll.

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By *upertedMan
2 weeks ago

Nelson

Are you a blocker?

Most apps have a block limit of say for example 100. When you block person 101, 001 will appear for you again.

I see namesI recognise a lot and often show in purple font too.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"Some people just dont want to pay and have it leaving a 'paper trail', and why should they? Other than the ability to add few more pics daily and the ability to watch vids or use the chatroom, what difference would it make to anyone else? The best thing about this and its sister site, is that it actually free unless you want those extras. "

Problem being that it costs real money to run any site, and without any paying members the site would close. And they do offer a variety of different ways to pay, some of which are anonymous (for the closet or paranoids) at a very reasonable price compared to other sites.

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By *ighthole69Man
2 weeks ago

SPALDING

I will always pay for this site,its excellent,had many a good meet from here,I dont like the way FG treats you sometimes,a bit draconian,but,its great value.

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By *ave.CMan
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Yeh I think it’s definitely worth what little it costs, for the extras it provides

The ‘who’s viewed me’ is very handy alone..but if they’re going to offer a free service, most will opt for that obviously

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By *xweekMan
2 weeks ago

Exmouth, Budleigh

Should introduce a time frame to meet and get verified, that would show your on site to meet not just piss people off, say 12 weeks and you are removed from site and can't rejoin for another 12 weeks,

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By *owzerMan
2 weeks ago

Chester.....

The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants.

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By *uneatonBiguyMan
2 weeks ago

nuneaton

I agree which is why I pay, however if the site was initially a pay only site I wouldn't have signed up and simply paid as I wouldn't be able to see what it was like.. those sites that have you sign up for free then cant see profiles or get messages are pointless... hence the success of both these sites..

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By *uneatonBiguyMan
2 weeks ago

nuneaton

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. "

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Which comes back to the OP’s original comment that perhaps the site should only have subscribers on it to filter out the free loaders, or if not then severely reduce the functionality for those that don’t want to pay like other sites do (limited messages, no viewing pictures, no posting in forums).

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants.

Disagree with that. I know people who have left the site because of the way some people on here act. And I know that there are others who are thinking about leaving. I’m concerned that the actions of some on here are eventually going to be the death of the site, I mean how long will it last if the paying supporters all leave because the non paying people turn it into something the paying members see no value in continuing with, and that is already happening.

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By *OMPLACIENT GUYMan
2 weeks ago

Hove

I'm a non paid up member.And use this site correctly no abuse or Mickey taking.But mate if you want to give out your credit card details that's up to you.

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By *uneatonBiguyMan
2 weeks ago

nuneaton

"Which comes back to the OP’s original comment that perhaps the site should only have subscribers on it to filter out the free loaders, or if not then severely reduce the functionality for those that don’t want to pay like other sites do (limited messages, no viewing pictures, no posting in forums).

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off. "

So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about?

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about? "

To put it bluntly- Yes, if that talk isn’t compatible with the purpose of this site.

Go and read the login screen “…fun, free & fabulous for gay guys”

“a free to use website for gay and bisexual men”

“Find genuine fellas who do meet”

What is the point of bi men coming here to talk about their wives/gf that should be on the swingers site. This is for man on man action.

Just because you can post something doesn’t mean that you should. Use a bit of common sense.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"I'm a non paid up member.And use this site correctly no abuse or Mickey taking.But mate if you want to give out your credit card details that's up to you."

There are ways to pay without giving your credit or debit card (phone or text messaging for example) or using a card indirectly you can use PayPal.

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By *ottomsotonsubTV/TS
2 weeks ago

SO14 0

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By *ip71Man
2 weeks ago

Darlington

This is a great site compared to what's out there, I understand the OP's frustration, it's best to just fuck the time wasters off, set your filters and learn to recognise all the red flags. Messers are gonna mess I'm afraid.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"This is a great site compared to what's out there, I understand the OP's frustration, it's best to just fuck the time wasters off, set your filters and learn to recognise all the red flags. Messers are gonna mess I'm afraid.

Trouble is if the non paying users actions put off too many paying users and they leave, the site could become unsustainable financially, in which case it would end up closing down. You only have to look at the responses from some people things like “I’ll post what I like” that they don’t care what the result of their intransigence could be. I know people who have already left for this reason.

This is what some people fail to realise

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By *heff24Man
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

I've been messed about and had my time wasted by as many if not more paid members as I have by non paid members.

Some people are going to be timewasters regardless.

Don't take it personal and move on.

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By *lue555Man
2 weeks ago

harrow

"How would that stop timewasters? If someone gets off on wasting other peoples time, then paying to be a member ain't gonna stop ‘em.

I guess it would stop them to a certain degree, if cancelling their profile also lost them the money they’d just paid"
leaving the site offcouse loses you your money what a stupid statement.

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

Problem with this point though is that timewasters are not just free members, the majority of timewasters ive had are gold and silver. So a deadline to meet is a lot of pressure.

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

Perhaps the way to minimise the wasters is to force one thing on them that might sort out whos true and whos not, soooooooooo photo verified within 7 days or account deleted. The rest of us will simply avoid peeps in the first 7 days.

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By *weddolMan
2 weeks ago

Chester

I've been messed about by way more paid up members than free members

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By *ottmforhardcoreMan
2 weeks ago

Crusing for tops

My experience over the last few weeks:

Paid members:

1 wasted my time 60 miles round trip.

1 Asking me to buy them alcohol

2 asking me to buy them Viagra

None members:

5 expecting some form of payment

3 time wasters me driving to them

3 fantastic guys. Who I had lots of fun with.

Some reported to site admin some not.

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By *wansmickMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

If you don't report idiots to admin how will they ever get stopped ?

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By *aigeTV/TS
2 weeks ago

warwickshire

or simply go into messages and block people who aren’t site supporters

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By *wansmickMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

There are arseholes everywhere in life and on every site of every type in the world. FFS suck it up, be an adult, block idiots and report people actively abusing the site and it's members. FFS it's an adult site act like it DOH 🥱🥱.

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By *igAlan1947Man
2 weeks ago

Hertford

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants.

This

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By *igAlan1947Man
2 weeks ago

Hertford

Some people need to get their head out of their arses this site is now overrun by fakes/fantasists and outright fakes. Fortunately those sort of people are easily recognisable and can easily be ignored.

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By *amelaXTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Swindon

Totally agree..... there are way too many features that are unlocked to none subscribers

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By *ustPeekinMan
2 weeks ago

Alresford

There’s no correlation between having a free account and being a time waster. I’ve been jerked around by paid up members much more than my member has been jerked by non-paying guys.

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By *mma_EvansTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Colchester

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

From what i have read the owners/admin are not going down the route of someone needing to pay to use the site. Admin have provided message filters to stop 'newbies', 'non site supporters' from messaging profiles. Use the message filters and let the site work for you

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

I could show you profiles that, despite being created by repeat profilers who never meet anyone, have paid gold memberships, and/or are photo verified.

Charging every user will not stop the time wasters. Some of them don't mind wasting time (time is money, baby), electricity, nor money, when annoying genuine site users.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"There’s no correlation between having a free account and being a time waster. I’ve been jerked around by paid up members much more than my member has been jerked by non-paying guys. "

Clearly the site owners recognise and operate a business model that works insofar as that some features are free and some extras are paid for. If, as has been alleged with NO independent evidence (a bit like what Trump does really) that people are leaving because of the topics discussed in the forums, those in the know would address that. Obviously then, as one can post about wet sloppy multiple cum filled cunts, it’s not an issue for the site owners or administrators, only those who wish they could prevent such posts. They can’t. They can seeth in their impotent bile.

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By *asycumfunMan
2 weeks ago

Ashton

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off. "
it's advertised as a site for gay and bi men and not strictly for man on man action

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By *oyston64Man
2 weeks ago

pontypridd

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off. it's advertised as a site for gay and bi men and not strictly for man on man action "

[f you want a gaping fanny then bugger off to fabswingers, sure theres more there for you to ogle and wank over.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

The more talk there is of wives the more the site will attract fee paying bisexual men. It’s actually a money maker rather than a money loser. There will always be those who are desperate to control what others can or can’t say. Keyboard evangelicals. Weak men in real life.

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By *wansmickMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

The whole thing smacks of "Free speech is fine as long as it agrees with mine" lol.

There must be a lot of people with amputated fingers who just are unable to scroll ffs 🥱🥱🥱🥱.

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By *oveitrawMan
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Its very cheap compared to gdr?

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

"The more talk there is of wives the more the site will attract fee paying bisexual men. It’s actually a money maker rather than a money loser. There will always be those who are desperate to control what others can or can’t say. Keyboard evangelicals. Weak men in real life."

Lmao.

And what are those closeted men who come here to talk dirty about their wifes and girlfriends behind their backs, if not weak?

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants.

So who are the non paying members you are upset with?

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

There are always people who want to police what others can and cannot talk about and in any group there are always people who want the whole landscape to look just like their front lawn.

Luckily we live in a multi faceted world where people with different interests can co-habit and the little empire builders are given short shrift.

Luckily we live in a world where we all fought tooth and nail for acceptance and now we can turn our fury on each other for not being just exactly like each other, just after we fought for the right to be different.

Down with everyone different to me, I demand that everyone is just like me.

I must be getting old.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Well you only seem to be here to try and start arguments with everyone else - that seems to be how you get your jollies, so go and troll someone else because I’m not going to respond to you on this or any other forum. 👋🏻

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By *p90Man
2 weeks ago

Swanwick area

If you don't want to read about wife related chat, don't click on it.

For some its helpful to offload. I'm not alone in this situation. Its support to bi men

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By *oopyg666Man
2 weeks ago

Lee on the Solent

I have also noticed a trend of the same person having more than 1 account. I even met one guy on 2 diiferent accounts and he didn't even realise.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Well you only seem to be here to try and start arguments with everyone else - that seems to be how you get your jollies, so go and troll someone else because I’m not going to respond to you on this or any other forum. 👋🏻"

With respect, you are the one trailing arguments around threads.

You have a common trait of not wanting to see anything different to you and you expect people to just accept that and go away.

It’s very unpleasant and your attitude towards people different to you is likewise.

The difference is no one is trying to silence you, just explaining that your nastiness is just that.

If you don’t like other people’s conversations, don’t get involved. But if you are going to post ignorant opinions and try to silence others, expect push back.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"If you don't want to read about wife related chat, don't click on it.

For some its helpful to offload. I'm not alone in this situation. Its support to bi men"

Well said, it’s not something I subscribe to or find particularly enjoyable to read, but it’s not for me, so I can go to other conversations that I do enjoy. There are plenty of them.

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By *entletouchMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I subscribe and am pleased to do so for the extras that brings

In particular, posting my stories in the Forum and watching videos

But, the non-paying members do bring numbers to the game

So, I can live with that

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

There's a sister site

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Live and let live it's not free speech if you're the only one allowed to talk

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By *tan99Man
2 weeks ago

SPENNYMOOR

Totally agree. Seems very domineering in my opinion.

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By *shley2018Man
2 weeks ago

poole

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I don't have the energy or the time to read every post, but FG keep doing what you're doing. This is a connection for guys in all aspects of the spectrum of straight to gay. The world would be a worse place without you. xx

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

Whiny whiny whine, whingy whingy whinge!

What a veritable parade of threnody and ululation.

The premise of the thread is entirely askew: paid up site users can fuck you about, send wanky messaging, and irritate the shit out of you in the Forum just as much as any non-paying members. As several users above have explained from their personal dealings. So that misses the point entirely.

There was no Golden Age. I’ve been using the internet and sites to meet with men online for 30 years. There’ve always been fantasists, time-wasters and charlatans. You’ve always had to winnow through chaff. There was and is no mystical site touched by the hem of the Almighty that was immune to such behaviours.

The whines in Forum threads are always the same. And always wrong.

There’s only bottoms on the site. Wrong.

Nobody meets anymore. Wrong.

Everyone is a time waster. Wrong.

People need to learn to DO BETTER. Use the filters of the site to exclude unverified profiles or new profiles or non-paying profiles or anything that concerns you, especially if you have been caught out before or realise your antennae were awry. Work with the premise that every potential meet could be a waste of your time, so have a clear system to eliminate all uncertainties. Appreciate the value of the verification system and read them carefully. Ask someone why they haven’t met for so long. Find out why verifications are not displayed. Demand proper pictures. Say a current face picture is non negotiable. Ask to speak to someone on the phone. None of this requires special qualifications. Just up your game and DO BETTER.

As for the hackneyed arguments about bi men and gay men and women’s panties etc etc… Groan! This site is a very different one from a number of the standard gay hookup sites. Exactly because it has such a wide gamut of tastes - and TVs and bi men and married guys and 100% gayers like me have to crawl about in the same basket. Like everything in life, you have to take the rough with the smooth, and learn navigation methods. As a gay man interested in men only, threads about frilly knickers or sniff my wife’s panties are crushingly boring to me and I’ll sometimes take the micky… but, do you know what, I can survive the rough. The smooth is that I get to meet bi lads and married men that wouldn’t be on gay-only hook-up sites. And you can always start your own threads talking about your own gay interests: no one stops you.

As always: DO BETTER.

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By *omyorksMan
2 weeks ago

York

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By *antyLover66Man
2 weeks ago

Ilkeston

"or simply go into messages and block people who aren’t site supporters "

but that involves reading how the site works!

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

Just thought of a great idea to stop timewasters lol

Ok because when you report to admin someone has been timewasting there is probably very little they can do without proof. Sooooooooooooooooo

The way to do it is have a system where if someone does not turn up for an agreed meet, then you report to admin, however what happens now is that both the reporter and the accused get a black mark against their name. 5 marks and you get a temporary ban, 10 marks longer etc.

Only someone with both photo and user verifications and is a member can report this type of infringement.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

" … what happens now is that both the reporter and the accused get a black mark against their name. 5 marks and you get a temporary ban, 10 marks longer etc..."

What on earth are you talking about..?!?!

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By *u2usemeMan
2 weeks ago

hyde

I am a paid member but on my profile it says not meeting so shouldn't I be on the site as for time wasters if you say you can't meet now they call you a time waster also the block button is there to us but you thinking someone is a timewaster is a personal opinion and some people just on here to chat not meet .

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By *ave.CMan
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

"I've been messed about and had my time wasted by as many if not more paid members as I have by non paid members.

Some people are going to be timewasters regardless.

Don't take it personal and move on."

Agree with this, it's all part of the process, and surely you start to get an inbuilt feeling for time wasters...

I think the verification process is excellent, I always look for Veri's even above photos, as it generally shows that they do or have actually meet.

Other point, 95% of time wasting is only at the messaging stage, so no big problem, in 8 years I've only had two arranged meets where they haven't shown up, I can live with that

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

I think the thread may have been set up for slightly different purposes than the headline and the responses may be horribly disappointing to the OP and their supporter(s).

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"I think the thread may have been set up for slightly different purposes than the headline and the responses may be horribly disappointing to the OP and their supporter(s)."

I don’t think that’s correct at all. The title chosen summed up the opening post.

The OP wrote in the opening that “paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect” which certainly does not stand up to scrutiny… and that of those here “free of charge” they “are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others” which is also often proven to be incorrect.

Sweeping comments without foundation. The OP felt that making everyone pay would magically solve the problems he’s had with the site. [Spoiler alert: it won’t. ]

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By *olchBiMan
2 weeks ago

Colchester

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off. "

Where is all this wife talking happening that's so damaging to the site? I only see it in the forum- and I don't get why that's a problem.

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

" … what happens now is that both the reporter and the accused get a black mark against their name. 5 marks and you get a temporary ban, 10 marks longer etc...

What on earth are you talking about..?!?!"

LOL having a crazy hair moment i think LOL

The trouble with a black mark system against a users name is that it could be abused and peeps unfairly targeted. So by giving the accuser a mark too, then you reduce the occurances of malicious intent, and the liars.

But i could just go back and have a bad hair day, yeah might do that....

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off.

Where is all this wife talking happening that's so damaging to the site? I only see it in the forum- and I don't get why that's a problem."

It’s not at all damaging. It’s a feature that attracts paying bisexual men. Some people don’t seem to be able to ignore a post they don’t want to read and only want discussed in the forum, topic that they agree with. They have failed. On the plus side, checking the little green areow means people can make a more holistic view of people and block the trolls who use the forums to spread dismay and dissent. Have a look and see if they post anything happy or encouraging or pleasant. It’s a subtle but useful filter.

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By *ldderMan
2 weeks ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks

I've payed since day one but do understand not everyone can

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By *auraTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Rugby

"Should introduce a time frame to meet and get verified, that would show your on site to meet not just piss people off, say 12 weeks and you are removed from site and can't rejoin for another 12 weeks, "
so let's get this right if for various personal reasons I can't get to meets I should be banned for twelve weeks regardless of wether I pay or not.

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By *auraTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Rugby

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. "
hear hear.

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By *hisMeMan
2 weeks ago

Forfar, Angus

"...if for various personal reasons I can't get to meets I should be banned for twelve weeks regardless of wether I pay or not."

How very dare you come on here and pay and not meet.

It's a slippery slope...

What next tho?

Buying food and not eating it?

Buying a car and not driving it?

Buying a jumper and never wearing it?

Some people!

Just to clarify. I typed this in the Ironic font...lol

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"I think the thread may have been set up for slightly different purposes than the headline and the responses may be horribly disappointing to the OP and their supporter(s).

I don’t think that’s correct at all. The title chosen summed up the opening post.

Sweeping comments without foundation. The OP felt that making everyone pay would magically solve the problems he’s had with the site. [Spoiler alert: it won’t. ]

You could well be right, I detect some other undertones which may be magnified in my view than others.

I agree with your appraisal.

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By *ickableMan
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Always good to try something for free to see how you like it and use it. That’s what i did but liked it so I joined. You will always get time wasters and its annoying but you just have to deal with it.

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Heathrow

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Heathrow

Ok what miss out on is video's don't watch them so no problem cam's don't use them again no problem the only thing is seeing who looked at me ad the distance someone is you Don't really get a great deal being a site supporter than a non supporter I have guy's that are site supporters waist my time sister site you seem to gets loads of benefits I don't why that is

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By *adame BootsTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Tetbury

Paid up members can be timewasters as well. Lots of pic collectors amongst them.

Just because they can pay to be on here doesn't make any difference.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

" … I only see it in the forum- and I don't get why that's a problem..."

People who participate in the Forum believe everything revolves around them and they are typical of the site as a whole. [Spoiler alert: it doesn’t and they’re not…]

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

" …The trouble with a black mark system against a users name is that it could be abused and peeps unfairly targeted. So by giving the accuser a mark too, then you reduce the occurances of malicious intent, and the liars… "

That would be, quite literally, insane. Why would you introduce a system of whistle-blowing that immediately penalises the whistle-blower?! No one would ever report any infringement on the site. Who thought that one up… Rachael Reeves?!

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By *teelballsMan
2 weeks ago

central london

"or simply go into messages and block people who aren’t site supporters "

The obvious solution.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Actually that does exist in the legal system - look up vexatious litigants - and no it wasn’t Rachael Reeves who brought it in as I doubt very much that she was alive in 1896 when the “Vexatious Actions Act 1896” was introduced - unless she is the living dead. 😵

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. hear hear."

I agree. Those who want to censor other site users should be called out and reported by as many others as possible for inappropriate use of the forums.

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By *bi50Man
2 weeks ago

Ashford

Loads of people that pay are timewasters cant just blame those that dont pay .

I have had meets with guys over the years that have not been paid up members and I have also been one of those that didn't pay as I just couldn't afford it . Might not seem expensive to some but when on the bread line its a luxury and doesnt stop you from wanting some fun

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. hear hear.

I agree. Those who want to censor other site users should be called out and reported by as many others as possible for inappropriate use of the forums. "

Isn’t that censoring them? 🤣

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By *owzerMan
2 weeks ago

Chester.....

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. hear hear.

I agree. Those who want to censor other site users should be called out and reported by as many others as possible for inappropriate use of the forums.

Isn’t that censoring them? 🤣"

Censoring by consensus

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"The site isn't being ruined. The OP clearly has issues with people who just won't do what he wants. hear hear.

I agree. Those who want to censor other site users should be called out and reported by as many others as possible for inappropriate use of the forums.

Isn’t that censoring them? 🤣"

Nope, admin will decide whether or not they are breaking site rules. I, for one, am not going to be silenced by people who don’t like bisexual men or what they post on the forums.

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By *etstalkMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

I agree OP lots of time wasters setting up new profile - same old pics popping up again and again. However you do learn to spot it locally.

Must say though … there are many times waster who are also paid members. So I don’t think it’s that cut and dry.

Totally hear your frustration though.

Gotta see past it - I always say, there’s still plenty of good eggs and genuine lads in here that make it worth whole

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By *apt peteMan
2 weeks ago

Stamford

Do you not just need to pay more due diligence then. I've been scuppered by time wasters also had some fun meets.light most things you just need the rough with the smooth.

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Heathrow

I had time wasters they were supporter's I have met non site supporters

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

I know the law of vexatious litigation. Would you class someone who reported to FabGuys that xxx didn’t show up for a meeting with them as a vexatious litigant..? I’m not sure this is a terribly useful parallel…

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By *wansmickMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

Maybe not vexatious but there are certainly disingenuous people on this site who would love the ability to accuse for no reason and something would need to prevent them !

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By *uriohornMan
2 weeks ago

Kettering

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Maybe not vexatious but there are certainly disingenuous people on this site who would love the ability to accuse for no reason and something would need to prevent them !"

Glad someone could see the parallels.

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By *iganbiviewguyMan
2 weeks ago

wigan

Also put a block on all the wife/gf talk, this is supposed to be a site for man on man action and the irresponsible ones are going to end up killing the site off. "

Killing the site .... Wonder how long it would last without the paying bi-guys money !!!

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By *unguy197054Man
2 weeks ago

Paignton

If your an unpaid member you shouldn't be aloud to message,simple.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"If your an unpaid member you shouldn't be aloud to message,simple."

Why?

What would be the point in joining then?

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

Maybe not vexatious but there are certainly disingenuous people on this site who would love the ability to accuse for no reason and something would need to prevent them !

Glad someone could see the parallels."

*sighs deeply* But this is not my proposal. If you actually bother to read the thread carefully, I’m calling the system proposed by another user where you give black marks to other profiles a fucking stupid idea. In typical FabGuys Forum style, we’re now having an arcane discussion about red herrings.

There already exists a system to report a user profile, to report a message sent to you, to report any of the posts in this thread. You tick the type of issue and as necessary add further details and the FabGuys moderation will evaluate each report on a case by case basis. One of the things you can report clearly is when people do not show up for an arranged meet. If a user is someone who gets persistent reports about arranging meets and never showing, this can be flagged up to FabGuys… if other people actually bother to use the existing report function instead of typically screaming about that user in a status update or taking to the Forum to gnash their teeth.

What exactly is wrong with the current system of making a report about another user?

What has any of this to do with vexatious litigation?

What has any of this to do with whether you pay for the site or not and this premise that somehow non-paying users are ruining the site?

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

Maybe not vexatious but there are certainly disingenuous people on this site who would love the ability to accuse for no reason and something would need to prevent them !

Glad someone could see the parallels.

What exactly is wrong with the current system of making a report about another user?

What has any of this to do with vexatious litigation?

What has any of this to do with whether you pay for the site or not and this premise that somehow non-paying users are ruining the site? "

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Sorry im that other user and that was my fault, i posted this as an alternative, mainly in frustration that discussions like this tend to go round in circles.

However the system that is employed by fabguys does not in my oppinion appear to work, that is in the case of reporting individuals for not turning up to arranged meets. And because fabguys has a no response to messages policy, were left in the dark as to how effective that system is. I know personally of certain peeps ive reported in the past and know that others have reported that profile to, yet they still are in the site. So there is no evidence that it works.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

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Sorry im that other user and that was my fault, i posted this as an alternative, mainly in frustration that discussions like this tend to go round in circles.

The efficacy of the current reporting system - and the community’s confidence in it - is certainly another matter. As you rightly say, the policy of no site response to any reports or cases means you feel completely uncertain whether the problem has been understood and will be addressed.

What I have found is this: I often see people in my friends list or hotlist bemoaning “12345xyz is a fucking timewaster” etc. I often ask try to find out more. When I ask, did you actually report 12345xyz, they invariably reply, oh there’s no point reporting someone here as no one does anything about it. Well, that doesn’t betray a lot of confidence in the system. But at the same time, if people aren’t reporting 12345xyz, then FabGuys is not seeing 12345xyx flagged up.

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

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Sorry im that other user and that was my fault, i posted this as an alternative, mainly in frustration that discussions like this tend to go round in circles.

There is an easy fix to this though and it could be in the form of single page which shows the stats actions taken by admin, listed infringments followed by number of infractions in the last week and the last 24 hours. Showing minimal information it might be enough to show that complaints are reviewed at the very least would help i think.

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By *hisMeMan
2 weeks ago

Forfar, Angus

"There is an easy fix to this though and it could be in the form of single page which shows the stats actions taken by admin, listed infringments followed by number of infractions in the last week and the last 24 hours."

Who will collate all this, I wonder.

Maybe Fab will do it all in-house or maybe subcontract the work out to a foreign administration operator.

Hopefully they'll offer me a £50k salary to do it...

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

Who will collate all this, I wonder.

Maybe Fab will do it all in-house or maybe subcontract the work out to a foreign administration operator.

Hopefully they'll offer me a £50k salary to do it..."

You make it sound like this is a really difficult job to carry out. It could be as simple as a dropdown selection box with a list of infingements, that upon selection "send" it updates a table listing "+1"

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By *hunky4uMan
2 weeks ago

Takingabreaktown

I did enough programming years ago to know that this is not a difficult thing to do.

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Nearby

When people report it does mention you won't hear anything back but the report does get looked into and dealt with if verified. That can be a combination of a first warning/ sanctions/ disable. You won't see any of those sanctions as "evidence" except for a disable as that will look like a blocked profile when looked at. It certainly doesn't mean nothing has been actioned.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

Thank you for explaining.

As I say above, it’s not FabGuys’s fault if people don’t bother to report infringements or report on people who are arranging to meet and then muck about, and then just say, it’s not worth reporting it because they won’t do anything.

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Nearby

Timewasters have money too. You can block non site supporters from mailing you here.https://www.fabguys.com/my/filters

You should also report anyone asking for or offering money/ not turning up for your meet/ abuse etc. If you just block the person Admin can't deal with it.

mike

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Nearby

"Timewasters have money too. You can block non site supporters from mailing you here.https://www.fabguys.com/my/filters

You should also report anyone asking for or offering money/ not turning up for your meet/ abuse etc. If you just block the person Admin can't deal with it.

mike

PS only general chat is allowed about females more than personal stories/ comments about females so report those too so they can be looked at

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"it’s not FabGuys’s fault if people don’t bother to report infringements or report on people who are arranging to meet and then muck about, and then just say, it’s not worth reporting it because they won’t do anything. "

I wouldn’t say that was a fair assessment. Not trying to get at anyone, as it is not something limited to FabGuys, and is one of perception (right or wrong) if something happens and you report it and nothing “appears” to be done and the same thing keeps on happening, that is why people then say that “it just isn’t worth reporting”.

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Nearby

Talking about this site it does say you won't hear anything back after reporting so people assuming nothing is being done is not a fair assessment either.

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"Talking about this site it does say you won't hear anything back after reporting so people assuming nothing is being done is not a fair assessment either."

I know it does, but just pointing out the unwanted side effect which is the reason that people then can’t be bothered to make further reports, it is an observation on human nature in the absence of feedback or visible change.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Talking about this site it does say you won't hear anything back after reporting so people assuming nothing is being done is not a fair assessment either.

Agreed, I would add to this point, if you have been a victim of bad behaviour or attempts at bullying or abusive messaging and you don’t see the outcome of your complaint, it feels as if nothing is being done and no support is forthcoming, it thus feels that the site does nothing to address that sort of thing.

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

LONDON

Agree completely, just not interested in women, lingerie etc and strange political rants

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By *ade crossTV/TS
2 weeks ago

chiselhurst

"Agree completely, just not interested in women, lingerie etc and strange political rants"

Just avoid plenty of others here like yourself

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By *ottomsotonsubTV/TS
2 weeks ago

SO14 0

I always dislike posts like these. Whilst I'm sure they have good intentions at heart, I feel like it misses out on what would happen further down the line.

Further down the line, posts like these will complain that the site is a waste of money because there's nobody around. The free users will go elsewhere to places like Grindr and Sniffies where you don't have to pay to meet people.

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Nearby

"Talking about this site it does say you won't hear anything back after reporting so people assuming nothing is being done is not a fair assessment either.

They could believe Admin when they say they deal with any reports. It is their choice if they don't want to report but I suppose those people can't really complain that nothing gets done.

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By *ndy 9999Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I agree..anyone else agree?

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By *iganbiviewguyMan
2 weeks ago

wigan

Isn't that how it is now

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By *hrobbing ABCMan
2 weeks ago

coventry

So many f**kong idiots just here like any other sites or social media platforms just messing people about.make it all pay or piss off time wasting tight cntus 😂😂😂

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"So many f**kong idiots just here like any other sites or social media platforms just messing people about.make it all pay or piss off time wasting tight cntus 😂😂😂"

What a brilliantly insightful contribution 🤣

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By *ave.CMan
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

All blown out of proportion...it's a sex site, for a bit of fun...we all know in advance that not everyone will actually meet, look for verifications and just use gut feelings reading their messages...

Even if we drive 20 mins to a no-show (which is pretty rare) is it the end of the world???

Much Ado about Nothing...as someone famous said

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

Much Ado about Nothing...as someone famous said"

Was it Bruce Springsteen?

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By *iggreenockMan
2 weeks ago

Greenock

Eh? It's a dreadful boring site!

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Eh? It's a dreadful boring site!"

That’s why we are here!

Thanks for livening it up

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By *bum4funMan
2 weeks ago

Washington

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

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there are hundreds of paid members on here who are time wasters asking about meets.. getting the others guys address etc and never turning up to meet and play there are no ways of sorting them out at the moment from genuine guys who meet.. i only meet guys with verifications i can read.. too many hide behind webcam veri's to mess guys about..

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By *lackbootzMan
1 week ago

Hayes, Middx

" … i only meet guys with verifications i can read.. too many hide behind webcam veri's to mess guys about.. "

This is a very valid point. I also don’t trust any green tick ✅ until I can read what created it. I don’t think some users here appreciate that a profile “verified by meeting” ie ✅ might not actually have ever met another man for sex in real life. I once had a guy fess up to me that he was only talking about meeting in the hope I would cam with him instead. That came out after I said that I wasn’t going to engage further until he could demonstrate that he met off here in person and displayed his verifications.

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By *loverfieldMan
1 week ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

A paid member can also remove photos from a message they sent. Very useful.

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By *hickUncutMeatMan
1 week ago

Hull

I'm not a paid up member but I am not time waster. Had my fair share of times wasters both paid and unpaid

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By *astle9Man
1 week ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I've had just as many tossers give me the runaround, back out last minute, no-show etc, who were paid members as non-paid.

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By *ornybisubslutMan
1 week ago

Coventry

It don’t think it makes a difference some people are just knobs making a pay only site will not change that. It just means there’s less users possible not a good thing.

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By *elly foxTV/TS
1 week ago

south coast

I agree Webcam verification should Not exist , i always post every verif i get Good or Bad its the Opinion of those who actually met you in person , wanking on a laptop with another guy doing the same IS NOT WORTHY OF A VERIFICATION , its just bollox by-passing the verify process and allowing those cheating the whole idea of being verified, if i spot webcam on most of a guys verifs hes blocked as either a picture collector or just another laptop wank pest … if you actually meet in person your worthy of considering, if your on here over a year No picture No verified meets it should be automatic ban of the Device you used for being on site , its not rocket science even a Tgirl Bimbo like Me can see the faults on here Having said that Ive been a gold member for 13 years i do love Fab but i have blocked over 600 dickheads that still leaves 80% of yummy people to play with …shut up Kelly ok mummy just being nice to the Boys

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By *lackbootzMan
1 week ago

Hayes, Middx

"I agree Webcam verification should Not exist , i always post every verif i get Good or Bad its the Opinion of those who actually met you in person , wanking on a laptop with another guy doing the same IS NOT WORTHY OF A VERIFICATION , its just bollox by-passing the verify process and allowing those cheating the whole idea of being verified, if i spot webcam on most of a guys verifs hes blocked as either a picture collector or just another laptop wank pest … if you actually meet in person your worthy of considering, if your on here over a year No picture No verified meets it should be automatic ban of the Device you used for being on site , its not rocket science even a Tgirl Bimbo like Me can see the faults on here Having said that Ive been a gold member for 13 years i do love Fab but i have blocked over 600 dickheads that still leaves 80% of yummy people to play with …shut up Kelly ok mummy just being nice to the Boys

“…shut up Kelly ok mummy just being nice to the Boys…”

Not at all, Kelly. Important to have your contribution as a longstanding Fab user, well verified profile, and absolute realist about how the site works.

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By *otAndyMan
1 week ago

yarmouth

Maybe you should desist from tarring everyone with the same brush.

Its just a sad fact that there are a high% of inane idiots on here who have too much spare " keyboard" time and 0% intention of meeting. Makes no difference if paid up members or not.

A time waster is just that!

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By *mooth subMan
1 week ago

my dom's cuffs near St Austell

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

time wasters will be around no matter what. Some paid members are worse and only pay so they can watch other people's videos etc so it really wouldn't make a difference.

Have you tried adding the filter where newbies and unverified people can't message? Helps a little but you'll still get them 🤷

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By *arcus BezzantMan
1 week ago

North Ayrshire

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

I have been on here since 2011, and never been a timewaster, yours is just an elitist attitude, I honestly have no idea if any of the men who have "Wasted my time" on here over the last 14 years were "Paid up members" or not, I didn't even know there was a way you could tell.

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By *elly foxTV/TS
1 week ago

south coast

After 13 years on here im not bad at spotting timewasters and to be Honest its the timewasters Loss cos hes not getting in my knickers, The thing i find infuriating is the Poor excuses for not turning up .. Granny Just Shit Herself …The Goldfish has Covid … Sorry i Missed the Train Kelly… & he lives in my road … Daft git . But those kind of Numb Nuts are few and far between, its annoying that i spend 2 hours douching another hour in makeup &Dressing for a Man who lets me down in Favour of his Goldfish FFS. But again its his loss i will go meet anyone online who fancies a poke in the whiskers lol

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By *elly foxTV/TS
1 week ago

south coast

"I agree with _awih , ive come across a few Men offering their wives on here its a male Same sex site , ok im a tgirl i have a willy and so does my Top girlfriend have a bigger willy ( not fair is it ) but wtf are men doing offering their wives fanny on a Gay guys site… so like the bitch that i am i actually reported those incidents to Admin , and the wankers on here that only use this site to encourage the weak to message them on Twatsapp , sorry Mr Dawih i couldn’t reply privately to your post because you blocked people of my Gender from messaging you … so forgive me for being a dirty Tgirl kiss kiss

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By *acingfanMan
1 week ago

Huddersfield

Some strong feelings here.

I don't pay attention to who is a paid member or not. Some people don't have as much money as other people.

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"Some strong feelings here.

I don't pay attention to who is a paid member or not. Some people don't have as much money as other people."

But then how are you meant to make yourself out to be better than other people?

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By *adame BootsTV/TS
1 week ago

Tetbury

Money doesn't make you a better person, you need some unfortunately, but too much isn't good.

Paid, unpaid, doesn't matter.

Just be nice to each other, really really nice

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By *ridayguyMan
1 week ago

sexy guy land

should have to do a week in hand..

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By *aohiaochiaokengMan
1 week ago

Edinburgh

"Quite agree, so many blank profiles, and talk about wives/GF’s on a man on man site is putting people off - especially paying members. Site has gone down hill because of this over the past year IMHO.

Which is a shame really, as this was a good site, and available at a very reasonable price. Had some interesting conversations with some people, but getting a bit pee’d off with a certain troll."

Well said. I admire you.

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

Which is a shame really, as this was a good site, and available at a very reasonable price. Had some interesting conversations with some people, but getting a bit pee’d off with a certain troll.

Well said. I admire you."

What part do you admire?

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By *ooking 2000Man
1 week ago

Brighton

"Fabguys has been a breath of fresh air with guys seeking to meet.

I appreciate the fact that us paid up members use the site correctly and treat with respect.

However more and more guys are on here free of charge and some constantly creating new accounts on a daily basis. These are the time wasters just so sad sitting at home and pestering others.

💯✔️👍

I simply wish that Fabguys would make the site for paid up members and stop those time wasting returnees from wasting others time

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

"After 13 years on here im not bad at spotting timewasters and to be Honest its the timewasters Loss cos hes not getting in my knickers, The thing i find infuriating is the Poor excuses for not turning up .. Granny Just Shit Herself …The Goldfish has Covid … Sorry i Missed the Train Kelly… & he lives in my road … Daft git . But those kind of Numb Nuts are few and far between, its annoying that i spend 2 hours douching another hour in makeup &Dressing for a Man who lets me down in Favour of his Goldfish FFS. But again its his loss i will go meet anyone online who fancies a poke in the whiskers lol"

The thing is, timewasters can be paid up members or non payers - what they will get off on is knowing that you, for example, have taken a great deal of your own time and effort to get ready and possibly travel to a non existing meet. They like wasting peoples time and will pay for the opportunity. It was’nt his loss - he gained what he wanted - you wasting time. Good for you if you had a Plan B or backup.

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By *addy cool 555Man
1 week ago

Larbert

"So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about?

To put it bluntly- Yes, if that talk isn’t compatible with the purpose of this site.

Go and read the login screen “…fun, free & fabulous for gay guys”

“a free to use website for gay and bisexual men”

“Find genuine fellas who do meet”

What is the point of bi men coming here to talk about their wives/gf that should be on the swingers site. This is for man on man action.

Just because you can post something doesn’t mean that you should. Use a bit of common sense."

Perhaps you yourself should follow your last paragraph above rather than be so abusive to other users who don’t agree with your opinion.

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot

"So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about?

To put it bluntly- Yes, if that talk isn’t compatible with the purpose of this site.

Go and read the login screen “…fun, free & fabulous for gay guys”

“a free to use website for gay and bisexual men”

“Find genuine fellas who do meet”

What is the point of bi men coming here to talk about their wives/gf that should be on the swingers site. This is for man on man action.

Just because you can post something doesn’t mean that you should. Use a bit of common sense.

Perhaps you yourself should follow your last paragraph above rather than be so abusive to other users who don’t agree with your opinion."

Let them go and post it on mums.net then see what sort of reaction they get there. It is about posting on an appropriate site. Now it seems some of them are even bringing their wives with them.

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By *oolpeteMan
1 week ago

Chesterfield

"So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about?

To put it bluntly- Yes, if that talk isn’t compatible with the purpose of this site.

Go and read the login screen “…fun, free & fabulous for gay guys”

“a free to use website for gay and bisexual men”

“Find genuine fellas who do meet”

What is the point of bi men coming here to talk about their wives/gf that should be on the swingers site. This is for man on man action.

Just because you can post something doesn’t mean that you should. Use a bit of common sense.

Perhaps you yourself should follow your last paragraph above rather than be so abusive to other users who don’t agree with your opinion.

Let them go and post it on mums.net then see what sort of reaction they get there. It is about posting on an appropriate site. Now it seems some of them are even bringing their wives with them."

You must have a very empty life

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

“Them”

That’s the key word here.

No knowledge, no understanding, just othering.

Ironic really.

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

This website is for gay and bisexual men and others - it says so and there’s also the option to choose which you are on ones profile so trying to argue this site is for gay men only is wrong.

Bisexual men can post whatever they like on the forum as long as it’s within the rules. Some people don’t like this but are impotent to make the change they want.

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"This website is for gay and bisexual men and others - it says so and there’s also the option to choose which you are on ones profile so trying to argue this site is for gay men only is wrong.

Bisexual men can post whatever they like on the forum as long as it’s within the rules. Some people don’t like this but are impotent to make the change they want.

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I don’t think you understand.

This was once a pure land. Now it is polluted with them.

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By *wansmickMan
1 week ago

Belfast

"This website is for gay and bisexual men and others - it says so and there’s also the option to choose which you are on ones profile so trying to argue this site is for gay men only is wrong.

Bisexual men can post whatever they like on the forum as long as it’s within the rules. Some people don’t like this but are impotent to make the change they want.

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I don’t think you understand.

This was once a pure land. Now it is polluted with them."

You sound like a proper bigot 🥱🥱🥱. "Polluted with them" ? Almost Nazi language 👿

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
1 week ago

Nearby

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I mentioned females.

Wife / GF chat as in want to talk about her sexually in private and forum or swop pics etc is not allowed.

A general chat about females is fine.

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By *hubsloverMan
1 week ago

East/west sussex

I think Forum should be only for the Members .

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By *hubsloverMan
1 week ago

East/west sussex

You can see how many of them also left the site after giving nasty comments to other members .

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By *hubsloverMan
1 week ago

East/west sussex

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I mentioned females.

Wife / GF chat as in want to talk about her sexually in private and forum or swop pics etc is not allowed.

A general chat about females is fine.

It is nice to see admin get involved in Forum . Wish it was often so that people could get straight their information from forum rather than the complicated procedure that site never answered or goes to the air , no one has come back to my suggestions ever.. it will be nice to get a reply saying ‘at least a yes or no answer / possibility , how long ???

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I mentioned females.

Wife / GF chat as in want to talk about her sexually in private and forum or swop pics etc is not allowed.

A general chat about females is fine.

Ah right

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"This website is for gay and bisexual men and others - it says so and there’s also the option to choose which you are on ones profile so trying to argue this site is for gay men only is wrong.

Bisexual men can post whatever they like on the forum as long as it’s within the rules. Some people don’t like this but are impotent to make the change they want.

A fabguys moderator has made it clear in a thread that general chat about wives is allowed as a forum subject.

I don’t think you understand.

This was once a pure land. Now it is polluted with them.

You sound like a proper bigot 🥱🥱🥱. "Polluted with them" ? Almost Nazi language 👿"

Jesus fucking Christ.

Learn to spot sarcasm when it rattles you around the face.

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By *lackbootzMan
1 week ago

Hayes, Middx

"You can see how many of them also left the site after giving nasty comments to other members . "

Who are you talking about..??

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By *hubsloverMan
1 week ago

East/west sussex

"You can see how many of them also left the site after giving nasty comments to other members .

Who are you talking about..??"

You should review the comment above. It discussed non-site members with temporary accounts who come to the forum, leave unpleasant comments, and then exit.

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By *lackbootzMan
1 week ago

Hayes, Middx

"You can see how many of them also left the site after giving nasty comments to other members .

Who are you talking about..??

You should review the comment above. It discussed non-site members with temporary accounts who come to the forum, leave unpleasant comments, and then exit."

I did review the comment above.

When someone leaves the site the status of their membership - be it paying or non-paying - is obviously no longer shown to us. The duration of their membership is now no longer discernible as their profile is removed. Unless you are constantly monitoring Forum members actively as they post and noting down details if they are a gold or silver member and also recording details of how long their profiles have been active, then it is only guesswork that they were all “non-site members with temporary accounts”. Are you recording this information on us all as I type..? Several users who have deactivated their accounts in threads where I have contributed were certainly site supporters at the time they were posting. So this is a sweeping assumption and incorrect.

So much of this thread is based on assumptions and personal whimsy.

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By *ottom 54Man
1 week ago

Causeway

Time to give this Topic a well deserved rest. Everything has been said on both sides of the discussion and nothing has changed

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"Time to give this Topic a well deserved rest. Everything has been said on both sides of the discussion and nothing has changed "

If that was ever exercise every forum would shut down almost overnight. Constantly going round and round with the same pish is their stock in trade.

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By *abguysOfficialMan
Forum Mod
1 week ago

Nearby

"I think Forum should be only for the Members . "

It is only for members of the site, or do you mean only for site supporters?

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By *lackbootzMan
1 week ago

Hayes, Middx

"I think Forum should be only for the Members .

It is only for members of the site, or do you mean only for site supporters?"

I think he means the latter. I don’t think he has any argument.

Certainly please don’t restrict the Forum just to site supporters. I can’t think of anything more stultifying.

In fact it’s best FabGuys ignore the majority of requests in this section. Most are either insane or inane.

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By *jp HungMan
1 week ago

Ferryhill Northeast.

Just enjoy what you have if people want to waste others time their only wasting theirs. Even supporters of this site don't actually meet when arranged so pay or no pay it doesn't bother me hence in filters their is options to block newbies and people not verified.

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By *ulchieMan
1 week ago

Ringsend Road

Don't forget you can report people for making an arrangement with you and not showing up...

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By *antcockbiMan
1 week ago

Rotherham

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By *n0bJ0ckeyMan
1 week ago

Around & about

It can be irritating but thats the way of social media. Police it yourself and dont look at what you dont want to look at.

But ... limiting nonsubscribers to 5 or 10 a day would help.

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"It can be irritating but thats the way of social media. Police it yourself and dont look at what you dont want to look at.

But ... limiting nonsubscribers to 5 or 10 a day would help.

The people needing limited to 5-10 a day are all site supporters.

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By *atureTransTV/TS
1 week ago

Waterlooville

"Don't forget you can report people for making an arrangement with you and not showing up..."

Where does it say that on FG?

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By *tsuptoyou69Man
1 week ago

lowestoft

i have tried to be a member of fab guys but my bank rejects it

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot

"Don't forget you can report people for making an arrangement with you and not showing up...

Where does it say that on FG?"

Might be covered by item 2 in the FAQ’s under “ If someone is being a problem you can also report using "Report Profile" link on their profile page.”

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot

"i have tried to be a member of fab guys but my bank rejects it "

Have you tried using PayPal. £30 for getting on for a year. I’ve not had a problem paying that way.

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

Well there we have it. Timewasters are out there, paying or non paying, if someone has actually arranged a meet - time and place, and not pulled out before (hur!) then one can report them. As for limiting access to paying customers, the site does that already and presumably their business model reflects what’s in place at the moment.

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot

"So you want to restrict what bi guys can talk about?

To put it bluntly- Yes, if that talk isn’t compatible with the purpose of this site.

Go and read the login screen “…fun, free & fabulous for gay guys”

“a free to use website for gay and bisexual men”

“Find genuine fellas who do meet”

What is the point of bi men coming here to talk about their wives/gf that should be on the swingers site. This is for man on man action.

Just because you can post something doesn’t mean that you should. Use a bit of common sense.

Perhaps you yourself should follow your last paragraph above rather than be so abusive to other users who don’t agree with your opinion.

Let them go and post it on mums.net then see what sort of reaction they get there. It is about posting on an appropriate site. Now it seems some of them are even bringing their wives with them.

You must have a very empty life"

Nope, quite a happy life except those trying to spoil a good thing because they can’t exercise better judgment.

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