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By *ernowcub OP   Man
1 week ago

Solihull

Negative verifications (with evidence) for guys who don't turn up without notification or letting you know, or who cancel at the last minute (15 min notice, so long before they would have actually left to meet you).

Cancelling with notice is fine, but literally last minute or being a no show with zero notifications that you aren't turning up is frustrating, rude and unacceptable. Would help to warn others to avoid.

Could provide evidence via message record.

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By *ernowcub OP   Man
1 week ago

Solihull

As in a number of negative verifications that shows up on profile. Like the verifications number as opposed to text comments.

I.e. a few verifications but mostly negative verifications means don't bother talking to them.

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By *uffieldMan
1 week ago

Hertford

I agree. The guys who do this are clearly totally focussed on themselves and can't be bothered to spare a thought for how it might affect us when they cancel at the last minute or are a no-show.

If I'm btm then there's all the cleaning routine and if I'm top then getting ready will often involve using a tablet or two to fight ED (after radio therapy in Nov for prostate cancer). And it usually completely wastes the time you had set aside to meet.

Like you say though, I know life can get in the way and I make it clear that I never mind if guys cancel in advance of a planned meet.

Drew

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By *teve811Man
1 week ago

Newport

Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse!

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By *ernowcub OP   Man
1 week ago

Solihull


"Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse!"

Absolutely get that things come up, but I still think that there's rarely a genuine excuse for a short notice cancellation (30 mins or less) and absolutely zero excuse for a no show.

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By *ulberryMan
1 week ago

S. Worcestershire


"Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse!

Absolutely get that things come up, but I still think that there's rarely a genuine excuse for a short notice cancellation (30 mins or less) and absolutely zero excuse for a no show."

On this site, it's something you have to live with.

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By *raggahboyMan
1 week ago

stoke

Sometimes there are legitimate reasons for sudden cancelled meets especially with families If it happens with a guy youve not met previously - move on and dont contact again! Simples! As for the preparation if you shower which i always try to do before a meet its just tough luck! annoying yes, but it happens!! If its for a no show. with no apology Dont give a second chance!! After all its a casual sex site. Not a dating agency!! Ive been on here a good few years and and the good meets far outweigh the bad and no shows and ive had many regulars and made some good friends who if they have to cancel always let me know before hand if at all possible.

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By *raggahboyMan
1 week ago

stoke

Thanks for looking at my profile cant reply as out of age range by one year im 76 love your pics especially the kilt xx

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By *uck doll 4 uTV/TS
1 week ago

Bradford

I am sorry but someone keep hacking my phone and not sure how they are doing

I am free now and here all

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot


"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show."

Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time.

A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe.

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By *arina100TV/TS
1 week ago

Leamington Spa

Then it be tit for tat.

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By *v-simoneTV/TS
1 week ago

Bristol

It’s so annoying but something we have to put up with. There’s an endless supply of weirdos on here and there would be nothing to stop them leaving negative feedback for people they’ve never even spoke with. This is a free site and I wouldn’t expect admin to have to check message history etc to see if it was a genuine planned meet. Plus, as was mentioned before…things do sometimes crop up at the most unfortunate moments, so how do we those situations out?

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By *ernowcub OP   Man
1 week ago

Solihull


"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show.

Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time.

A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe."

Very unlikely though in a statistical sense.

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By *awihMan
1 week ago

Aldershot


"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show.

Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time.

A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe.

Very unlikely though in a statistical sense. "

Yes, but not “absolutely zero” which was the point. There are also other possible situations as well.

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By *ernowcub OP   Man
1 week ago

Solihull


"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show.

Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time.

A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe.

Very unlikely though in a statistical sense.

Yes, but not “absolutely zero” which was the point. There are also other possible situations as well."

It's possible that I could win the euro millions next week and also have a brain aneurysm and die on the same day. Statistically, it's very unlikely.

If you no-show a job interview you get company blacklisted. If you no-show a medical appointment you get taken off the waiting list. It's not acceptable full stop and bringing up an absolutely tiny proportion of edge cases doesn't change that. You know full well that 99.9% of guys on here aren't no showing due to things like that, they wouldn't be showing as online on Fabguys later on in A&E etc. posting photos and status updates the next day.

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By *uriousAboutCock1996Man
1 week ago

Wakefield

I agree with this in principle. I'm eager for a meet but have yet to have one, and all the genuine timewasters and dickheads make users like me (somewhat understandably) look bad by association. I've also been led on, ghosted, and insulted and it would be nice to let other users know to avoid the guys who did it.

Problem is, how would you enforce this? I had a guy who started abusing me after I caught him lying about his sexual history. If the feature you suggest was real, we could easily "negative verify" each other. Him for potentially being an STD-ridden liar, and me for (from his perspective) being a timewaster. Obviously in that example I was in the right, but how would others know for sure?

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By *ver45Man
Forum Mod
1 week ago

A Town near You!

Do not Name and Shame in the Forum, by doing so may result in a timeout or indeed a ban. Posts have been removed.

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By *londebiguyMan
1 week ago

near Southport


"As in a number of negative verifications that shows up on profile. Like the verifications number as opposed to text comments.

I.e. a few verifications but mostly negative verifications means don't bother talking to them. "

Yes!

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

Brighton

I don’t think the guy would show the verification if it was a negative one.

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By *arionX2TV/TS
1 week ago

Nr.. Mansfield


"I don’t think the guy would show the verification if it was a negative one. "

That is very true, but there could be a way that admin could add the negative verification to the guy’s verification list automatically with no access to remove it, but of course that could be open to abuse from any guy sending a negative verification for no particular valid reason…..then a completely innocent guy has a negative verification.

It’s a good idea, but needs some thought.

And i agree…too many time wasters with feeble non genuine excuses, or no excuses whatsoever, and it does seem to be getting worse, not just here but all sites..

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