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"Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse!" Absolutely get that things come up, but I still think that there's rarely a genuine excuse for a short notice cancellation (30 mins or less) and absolutely zero excuse for a no show. | |||
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"Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse! Absolutely get that things come up, but I still think that there's rarely a genuine excuse for a short notice cancellation (30 mins or less) and absolutely zero excuse for a no show." On this site, it's something you have to live with. | |||
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"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show." Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time. A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe. | |||
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"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show. Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time. A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe." Very unlikely though in a statistical sense. | |||
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"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show. Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time. A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe. Very unlikely though in a statistical sense. " Yes, but not “absolutely zero” which was the point. There are also other possible situations as well. | |||
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"and absolutely zero excuse for a no show. Well being involved in an RTA on the way to the meet, and being rushed to hospital with serious injuries would be a very good reason for a no show that springs to mind. While it is unlikely, it is a possibility and you are not going to find out about it for quite some time. A very close (straight) friend was involved in a motorcycle accident a number of years ago, I was the person who got the phone call as he new my number, so I was the one who had to call his wife and tell her - also had to pick her up and drive her to the London hospital they took him too as his injuries were that severe. Very unlikely though in a statistical sense. Yes, but not “absolutely zero” which was the point. There are also other possible situations as well." It's possible that I could win the euro millions next week and also have a brain aneurysm and die on the same day. Statistically, it's very unlikely. If you no-show a job interview you get company blacklisted. If you no-show a medical appointment you get taken off the waiting list. It's not acceptable full stop and bringing up an absolutely tiny proportion of edge cases doesn't change that. You know full well that 99.9% of guys on here aren't no showing due to things like that, they wouldn't be showing as online on Fabguys later on in A&E etc. posting photos and status updates the next day. | |||
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"As in a number of negative verifications that shows up on profile. Like the verifications number as opposed to text comments. I.e. a few verifications but mostly negative verifications means don't bother talking to them. " Yes! | |||
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"I don’t think the guy would show the verification if it was a negative one. " That is very true, but there could be a way that admin could add the negative verification to the guy’s verification list automatically with no access to remove it, but of course that could be open to abuse from any guy sending a negative verification for no particular valid reason…..then a completely innocent guy has a negative verification. It’s a good idea, but needs some thought. And i agree…too many time wasters with feeble non genuine excuses, or no excuses whatsoever, and it does seem to be getting worse, not just here but all sites..  | |||
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"Whilst it is frustrating to be let down, sometimes there are good reasons! Saying that as a crossdresser there is nothing more annoying than getting a place sorted (I can accommodate), cleaning out then getting dressed up, only to get radio silence when the "meet" does not turn up! I recently booked a hotel for the day, had a person who was very interested up until the night before then he went very quiet. The same person ahs multiple accounts on here which should be stopped. Another person who said they were interested stopped communicating on the morning of the meet. To me the day was not a waste but it could have been! I try to be honest on my profile and in discussions with others but the timewasting is getting worse! Absolutely get that things come up, but I still think that there's rarely a genuine excuse for a short notice cancellation (30 mins or less) and absolutely zero excuse for a no show. On this site, it's something you have to live with. " It used to happen on Gaydar. Squirt never delivered a meet either. It's men. They're wankers. | |||
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"They just leave and re join im being stalked buy a local guy now on both this site and the sister site fabswingers. I keep reporting him to admin who fet rid of him only for him to reappear in a couple of days time with a new name " | |||
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"I'm always a bit sketchy when someone's displaying, for instance, 5 verifications but not showing, say another 6. Like, what's wrong with those 6 that you don't display it? They must be negative you'd assume " Your own profile is currently showing 3 published verifications and verified by 6 people: you have 3 negative verifications?  | |||
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"I'm always a bit sketchy when someone's displaying, for instance, 5 verifications but not showing, say another 6. Like, what's wrong with those 6 that you don't display it? They must be negative you'd assume " Maybe they blocked him? Maybe they left the site? Maybe they are people they no longer want to associate with. Can be plenty of reasons not to display them. Doesn't necessarily mean the profile is at fault or being devious | |||
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"I'm always a bit sketchy when someone's displaying, for instance, 5 verifications but not showing, say another 6. Like, what's wrong with those 6 that you don't display it? They must be negative you'd assume " Assume away, dearie. Another one who hasn’t an earthly clue how the site works. I must be an absolutely shit fuck because I’m “hiding” 30 verifications! Best stay away. Or alternatively… it just demonstrates the typical profile turn-over in a 6 year period. | |||
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"They just leave and re join im being stalked buy a local guy now on both this site and the sister site fabswingers. I keep reporting him to admin who fet rid of him only for him to reappear in a couple of days time with a new name " Yep, same happens to me, a guy has been stalking me for years on Fabguys, Fabswingers and before that the now defunct Cottaging.uk and dogging.uk. | |||
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"I'm always a bit sketchy when someone's displaying, for instance, 5 verifications but not showing, say another 6. Like, what's wrong with those 6 that you don't display it? They must be negative you'd assume Your own profile is currently showing 3 published verifications and verified by 6 people: you have 3 negative verifications? "It looks to me like they only show most recent which is pretty common, or maybe the other 3 are no longer on the site, in which case the veri would go but the the number of veris would remain the same. | |||
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"I'm always a bit sketchy when someone's displaying, for instance, 5 verifications but not showing, say another 6. Like, what's wrong with those 6 that you don't display it? They must be negative you'd assume Your own profile is currently showing 3 published verifications and verified by 6 people: you have 3 negative verifications?
It looks to me like they only show most recent which is pretty common, or maybe the other 3 are no longer on the site, in which case the veri would go but the the number of veris would remain the same."I was simply applying the 'logic' of the previous poster to their own profile, not my opinion  | |||
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"As I've found often, a guy can have verifications and still piss you about. Why? Because of the great filter. Guys engage your interest but will dump you last minute for someone nearer, younger, hung- er, more versatile, less kinky - and so on. So I don't GAF about veris now. You often know a gen guy just from the tone and content. And tbh some veris are excruciatingly gross. Others " his lovely clean home" unintentionally condescending. "Verifications are not intended to be/are not a guarantee. They're, predominantly, an indication, a tool to be used, with a modicum of common sense, with a bit of potential entertainment thrown in for good measure 
BTW, I've used this site for a number of years, with zero no shows (one messaged 1/2hr after arranged meet time to apologise and he would be there in a few mins, imagining somehow that I'd still be there: I'd moved into a café just across the road after 5mins and ditched the idea of meeting 5mins after that). Generally speaking, I'm guessing that taking a little more care over details would save a whole lot of whinging about 'timewasters?' | |||
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"One of the reasons I know longer travel any distance now to many times chatting arranged meets given post code when get there ack for house number then either blocked or no reply so won't travel any further than about 5 miles radius " Happened to me .. drove an hour, puncture on the way, messaged to say I would be late, arrived at a block of flats, messaged, no reply, then discovered he had gone offline as soon as I had messaged to say I was on my way! Even better (or worse), messaging over time with a guy, wanted me to dress up etc and do it bare, invested in lots of lingerie etc, got tested, got Prep,told him I was ready to meet as and when, since last message hasn't been online for a month
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"Generally speaking, I'm guessing that taking a little more care over details would save a whole lot of whinging about 'timewasters?' What makes you think anyone wants detail here? You can shrink a profile to keywords but they still don't read it." LOL, I don't think that: it's precisely my point that people ignore details/fail to pay attention properly when arranging meets! If a little more effort and care were invested, the results might be more likely to meet expectations. Less whinging all round? 🤞 | |||
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"Generally speaking, I'm guessing that taking a little more care over details would save a whole lot of whinging about 'timewasters?' What makes you think anyone wants detail here? You can shrink a profile to keywords but they still don't read it. LOL, I don't think that: it's precisely my point that people ignore details/fail to pay attention properly when arranging meets! If a little more effort and care were invested, the results might be more likely to meet expectations. Less whinging all round? 🤞" Ah ok  | |||
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"…messaging over time with a guy, wanted me to dress up etc and do it bare, invested in lots of lingerie etc, got tested, got Prep,told him I was ready to meet as and when, since last message hasn't been online for a month… " You invested money in buying lingerie specially for this meet? For someone you’ve not met before? You went to a clinic and got tested and went on Prep specially for this meet..? For someone you’ve not met before? They must have been laughing themselves silly as you willingly jumped through all the hoops they set you. Luckily for you, lingerie can be worn for other people and occasions and being tested and on Prep will be beneficial to you anyway… but even so. Don’t allow yourself to be taken for such a mug in the future. | |||
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"Negative verifications (with evidence) for guys who don't turn up without notification or letting you know, or who cancel at the last minute (15 min notice, so long before they would have actually left to meet you). Cancelling with notice is fine, but literally last minute or being a no show with zero notifications that you aren't turning up is frustrating, rude and unacceptable. Would help to warn others to avoid. Could provide evidence via message record. " Got no chance of anything like this being implemented and not being used and abused by most of the very people it was set up to eradicate. We are humans and we are cunts. C'est la vie | |||
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