FabGuys.com forum: Giving address out risk

By *uggs OP Man
over a year ago

LEEDS

Have been a fool in the past and given my address out

Idiotic thing to do I know

Especially when no one turns up

Get a bit worried sometimes

Does it happen to a lot of guys on here

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By *rimstoneMan
over a year ago

Near Darlington

If you agree to accommodate, how on earth else is it going to work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree to meet at a prominent place near your house and walk back from there. Of course if you wish to be all rigged up for instant sex then this would delay the passion somewhat. But it does also keep your address discreet until the last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you agree to accommodate, how on earth else is it going to work?"

Boom !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have been a fool in the past and given my address out

Idiotic thing to do I know

Especially when no one turns up

Get a bit worried sometimes

Does it happen to a lot of guys on here"

If you've given an address, and the person doesn't turn up, what is there to worry about?

He didn't come when sex was available, so why would he be interested in your address any other time?

Just block and move on.

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By *lan82Man
over a year ago

North Hykeham, Lincoln

"Have been a fool in the past and given my address out

Idiotic thing to do I know

Especially when no one turns up

Get a bit worried sometimes

Does it happen to a lot of guys on here"

I’ve done this before.. in the days gone by when I used to be able to accomm..

And sometimes they didn’t show..

I too got worried.. but hey ho that’s life.. innit?

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By *ontyguy 39Man
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Why say you can accom if it makes you nervous when giving out your address??? What do you think is going to happen? Do you still worry if they turn up? After all they still have your address? I don't get it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to give your address (or even just postcode so they can get the gist of how realistic travelling to you would be) then agree to meet in a cafe for a tea or coffee. Its more common on the dating sites that aren't as sex-focused as this one but it would stop you worrying, and if you are hyper-paranoid that someone might recognise you having a cup of tea in a cafe with another man just say its a buddy (not that its any of their business).

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By *35bMan
over a year ago

Shoreham by aea

I let them know the post code and block of flats I’m in - even which floor (there are 10 flats on each floor thru 5 entrances) and have my mobile number. Then text them the actual flat number once they are parked up and I am pretty sure they are genuine. Avoids that situation of giving out address then the guy just blocks. I’m just open and explain I’m worried about security. Guys that are gen will likely understand that.

Guys that don’t have access to this site while out and about can be a problem.

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By *artinFrimleyMan
over a year ago

Frimley

"If you don't want to give your address (or even just postcode so they can get the gist of how realistic travelling to you would be) then agree to meet in a cafe for a tea or coffee. Its more common on the dating sites that aren't as sex-focused as this one but it would stop you worrying, and if you are hyper-paranoid that someone might recognise you having a cup of tea in a cafe with another man just say its a buddy (not that its any of their business)."

I’ve done this sort of thing before, or met outdoors somewhere public… it’s not always possible to be 100% comfortable, lack of pics or verifications etc sometimes I’ve met near home had a bit of fun and then said “back to mine?”

Having people over is always a bit of a risk especially if you’ve had a bad experience like I have. But it’s usually ok… one bad experience in about 30 years of doing it .., and so many no shows I’ve lost count

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By *aceyswallowsTV/TS
over a year ago

south oxon

I am now far more secretive as per my address as had a guy not turn up and then came hours later pissed up asking for Lacey tenant answered the door so was a little uncomfortable for a few weeks

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By *arah briscaTV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham

I never give my address out now after a guy came to mine and then tried to bla.....l me by threatening to tell my wife,but she knows anyway.

It got to a point where we had to get police involved.

Lesson learned,dont accomodate

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I don't accom as I had stuff stolen by a guy I met years ago. Now if I am going to travel I ask for the postcode to see how far it really is. Then I check the street name and say I will message for house no when I get there. Most folk can get on here on their mobile for a few minutes without using all their data up

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By *omeasapMan
over a year ago

Essex

Can't accommodate but would only give out address roughly, maybe what3words within couple hundred metres then talk on phone to give address or hotel room.

It's fine to not meet. Or cancel. Or plans don't come together. If somebody is that close to arriving they're less likely to back out, so long as you don't do anything weird to spook thrm

That's my 2p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes happens a lot. Never had any issues though as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet if I’m given the exact address beforehand. In my experience, most genuine people are happy to do that, but also should anything happen, at least there’s a log of it in my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give just the street and once they are in the street I then give my house number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really need a sexual connection with a guy so I’ll only meet in clubs on a first meet, if there’s no chemistry between us we can both walk away with no hard feelings

I’ll only accommodate for guys I’ve met before or come highly recommended by friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For my couples profile on fabswingers. We will not meet any males unless recommended by a friend. And then we only will do at a club. Been bitten at home with some strange couples. But I’m happy to entertain guys at home, don’t I seem to have a sixth sense for weirdos on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I only give my address out if I’ve been talking to them for sometime , but do get nervous every time

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By (user no longer on site)
4 days ago

I know this is an old post but just had a guy been a little funny about me not revealing my full address. We'd not made definate plans to meet and it would've been a first time meet as well. I told him the general neighborhood I live but not the street as it was a short half hour walk from where he lives...said his car was broke when we made arrangements. Red flags I think. He just said he asked five times for my address which he didn't and he'd look elsewhere but not before putting a rather curt goodbye. I decided best thing was to block. No reasoning no pleading no saying sorry here's my address. It's a no from me too. What do you guys think?

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
4 days ago

Glasgow

"I know this is an old post but just had a guy been a little funny about me not revealing my full address. We'd not made definate plans to meet and it would've been a first time meet as well. I told him the general neighborhood I live but not the street as it was a short half hour walk from where he lives...said his car was broke when we made arrangements. Red flags I think. He just said he asked five times for my address which he didn't and he'd look elsewhere but not before putting a rather curt goodbye. I decided best thing was to block. No reasoning no pleading no saying sorry here's my address. It's a no from me too. What do you guys think?"

I think you dodged a right one there. I seldom accom unless we have already met after a bad experience in the past. You learn from your mistakes

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By *amantha111TV/TS
4 days ago

Beeston

Now is definitely the time to start using discernment, literally for everything lol. That feeling something is....off is trying to tell you something

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By *ull bi for funMan
4 days ago

hull

Just give it as 10 or 11 Downing Street, you get well and truly screwed at these addresses.

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By *NON1986Man
4 days ago

Gosport

This has happened on a couple of occasions where I've given the address and nobody turns up so unless I've met them before I just give the postcode now and tell them to let me know when your outside

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By *irsutemaleMan
4 days ago

notts

I have a little map with a blue spot on where I will meet someone first time. I give the postcode of the road next to mine too.

So far it has worked well.

Occasionally, a repeat meeting with a guy asks me to remind them of the postcode, which tell me they forget

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By *upertedMan
3 days ago

Nelson

I live alone so not a worry of 'getting caught' for me.

Most of my hookups where I've invited someone to my place have resulted in good FwBs.

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By *arrogateDadMan
3 days ago

Harrogate

Postcode given - tell him to park up nearby. I make sure I can see car & he’s alone. No issues thus far & some good meets with some sexy guys.

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By *tmguylookingMan
3 days ago

Chesterfield

I've lost count how ma y times I've given my address and it's been a no show, even given exact details of which door it is, which button to press on the entry panel etc... but it doesn't really bother me, I've never had any comeback from it. After all, they don't know exactly which window they need to throw the brick at.

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By *erscumdumpMan
3 days ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

Over years i have come to the conclusion that there are sad people who just collect addresses and get by wanking, like some kind of twisted, lonely fetish. Maybe they drive to yours, park up outside and have a lonely wank. Not got much going for them have they 😆

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By *jh59Man
3 days ago

Hinckley

Plenty of guys have visited me without a problem

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By *avinialipsTV/TS
3 days ago

Merseyside/Cheshire/Lancashire

I insist chatting on the phone before I give out my address x

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By *hubbyman10Man
3 days ago

Bloxwich

Have in the past but always met them pubicly, would never give it out without meeting someone first.

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By *autiously_curiousMan
3 days ago

Craigavon

I don't go to meets without a full address. Always happy to arrange a neutral public place to say hi before arrange a mproper meet. But I don't do this Mission Impossible tripe of "Go to A. Wait for a message and travel to B. Pick up random guy before commencing to C.... do not pass go, do not pick up

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By *astDevonGuyMan
3 days ago

East Devon

Nope , never feared giving my address , never had an issue .

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By *ibeariusMan
3 days ago

Greenock

I have also given my address to no shows, I would prefer to meet in public or their place now

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By *eefandfurMan
3 days ago

Edinburgh

Meeting in a convenient public place first would be a sensible option.

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By *arry40Man
3 days ago

Bolton travelling

I dont give out my address, prefer to meet in hotels.

Hotel sex is great, nice big beds and plenty of room to play about

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By *ldderMan
3 days ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks Bath

Big part of the reason I'll only meet outside

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By *ndyBristolMan
3 days ago

Keynsham

I once travelled for 45 minutes to meet a guy at his only to find that the house number he gave me was false.

It was very annoying at the time but there are always some jokers out there.

If someone is to visit me I only give out my address after we have exchanged phone numbers and I then send a text message.

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By *antsMeetsMan
3 days ago

uxbridge

I'd go careful giving out your address especially if married and want to be kept discreet, some guys are fruit loops.

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By *oveboysMan
3 days ago

grays

Meet half way.then if you trust the guy then take him home.safe than sorry.xxxx

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By *anDadBodMan
3 days ago

Speke

first meet for me is always in public, usually a coffee shop or maybe a museum

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