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"Annie Proulx had it right in Brokeback Mountain... in the book, their second meet takes place in a cheap motel. Afterwards, "the room stank of semen and smoke and sweat and whiskey, of old carpet and sour hay, saddle leather, shit and cheap soap." Those guys thought a douche was a disreputable cowboy." Think Ive stayed in that motel. | |||
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"As a bottom I have to be shower fresh and douched before I will have any form of sex. Sometimes I come across tops who want to meet after work, but I have to decline as I won't be able to shower. Their reply is they don't mind a bit of dirty sex,but I do. As a top how do you feel about an undouched bottom? " Lots of men claim this but most are lying, often you can be fine without douching but there is no predicting. I've had guys freak out after I told them I hadn't douched (last min outdoor meet). Always have wet wipes just in case and as a vers I don't freak out if it happens when I'm topping, but lots of tops do regardless of what they claim. I always douche if I can. | |||
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"Ffs this old chestnut again? If you plan a fuck then douche. Otherwise don't have sudden meets." FFS, that old answer again!? So prescriptive. Surprise - we're all different; if I'd not douched and the other(s) didn't care then let's all fuck whether spontaneous or planned! I fucked my partner years back while he took a shit, so don't think your OPINION suits every man on this, or any, forum. It's like travelling abroad - you realise that not every country in the world lives the way we do in Britain. It often seems that many men on here wouldn't kiss another man unless they'd both showered at least once beforehand, so "sudden meets" involving physical contact are probably not really a thing. | |||
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"This isnt the journal but just part of one from medical news; Potential risks of anal douching Certain approaches to anal douching can make this practice unsafe. They include: using inappropriate douching equipmentusing the wrong douching liquiddouching too frequently Risk of infection A 2019 studyTrusted Source has shown that household products not intended for anal douching can damage rectal tissue and increase a person’s risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs). A 2021 studyTrusted Source found an association between inappropriate douching tools, including a shower hose, and a higher risk of HIV infection when engaging in sex without barrier methods. Other studies have found that anal douching may injure the rectal mucosa and the lining of the rectum, increasing the risk of HIV and other infections. However, more long-term studies are necessary to clarify the association between anal douching and increased risk of infection. Researchers suggest that the transmission of HIV and other STIs may be due to factors other than or in addition to anal douching. These factors may include prolonged sexual encounters and the use of recreational drugs. A person can discuss the possible risks with a healthcare professional or undergo testing to rule out potential infections. " Wow! Someone who has actually thought about this instead of the "I am scrupulously clean and expect the same of everyone else" response! Hoo flipping ra! | |||
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"Thanks Hairfetish I value my health despite participation in risky sex I.e. Anal. Another one was Healthline this is what they said on the after care section. How often can you douche the anus? There’s no hard and fast rule on how often you can douche safely. Ideally, you should limit it to no more than two or three times per week and certainly not more than once on a given day. You risk damaging your anus and intestinal lining, even when you take all the necessary steps and douche properly. You also risk throwing off the balance of electrolytes and disrupting your body’s natural elimination rhythm when you do it too often. Are there any other risks to consider? There’s been concern in the past that anal douching could increase the riskTrusted Source of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), mainly due to ingredients commonly used. Many men who have sex with men report using homemade and noncommercial substances and solutions. Many of these can damage rectal tissue, potentially making you more susceptible to infection. If you have hemorrhoids or anal fissures, anal douching may not be a good idea. Inserting the nozzle into your rectum when you have either of these is more likely to cause injury and pain. Using laxatives before anal play isn’t recommended. Some store-bought enema solutions contain stimulant laxatives, like bisacodyl, that induce intestinal contractions to help move stool through your bowel. Laxatives can cause some not-so-sexy side effects, such as gas, cramping, and diarrhea, which can also lead to dehydration. Is there anything you can do to minimize irritation? Use lots of lube, for starters. Proper lubrication is a must whenever you’re putting anything in your butt. Not using enough significantly ups your chances of irritation and damage. You also want to go super slow when inserting the nozzle and stop if you feel pain or notice any bleeding. Remember that anal douching isn’t necessary. A balanced diet with enough fiber can help keep things moving, so you don’t have to worry about a buildup of stool in your colon. Last line says what the journal said and I agree. Proper diet is key potentially removing the need for the task in the first place! " Bet you're a bundle of laughs at parties🤣 | |||
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"Thanks Hairfetish I value my health despite participation in risky sex I.e. Anal. Another one was Healthline this is what they said on the after care section. How often can you douche the anus? There’s no hard and fast rule on how often you can douche safely. Ideally, you should limit it to no more than two or three times per week and certainly not more than once on a given day. You risk damaging your anus and intestinal lining, even when you take all the necessary steps and douche properly. You also risk throwing off the balance of electrolytes and disrupting your body’s natural elimination rhythm when you do it too often. Are there any other risks to consider? There’s been concern in the past that anal douching could increase the riskTrusted Source of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs), mainly due to ingredients commonly used. Many men who have sex with men report using homemade and noncommercial substances and solutions. Many of these can damage rectal tissue, potentially making you more susceptible to infection. If you have hemorrhoids or anal fissures, anal douching may not be a good idea. Inserting the nozzle into your rectum when you have either of these is more likely to cause injury and pain. Using laxatives before anal play isn’t recommended. Some store-bought enema solutions contain stimulant laxatives, like bisacodyl, that induce intestinal contractions to help move stool through your bowel. Laxatives can cause some not-so-sexy side effects, such as gas, cramping, and diarrhea, which can also lead to dehydration. Is there anything you can do to minimize irritation? Use lots of lube, for starters. Proper lubrication is a must whenever you’re putting anything in your butt. Not using enough significantly ups your chances of irritation and damage. You also want to go super slow when inserting the nozzle and stop if you feel pain or notice any bleeding. Remember that anal douching isn’t necessary. A balanced diet with enough fiber can help keep things moving, so you don’t have to worry about a buildup of stool in your colon. Last line says what the journal said and I agree. Proper diet is key potentially removing the need for the task in the first place! Bet you're a bundle of laughs at parties🤣" Yes but I'm alive, not got STD or passing them around | |||
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"Here's an odd one. I quite like to read the stories in the fantasy section. And very often (feels about 90%) the stories are about a surprise fucking or the first time .... all of these must he in a "natural" condition. But they get fucked multiple times, have lots if ass to mouth. And never any thought of the issues that happen in normal life. " I have to disagree, spontaneous unexpected fuck is one of the hottest things ever, ever! I like when I guy wants to fuck me out of the blue, completely unexpectedly It just happened to me yesterday - we exchanged looks on the street and went to his place in less than 30 minutes for what it was one of the best fucks of my life. But at the same time I would not be comfortable or enjoy it if i am not ready and clean - the solution is to be ready all the time so there is no chance to miss a super hot dude that wants to make passionate love to me, it's not a big price to pay being ready all the time yet the reward is amazing. | |||
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"Here's an odd one. I quite like to read the stories in the fantasy section. And very often (feels about 90%) the stories are about a surprise fucking or the first time .... all of these must he in a "natural" condition. But they get fucked multiple times, have lots if ass to mouth. And never any thought of the issues that happen in normal life. I have to disagree, spontaneous unexpected fuck is one of the hottest things ever, ever! I like when I guy wants to fuck me out of the blue, completely unexpectedly It just happened to me yesterday - we exchanged looks on the street and went to his place in less than 30 minutes for what it was one of the best fucks of my life. But at the same time I would not be comfortable or enjoy it if i am not ready and clean - the solution is to be ready all the time so there is no chance to miss a super hot dude that wants to make passionate love to me, it's not a big price to pay being ready all the time yet the reward is amazing." But how can you be "ready all the time"? Serious question. | |||
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"Here's an odd one. I quite like to read the stories in the fantasy section. And very often (feels about 90%) the stories are about a surprise fucking or the first time .... all of these must he in a "natural" condition. But they get fucked multiple times, have lots if ass to mouth. And never any thought of the issues that happen in normal life. I have to disagree, spontaneous unexpected fuck is one of the hottest things ever, ever! I like when I guy wants to fuck me out of the blue, completely unexpectedly It just happened to me yesterday - we exchanged looks on the street and went to his place in less than 30 minutes for what it was one of the best fucks of my life. But at the same time I would not be comfortable or enjoy it if i am not ready and clean - the solution is to be ready all the time so there is no chance to miss a super hot dude that wants to make passionate love to me, it's not a big price to pay being ready all the time yet the reward is amazing. But how can you be "ready all the time"? Serious question." U can't can you | |||
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"The phrase "poor hygiene" is so heavily used on here as something to be avoided at all costs and it seems that "good hygiene" is the constantly sought holy grail. How people in poorer parts of the world (or even the UK?) without ready access to body wash, fresh running water and showers ever manage to have any kind of sex I'll never understand. If you asked 10 people here they may well give you 10 definitions of "clean". Reading profiles it seems that people here use the word to mean that they have showered and soaped whereas others use it to mean "STI free". I don't know why people don't just say "I expect you to douche before sex" rather than the ambiguous "I'm clean and I expect you to be the same". Does that mean a total all over wash and no smelly pits or anything else before any sex is allowed? Does it mean you've just douched but but you've no requirements for the rest. Does it mean you may stink but you've been STI checked and found OK at the clinic? The stress caused for so many posters above about whether there might possibly be "an accident" during sex is sad to read. I never douched once as a student (I didn't even know it was a thing in 1977) but nobody asked me, I didn't think and in all those fucks there was never "an accident". You are fucking the hole where a human shits. If you end up with a bit of shit and you don't want it, just stop, have a quick shower spray and then back to sex. It's natural and really not the end of the world. Gawd." Well said. | |||
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"The phrase "poor hygiene" is so heavily used on here as something to be avoided at all costs and it seems that "good hygiene" is the constantly sought holy grail. How people in poorer parts of the world (or even the UK?) without ready access to body wash, fresh running water and showers ever manage to have any kind of sex I'll never understand. If you asked 10 people here they may well give you 10 definitions of "clean". Reading profiles it seems that people here use the word to mean that they have showered and soaped whereas others use it to mean "STI free". I don't know why people don't just say "I expect you to douche before sex" rather than the ambiguous "I'm clean and I expect you to be the same". Does that mean a total all over wash and no smelly pits or anything else before any sex is allowed? Does it mean you've just douched but but you've no requirements for the rest. Does it mean you may stink but you've been STI checked and found OK at the clinic? The stress caused for so many posters above about whether there might possibly be "an accident" during sex is sad to read. I never douched once as a student (I didn't even know it was a thing in 1977) but nobody asked me, I didn't think and in all those fucks there was never "an accident". You are fucking the hole where a human shits. If you end up with a bit of shit and you don't want it, just stop, have a quick shower spray and then back to sex. It's natural and really not the end of the world. Gawd." completely agree with this - also ‘clean’ is a bit of a fallacy when you are rinsing with water. I’ve asked some people here over the years about bb and risk and they have answered ‘no issue I’m always completely clean’ - like that makes a scrap of difference (well it actually increases the risk ironically). Problem is so many have shitty diets (pun intended) so the problem is their poo smells rank - I’d fuck with a healthy top/bottom happily un douched if we were both happy with it. Ironically the ‘’dirtier’ you are the less you suffer from some of the ailments that plague our society. | |||
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