FabGuys.com forum: Ever Been Arrested for Cruising or Cottaging

By *andsy OP Man
over a year ago

tynemouth

In the dark ages (1984) I was arrested. Was in a well-used cottage (long gone) near the football ground in town. Me and another lad about my age had made eye contact, but not even flashed each other. There were three other guys in too, acting like any other cruiser - discreet looks, a bit of direct eye contact, shuffling at the stall but not quite enough to see anything.

We both left and loitered in the way you do at the bus stop outside, both with visible erections under our pants. So we ventured back into the cottage. I was young, hard, had had tons of fun there many a time; it was so busy you could virtually guarantee a wank or blowjob. And I was aching to unload.

But going back in was my downfall.

The other 3 guys in there were plain clothes vice. They had all left one after another, hanging around nearby, but then came charging back in and arrested us. Plus another guy in a cubicle who had been openly wanking with the door open. I should add that at this point me and the other lad still hadn’t flashed each other let alone touched each other.

I thought I was going to pass-out I got such a shock. I was given a caution (I was so shocked I cant even recall what the caution was - gross indecency or importuning for an immoral purpose I guess). It has haunted me for best part of 40 years now. It has stopped me applying for anything that needed a police check.

Even writing about it now brings a hot flush of shame to me. I am grateful it never went to court so it could remain my shameful secret. In those days being bi/gay was much less acceptable and being caught seeking sex in a public toilet, well I can’t imagine the results. If it had gone to Court I would’ve lost my job. My family would have been terribly ashamed and embarrassed too. I lived in a small North East pit village. Not the most tolerant of places.

I can’t say it stopped me cruising and cottaging. But ever since then I’ve only done it when my brain shuts down and my cock is in charge and have always been ultra-cautious, never staying in one location too long and never returning shortly after leaving. Opportunities are also less these days as cottages are few and far between.

Have you ever been caught and arrested? What’s the story, what was the outcome?

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By *mithy4uMan
over a year ago

telford

Sorry that happened to you, you must have been scared. Im glad times have changed to a more accepting society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A local councelor was arrested cittaging. It went to court, he was found guilty. He stood for MP but lost (he was a Labour candidate and it was the time of the Iraq war) but later became deputy leader of the council and was the real power in the borough. Nasty piece of work though.

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By *kigaiMan
over a year ago

Northampton

No although I was once mugged at knife point in a cottage that I was using for it's legal purpose and when I reported the incident the police officer was was far more interested as to why I was there than my missing wallet.

Karma came a few years later when I was one of the (then) local LGBT team that helped with training the police on diversity issues. He didn't remember me. I remembered him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but I was in a public toilet when everybody else in there got arrested back in the early 90s.

I was in the only cubicle (alone).

Which was a good place to be as a) they couldn't arrest me for anything and b) I pretty much shit myself when all the Sweeney like "you're nicked you dirty bastards!" shouting started

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By *onnylikesitallTV/TS
over a year ago

bristol

Years ago i was in a cottage in plymouth,id just gone in and was in a cubicle when i heard "your under arrest" outside.

Came out after 5 mins to see two guys who were at urinals being put into police van. Nothing was said to me but i still nearly shit myself

Could have easily been me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no but was told off and told not to do it

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By *eepeter3Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"no but was told off and told not to do it "
your a very naughty boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha wasnt quite like that but police officer was ok about it

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By *asmeen 123TV/TS
over a year ago

Stoke on trent.

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By *0yguyMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

Once was just coming out of a cottage as three uniformed walked in - close shave I think. another time I was in a cruising area and sat on a bench next to guy. He seemed distant and odd in some way. I just blurted it out - “you don’t seem comfortable”, then the penny dropped. “Are you a police officer?” Of course he was obliged to admit it, otherwise it would be seen as entrapment.

A few days later a letter arrived at my door clearly marked Manchester Police. They had clocked my car registration. They letter warned that I had been seen in a notorious gay cruising area and should report any suspicious behaviour I might see. To this day I suspect a police record was made and might be disclosed to potential employers. I once applied for a role on a tribunal and was pointedly asked by the interviewing officer if there was anything in my past which might be a cause of embarrassment to the justice department. Of course I said no, as I have no criminal convictions, but the veiled undertone was there nonetheless and I didn’t get the position. Today I could probably claim unfair discrimination on sexuality grounds and ask to review any police records, but it’s probably not worth the fuss and possible publicity.

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By *rucewayne1stMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Not in a cottage but I did get a caution for getting fucked on the top deck of a bus, it had gone by a police station and they could see me clearly getting fucked on the top deck.

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By *ootsockMan
over a year ago

Earl's Court, London

"no but was told off and told not to do it your a very naughty boy"

He's not a very naughty boy, he's the Messiah!

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By *ock Rider 4 allMan
over a year ago

ryde

"A local councelor was arrested cittaging. It went to court, he was found guilty. He stood for MP but lost (he was a Labour candidate and it was the time of the Iraq war) but later became deputy leader of the council and was the real power in the borough. Nasty piece of work though. "

I though you were gonna say it was Tony Blair

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By *ildwestheroMan
over a year ago

Llandrindod Wells

Never been cottaging in my life. Probably because when I was about 11 or 12 I was playing football, with a cousin, in a park when the police raided a gents toilet and arrested four men. Had no idea at the time what it was all about but looked on with horror and fascination. Told my aunt and my mother but they were very vague on the subject. Did read about it later in a local newspaper as all four were named, shamed and fined. Two were prominent local businessmen.

Those toilets were demolished shortly afterwards and a new one was built about 300 yards away near the police station.

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By *ookingFor...Man
over a year ago

Horsham/Crawley/Gatwick

"Sorry that happened to you, you must have been scared. Im glad times have changed to a more accepting society."

More accepting to having sex in public toilets?

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By *hubbyEastMan
over a year ago

East London

I am presuming your conviction after all this time is considered “spent”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not in a cottage but I did get a caution for getting fucked on the top deck of a bus, it had gone by a police station and they could see me clearly getting fucked on the top deck."

Having sex in very public places where kids can see and go is very odd, and most likely a lie too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was once in a cottage in local town centre, usually pretty cruisy but that day nothing doing. Just zipped up and headed to handbasins and in walked a stunningly good looking young Community Support Officer in full uniform.

I loitered washing my hands and we made eye contact in mirror quite a few times, as I went to dry hands he zipped up and walked past me with a huge bulge in his pants.

I left and almost physically bumped into his female colleague standing outside.

Walked past the pair of them about 5 minutes later and he winked at me and had a really cheeky grin on his face. Did the usual take five or six steps and look back and sure enough he did too….

I used to often wonder what could have happened.

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By *es1959Man
over a year ago

Bromley

"Years ago i was in a cottage in plymouth,id just gone in and was in a cubicle when i heard "your under arrest" outside.

Came out after 5 mins to see two guys who were at urinals being put into police van. Nothing was said to me but i still nearly shit myself"

At least you’d have been in the right place!

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By *liceCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Hatfield

Shepherd's Bush green Miranda aka Tony Blair was arrested for importuning and fined £500 if you don't believe it Google up Tony Blair arrested in public toilet

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By *ilbo bagginsMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"Not in a cottage but I did get a caution for getting fucked on the top deck of a bus, it had gone by a police station and they could see me clearly getting fucked on the top deck.

Having sex in very public places where kids can see and go is very odd, and most likely a lie too"

I think "most likely" is being overly generous. They where upstairs in the police station when the bus passed, yet they were able to get downstairs, get t.o their cars and catch up with the bus, plus be able to recognise him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was arrested in the cottage in Regents Park in London in the early 80s. I had undies and stockings on under man drab and had left the cubicle door ajar. I was made to strip at the police station which was embarrassing but I got away with a ticking off. Phew!! I didn't visit another cottage for several years after that.

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By *astguy7Man
over a year ago

Paddington

"Once was just coming out of a cottage as three uniformed walked in - close shave I think. another time I was in a cruising area and sat on a bench next to guy. He seemed distant and odd in some way. I just blurted it out - “you don’t seem comfortable”, then the penny dropped. “Are you a police officer?” Of course he was obliged to admit it, otherwise it would be seen as entrapment.

I wouldn't worry too much. If you apply for a DBS check you get sent a copy of the disclosure which is sent to the organisation applying for it. The only exception would be if you were subject to some covert ongoing investigation which telling you could jeopardise the case. If you ho Gov UK website it'll tell you how you can make a subject access request to the police.

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By *aytimeDilfMan
over a year ago

Chester

I often get asked if I want outdoor or car fun, which is a massive no from me.

Surely if you get caught or reported it’s going to be all over the place and even if you’re out, it would still be frowned upon.

I get that some may find it exciting outdoors, but cars are uncomfortable places to have any sort of sex.

Give me a nice indoor bed anytime

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By *odger300Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

caught red handed at local woodland car park stood leaning on my car lad on his knees suckin me off 2 officers arrived from different directions got long questioning and formal caution and told to put my penis away

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By *uck me in KentMan
over a year ago

Medway

On leave from the army in my home town some temporary toilets had been installed, like a huge portacabin. There were numerous gloryholes and spy holes.

There was a knock on my door and like a fool i opened it with a full erection on display to find a plain clothed policeman holding up his warrant badge.

I was taken to a nearby police car and interviewed.

It was when i showed them my army i.d. that they decided to caution me and released me.

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By *ildwestheroMan
over a year ago

Llandrindod Wells

One of the posts above reminded me of an incident or rather a non-incident. Stopped off for a pee one night in a toilet in a quiet market town. Old fashioned toilet with a long trough urinal and a door at either end. As I stood there a youngish and quite good looking policeman came through the door at the far end. Instead of standing at his end of the urinal to pee He came and stood by me and we fell into conversation. Just general stuff like where was I from and him saying how boring and lonely the night shift could be. We continued talking for a few minutes after we had zipped up. Always wondered if he was just being sociable or looking for a bit of fun.

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By *icFlange2Man
over a year ago

Fareham

A few streets away from where I used to live was a tiny brick toilet . One half men, one women.

The local paper twice reported a huge list of guys caught there.

I'm terms of being seen in a 'notorious ' area, you have no obligation to report anything. Taking your car reg for parking in a public area is completely unacceptable. So fucking what officer?

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By *ilbo bagginsMan
over a year ago

St Helens

"One of the posts above reminded me of an incident or rather a non-incident. Stopped off for a pee one night in a toilet in a quiet market town. Old fashioned toilet with a long trough urinal and a door at either end. As I stood there a youngish and quite good looking policeman came through the door at the far end. Instead of standing at his end of the urinal to pee He came and stood by me and we fell into conversation. Just general stuff like where was I from and him saying how boring and lonely the night shift could be. We continued talking for a few minutes after we had zipped up. Always wondered if he was just being sociable or looking for a bit of fun."

Or just trying to bait you more than likely.

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By *ildwestheroMan
over a year ago

Llandrindod Wells

Or just trying to bait you more than likely."

I did wonder that. However I was a serving soldier at the time, which he knew, so I think he was just bored and happy to talk to someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The law is clear now:

Public toilets a big NO

Cruising areas with discretion a YES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an 18yo me and a mate were arrested in Greece for having sex on a beach!! Banged up overnight in separate cells and used by the cops! Released in morning and no charges!!

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By *hiteswallowMan
over a year ago

Spain

Yes in a cottage not far from where I lived....had my cock through a gh ...was being well sucked...moaning like fuck.....a policeman came in....think I was actually shooting a load.....he didn’t say much just watched....I pulled out my cock which was still dripping....he left ..went outside he was in a police car plus another....I was cautioned......and let go....never saw them again...but kept going to the cottage...

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By *am3463Man
over a year ago

swindon

Awful story, so sorry to hear what a negative impact it has had on you.

I used to get up to all be sorts of things in toilets and took lots of risks but luckily never got caught. Occasionally I still do but it’s rare to find places where it goes on now.

I know guys who have ended up in court, names in local paper and it’s awful. Had to move jobs / towns.

People who don’t understand will no doubt say “ well don’t do it in a public place then “. My opinion is, society is still generally homophobic so many people resort to public places, spur of the moment because they have no where else. Thankfully, people can’t bully us now, it’s against the law to be outwardly homophobic. Doesn’t stop people thinking we are perverted still sadly. Look at the Met police and what’s going on there! X

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By *luvnylonstockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

portsmouth

I dont understand the need to have sex in grubby toilets these days,when you have these sites,saunas,and good out of the way cruising spots ,can understand the need in the bad old days when it was illegal to be gay .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got caught cottaging by a motorbike cop in a tiny cemetery cottage but all ended happily after he let me off after I sucked him off.

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By *ayjay40Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I use to go cruising and cottaging many years ago and for me it was an adrenaline rush

I use to love watching guys at the urinals or in the woods having fun

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By *tar33Man
over a year ago

North London (outer)

"Not in a cottage but I did get a caution for getting fucked on the top deck of a bus, it had gone by a police station and they could see me clearly getting fucked on the top deck.

Having sex in very public places where kids can see and go is very odd, and most likely a lie too

Maybe they just radioed for a police vehicle in the area to stop the bus and speak to him.

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By *ildwestheroMan
over a year ago

Llandrindod Wells

"I dont understand the need to have sex in grubby toilets these days,when you have these sites,saunas,and good out of the way cruising spots ,can understand the need in the bad old days when it was illegal to be gay ."

I've never been cottaging because, apart from the danger, I just don't fancy having sex in a grubby, smelly toilet. However other options are not that easily available if you live out in the sticks. Sites like this are a godsend but not over reliable. So called cruising spots are often a disappointment and gay venues and saunas are all at least 90 miles away.

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By *hiteswallowMan
over a year ago

Spain

Could it be classed as entrapment......I know nothing of the Law...and when you come to think about it the Police must be hand picked...you can’t tll me they are not ok with doing that........the guy who posted the question really did have a bad experience....I’m feel so sorry that it happened.....

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By *uck me in KentMan
over a year ago

Medway

Interesting to read about those who wouldn't dream of sex in public toilets.

For a lot of us of a certain generation, public toilets was where our experiences began and this has stayed with us over the years. Wanking at urinals, gloryholes, understall wanking all with the thrill of the possibilities of being caught or others joining in.

Drawings and handwritten adverts on the walls. Notes passed through gloryholes or under walls. Spying on others wanking. Watching others engaged in various sexual activities as you lookout while wanking yourself.

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By *tar33Man
over a year ago

North London (outer)

"Could it be classed as entrapment......I know nothing of the Law...and when you come to think about it the Police must be hand picked...you can’t tll me they are not ok with doing that........the guy who posted the question really did have a bad experience....I’m feel so sorry that it happened....."

It wouldn't be entrapment, the OP has said what he was doing there.

It's also likely that the police were there as a result of complaints from members of the public, probably spending a couple of hours nicking people every 6 months or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No although I was once mugged at knife point in a cottage that I was using for it's legal purpose and when I reported the incident the police officer was was far more interested as to why I was there than my missing wallet.

Karma came a few years later when I was one of the (then) local LGBT team that helped with training the police on diversity issues. He didn't remember me. I remembered him."

Yes they get their coneuppance...good for you

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By *haftlicker6Man
1 week ago

South Normanton

How long before it becomes a spent conviction?

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By *ristolsbMan
1 week ago

Dersingham

"How long before it becomes a spent conviction? "

Never... the OP got a caution not a conviction. Cautions remain on your record gor ever. Stupid really, you can be convicted for say assault but one spent it disappears. But a caution for assault will be a problem for ever - happpened to a lad i knew at work. Just a youthful pub brawl, nothing major, but it follows him still.

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By *ubtitsMan
1 week ago

hyde

This is why I am not keen on outdoor sex always makes me nervous love being watched but not by police lol

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By *upertedMan
1 week ago

Nelson,, Caerphilly

Not been arrested.

Have seen a paddy wagon drive slowly thru a cruisey layby looking down into vehicles. Apparently they're looking for those with a cock out at the wheel.

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By *odomyLoverMan
1 week ago

Winnersh

"This is why I am not keen on outdoor sex always makes me nervous love being watched but not by police lol"

Same here

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By *odomyLoverMan
1 week ago

Winnersh

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By *etterbiggerMan
1 week ago

Scunthorpe

After a night out. I'd had few drinks and decided to go to a notorious underground cottage. No one there so I hung around nearby. I went back a couple of times again nothing. I heard footsteps and thought here we go. To my horror the crackle of a police radio. In walked 2 plain clothed officers. It's amazing how many times people need a piss round here said one of them. I took the opportunity to get out of there and fled. They didn't follow. I got a taxi home asap. That explains why there were no punters around. The cottage was being watched

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By *okiak69Man
1 week ago

Felixstowe

"After a night out. I'd had few drinks and decided to go to a notorious underground cottage. No one there so I hung around nearby. I went back a couple of times again nothing. I heard footsteps and thought here we go. To my horror the crackle of a police radio. In walked 2 plain clothed officers. It's amazing how many times people need a piss round here said one of them. I took the opportunity to get out of there and fled. They didn't follow. I got a taxi home asap. That explains why there were no punters around. The cottage was being watched "

Reminds me of a time 20 plus years ago when I was in a two stall cottage with a great gh between them. I was waiting in one stall and the hole was stuffed with paper. Finally someone came into the next stall and before I could remove the paper a police radio went off. He quickly left followed by me a couple of minutes later. Two officers were standing outside and said "we have had a report of suspicious behaviour in there, did you see or hear anything". Truthfully I answered "no, nothing". It had been very quiet that day!

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By *lansubNWMan
1 week ago

warrington

Went to a cottage back in the day with my stockings on under my trousers, horny as hell with a big errection bursting to get out.

Walked in only to see a policeman in full uniform stood at the urinal. I couldnt back away as he had seen me, so had to stand next to him, lower the waist band of my track suit bottoms and try and pee while pushing my cock down so i didnt show a errection

He was slowly wanking, and may have been up for fun, but my cock soon went limp with the fear and i quickly had a pee and left

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By *alker1965Man
1 week ago

Wimborne

Had just finished having oral with a guy in the woods, got dressed and went back to the car. Police car pulled up and asked me if i'd seen any suspicious activity as it was a well known cruising spot.

"No officer, but thanks for the tip"

Close call that one

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By *airFetishMan
1 week ago

Maldon

In '88 I think I got nicked in Horsham cottage near the station. I was peeing at one end of a steel urinal and so was a guy at the other end. We may have motioned to each other or something, I'm sure we didn't touch. Suddenly a huge commotion and police appeared - one had been hiding in the broom cupboard and spying. Took us to the police station. This nasty senior cop said "So, you confess to being a homosexual do you?". I said "No. I'm not confessing, I'm just telling you". I went to court and got fined £150 I think - it was a while ago!

Ten years later, I was in a cottage in Brighton 5 ways, in a cubicle with another man. We heard these steps coming down then crackling police radio! They knocked on our cubicle door with "Come on out". I was crapping myself. The officer just said "Come on lads. There are better places to do this. On your way."

Off we went! Different times, as they say.

My conviction was wiped years later as there was an amnesty as it was recognised that the whole police sting of these victimless crime was no longer on the books.

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By *EE96Man
1 week ago

Folkestone

I was sitting in a cubicle wanking at the stories on the wall back in the 70's. Door didn't have a lock on it and was pushed open by a Police Officer. Thankfully he saw nothing and apologised but it put me off cottaging for ages.

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By *0yguyMan
1 week ago

Cumbria

Worth bearing in mind that even today sex in a public toilet remains a specific criminal offence, even if the outcome is just a “there’s better places to do that lads” ticking off. However cruising to meet a guy or guys for sex outside is perfectly legal, and provided you don’t engage in sex in public in a way that outrages public decency or causes shock and distress to someone watching, so sex in a public place is legal if you have a reasonable expectation of privacy.

It would hard to imagine that you could be prosecuted if covertly observed by a hidden policeman who you didn’t know was there and whose job it was to spy on guys having sex - he could hardly claim to be shocked or distressed when he was actually supposed to be looking for it!

So today when the policeman says “Do you admit to being a homosexual?” You can cheerfully say you are, and proud of it, and are hoping to meet another man and intend to have sex with him or another man. You can also point out that merely asking that question is a breach of the Equalities and Discrimination Act, and is a statutory offence. You could also perfectly legally ask him if he intends to have sex in the near future, provided you make no reference to his sexuality.

(Not a lawyer, just my lay interpretation of the law)

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By *xmareMan
1 week ago

Norwich

Don't want to be flippant, but these days it's getting hard to find a public toilet even for its intended purpose...

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By *ildwestheroMan
1 week ago

Llandrindod Wells

When I was very young and only just becoming aware of sexual matters, I watched the police raid a park toilets and arrest 4 men. No one [my elders] would comment when I mentioned it. Later read in a local paper than they had been heavily fined for 'lewd behaviour'

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By *J9607Man
1 week ago

Newquay

I was caught in cemetery toolets by a motorcycle cop - he got his meat out and got me to blow him, then he winked and told me to be more careful in future

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By *udistsubMan
1 week ago

South notts

"Don't want to be flippant, but these days it's getting hard to find a public toilet even for its intended purpose..."

Amen to that !

Never been arrested as such , but had a couple of close calls ..

One as a student in Guildford was in cottage in town and the police burst in . They pounced on two guys at the urinals , but as i was in a cubicle just about to suck the beauty that had come through the glory hole , they didn't actually see anything .

They were very aggressive i recall , and really pissed off that they hadn't actually been able to nick either of us .

Another time cruising at Wisley , well after dark , and for anyone who knows it , up the hill behind where the toilets / cafe were .. suddenly a load of torches all switched on at same moment .. very intimidating but as I was still fully clothed and just walking in the dark , they reluctantly agreed they couldn't do anything

One of them did have the grace to look a bit embarrasses .. as if to say .. yes i know this is a complete waste of resources

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By *rockyMan
1 week ago

Salisbury

"Worth bearing in mind that even today sex in a public toilet remains a specific criminal offence, even if the outcome is just a “there’s better places to do that lads” ticking off. However cruising to meet a guy or guys for sex outside is perfectly legal, and provided you don’t engage in sex in public in a way that outrages public decency or causes shock and distress to someone watching, so sex in a public place is legal if you have a reasonable expectation of privacy.

(Not a lawyer, just my lay interpretation of the law)"

Well thats exactly whathappened in toilets here ie an arrest leading to a prosecution of a man who started to masturbate in front of a civilian dressed policeman .. about ten months ago. The guys name address and profession were all covered in the local paper plus he was married. He was crying in court saying his life was ruined. Very sad.

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By *IPMANMan
1 week ago

West London

I have had several encounters with the law over the last 45 years, all involving my homosexuality

None of the encounters improved my view of the Police and even now I wouldn't piss on one if he/she was in flames

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By *tar33Man
1 week ago

North London (outer)

(Not a lawyer, just my lay interpretation of the law)"

The most important part of your post is the last line. You're not a lawyer.

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By *ampell1Man
1 week ago

Liverpool

Not arrested but told to go home now. Legged it all the home

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By *ason-DMan
1 week ago

Bromsgrove

I’ve never been in a toilet when it’s been raided by the police, but I have seen some police operations in cruising areas and was nearly caught a few times!

At Highbury Fields in London, plain clothed police would often walk their dogs on leads around the cruising area and sometimes the police would patrol the area by car with very dim lights.

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By *aberdasher01Man
1 week ago

London

"I have had several encounters with the law over the last 45 years, all involving my homosexuality

None of the encounters improved my view of the Police and even now I wouldn't piss on one if he/she was in flames "
Hear!Hear!

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1 week ago

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By *0yguyMan
1 week ago

Cumbria

(Not a lawyer, just my lay interpretation of the law)

The most important part of your post is the last line. You're not a lawyer."

If you know better, let’s hear about it.. ….

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By *DAnnetteTV/TS
1 week ago

Brighton

Yes. Dressed in white satin knickers and a cami top with black stockings under man drab, I was arrested in Regents Park toilets in 1984. Forced to strip off in a police cell and that was embarrassing. Let off with a caution in the end! Phew!!!

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By *iscreteseshMan
1 week ago

Halifax / Manchester / Leeds

In the 1990s in my 20s I did so much cottaging and cruising in London. I can't claim it was my only option there were plenty of clubs and bars etc but there were so many places you could get cock it just became a total addiction. I'd go out for a loaf of bread and end up getting distracted by a cottage on the way and then divert via some park on the way back.

Twice walked away from the urinals out of the cottage just as everyone else was arrested, in baker street tube. And was once asked some pointed questions by a policeman in abney cemetary - warning me off basically. Looking back was so lucky really I never was arrested or beaten up as I took so many risks for five minutes of fun.

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By *i_guy_WBayMan
1 week ago

Whitley Bay

I’ve spoken to police at a cruising site I used to visit a few times. Each time the police were only there because someone was being an idiot and being naked or having sex in the car park in full view of the public. The police knew the areas that were generally used for cruising and had no issue with guys using them if they remained discreet.

I’ve had interactions with the police in other circumstances that shattered my faith in them but my encounters at cruising sites were always cordial. I never got caught at a cottage but if I had I’d have been the last one getting in trouble.

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By *aster islandMan
1 week ago

navan

Caught giving head is all

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By *imbMan
1 week ago

Aylesbury

In the mid 90’s I’d regularly stop off at Amersham toilets on the way home from work. One evening I parked up and went inside. Joined another guy at the urinal. We were just about to go into a cubicle when someone shouted at us to “stand still”. We did the opposite! The other guy went out the door first, turned left and was caught by a copper. I went right and escaped, but my car was still there. I went to Tescos round the corner for a while hoping they’d have gone when I came back. They hadn’t! Took me up to the nick for a couple of hours. Quite embarrassing but just got a caution in the end. Turns out one of them had been watching through a skylight in the roof 🙄

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By *irginBoy32Man
1 week ago

Catford

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By *arrogateDadMan
1 week ago

Harrogate

Was Parked in the Car Park @ a well known Cruising area in Leeds - public picnic area, after midnight. Cop Car pulls in & Officers go round all the Cars - about 6 - asking occupants why they were there . I said I’d stopped as I needed a pee. Officer advised me not to use this area as incidents of public indecency had been reported. Thanked him for the information and drove away. Continued to visit that area quite regularly afterwards, with no other consequences.

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By *ustPeekinMan
1 week ago

Alresford

Went into the loo at Liverpool Street station to find two very stern looking police officers standing at the end of the row of cubicles. I had a wee and left!

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By *cunnySucker69Man
1 week ago

Scunthorpe

Not for that reason but I was arrested for having under age homosexual sex, I denied it and after about three hours of questions the police doctor came examined me in front of the two police officers and they let me go, luckily I had not been with a man for about three weeks so no marks near my anus, I was 19 at the time and the legal age at that time was 20

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By *0yguyMan
1 week ago

Cumbria

"In the mid 90’s I’d regularly stop off at Amersham toilets on the way home from work. One evening I parked up and went inside. Joined another guy at the urinal. We were just about to go into a cubicle when someone shouted at us to “stand still”. We did the opposite! The other guy went out the door first, turned left and was caught by a copper. I went right and escaped, but my car was still there. I went to Tescos round the corner for a while hoping they’d have gone when I came back. They hadn’t! Took me up to the nick for a couple of hours. Quite embarrassing but just got a caution in the end. Turns out one of them had been watching through a skylight in the roof 🙄"

“ Just got a caution in the end” A police caution means you had to admit to the offence and would have a criminal record. On the other hand a “warning” has no record I think.

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By *amieforfun1973TV/TS
1 week ago

bognor regis

Very nearly

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By *IPMANMan
7 days ago

West London

Baker Street tube station cottages were renowned for being dangerous .

I remember a full scale raid on Hampstead Heath at midnight. Floodlights, radios, dogs.... the full works. The officers concerned were nasty sarcastic bastards and took every opportunity to be insulting

I have never trusted them since and I hope their pension fund collapses....

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