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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life" Nope. Its chemically motivated. Usually becoming compulsive despite harmful consequences. This leads to more long-lasting chemical changes in the brain... in simple terms your risk reward mechanisms are fooked and rule your behaviour. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life" So in essence, you are saying any addiction is a myth? | |||
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"Sex addiction....real or an excuse? I'm saying real, what say you?" Real | |||
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"Everyone has different sex drives some are in overdrive wouldn't call it an addiction because it's not all I think of but me personally I have not found anybody who can completely satisfy my sex drive man or women " Exactly this I'm the same so I don't hardly bother looking anymore, saves myself the disappointment. | |||
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"Hanging about online , in here. Does not help matters " Yehhh especially with guys like you around  | |||
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"Hanging about online , in here. Does not help matters Yehhh especially with guys like you around "Made me chuckle | |||
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"Oh yes quite real, if it becomes harmful or affects your day to day function. But many behaviours are the same; food, porn, sex, work, not working, drinking, drugs, In fact any sort of compulsion that's a detriment to your life. " I'd like to add in some more recent, very harmful behaviours.. TikTok, Intagram, social media in general. I'm sure TikTok has studied compulsive behaviour in depth. | |||
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"Hanging about online , in here. Does not help matters Yehhh especially with guys like you around "Not quite sure how I should take that. lol | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life So in essence, you are saying any addiction is a myth?" No. That isn't what I'm saying | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Nope. Its chemically motivated. Usually becoming compulsive despite harmful consequences. This leads to more long-lasting chemical changes in the brain... in simple terms your risk reward mechanisms are fooked and rule your behaviour." That can happen to people. However that isn't actually a sex addiction. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life" Not true I lived with someone who was at it during the night while I was asleep when you rather than wake me they invited people round | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Not true I lived with someone who was at it during the night while I was asleep when you rather than wake me they invited people round" Still not an addiction. That just sounds like a poor connection between 2 people living together, one of whom is acting out his frustration. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Nope. Its chemically motivated. Usually becoming compulsive despite harmful consequences. This leads to more long-lasting chemical changes in the brain... in simple terms your risk reward mechanisms are fooked and rule your behaviour. That can happen to people. However that isn't actually a sex addiction." Yes it is... because it is the risk reward of the sex that unlocks or creates the chemical reaction... Have a look at Stan Collymore and his application. So, sadly it very much is... | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Nope. Its chemically motivated. Usually becoming compulsive despite harmful consequences. This leads to more long-lasting chemical changes in the brain... in simple terms your risk reward mechanisms are fooked and rule your behaviour. That can happen to people. However that isn't actually a sex addiction. Yes it is... because it is the risk reward of the sex that unlocks or creates the chemical reaction... Have a look at Stan Collymore and his application. So, sadly it very much is..." And I disagree. Not least because there is no 'risk reward' with sex because there is no risk. The 'addiction' is about the brain chemistry not the sex. Sex is just one of a number of conduits. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Nope. Its chemically motivated. Usually becoming compulsive despite harmful consequences. This leads to more long-lasting chemical changes in the brain... in simple terms your risk reward mechanisms are fooked and rule your behaviour. That can happen to people. However that isn't actually a sex addiction. Yes it is... because it is the risk reward of the sex that unlocks or creates the chemical reaction... Have a look at Stan Collymore and his application. So, sadly it very much is... And I disagree. Not least because there is no 'risk reward' with sex because there is no risk. The 'addiction' is about the brain chemistry not the sex. Sex is just one of a number of conduits." So a man who earned 1000s a week, played infront of 1000s a week... Chose instead to attend car parks to bang litterally anything upto 70+ year old women hanging out the back of a datsun. Risk... well its obvious... the annoymous sex. Sticking his dick in an absolute mess (his words). Jeopardising it all in an age of aggressive media. Am surprised you're not able to detect risk in that... bit weird. Reward... well its obvious too. The above risk was greater than his reality. His reality being the dreams of millions. And he chose Maureen a 62yo 24stn chain smoking meat packer with eczema and halitosis over it... So again... id suggest your completely wrong. | |||
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" So a man who earned 1000s a week, played infront of 1000s a week... Chose instead to attend car parks to bang litterally anything upto 70+ year old women hanging out the back of a datsun. Risk... well its obvious... the annoymous sex. Sticking his dick in an absolute mess (his words). Jeopardising it all in an age of aggressive media. Am surprised you're not able to detect risk in that... bit weird. Reward... well its obvious too. The above risk was greater than his reality. His reality being the dreams of millions. And he chose Maureen a 62yo 24stn chain smoking meat packer with eczema and halitosis over it... So again... id suggest your completely wrong." Only I'm not.  You're talking about the behaviour of one guy based on his own words. Sex is a natural human function, addictions - drugs alcohol, gambling are not. Assuming Collymore is telling the truth he's certainly in a compulsive behaviour loop however that isn't an addiction.
When I referred to risk I was talking about actual danger not being caught in a car park with your pants down. The subject of addictions is far too complicated to slice open and analyse in depth in an online forum. However, to repeat the core point, sex, by virtue of being a natural human function, may become a compulsive behaviour, clearly triggered by an internal unhappiness in this case, but it is NOT an addiction. | |||
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"men are horny bastards - it is a necessity for procreation- doesnt matter that many of us prefer to fuck guys - sex addiction is an American myth started to get celebs out of tight corners" “an American myth started to get celebs out of tight corners”…. Like so many other things that originate there…… the drug smugglers who “didn’t know” it was illegal, the spies that were “Just on a holiday”, the Italian sex murderers who are “innocent” etc. | |||
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" So a man who earned 1000s a week, played infront of 1000s a week... Chose instead to attend car parks to bang litterally anything upto 70+ year old women hanging out the back of a datsun. Risk... well its obvious... the annoymous sex. Sticking his dick in an absolute mess (his words). Jeopardising it all in an age of aggressive media. Am surprised you're not able to detect risk in that... bit weird. Reward... well its obvious too. The above risk was greater than his reality. His reality being the dreams of millions. And he chose Maureen a 62yo 24stn chain smoking meat packer with eczema and halitosis over it... So again... id suggest your completely wrong. Only I'm not. You're talking about the behaviour of one guy based on his own words. Sex is a natural human function, addictions - drugs alcohol, gambling are not. Assuming Collymore is telling the truth he's certainly in a compulsive behaviour loop however that isn't an addiction.
When I referred to risk I was talking about actual danger not being caught in a car park with your pants down. The subject of addictions is far too complicated to slice open and analyse in depth in an online forum. However, to repeat the core point, sex, by virtue of being a natural human function, may become a compulsive behaviour, clearly triggered by an internal unhappiness in this case, but it is NOT an addiction."But you are. Moreover it appears you have a bias against it because its sex. See sex is just the conduit to the chemical release. Let's not say sex. Let's say something simple like hand washing or, shopping or shoplifting or gaming all external but all creating the same release mechanisms chemically. None require ingestion of 'addictive substance' yet all are addictive and predominantly destructive in their ways. | |||
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" But you are. Moreover it appears you have a bias against it because its sex. See sex is just the conduit to the chemical release. Let's not say sex. Let's say something simple like hand washing or, shopping or shoplifting or gaming all external but all creating the same release mechanisms chemically. None require ingestion of 'addictive substance' yet all are addictive and predominantly destructive in their ways." A bit like the chemical release you seem to desperately need by being right? There's no bias. As I clearly explained sex is a natural function, as is handwashing, at least it's an acquired one now that you choose to introduce it. You are confusing obsession and addiction. I'm not wrong however, unlike you, I don't need to be right. Rather than attempt to explain yet again, probably impossible without writing 1000 plus words which I have no motivation to do, I'll leave it here | |||
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" But you are. Moreover it appears you have a bias against it because its sex. See sex is just the conduit to the chemical release. Let's not say sex. Let's say something simple like hand washing or, shopping or shoplifting or gaming all external but all creating the same release mechanisms chemically. None require ingestion of 'addictive substance' yet all are addictive and predominantly destructive in their ways. A bit like the chemical release you seem to desperately need by being right? There's no bias. As I clearly explained sex is a natural function, as is handwashing, at least it's an acquired one now that you choose to introduce it. You are confusing obsession and addiction. I'm not wrong however, unlike you, I don't need to be right. Rather than attempt to explain yet again, probably impossible without writing 1000 plus words which I have no motivation to do, I'll leave it here" Lol, its not me thats right, i didnt discover it. You just like to ignore things that arent supportive of your position. You can't ignore the chemical process. Irrespective of compulsion, obsession or addiction it completely controls your neuropathy. Dismiss it all you want, am ok with that too. | |||
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"Sex addiction....real or an excuse? I'm saying real, what say you?" I started with guys mainly, in the early 1970’s, usually different ones nightly. Seemed a lot easier then than just the on-line websites of these day lol. Never seemed to want to stop shagging them though, some asked me to stop after about three or four times. Although I was always content with once a night with a lover. Sadly the one I really and truly loved died very suddenly when he was young (not sexually related). We had been together for three or so years & I probably still love the memory of him. What seems to be generally the difference between men and women is that men usually need a different sex partner often and women are looking for more of a sexy friend. It’s a difficult subject. | |||
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" Lol, its not me thats right, i didnt discover it. You just like to ignore things that arent supportive of your position. You can't ignore the chemical process. Irrespective of compulsion, obsession or addiction it completely controls your neuropathy." I didn't ignore them. I merely stated, correctly, that sexual activity may be a compulsive behaviour but it's not an addiction. Further, compulsion or addiction begins with the activity impacting the brain chemistry, not vice versa. | |||
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" Lol, its not me thats right, i didnt discover it. You just like to ignore things that arent supportive of your position. You can't ignore the chemical process. Irrespective of compulsion, obsession or addiction it completely controls your neuropathy. I didn't ignore them. I merely stated, correctly, that sexual activity may be a compulsive behaviour but it's not an addiction. Further, compulsion or addiction begins with the activity impacting the brain chemistry, not vice versa." I dont think anyone is disputing chicken or egg. Just the fact it exists. But id compulsion is an 'urge' to do something. Urges can be ignored how ever hard. Addiction is a 'need' to do something to experience pleasure or remove a discomfort... or else you do not function. People with true sex addiction risk it all, loose it all and carry on - male and female. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life" Whatever the reason behind it, addiction exists. You have just validated its existence by saying it is a compensation. It follows quite logically therefore that you can be addicted to sex. | |||
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"Sex addiction is myth. Any addiction is a compensation for something missing or perceived to be missing in someone's life Whatever the reason behind it, addiction exists. You have just validated its existence by saying it is a compensation. It follows quite logically therefore that you can be addicted to sex. " I have this strong constant compulsive sexual urges longing to have sex with adults men. Is this addiction OR biochemical, hormonal or psychological? | |||
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