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By *mandaWhenDressed OP Man
over a year ago

around

Does anyone just sometimes feel like just having a cry? I've had one this evening.

Life can be hard at times.

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By *lash81Man
over a year ago

dalkeith

Hey, hang in there. I feel the same at times. And its for a specific reason I have no ability to make right.

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By *lash81Man
over a year ago

dalkeith

It's pouring with summer rain outside right now. I open the window to it while sitting inside,

I find it helps. Very soothing.

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By *3versMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Does anyone just sometimes feel like just having a cry? I've had one this evening.

Life can be hard at times.

Hard times make the good times just better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally being a carer for both my parents with dementia and your mum can't even remember your name, then yes it can be bad times.

I got a regular guy I meet on here and it feels great, gives me some me time

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By *hris111mcrMan
over a year ago

salford

"Personally being a carer for both my parents with dementia and your mum can't even remember your name, then yes it can be bad times.

I got a regular guy I meet on here and it feels great, gives me some me time "

I know that feeling I'm going through it now and trying to work full time hours cos carers allowance is so shit, I'm exhausted and at breaking point

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By *mbyglamMan
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

Crying is to sadness what laughing is to joy... Sometimes you just need to cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone just sometimes feel like just having a cry? I've had one this evening.

Life can be hard at times.

Sure do know that feeling, especially when you feel all boxed in by stuff going on around you that you have no control over. Trouble is as men we're conditioned from an early age not to cry as it's seen as weak and unmanly.

But if it helps you go ahead and have a good cry, I for one won't judge you adversely because you do.

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By *odger300Man
over a year ago

Inverurie

occasionally I just have a cry in private not for one particular reason but lots of things that have built up and afterwards I felt a lot better it clears my head so to speak

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By *ausagesMan
over a year ago

carlisle

Your not human if you don’t laugh or cry

I do both a plenty

Samaritans 116 123 - I’ve got it stored on my mobile phone - hope I never have to use it but it’s there if there comes a time because you never know what life will throw at you

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By *hubsloverMan
over a year ago

East/west sussex

"Personally being a carer for both my parents with dementia and your mum can't even remember your name, then yes it can be bad times.

I got a regular guy I meet on here and it feels great, gives me some me time "

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By *hubsloverMan
over a year ago

East/west sussex

I cry sometimes for my parents because they worked so hard to give me everything having a comfortable future and now seeing them struggle for doing daily routine stuff . Not easy for me to accept the situation x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry when something touches me, like the thought of losing my beloved dog. I have always rebelled against the idea that real men don't cry, we are human after all. In fact I will happily state that I find crying very therapeutic as it is unhealthy to try and stifle any natural emotion. In my opinion, real men do cry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a good thing , better than building it up .

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By *angtMan
over a year ago

Wednesfield /Wolverhampton

Think I’m weird cos I have only cried 3 times in my adult life, I’ve always found finding a solution to a problem better than crying about it.

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By *usu99Man
over a year ago

Hammersmith

I often want to, but cannot cry. More a gentle wail of despair.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Often cry mainly with laughter these days but time was it was different

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By *antsMeetsMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

Maybe I will cry next week when I leave my job and move onto better times, glad to be leaving the job but will miss the team I work with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cry because i miss my father and brother who dies with 2 yrs of each other, couldn't even get to their funerals due to covid restrictions and yes it bloody hurts.

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By *ountainMan
over a year ago

ipswich

A good cry can be good for you.

Release of tension.

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By *anintrousersMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I find it hard to cry,I wish I could because its a release and you do feel better afterwards

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By *pdudeMan
over a year ago

newtown

"I find it hard to cry,I wish I could because its a release and you do feel better afterwards "

Same here and with my bipolar you'd think it would be easy... nope it's very frustrating

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By *antsMeetsMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

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By *antsMeetsMan
over a year ago

uxbridge

Stop whining

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By *arti G xTV/TS
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford

There's nothing wrong with a man crying, it's not good to hold things in, a lot of men don't seem to want to show their feelings or emotions as they can't always talk about certain issues with family/friends, or they might think it makes them feel less of a man, l think if a man does show his feelings it makes him more of a man x

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By *yzantineMan
over a year ago

Offshore now, ignore pistcode

Get me watching some stupid sentimental film on a plane and I’m peeling onions. It’s a thing that blokes cry to films in planes and I can testify to that

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By *umquietlyMan
over a year ago

Shaftsbury

What a lovely thread this is, and so apropriate for this site, reading the posts there are many of you with responsibilities and baggage that weigh you down. Society dictates that a man must be strong, but as is shown here many times, strength is admiting that there are things that you can't cope with and the only release is to cry... even if it is in private.

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By *izzetMan
over a year ago

Douglas

Crying is a great stress reliever. Nothing wrong with it. You will always feel that much better after a good cry. Never knock yourself for crying. It's natural, even for us guys!!

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By *izzetMan
over a year ago

Douglas

Good on you

Samaritans are great!

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By *ules200Man
over a year ago

Boston

I used to try not to cry,I felt it was weak and not what a man does..but I suffer from PTSD and through therapy I've learned what happened wasn't my fault and not to feel ashamed.

Now if I need to I do cry, I just let it happen and it helps

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By *pdudeMan
over a year ago

newtown

"Good on you

Samaritans are great! "

Very true!!

Helped me a few times.

If any if you are having problems talk to em they do help. They don't have to be a last resort,

Stay safe peeps xxxx hugs out to all of ya

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By *hubbyBiFTMMan
over a year ago

Nr Preston

Crying is very good for you as tears help flush the body of the stress hormone cortisol.

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By *ules200Man
over a year ago

Boston

"Good on you

Samaritans are great! "

They certainly are..I've got them on speed dial!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever had tears following the loss of loved ones. I genuinely love life to much to get to that stage. Get a bit stress at times as im sn impatient person work wise. But never feel alone. And never fear life. Count myself lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's OK to cry

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By *mall4smallMan
over a year ago

newbury

im often sad . i like a shoulder to cry on

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By *ickey55Man
over a year ago

Coalville

I cry and get upset a lot.. I don’t care and am not ashamed to cry infront of others.

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By *arrheadguyMan
over a year ago

barrhead

Please be aware you can do both. Have a cry then find a solution. I'm thinking of all you guys that need a bit of support.

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By *udewhencanMan
over a year ago

Northants

I cry!

Life is tough.... But then when something else is thrown in, it becomes overwhelming, my parents are a huge concern for me, so fully understand alot of the posts on this thread. If anyone feels they want or need to chat, please feel free pvt message me, always happy to listen x

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By *roy8Man
over a year ago

Perthshire

We all do a bit crying no matter how tough you are perceived to be. I often sit and reflect on life I have led, loved ones gone , bad decisions,drives me to tears,early 8n life I lost my wife,I still can't think of her and she'd a bucket full. Crying is a natural reaction to emotions,often you feel better afterwards,it's normal,don't worry your fine,take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone just sometimes feel like just having a cry? I've had one this evening.

Life can be hard at times.

You should cry, it's natural and very good for mental health

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By *entlad365Man
over a year ago

Dartford

I've recently learnt it's ok to have a cry. Currently losing my dad to cancer and the things I have to do, organise, making sure my immediate family are coping. I wasn't allowing myself to let go. Went into work the Monday after we found out it is terminal and I just broke down in front of my manager. Got the biggest hug from her.

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By *ountainMan
over a year ago

ipswich

Crying is a totally normal and natural thing to do.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 days ago

Bristol East

I had one.

Watching Lockerbie on BBC2.

The loved ones of those who died sharing their stories.

It was so moving.

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By *eepeter4Man
3 days ago

Bournemouth

"I had one.

Watching Lockerbie on BBC2.

The loved ones of those who died sharing their stories.

It was so moving."
I watch it to

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By *anmannersMan
3 days ago

"It's pouring with summer rain outside right now. I open the window to it while sitting inside,

I find it helps. Very soothing. "

Yes. Smell the petrichor. It's Wonderful. Take deep breaths.

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By *moother1Man
2 days ago

Port Talbot

In my youth and most of my 20’s I hardly ever cried, it took a lot, many ex’s called me cold but I guess like us all, we’re all trying to find our own identity. But after a few life’s ups, downs and life experiences, the older I got the more emotional I am. Now it doesn’t take much for me to cry, I don’t see it as a weakness, more so I look at it as a strength of my character, if I see others crying I am far more empathetic toward them. Personally I think it’s quite good to release an emotional valve once in a while, after it really helps clear your mind and enables you to take account and put things into perspective.

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By *ubboybottomMan
2 days ago

Northumberland

I've been a crybaby all my life the last couple of years I just can't cry I would love to just curl up and sob of my eyes out

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By *anDadBodMan
2 days ago

Speke

Do it frequently due to the cards life has dealt me.

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By *ustOneBearMan
2 days ago

Neath

I stil find myself suddenly crying. Usually doing the most mundane things. Last time was after putting together a sofa last week. Building a new life that we should have been building together is hard and some days I miss my husband so much it physically hurts. I wonder if he’d agree with the furnishing decisions I’ve made. Finishing the home we built together.

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

Reading the above post is a reminder of how precious life is.

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By *rottingfun69Man
2 days ago

derby

I think we all just need a little time every now and again to just breath and have a little cry and let emotions spill out

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By *erfieMan
2 days ago

mansfield woodhouse

I was suddenly told I had to have a serious op (not the big C) and admitted immediately when discussing with the surgeon. I broke Down and every time I spoke about family and telling folk how good everybody had been the slightest thing would set me off didn’t understand as I always thought of my self as quite tough ?

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By *ootsloverTV/TS
2 days ago

Tetbury

We need to let it out sometimes. Can't be good to keep it in

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By *am3032TV/TS
2 days ago

Alfreton

Don’t feel afraid of crying or showing your emotions. A cuddle and a cuppa often eases troubles X

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By *i_guy_WBayMan
2 days ago

Whitley Bay

Like so many guys I was always told not to cry, I even had several relatives tell me I was soft because I occasionally cried when things got too much. I ended up bottling things up and then many years later I had a full blown breakdown, was signed off work for 6 months and spent time in therapy with the Crisis team visiting me to do checkups and deliver my meds.

It was a bad time as I was going through it but it taught me a lot about myself and one of the big takeaways was that when you feel like having a cry, have one and never feel like you have to apologise for it.

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By *b20Man
2 days ago

Glasgow

"Does anyone just sometimes feel like just having a cry? I've had one this evening.

Life can be hard at times.

Life can be hard at times, but please just hang on in there

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By *wbtmMan
2 days ago

Sherborne

"Like so many guys I was always told not to cry, I even had several relatives tell me I was soft because I occasionally cried when things got too much. I ended up bottling things up and then many years later I had a full blown breakdown, was signed off work for 6 months and spent time in therapy with the Crisis team visiting me to do checkups and deliver my meds.

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By *treyu500Man
2 days ago

Australia

I got injured at work a little while ago (I'll fully recover eventually) and it badly affected my personal life, future plans, ability to exercise, have sex and income.

With all the extra time to think and my inability to exercise to de-stress, it began to weigh on me.

I'm generally the person that other people rely on, personally and professionally and I couldn't actually remember the last time I cried.

I took a short holiday to try and change environments and bring myself up a bit. But it didn't work and in the airport on the way home, just before I boarded the plane, I broke down crying, seemingly out of nowhere.

I had just been upgraded to business class and the man beside me in his suit had to put up with me, quietly sobbing into a hat with my hood up to cover my face and head lol

Basically, due to all the extra time to think, I had discovered a few things in my life, current and past that I thought I had dealt with within me. I clearly hadn't which is where the tears were coming from, almost like I was grieving tbh. As a metaphor, I had a feeling it was like letting the fizz out of a bottle of . It would return once I put the cap back on.

So, I decided to investigate it further. It took me a few weeks to find a professional I liked and trusted.

Anyway, without going into too much detail I've been going there for a few weeks now. At first it made me worse but I recently turned a corner. The injury at work was a blessing in disguise as I havnt felt this emotionally unburdened.... probably ever.

As men, we're often told/taught not to show emotion,not to cry, to ask for help,not to talk it out...... To suck it up. "Be a man".

It's why the suicide rate is 4 times higher in men. It's pride month and also men's mental health month. We're only human, we have human emotions and needs. We can't support others if we neglect our own wants, needs and desires too often. We all need a good cry sometimes.

Be kind to yourself

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By *amme!Man
2 days ago

on my travels!

"Don’t feel afraid of crying or showing your emotions. A cuddle and a cuppa often eases troubles X"

Never ceases to amaze me how much can be eased with these two. Just to have someone listen and give you their time can make a huge difference.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell

"Don’t feel afraid of crying or showing your emotions. A cuddle and a cuppa often eases troubles X

Never ceases to amaze me how much can be eased with these two. Just to have someone listen and give you their time can make a huge difference. "

Totally agree and also remember crying with joy, surprise and ecstasy. Mx

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By *annyDanielleMan
2 days ago

Street, Somerset

Every time i fail to score

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
1 day ago

penzance

Tears are good, they re a release mechanism and yes, I frequently cry, just a part of my life, but it clears things. When you feel them brewing, let them flow and fk anyone around..not literally, they don t know your story, they are your tears. I cried my heart out once in the middle of our cornish city, on a hot summers day, crowded. I heard a piece of music, being played by a busker that I d studied as a troubled child, immediate flashback...BOOM, I didn't t care about the people around, I needed to let tgrm flow to stem the trouble holding them back could have caused.

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
1 day ago

penzance

"I got injured at work a little while ago (I'll fully recover eventually) and it badly affected my personal life, future plans, ability to exercise, have sex and income.

With all the extra time to think and my inability to exercise to de-stress, it began to weigh on me.

I'm generally the person that other people rely on, personally and professionally and I couldn't actually remember the last time I cried.

I had just been upgraded to business class and the man beside me in his suit had to put up with me, quietly sobbing into a hat with my hood up to cover my face and head lol

So, I decided to investigate it further. It took me a few weeks to find a professional I liked and trusted.

As men, we're often told/taught not to show emotion,not to cry, to ask for help,not to talk it out...... To suck it up. "Be a man".

Be kind to yourself

Exactly..if our brains are not occupied, they stray into past territory or present, staying busy is how we "protect" ourselves, a defence mechanism. I walked out of life for over 2 years, out amongst the trees and because of having to find firewood, build fire, cook after finding food, laundry etc etc my brain didn't t have time to idle and play on the merry go around as I call it.

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