FabGuys.com forum: Becoming gay in your 50s ?

By *esxxx5 OP Man
over a year ago

Wokingham

Has anyone else had a similar journey as me ?

Married for 19 years and 2 boys in their 20s.

Since I have been divorced 9 years ago I have been exclusively gay .

I just really love cock , cum and ass .

I think I may have been denying my gayness for years.

Even when I was married I masturbated to gay porn. And now I am in reality and I enjoy it

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By *atesandmoreMan
over a year ago

crooked spire town

Yep, you're right fella. You didn't just 'become' gay in your 50s, you were denying it since your teens, maybe even earlier than that.

Only thing I can say is that now you've decided to be yourself... just enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have fun!

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By *avinacumslutMan
over a year ago

haslingden

I'm 52 and just started cross dressing but have always known to be bi sexual, I'm still married with 2adult gay children. My wife knows I'm slowly changing and standa by me in what way I choose to go.

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By *jw58Man
over a year ago

Newport

Yes the most difficult thing was admitting I'm gay to myself which I didn't do till in my 50s, so many wasted years !

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By *kigaiMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It's just a variation on 'sexual awakening'. Enjoy it when you can and try to ponder on what you may have missed out on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just started exploring my bisexual side at 46 and I love it. Be yourself and enjoy every minute of it.

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By *al430Man
over a year ago

Nearby

I’m happily married and was straight for years until I discovered my bi side. Like you I think I was in denial for such a long time

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By *om1968Man
over a year ago

Southampton

I understand completely. I finally admitted I was gay in my early 50s. It was during lockdown when I spent hours every day talking to other men online and longing for physical and emotional contact with another man. I realised then that I hadn't had a sexual thought about women for years and found the idea of sex with a women entirely alien.

I was in regular phone contact with an older gay man then and admited to him that I was gay. Saying it felt so good. I always thought of my gay experiences and urges as 'just a phase'. Looking back now I realise that my interest in women was very fleeting, a response to some opportunities that arose in my 20s, and that that was just a phase.

I am totally in love with the male body now and love looking at pictures of naked men and talking to and meeting other gay men.

Thank you for post this. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised I was Bi very early on but when I met a woman who I married I suppressed my desire for men until my early 50's when I started to meet men again. I don't think you suddenly become gay ot Bi, your sexuality develops about the same time your balls drop in puberty. Hope you now enjoy your new experiances.

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By *arti G xTV/TS
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford

I always knew l was different from an early age, l came out late & on Xmas day l told my Dad he was absolutely fine about it, it's not easy but l have been lucky as have had no problems with family/friends/work, it's the best thing l done as l can be myself

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By *ailor58Man
over a year ago

huntingdon nr

I was always interested in men.. but when l reached 50 ..I'm 65 now l started to go to known cruising spots around me. Nd still do.. had a few good meets in too...

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By *aturistnudeMan
over a year ago

wirral

Good for you enjoy

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

I was together with a female for 9 years, we had 3 kids and then we separated 20+ years ago.

Best thing that happened to me. Never been with a female since, only men.

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By *enior serviceMan
over a year ago

Abingdon

Exactly the same for me - now 100% homosexual and I love it!

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By *ub460Man
over a year ago

S. Derbys

I never felt attracted to men or looked at cock for most of my life. I loved straight sex, skinny women and thought I was straight. Then saw some TS porn, felt odd, maybe conflicted but these were really horny sexy women and they really turned me on but they had cocks! I was into straight porn, but was finding solo TS pics really horny. Next it was porn with TS being fucked.

About that time I came across cuckold porn. It really turned me on, and I was surprised there were so many other men who liked the idea of their wife fucking other men.

I was enjoying seeing other men fucking women and TS and realised I was being turned on just watching the men. My idea of gay porn was smooth lads sucking and fucking each other and that did nothing for me. But seeing a hairy man fucking made my cock rock hard.

It was a big step to meet a man, but once I did I've not looked back. Am now a total bottom and really into mature men, dadbods, bears, hairy men generally

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By *ay4121Man
over a year ago

Bexleyheath

Always knew I had an attraction to guys / cock. Experimented a little when young but then suppressed it, although I don't think it would have taken much to switch me. In many ways I now see myself as gay and if single would probably follow that route only

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By *ickeMan
over a year ago

watford

I think there lot bisexual people out there !

men and women then we think, but where as men chase sexual relief more then women , they can do without once over say 45 .

As we see many younger women arm in arm kissing hugging with other females. As if it’s normal behaviour.

Men sexual needs never seem to go away , so they seek relief be it a women another man , a hand or basically anything to satisfy their needs . Many guys would have had sex with other men if they didn’t have women to relieve them

If wife not going make you happy.

And guy is , your open minded your going do it .

Or go nuts with frustration,or pay lady for relief .

And men there’s going be no emotional baggage just sex .

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By *airybear52Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

Always thought that I was 100% straight but at 55 started to become very curious and we all know what that led to.Dont have gay sex very often but always enjoy it and just love when my friend rims me and fucks me. Probably been bi all my life and never realised it

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By *hortSubGuyMan
over a year ago

ROCHDALE

Ive known i was attracted to cock since my late teens, & ive been a TV since that time.

I still enjoy dressing for men, but recently had my first gay sex (ie without hiding behind the hair & makeup etc) & it shook me a little as to just how much i enjoyed it.

My partner knows, & is happy with it in moderation.

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By *om1968Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Looking back, I find it hard to imagine the person who used to be attracted to and have sex with women, is the same one who is now so totally absorbed by men. Sex with women was really just physical relief. Giving myself to another man though is such an emotionally as well as physically transformative experience. Do any other men feel the same?

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By *azaMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Here is another guy that didn't discover is bi side till late in life and what a waste wish.I had discovered it earlier in life to I would have been a right slut

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By *asc4sameMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I always knew l was different from an early age, l came out late & on Xmas day l told my Dad he was absolutely fine about it, it's not easy but l have been lucky as have had no problems with family/friends/work, it's the best thing l done as l can be myself

You aren’t different. It’s society’s way of making you feel/think you are. Good on you for being able to feel yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had your life as a straight maybe now is your time to relax and do what you really want, but it's got to be up to you

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By *anDadBodMan
over a year ago

Speke

"Has anyone else had a similar journey as me ?

Married for 19 years and 2 boys in their 20s.

Since I have been divorced 9 years ago I have been exclusively gay .

I just really love cock , cum and ass .

I think I may have been denying my gayness for years.

Even when I was married I masturbated to gay porn. And now I am in reality and I enjoy it

cool story bro

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

here ford shire

Yes similar to me

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By *traightGuy4CocksMan
over a year ago

Essex

I think sexuality and love interests are very different. After all we don’t always wank over the same porn. Just think as you get older you just push the limits further to what turns you on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Married for 20 years and recently separated, currently divorcing having accepted that I am gay and have no interest in women.

2 teenage children.

Crave a loving relationship with another man.

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By *oose1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I’ve always been bi since my teens but I’m also happily married

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By *onstant.Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Definitely I didn't make a move till I was in my 50s. Only want cock now.

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By *ankrimcumMan
over a year ago

cardiff

I denied my gayness until I was in late 20s and for the past 8 years men I want gets me going get me hard as a rock and the sex is incredible

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By *angtMan
over a year ago

Wednesfield /Wolverhampton

I was bi in late teens. Spent 30 odd years straight. Got back into being bi in mid 50s. It’s made me realise I’m at the straight end of the bi spectrum, but I’m lazy and it’s easier getting sex from men than women.

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By *igarloverg1981Man
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I have realised for a while that I am bi-curious but not very confident in following through with trying but I have thought long and hard over recent times that if my marriage was to end would I be able to like another women or would it be men I exclusively go with and become gay.

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By *reambunMan
over a year ago

Bristol/Bath

I'm bi but since my 50s the access to sites such as this through my mobile phone my taste for cock has got stronger. Since covid alone I've had much more cock fun.than ever before and always on the lookout.

At the moment I can't accommodate but that due to change in April and then I'll be shaving dressing and lubing at least one day a week

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By *girl funTV/TS
over a year ago

Saltash

Very similar to all of the above, always struggled to be myself with women, after I got the courage to meet a man, is totally surprised me how natural it felt and no pressure I realised that I was gay. It’s a strange world like to have more than just sex with a man love to have casual relationship with someone x

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By *ockfun1970Man
over a year ago

North west

"I was bi in late teens. Spent 30 odd years straight. Got back into being bi in mid 50s. It’s made me realise I’m at the straight end of the bi spectrum, but I’m lazy and it’s easier getting sex from men than women."

I was very similar to you except i always found myself looking at guys cocks at the stones. As sex in my marriage faded found myself turning more and more to guys to fulfill my needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with most guys who found the the company of men late in life, it was a sexless marriage that led me to these wonderful temptations.

But unlike most of the other examples quoted, I never had any hint of bisexuality before this. I tried men out of a craving for sex and intimacy and found I enjoyed it. A lot.

I'm still sexually attracted to women but haven't had sex with one in years. And, given my age and circumstances, I don't see that changing anytime soon.

And to be honest, I'm happy with that. I'm more attracted to guys now. But in a slightly different way.

Not aesthetically, like I am with women, but in a more basic, lustful, animal attraction way. Its a bit weird but it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'become' gay... 'BECOME' gay. That's fucking rude.

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By *ollyMan
over a year ago

Downham market

I've had gay thoughts for decades, I'd fantasised about having sex with a man while having sex with a woman.

Now after several meetings with men I feel predominantly gay.

After having sex with men I never ever het the cum guilt that many bi men get, I get a warm cosy feeling and want to still cuddle up and kiss. I'd like to eventually find someone very special but that will be difficult unless I find someone who thinks like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had sex with guys when I was late teens and then found girls lol. Married (twice) with some affairs (straight sex) until my late 50s and then started going with guys again - some great experiences over the last few years

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By *hubbyman10Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich

First enjoyed man sex in my late teens but was also having sex with females, this continued until early 50's since then I have only participated in sex with men.

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By *fourjMan
over a year ago

Here, there or somewhere nearish March

Coming out to myself was the most difficult part. That realisation finally dawned in my late thirties and for a while I thought I was bi until I met and accepted I had fallen head over heels in love with an out gay man a few years younger. The poor guy never knew what hit him as he was on the receiving end of a lifetime of repressed emotion. I recognised then that I’d had similar feelings for two or three other men in my life. I’d never felt that way about my wife or any other woman. Unfortunately my feelings for that man were never reciprocated. That experience turned my life upside down and after a few traumatic years trying to hold it together my wife finally divorced me. I feel I wasted years of our lives living in denial and depression. Now thirty years later my life is better than it has ever been. I have long accepted and embraced that I am a gay man and I feel whole. Being raised in a high-demand religious cult where I heard weekly condemnations of homosexuality really did a number on my head. Undoing the damage of those decades of indoctrination cost me six years in counselling and a broken family. Happily we are all on talking terms again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realised I was Bi very early on but when I met a woman who I married I suppressed my desire for men until my early 50's when I started to meet men again. I don't think you suddenly become gay ot Bi, your sexuality develops about the same time your balls drop in puberty. Hope you now enjoy your new experiances. "
Dont think you suddenly become anything. Just as you get older Gay sex is an awful lot easier to find. Its just sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with it, it has probably been inside you for ages and you kept ignoring it, I’m in a very similar position just 10 years younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realised I was Bi very early on but when I met a woman who I married I suppressed my desire for men until my early 50's when I started to meet men again. I don't think you suddenly become gay ot Bi, your sexuality develops about the same time your balls drop in puberty. Hope you now enjoy your new experiances. Dont think you suddenly become anything. Just as you get older Gay sex is an awful lot easier to find. Its just sex"
That's a lot of it for me. But it really helps that I enjoy it more.

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By *tewart62Man
over a year ago

Near Leeds

Like most of the posts in this thread, I’ve had a similar journey.

In my very early teens I had a pal and we’d get naked together but never did anything because we probably didn’t know we could. I’m talking the mid-70’s. We just enjoyed “stripping off” as we called it. I now wish we had done something together, but we still enjoyed it because we thought it was naughty and exciting.

I’ve always been drawn to the male form and the male nude, and in particular the male arse. A good male bum is a thing of joy!

I’ve always gone to saunas, and there’s something good about a group of naked males.

I got married had kids and I’m still married, but if I’m being honest I’m gay and always have been, but at a time when it just wasn’t as accepted as it is now

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By *ollyMan
over a year ago

Downham market

I met a gay man at a sauna a year ago and the time I spent with him was one of the highlights of my life. We didn't have full sex but we kissed a lot and sucked and licked each other. We had a coffee together and held hands and spoke lovingly to each other. It really felt romantic and loving and sweet.

I knew at that moment I could easily fall in love with him and vice versa.

Thats the third time I've had that feeling with a man.

I regret not swapping phone numbers with him. Definitely the one that got away.

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By *ndy61hMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Always knew I was bisexual from my teens, wanked over female and male porn, loved playing with my ass.

First real experience with a man at 19. Second at 62, after 3 marriages and a couple of kids.

Been in a relationship with a guy for last 2 years.

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By *i Guy PrestonMan
over a year ago

Preston

I think it's a generational thing. It seems so much easier to be who you are from an early age now. It's far more accepted.

Back in the 60s,70s,80s and 90s it wasn't easy so many of us took the get married lead a "normal" life option, but we were never truly happy.

I've always classed myself as bi, but was happily married for 19 years to a women. Now I'm more I to men, but I know it's a sliding scale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else had a similar journey as me ?

Married for 19 years and 2 boys in their 20s.

Since I have been divorced 9 years ago I have been exclusively gay .

I just really love cock , cum and ass .

I think I may have been denying my gayness for years.

Even when I was married I masturbated to gay porn. And now I am in reality and I enjoy it

Hopefully your family are behind you in your decision to embrace your sexuality.

Just enjoy your new found freedom my friend.

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By *ollyMan
over a year ago

Downham market

"Always knew I was bisexual from my teens, wanked over female and male porn, loved playing with my ass.

First real experience with a man at 19. Second at 62, after 3 marriages and a couple of kids.

Been in a relationship with a guy for last 2 years. "

Good for you, I hope you are very happy

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By *tewart62Man
over a year ago

Near Leeds

"I think it's a generational thing. It seems so much easier to be who you are from an early age now. It's far more accepted.

Back in the 60s,70s,80s and 90s it wasn't easy so many of us took the get married lead a "normal" life option, but we were never truly happy.

I've always classed myself as bi, but was happily married for 19 years to a women. Now I'm more I to men, but I know it's a sliding scale."

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By *ierced cock1000Man
over a year ago

Sittingbourne

I knew I was Bi before I knew the meaning of it, had childish same sex experience about eleven years old,and through my teens, always loved the buzz,

Then was single till thirty two, with no intention of marrying, then did, lol, now I'm still bi and like a women's body, but hate the crap that comes with it,I also prefer slim fem guys, I spent years being faithful to a marriage and now I can let my hair down and enjoy,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I discovered I liked putting things up my bum at a very young age but didn't start meeting guys till my thirties. I stopped getting hard in my fifties so wish I had started earlier.

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By *ll foxMan
over a year ago

WORKSOP

I be always been interested in men, loved seeing the male bodies in porn!

However I like women too!

Although when I reached 50, I decided it was finally time to explore my sexual desires for real!

I love being with a guy, but still like sex with women!

Guess I want it all !

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By *ritpopMan
over a year ago

newcastle

More active in my fifties but have had encounters all my life let my cousin sorry encouraged my cousin and he was always eager

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

here ford shire

Given the time and opportunity I’d prefer cocks any day

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By *are04Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

I may have posted these thoughts before but can’t remember.

My opinion is very few people are exclusively gay or exclusively straight. We’re all on a spectrum and, in the main, it’s society and our upbringing that leads us to believe that straight is the way to go. Been horny is healthy and nobody should rule out either gender to have fun with. Maybe when people get older and enter their “don’t give a dam what people think “ stage that they loose the shackles of defined sexuality?

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By *onstant.Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Loved putting things up my arse in my early teens . always thought about having a cock inside me.

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By *ighthole69Man
over a year ago

SPALDING

Iam now totally gay, was heterosexual for most of my life, but I now intensely dislike women, and find men very attractive, love a hard cock, and a nice hole, and more fun with men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My journey into the world of all thong bisexual began when I realised I wasn't going to get my wife to show more interest in sex...I'm jot good looking enough to attract women so I figured I'd try hooking up with men...a man's mouth is as good around my cock as any woman's

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By *terilisedMan
over a year ago

(from Dublin)

Very similar

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By *ookingFor...Man
over a year ago

West Sussex

A lot of what I've read here makes sense to me, although I never married.

I still considered myself bisexual until quite recently.

I'm unsure what I do next.

I'm not keen on 'coming out', but I'm not after total secrecy either. Been there before.

Should I be looking for dates rather than hook ups?

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By *bbillMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I turned gay when I was 40 only ever liked cock before I met an amazing man who definitely turned me .Still with wife tho could never hurt her so just have keep living a lie

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By *arriedbiMan
over a year ago

Aldershot

"I turned gay when I was 40 only ever liked cock before I met an amazing man who definitely turned me .Still with wife tho could never hurt her so just have keep living a lie "
I same wonder how many same

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By *JsoulsearcherMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I simply chose not to acknowledge my bi side. It was another complication in life I just didn't have the energy to deal with. I think I've benefited from the changed attitudes, of young people in particular, to sexuality. I'm not sure what I would have done if I'd have been in a long term relationship. Knowing me, I suspect I would have continued to suppress by bisexuality for fear of hurting my partner. It must be really hard for partners when someone suddenly comes out.

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By *terilisedMan
2 weeks ago

(from Dublin)

Yes I'm feeling it ,very strong

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By *obbie300Man
2 weeks ago

BANGOR Co Down

Yea you probably bi bud ,happens to lot of married guys later in life

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By *ellhunglow001Man
2 weeks ago

Portsmouth

After being single for a while and watching more porn than normal, I started getting turned on at seeing erect cocks and curiosity took over. Ie why do women enjoy sucking cock? Then started watching gay porn. The rest is history as they say.

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By *alfTankMan
2 weeks ago

Boston

I'm not gay. I know because I have tried a lot of guys just to be sure. That must make me gay though, right? Nope. I still haven't met a guy I could say I fancy like I do women, but I am still open to the idea.

I like sex a lot. My ex wife persuaded me to have oral sex with one of her boyfriends when I was 38. It wasn't a fantasy of mine and I took a lot of persuading. As soon as it happened I had a revelation. It was fun, very enjoyable and tasted amazing, plus recieving was no different to a woman doing it. I didn't suddenly change and start mincing around like Mr Humphreys. I was still me, just a new me who liked sucking cock. I like kissing guys and intimately touching, just not anal. I have someone who knows and approves, and we have a healthy sex life too. She is cool, but she doesn't have a cock and I love sucking cock.

I have sucked a great many straight cocks attached to married guys who just don't get it at home. I don't know if they are gay but afraid to say and I don't really care, just so long as they let me make them happy by blowing their load into my mouth.

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia

Always knew I liked both, although I couldn't admit that to myself for quite a while - I thought it was a "phase".

I only got around to exploring with men in recent years. I think I prefer men now but that's also possibly because the women in my love life always turned out to be high maintenance nightmares.

Even if I never a slept with another woman again , I would still consider myself to be bi.

I'm still attracted to them, I just can't be bothered chasing them and have no interest in a relationship with a women whatsoever since my last one ended.

I might feel the same in 10 years , I might not. Regardless, I'm comfortable enough in my sexuality now that I don't even bother to tell people I'm bi. I just let them guess, figure things out themselves or they can ask me directly.

At the end of the day it only matters if I like a specific person and I want them to know I'm available.

Life is short guys. Too short to give a fuck about what people think of or don't think about us.

Don't dwell on "time wasted" etc . Think of it as all the exciting new experiences you saved for yourself by exploring later in life 😏

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Heathrow

You just don't become gay lol

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By *enior serviceMan
2 weeks ago

Abingdon

Exactly the same as you!

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By *untobehad123Man
2 weeks ago

Hunts

Late 30s.... Internet came alive, came across a man on man porn movie, curiosity got me, absolutely had no clue beforehand....now I like cock fun

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

Australia

"You just don't become gay lol"

Sure you can. There's probably a thread around here somewhere full of gay guys that slowly realised they were straight

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By *og606Man
2 weeks ago

spalding

Likewise. In 50s I enjoyed reliving a bi experience from my mid 20s. Now 8 years later it's all i want. Cock, cum and kissing. Still live with mrs but non sexual and just friends.

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By *ollyMan
2 weeks ago

Downham market

I've always been curious and aroused about being with a male since a really young age, the thoughts were always there. I had a wanking friend when I was 25, I was so turned on looking at his cock and naked bum and really fancied him. It wasn't until I was 55 that I had my first time gay sex, I absolutely loved it and have been meeting men ever since.

I call myself bi but I'm mostly gay now, I'm so happy that I can enjoy being with naked men, I get so aroused just thinking about them.

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By *arehamMan
2 weeks ago

_areham

I'm like you and for many other guys that use this site. I've been blocking out the fact I'm gay and have been since I was a teen. I joined the RAF to make myself more masculine and deflect any notion I was gay to those around me. I got married, had kids and got the mortgage. Now 50, I'm trying to decide what I want from life. If I leave now, I leave with nothing. I want to be happy, but at what cost? I reconcile that I had my chance all those years ago. Now I must live with that decision. Anybody else feel trapped / in similar circumstances?

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By *ood-guyMan
2 weeks ago

wild, wild west

I think 50 is a bit of a watershed age. Life is settled and most of us are very much our own person after 5 decades. It’s a point where you have both time and money to explore. That may be the realisation that you’re gay. For me, it was an opportunity to explore being bisexual. I imagine for some it’s the realisation that sex at home has dried up, and that sex with other men can be very easy to secure. Whatever the reason for being in this site and posting on this forum, I wish you well.

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By *alfTankMan
2 weeks ago

Boston

"You just don't become gay lol

Sure you can. There's probably a thread around here somewhere full of gay guys that slowly realised they were straight

😜"

I know one guy who did this. He was openly gay in school and had relationships with men up to his mid thirties. The next time I saw him he is married to a female and has three kids. I suspect he can still pursue cock, but I have never seen him on the scene.

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By *othingBetweenUsMan
2 weeks ago

Ask

You don't just become gay, you are gay.

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By *rishTedMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Its just a label. Some people like cock. Enjoy it, life is short. I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

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By *it old manMan
2 weeks ago

Waterlooville

I've been bisexual since my early teens. In fact I say I'm trysexual . I'll try anything.

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By *ellowbladeMan
2 weeks ago

Grantham

I only tried bi in my early 50s

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By *ookingFor...Man
2 weeks ago

West Sussex

"...It’s a point where you have both time and money to explore..."

Is it?

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By *ood-guyMan
2 weeks ago

wild, wild west

"...It’s a point where you have both time and money to explore...

Is it?

I’d say for most, yes.

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By *foruseMan
2 weeks ago

brentwood

I came to bi/gaysex in my late forties, first by BDSM and being pegged and then visiting saunas. I’d say it is the female form I’m really attracted to but get sexual pleasure from being with men. Part of that is availability of men over women who are doing it for pleasure and lust not cash. Hence although versatile I prefer to bottom and don’t really care what the man looks like as long as he’s clean.

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By *aohiaochiaokengMan
2 weeks ago

London

Sane here. I started as a bisexual and ended up as a gay man. Love cocks ever since.

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By *oasyouwishMan
2 weeks ago

benfleet

Yes I think I had my first gay experience about 50. Sexless marriage for years and having seen an add in the newsagent for a guy doing massage. Phone number and went love the experience. Since I have met about 30 to 40 guys and love sex with guys more than girls. Still married

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By *amie MaybeTV/TS
2 weeks ago

dublin

Had my first kiss with a man dressed in black stockings and a sheer body.

I was 44, I had fantasised all my life about it.

I just wish things were different when I was younger but I have a wonderful family and life now so i cannot complain at all.

But gay now and most likely always. My desires for women were possibly my projecting for wanting to be one or at least assume the feminine form in a male body during sexual relations with a guy. if that makes sense. And if it does can someone explain it to me pls

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By *tockport fellaMan
2 weeks ago

Stockport

Attracted to sexy women, hourglass figure biggish tits & sexy arse, but love the uncomplicated sex with guys.

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By *ustinaTV/TS
2 weeks ago

cardiff

Growing up I would occasionally try on my mum's bra but that was it really until my early thirties. Whether because of watching porn maybe but I had a strong urge to suck cock and eventually I went to places that it was reported that guys hung out. One thing led to another and before I knew it I was craving more cocks and particularly keen to try anal. The crossdressing soon followed.

The only thing that puzzles me is that I never look at a man and fancy him in the same way was as being attracted to a woman. Having said that, I need to like a man's face before I kiss him but once the attraction is there and a connection has been made, I want to snog his face off. I've always liked a gentle looking man not someone you wouldn't want to meet in a dark alleyway.

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By *om1968Man
1 week ago

Southampton

I think this is probably more common than people think. I was 52 when I eventually accepted that I was gay. It felt much better to accept that. Looking back I can't believe I ever thought I was anything but

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By *fourjMan
1 week ago

Here, there or somewhere nearish March

"I think this is probably more common than people think. I was 52 when I eventually accepted that I was gay. It felt much better to accept that. Looking back I can't believe I ever thought I was anything but

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By *eorgesdadMan
1 week ago

Long Eaton Nottingham

I didn’t realise it but I suppressed my gay side for years but like others in my mid 50s I gave in to my natural urges for man fun and now exclusively gay xx

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By *eff1961Man
1 week ago

Gosport

Realised I was gay when was watching wife getting fucked one day realised how much I love watching cock then she started making me suck the guys clean n I was hooked she gone now n I spend lots of time finding guys to suck n rim

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By *orchlightMan
1 week ago

Chippenham

I think I pretty much followed this path too.

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By *incs masculine coupleCouple (MM)
1 week ago

Lincoln

"I'm not gay. I know because I have tried a lot of guys just to be sure. That must make me gay though, right? Nope. I still haven't met a guy I could say I fancy like I do women, but I am still open to the idea.

“Mincing about like mr humphries” is nothing to do with sexuality. If you like having sex with men you’re at least bi- it’s nothing to do with being camp.

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By *azaMan
1 week ago

Walsall

It was very much the same for me I got married early in life I was just gone eighteen and we had kids then it was all about the kids and living the when I was in my fifties I discovered that I like guys more than women the only thing I regret is I didn't find my bi side earlier in life I do love my wife but there is no sexual feelings for the both of us she as totally gone of sex I prefer guys more now than women to be honest but I wouldn't do anything to up set the Mrs and my kids that I adore

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By *ichard 30Man
1 week ago

Sheffield

Not in my 50’s but in my late 30’s. I was married and I’ve got a child. But the urges just got more and more. It’s no shame to become gay. Embrace it and enjoy your life. You are what you are.

All I know is a cock is a million times better to play with than a fanny.

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By *treyu500Man
1 week ago

Australia

Thanks for sharing that. I like threads like this because it helps people to understand how common their experiences and circumstances are. Also, that it's not all doom and gloom if you do decide to come out or just accept your sexuality internally.

There's a plethora of counselling services that help people too , both free and private. -totally confidential. We all need a little help or push sometimes in life ☺️.

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By *rMagicFingersMan
1 week ago

Bournemouth

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds. "

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt.

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By *treyu500Man
1 week ago

Australia

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt. "

And straight people and the gays often believe that bisexuality isn't a thing

The main downside is when I want to attract a woman and she's either told or assumes I'm gay. Very frustrating.

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By *oveitrawMan
1 week ago

Birmingham

All you men who've only just discovered MM fun in your 50s,come and say hi as I love that age for me.

Salt and pepper hair or bald. In good shape, nice legs and fat cock. I'm going weak at the knees

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By *uziTVTV/TS
1 week ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think a combination of sex with my Mrs drying up and discovering shemale porn has got me craving cock.

A change is as good as a rest eh?

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By *jh59Man
1 week ago

Hinckley

Always been partial to cock since teens now after two marriages(failed) it’s cock only now for me

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By *fcdTV/TS
1 week ago

Southend

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt. "
No self doubt here. I very much enjoy both.

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By *onks40Man
1 week ago

WALSALL

I only started experimenting with men about 4 years ago, been with the Mrs for 20 years.

I'm definitely bisexual. Suppose always wondered what would be like but never did anything about it.

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By *en22Man
1 week ago

renfrew

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt.

And straight people and the gays often believe that bisexuality isn't a thing

The main downside is when I want to attract a woman and she's either told or assumes I'm gay. Very frustrating."

"The" gays? But not "the straights"? Odd take.

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By *ature gay dadMan
1 week ago

blackhall

Enjoy the journey with guys

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By *imarried69Man
1 week ago

Bedford

Like most of us on this thread …always loved cock.. but kept denying my desires until they became too strong .. then supressed them again ..since hitting 50 have embraced my gay side ..better late than never xx

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By *udgepackMan
1 week ago

Cardiff bay

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt. "

NO confusion or self doubt here thanks.

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By *treyu500Man
1 week ago

Australia

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt.

And straight people and the gays often believe that bisexuality isn't a thing

The main downside is when I want to attract a woman and she's either told or assumes I'm gay. Very frustrating.

"The" gays? But not "the straights"? Odd take."

If you're gonna nitpick like that, you must be fun to be around.

I'll write an apology to anyone offended by my use of the article "the"

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By *assoMan
1 week ago

cumbernauld

Not certain I became gay but I certainly first tasted cock cum and arse in my 50’s

Mmm

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By *iley_Starr115TV/TS
1 week ago

Glasgow

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt. "

Bisexuals are not confused, this is a close minded take to have

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By *avewill1Man
1 week ago

wilts

"Has anyone else had a similar journey as me ?

Married for 19 years and 2 boys in their 20s.

Since I have been divorced 9 years ago I have been exclusively gay .

I just really love cock , cum and ass .

I think I may have been denying my gayness for years.

Even when I was married I masturbated to gay porn. And now I am in reality and I enjoy it

"
. Your probably just bisexual. Male sex when you get older is much easier to come by. And also adds a strong element of naughtiness. Don't look into it so hard. If a young blonde female gives you wink your be back to hetro thoughts in a flash lol

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By *avey57Man
1 week ago

waltham cross

I have been bisexual since I was 19 but always had a slight preference for women. Certainly when the main Aids scare hit in the 80’s I climbed securely back in the closet. When I was in my mid 40’s I started meeting men again, despite being married. I had a few wonderful meets and really got the bug. When I got divorced, in my 60’s, some days I was being fucked stupid. I got a little disillusioned, by time wasters and a few bad meets and went back to women again. I don’t see many men these days and play safe now. If I became single again I’d probably go back to becoming fucked stupid bareback until my end of days!!

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By *avewill1Man
1 week ago

wilts

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt. "
. Said with all the knowledge of someone who isn't bisexual lol

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By *lastactionheroMan
1 week ago

Liverpool

I didn't realise I was bi until my 30's. I have never been able to fully explore the full pleasure that men can give each other as I am married.

If I was single I'd fully jump into the world of homosexual love and maybe have a boyfriend

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By *assoMan
1 week ago

cumbernauld

I just think it’s the world I lived and grew up in

Met a guy in a bar one night I was in my 50’s went to his and he came in my mouth loved it so much

I’d still eat a woman for hours

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By *om51Man
1 week ago

edinburgh

I’m guessing loads of people realise themselves with age. The more tricky question is whether you are able to allow other people to know the true you “warts and all” it can be truly liberating, but it’s not something everyone is able to do. Life is short, so enjoy what you have.

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By *treyu500Man
1 week ago

Australia

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt.

Bisexuals are not confused, this is a close minded take to have"

Don't overthink it lol although I understand being defensive to that statement. Sexuality can be confusing. Lots of gay guys grew up being told that being straight was "normal". Many of them knew they were gay from a very early age, while others did not. It would still have been confusing at times.

As a bi man , I was certainly a bit confused as a teen because I liked both, girls first, then guys. It's not like I could interrupt my friends talking about tits to bring up cock to confirm that other people were like me 🤣.

Straight people - oh I better be careful here- "the straights" will occasionally have thoughts about the same gender, which can be confusing.... Particularly when you are younger.

It's just a part of the human experience. No need to be offended.

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By *avewill1Man
1 week ago

wilts

"I envy bisexuals, best of both worlds.

Hell no. I don't envy them at all. A world of confusion and self doubt.

Bisexuals are not confused, this is a close minded take to have

Straight people - oh I better be careful here- "the straights" will occasionally have thoughts about the same gender, which can be confusing.... Particularly when you are younger.

It's just a part of the human experience. No need to be offended. "
. Odd confusing thought for some growing up? Yes isn't that just life? What career you want, etc etc. but to label being bisexual as confusing as one has on here is totally false. Greedy? Selfish? Open-minded? Maybe. In denial even. But not confusing in my eyes. I don't judge myself with any of these labels. And I know myself better than anyone 🙂

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By *ardy62Man
1 week ago

Weymouth

Same as me

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By *assoMan
1 week ago

cumbernauld

Don’t think I became “gay” I just lived in a world where “straight” was the norm

Oddly it was watching porn and blow jobs and I thought that actually looks good and I tried it

Still like sex with women but now love sucking

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By *antsbibottomMan
1 week ago

Farnborough

I was straight in my 20s, but always knew there was something different about me - lived for a year in San Francisco with a girlfriend but always felt uneasy about gay men as if they knew my secret even though I didn't yet understand it. Then soon after I'd turned 30 I arranged to meet a guy and it just felt like the most natural thing in the world to suck and play with his cock. Since then I've met men on and off but I was still attracted to women. In recent years though I find my interest in women waning - I almost never watch straight porn, just gay sex turns me on fully. In a different life and world I would probably explore having a gay relationship and coming out but it would cause too much upheaval in my family life for me to be able to go through with it.

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By *raham999Man
1 week ago

OX11

I've been married for 40 years

But in my 50s became more interested in guys. Since my first meet which was a huge weight lifted it felt so natural. Now I'm loving my bi side at the end of the day it's just sex and should be enjoyed.

Have meet some wonderful guys and made friends with some.

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By *1ndeeTV/TS
1 week ago

Dundee

Always like to cross dress

Got divorced and new gf encouraged me to be more me

We now have matching lingerie and clothes

She knows I am interested in guys as well

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