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By *ollo007 OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Pontefract

Waste of time posting this but it's frustrating. I see a guy who's relatively new with 3 pictures but no verification very close and looking to meet ( also seems to be online most of the time). I fit what he's looking for and he can accommodate . I send him just a couple of messages ( hi and I see you're local are you interested in meeting) and get no reply, Okay he might have missed the message but I have noticed that he's blocked me? Also I had received a wink when he joined. I know I'm just pissing up the wall with this post and there's no real reply but it's nice to vent haha. When someone asks to meet me and they're not my type I usually politely explain that to them, apologies and wish them luck finding a meeting. Common courtesy is free lol I guess the saying "there's nowt as queer as folk" applies here. In the long run it's things like this that makes me politely avoid chatting with new unverified accounts which in turn affects the genuine new guys! I'm very thankful that I met and was verified my first time on here, I didn't realise at the time the difference it can make. Especially when it's bi married lads who are looking for discretion haha. Anyway sorry for the wall of text, hope you are all well and getting lots of sex.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Bedford

Unfortunately op that's the way it is on here, don't take it personally. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

My old headmaster used to say "manners maketh man"!

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By *oodledoMan
40 weeks ago

Greenwich

You cannot win here.

When you don't reply to someone you are rude. When you reply to someone saying they are not your type, why the fuck did you bother.

I have had both these reactions.

To me, ignoring messages and/or ghosting are rude, unnecessary and also lead to more guys doing so, with which diminishing the probability of genuine guys actually meeting.

But there is the other point of view too - why do I bother replying at all (which I find utterly mannerless, but many guys seem to share).

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By *nchsolentMan
40 weeks ago

Fareham

"manners maketh man" was what my grandmother drummed into me

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By *ottom guy321Man
40 weeks ago

Windsor

well said I totally agree ,

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By *amjam10Man
40 weeks ago

essex

Always reply if I get a message and always respond to a wink , sadly not many on here do

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By *eefandfurMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

There needs to be a national inquiry to establish what are the rules of etiquette for on-line communication.

A happy-medium between the courtship rituals of a Jane Austen novel and a swipe left.

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By *itgent10Man
40 weeks ago

Llandudno

I always reply to people who make some kind of effort…

But some people don’t deserve an answer…i.e.

I get many messages with …Hi!

With No pics,No verification,poor or no profile ,can’t accommodate

What do people expect?

Have to add though..some fantastic guys on here if one makes the effort to filter them out…

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"I always reply to people who make some kind of effort…

But some people don’t deserve an answer…i.e.

I get many messages with …Hi!

With No pics,No verification,poor or no profile ,can’t accommodate

What do people expect?

Have to add though..some fantastic guys on here if one makes the effort to filter them out…

"

I usually reply except to those who do not read my profile properly, or ping pong nothing messages back, or just say hi and nothing on their profile

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By *speedoMan
40 weeks ago

eastbourne

I always take it that when there is no reply they are saying piss off. So I do

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By *aid2TV/TS
40 weeks ago

Swindon

The only messages i ignore are those from people who clearly haven't bothered reading my profile. Everybody else i will reply to even if its just to say thanks but no thanks.

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By *imme99Man
40 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire

It depends on the quality of message and profile.

I've learnt that sometimes blocking them saves on the abuse that then follows.

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By *urriousBiMan
40 weeks ago

SE London

It is rude not to reply to a decent message however it’s same rude to send unasked messages, messages with gaping holes or dick pics, rude to send random message without reading profile.

I reserve my right no to reply to:

- These who hasn’t read my profile and offer a thing I specifically say I am not a big fan of

- outside my age preference (unless clearly stated why I could change my mind)

- these who sends unsolicited close up pics in the first message.

- any sort of short messages like Hi, How are you etc (it is also in my profile I won’t reply)

- any response for forum topics if I haven’t asked for pm.

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By *kigaiMan
40 weeks ago

Northampton

Even if a dialogue develops there's no guarantee. See my forum 'An Immorality Tale' from yesterday

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By *ondon RimmerMan
40 weeks ago

Islington

Golden Rule of the internet

Take NOTHING personally.

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By *ncognito108Man
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

Home

From the FAQ section

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

https://www.fabguys.com/articles/FAQ

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By *bonybucksMan
40 weeks ago

High Wycombe

Unfortunately many people don’t have the decency and manners! don’t let it bother you no more, they are not worth it. Enjoy your weekend

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By *edsBlokeMan
40 weeks ago

Stotfold

Treat it like a game. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.

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By *hubsloverMan
40 weeks ago

East/west sussex

I think you weren’t his type . You got a wink may be my mistake. Not to worry ocean of people to carry on . No answer means ‘no’ as fab guys suggests.

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By *wjoeMan
8 weeks ago

lahinch

I remember a teacher saying manners maketh the man as he administered 3 on each hand with a leather strap

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By *arridMan
8 weeks ago

bRiGhToN


"I remember a teacher saying manners maketh the man as he administered 3 on each hand with a leather strap "
did he have a lisp?

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By *dambi00Man
8 weeks ago

Leicester

No one owes you a response

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By *enjamin2018Man
8 weeks ago

Halstead

I agree, and sometimes a response just makes the situation more awkward.

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By *rTee69Man
8 weeks ago

B

I stopped responding with polite "not for me, thank you" after the umpteenth abusive message back along the lines of "didn't want to meet anyway you fat/old/small cock bastard" or similar.

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By *ldderMan
3 days ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks

I normally respond but occasionally one slips through and I delete before I reply. But for someone then to question my manners and my up bringing by my parents over steps the mark and then the coward blocks before you can respond flicks my fuck off switch

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By *ustOneBearMan
3 days ago

Neath

You cannot expect everyone to behave as you do. They have free will.

You may not like it but there is nothing you can do to change it.

Accept it and move forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
1 day ago

But there are many who have good manners here.

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By *ip71Man
22 hours ago

Darlington

I must admit I get a lot of "won't meet smokers" message me for meets.. Thing is I'm a realist, so hypocricy is a put off to me so I usually don't engage at all.

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
20 hours ago

Glasgow

A wink gets a reply, sometimes it goes somewhere, sometimes it does't. A message always gets a reply as long as it isn't abusive.

No reply to a message I've sent, if I can see they've read it usually ends up as a block so I don't waste more time on them

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By *lexieMan
15 hours ago

Just north of Southampton


""manners maketh man" was what my grandmother drummed into me"

'Man maketh manners and manners maketh man!'

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By *rMagicFingersMan
14 hours ago

Bournemouth


"From the FAQ section

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day..."

Ladies? 🤔

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