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Just putting out there not everyone will have a merry Christmas

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By *imonxxx200 OP   TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Thirsk

Me 4 one 3rd Xmas without my wife cancer sucks

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By *etterbiggerMan
4 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Lost my dad to cancer 28th of December and my mam to cancer 18th of December not a full year later Christmas was horrible for a few years. Now I think on the good times but it will never be quite the same

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
4 weeks ago

Sunderland

Thinking of all who will be feeling lonely this Christmas

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By *an467Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

My 2nd since wife died. Means nothing now.

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By *an467Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

My 2nd since wife died. Means nothing now.

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By *onybluenailsMan
4 weeks ago

Crawley

As far as I am concerned,

Christmas is cancelled.

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By *ubguy2023Man
4 weeks ago

hyde

Never been a fan

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By *eepeter4Man
4 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Rachel Reeves from accounts as just send every OAP a Xmas card with a message on the envelope have a drink on me ,the Poor OAP opened the envelope and found a teabag inside

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Really prefer Christmas on my own. Can do as much or as little as I like and eat what I want instead of over indulging just because it is 'traditional'.

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By *rCurious75Man
4 weeks ago

Ashby de la Zouch

Thrid year without my Mum. She, like me, loved cooking so it was a fantastic time for us.

This is the first time, I think, I'm feeling a little better and more optimistic I will cook and bake like we used to if I can see past the tears.

But yeah, Christmas isn't fun for a LOT of people.

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By *imonxxx200 OP   TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Thirsk

It's lovely to hear from u all keep going xxxxx

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By *ountainMan
4 weeks ago

ipswich

This Christmas is a difficult one for my family, my brother in law is not expected to last til Christmas day. I'm staying at my sisters now just trying to help out with whatever is needed. It's a strained atmosphere but all the family are their for him.

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By *astDevonGuyMan
4 weeks ago

East Devon

The original lyric to “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” had the second line “ it may be your last” ….it’s important that however bad this Christmas may be to find moments that matter, none of us know how the next will be. ….

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By *imonxxx200 OP   TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Thirsk

Come on guys keep it going

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By *ubguy2023Man
4 weeks ago

hyde

Keep it you going? You are wanting to reval in people’s despair

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By *aggonerMan
4 weeks ago

Malvern

Christmas is a product of media hype. I have never celebrated it. And I suspect there aren’t many without children who are actually Merry.

I take advantage of the films on tv and that the end of my interaction with it.

Anyone who is made to feel lonely had my sympathy but shouldn’t buy into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I go vist my daughter for around a hour or so then home be on my own some peace. Get xdressed yippee xxx

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bedford


"Christmas is a product of media hype. I have never celebrated it. And I suspect there aren’t many without children who are actually Merry.

I take advantage of the films on tv and that the end of my interaction with it.

Anyone who is made to feel lonely had my sympathy but shouldn’t buy into it. "
that's okay go and be just how you want to be if I could make the whole world happy I would but j can't so that's not a good enough reason for me not to enjoy myself xxx

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By *op DanMan
4 weeks ago

Wooler

Christmas is a time when you buy things for people you don't like, things they don't want with money you can't afford.

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By *op DanMan
4 weeks ago

Wooler

It's that false 'jollity' you have to put on. It's a time for families etc and when you have none it just magnifies the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Life goes on, we can dwell in the past and despair over miseries of the past but what’s the point?! Move on, what’s living in the past going to achieve? One day we will al be on our death beds and wondering why we just didn’t live in the moment

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By *obbertMan
4 weeks ago

Kingswinford / Wombourne

Someone once said….’Grief is the price we pay for love’, we all pay that painful price at some stage in our lives as a part of living.

There are many volunteer organisations who would, especially at Christmas, appreciate help to bring cheer to vulnerable folk, found channeling personal loss into something positive worked wonders!

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By *ootsloverTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Tetbury

The most important day is the 21st, the shortest day, we can soon start to see longer days, colder, but with the promise of spring and summer.

Jesus, God and religion are the biggest problem humanity faces.

Celebrate what's real, what makes a difference and what doesn't cause wars.

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By *atrina KaisarionTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Burntwood staffs

For personal reasons I absolutely fucking despise christmas

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By *odameMan
4 weeks ago

Torremolinos, Spain NOT

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By *odameMan
4 weeks ago

Torremolinos, Spain NOT

It takes enormous will power not to go down the misery and justified self pity route that really deep grief brings.

My older brother who was my hero (dad abandoned us) was 'unalived' by another person aged 17 when i was 13 and I really struggled to the point of wanting to follow him, my mum gave me a real telling off and told me i needed to live the equivalent of two lives worth to compensate for my brother having his taken from him, how dare I waste mine.

I have done everything i knew he wanted to do and I still do things purely because i think he would have enjoyed as an adult, mum told me decades later it was a hard line for her to take but she could see she was losing another son, she hoped I wasn't resentful of it, I told her that I was thankful as it gave me the purpose in life that I needed at that time.

To this day if ever I feel down, overwhelmed or putting something off I do it with that purpose in my mind.

The closing scene in Saving Private Ryan when he is at the grave of Captain Miller and he recalls the Captain's last words telling him to "earn this" and says to his wife "tell me i have lived a good life" really hit home, I cried so much the people watching the film with me thought I had PTSD from my time in the forces, the emotion was because I have asked myself that countless times over the years.

So, if the person you lost enjoyed the festive season, or any other special time/event get out there in the thick of it and thoroughly embrace it FOR them and in their memory rather than dwell on them not being there.

If they had a bahh humbug type attitude to it, embrace that and enjoy it as you are doing it for them.

Whatever time you have left on this planet, live it as fully for them as much as for you, especially on the days yours is difficult.

Virtual hug to you and anyone else reading who struggles at this time of year xxx

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By *angtMan
4 weeks ago

Wednesfield /Wolverhampton

A few years ago I had cancer, and wasn’t sure I was going to see another Christmas. After treatment, and staring death in the face, I truly understand how lucky any of us are to just be living and breathing, and enjoy every day like it was my last, be it Christmas, or a wet Monday in February.

Look for the silver linings, not the black clouds, because life has so much to give.

Hope you all can find some comfort xx

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By *raham999Man
4 weeks ago

OX11

Lost its true meaning.

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By *unlad777Man
4 weeks ago

Cornwall


"Thinking of all who will be feeling lonely this Christmas "

Ditto, thinking about anybody lonely or sad at this time of year! BIG hugs to you all x x

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By *yle1912Man
4 weeks ago

Burnley

With no family, fighting anxiety, depression ADHD and no job, what's to look forward to?

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By *haron1701ETV/TS
4 weeks ago

Southport


"With no family, fighting anxiety, depression ADHD and no job, what's to look forward to?"

Similar here, (replace ADHD with COPD and asthma) severe depression (to point of wanting to end it all far too many times), stress, lost family, home, friends.

Can't say I'm looking forward to Christmas in any way whatsoever.

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By *curiousdaveMan
4 weeks ago

Durham - Gateshead


"Lost its true meaning."

The pagan one? Or the Christian one? Or the Dickensian one?

I mean all three are fabricated

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By *licebear891Man
4 weeks ago

teddington

I used to not like celebrating Christmas. My mom died when I was born on the 28th December and it always reminded me that these were her last few days. Now, I try to celebrate it. She would want me to be happy, to see me smile, so I try to make an effort. Her memory always lives with me and I think of her all the time

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By *ichey6Man
4 weeks ago

aberdeen

Nice one Alice. 👍

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By *onameyetMan
4 weeks ago

chorley

I’m relatively happy generally I just need the torture of fucking Xmas to go away di I can be even happier

A guy on here posted this

Christmas is like a train

If you try and stop it it will smash you to pieces,

Just lie on the track and let it pass over you,

It will be uncomfortable for a while but then it will be gone

And don’t engage with the lying religious cunts

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bedford


"I used to not like celebrating Christmas. My mom died when I was born on the 28th December and it always reminded me that these were her last few days. Now, I try to celebrate it. She would want me to be happy, to see me smile, so I try to make an effort. Her memory always lives with me and I think of her all the time "
way to go mate xxx mum would be proud of you xxx

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