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"Usually complete time wasters in my experience, probably got half a dozen conversations going on at once." Agree! Probably playing the field trying to score.. Or, he's replying when his wife can't see! | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? " They're busy doing something else and can't check their phone every second. When i'm online i'm usually at work, do you really expect anyone to prioritise a chat over that? 5-10 minutes is nothing.  | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? They're busy doing something else and can't check their phone every second. When i'm online i'm usually at work, do you really expect anyone to prioritise a chat over that? 5-10 minutes is nothing. "Then don’t START a conversation when you’re busy doing something else, especially if you’re trying to arrange a meeting. | |||
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"Took about an hour to get five responses from a guy this morning😡" Maybe they were not that interested. | |||
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"But if they START the conversation, please have the good manners to be available to talk. If you’re busy, then wait until you aren’t." I get that and it is annoying. But the fact that they messaged you first means they are interested in you. It's time wasters who spoilt it For others in the sense that he more than likely messaged a few guys in the hope that one messages you back but sometimes like buses you get no hits one day and another time all 4 reply. In addition he may have had an unexpected visitor. Another one is if you're swapping between sites. A whole raft of reasons for slow replies. Be patient and reward will arrive. | |||
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"Took about an hour to get five responses from a guy this morning😡 Maybe they were not that interested." THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME! | |||
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"Took about an hour to get five responses from a guy this morning😡 Maybe they were not that interested. THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME!" You can lose interest chatting to someone. You could have put them off. | |||
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"Took about an hour to get five responses from a guy this morning😡 Maybe they were not that interested. THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME!" Don't let it stress you out, just move on until you find someone who gives you the 100% of their attention that you demand | |||
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"But if they START the conversation, please have the good manners to be available to talk. If you’re busy, then wait until you aren’t. I get that and it is annoying. But the fact that they messaged you first means they are interested in you. It's time wasters who spoilt it For others in the sense that he more than likely messaged a few guys in the hope that one messages you back but sometimes like buses you get no hits one day and another time all 4 reply. In addition he may have had an unexpected visitor. Another one is if you're swapping between sites. A whole raft of reasons for slow replies. Be patient and reward will arrive. " I get that, the guy eventually admitted that he was at work - eventually - after initially starting the conversation asking to meet up. In other words, just a complete time waster. Happens far too often. | |||
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"Took about an hour to get five responses from a guy this morning😡 Maybe they were not that interested. THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME! Don't let it stress you out, just move on until you find someone who gives you the 100% of their attention that you demand I don’t demand attention, neither do I start a conversation with somebody if I’m busy. It’s just rude. " | |||
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"But if they START the conversation, please have the good manners to be available to talk. If you’re busy, then wait until you aren’t. I get that and it is annoying. But the fact that they messaged you first means they are interested in you. It's time wasters who spoilt it For others in the sense that he more than likely messaged a few guys in the hope that one messages you back but sometimes like buses you get no hits one day and another time all 4 reply. In addition he may have had an unexpected visitor. Another one is if you're swapping between sites. A whole raft of reasons for slow replies. Be patient and reward will arrive. I get that, the guy eventually admitted that he was at work - eventually - after initially starting the conversation asking to meet up. In other words, just a complete time waster. Happens far too often." You're assuming he's a timewaster. So you've established he's at work. Perhaps it was quiet so he comes on here, sees you and messages you. Then he has emails to answer which takes priority over messaging you back. I think you need to chill and become more patient. | |||
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"I believe in giving the benefit of the doubt, it maybe that the guy the other end is jumping between work or driving or that the Mrs is in the next room, we all have our lives to navigate, I’m sure we are all acutely aware of how addictive this site can become, so if it takes the other end a few hours or days to reply, it’s really not the end of the world… " | |||
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"Not everyone is free to answer straight away. Eg driving working family if he's keen he will get back" Definitely true in my case | |||
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"Why did it take you 10 minutes to reply to me? " Haha touché! Because it’s a forum, I’m not trying to arrange a meet with you😉 | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? " if you are tab browsing multiple pages you don't always see new message alerts, also if you are responding to a few messages it happens. If you want instant replies I suggest direct messages on here aren't going to meet your needs. Also are you just sending one liners? Good messages can take a little longer  | |||
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"For someone who does demand attention, you seem to brought it on yourself by posting it on here. We're you sitting with a stop watch watching a reply to pop up on the screen. Having an online tantrum about it doesn't seem to be the answer. Calm down dear!" It think my problem is that a guy contacted me to arrange a meet, after telling him I only had a three hour time slot, then finally messaged me admitting he was in work and couldn’t make it after all. So a completely pointless conversation? | |||
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"Some of us older types can take 10 mins to compose a message. Sausage finger syndrome is a reality for some of us "Especially phones… I’m with you there👍🏻 | |||
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" THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME!" Don’t worry: I’m not going to. You’re demonstrative, demanding, impatient and petulant. After your tirades in this thread, I expect I’m not the only one to give you a wide berth. | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? if you are tab browsing multiple pages you don't always see new message alerts, also if you are responding to a few messages it happens. If you want instant replies I suggest direct messages on here aren't going to meet your needs. Also are you just sending one liners? Good messages can take a little longer "I think we have to all admit that there are people on this site who like to have a chat, I don’t have a problem with that, take as long as you want, but when someone is starting the conversation with a meet up in mind, after I’d explained time constraints, then proceeds to take an age to reply, then admits he’s in work, then admits he can’t get away from work… that! | |||
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" THEN DON’T START A CONVERSATION WITH ME! Don’t worry: I’m not going to. You’re demonstrative, demanding, impatient and petulant. After your tirades in this thread, I expect I’m not the only one to give you a wide berth. " You need to read the full thread to be fair. | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? if you are tab browsing multiple pages you don't always see new message alerts, also if you are responding to a few messages it happens. If you want instant replies I suggest direct messages on here aren't going to meet your needs. Also are you just sending one liners? Good messages can take a little longer I think we have to all admit that there are people on this site who like to have a chat, I don’t have a problem with that, take as long as you want, but when someone is starting the conversation with a meet up in mind, after I’d explained time constraints, then proceeds to take an age to reply, then admits he’s in work, then admits he can’t get away from work… that!"It's happened to me, take it on the chin, when I worked for hermes I'd think I'd be finished for a certain time, then they'd give me more drops. Life can get in the way Give benefit of the doubt. | |||
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"It's why I don't generally respond to one word messages Is this familiar Hi Hello (Wait 5 minutes) Very true! How are you All good thanks (Wait 5 minutes) WUU2 At which point I'm done!! How difficult is Hey Really like your profile/ pics. Profile suggests we may be compatible. If your interested let me know. When writing a message you have to get to the point. Were not standing in a bar talking to each other Alot of guys don't seem to get this concept " | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? " It could be to do with the fact his life doesn't revolve around Fabguys? 🤷🏻♀️ | |||
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"For someone who does demand attention, you seem to brought it on yourself by posting it on here. We're you sitting with a stop watch watching a reply to pop up on the screen. Having an online tantrum about it doesn't seem to be the answer. Calm down dear! It think my problem is that a guy contacted me to arrange a meet, after telling him I only had a three hour time slot, then finally messaged me admitting he was in work and couldn’t make it after all. So a completely pointless conversation?" So the guy asked about meeting up, you gave him the option of (the next) three hours, and he replied to say he couldn't make that time window because he was at work... and that is therefore a pointless conversation? Unless one is a mindreader, it is not clear how one is supposed to know another person's availability prior to starting a conversation...?! | |||
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"If you expect anyone who contacts you to be available to exchange messages without interruption, perhaps you should make that clear in your profile. A lot of people on here accept that people will reply when it is convenient. He didn't know that you had a limited time frame when he contacted you or that you expected him to remain available to respond for as long as you thought satisfactory. The name time waster gets bandied about far too much and quite often it is because the person calling them time waster had unreasonable expectations or were impatient. " Extremely well expressed. | |||
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"Your dissatisfaction with someone who may be doing other things in between giving you their attention just makes me think you come across as being very needy. " This  | |||
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"Guy starts a conversation, you answer immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds, you respond immediately, 5 to 10 minutes later he responds…. what is that all about? " I would guess it means your not going to be mates. | |||
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