FabGuys.com forum: What's wrong with just 'hi'?

By *amesherts OP Man
7 days ago

Hertford

Some guys on here say they delete messages with just 'hi' in them.

Why?

It's an ice-breaker. You don't want to go to the trouble of writing a long message if it is just to be ignored!

Also, you wouldn't go up to a stranger in a bar and let them know in detail what you're after. You would start with an ice-breaker. Like 'hi'...

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By *arriedguy49scotMan
7 days ago

Annan

I like “hi” messages

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
7 days ago

Bristol East

I'll reply to "hi"

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By *ickSeekerMan
7 days ago

Canterbury

I agree. It's kind of natural to open up a conversation with just 'hi!'. If after four or five exchanges the replies remain in single-syllables then I'd probably take flight, but as an opener i think it's adequate🤷🏽‍♂️

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By *lasgow1975Man
7 days ago

Glasgow Parkhead

Because the messages usually go

Yea, you said that already

*offline*

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By *ph1956Man
7 days ago

COLCHESTER

I always reply to any message I receive.

To me its the decent and respectful thing to do.

It doesn't matter if it leads to anything or not.

I never know how to send a "Ice Breaker" message anyway!

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By *ibuddy200Man
7 days ago

leominster

I quite like HI it brakes the ice and if they aren't interested you haven't wasted time on writing your life story.

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By *azadarMan
7 days ago

North Birmingham

Nothing is wrong with a "hi" at all.

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By *ais1Man
7 days ago

Tyrone

Because it puts the onus on the other person to properly start the conversation, rather than doing it yourself. I *might* reply to a 'hi' if the person looks interesting but otherwise it's not really worth the effort. I would definitely send a sorry, not my type / not available to meet now message if the person made a basic effort with their message.

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By *eefandfurMan
7 days ago

Edinburgh

It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..."

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By *amesherts OP Man
7 days ago

Hertford

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..." "

No. Not difficult. But pointless if it is going to be ignored.

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By *obbertMan
7 days ago

In a world of my own

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By *jp HungMan
7 days ago

Ferryhill Northeast.

Hi is just being lazy I wouldn't reply unless I found the profile interesting tbh.

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By *ull bi for funMan
7 days ago

hull

Because quite often this happens;

Hey

What you up to

Just chilling, wbu

Same

Cool

Well yeah, I would be cool if I'm chilling.

Lol.

You looking to meet.

Not sure yet, I might do soon.

Cool, where do you live.

Such as such a place.

Ah right, thats not far from me then, even though you know roughly as you realise when you check who's near by.

By this time, both parties have looked at each others profiles twice, and the verification list if they have one.

Then one of the chats goes offline.

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
7 days ago

Glasgow

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..."

No. Not difficult. But pointless if it is going to be ignored."

I always ignore a one word message. If the guy makes an effort I will too, but if he can't be bothered why should I? Good manners cost nothing but time and if anyone expects me to invest my time in them I have a right to expect the same

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By *eefandfurMan
7 days ago

Edinburgh

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..."

No. Not difficult. But pointless if it is going to be ignored."

Any message would be ignored if received from a member with a very off-putting profile.

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By *evansmileMan
7 days ago

Macclesfield

"I agree. It's kind of natural to open up a conversation with just 'hi!'. If after four or five exchanges the replies remain in single-syllables then I'd probably take flight, but as an opener i think it's adequate🤷🏽‍♂️"

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By *raham999Man
7 days ago

OX11

Hi is okay for me.

It's an opener and intro so I always reply esp if I fancy the look of them, profile.

You can always move on if it goes nowhere.

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By *evansmileMan
7 days ago

Macclesfield

I wouldn't send just a 'hi' myself; I would and do send a wink sometimes - but some people in these forums don't like that either. Some great meets have come about from a 'hi' in my inbox, or a wink, both of which I always reply to (honest).

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By *earblokeMan
7 days ago

Bury

Nothing. This place is cursed with pretentious self important people sometimes. No manners. No charm. Avoid them! As thankfully there’s a load of good blokes too!

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By *lackbootzMan
7 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"Nothing. This place is cursed with pretentious self important people sometimes. No manners. No charm. Avoid them! As thankfully there’s a load of good blokes too! "

“Ooooh… get her!”

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By *fourjMan
7 days ago

Here, there or somewhere nearish March

I like “Hi” or “Hello” as a first contact. It shows me someone has seen something in my profile or perhaps in the forum that interests them enough to initiate contact, much the same as a wink but takes marginally more effort.

That gives me an opportunity to check their profile including photographs and verifications. I’ll always try to find something to fab and will always reply.

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By *wansmickMan
7 days ago

Belfast

No one requires a life story but "Hi" is lame and lazy and deserves no particular reply.

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By *fourjMan
7 days ago

Here, there or somewhere nearish March

"No one requires a life story but "Hi" is lame and lazy and deserves no particular reply."

Interesting notion, but some people are very nervous about making contact or have difficulty articulating what they are seeking.

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By *lackbootzMan
7 days ago

Hayes, Middx

Perhaps the question is better expressed not so much as “What's wrong with just 'hi'?” as “What could be better than just ‘hi’?”

Compare and contrast:-

A] “Hello. I’m travelling in your area and saw your profile. I really liked your xxxxxx and saw we shared the same interest in yyyyyy. As well as the pictures on my profile here’s some face pictures of me attached. If you were free tonight and interested, please let me know.”

Commentary:

1. That took all of 20 seconds to type. For those above saying, oh it’s not worth writing more than ‘hi’ until you know they are interested, I think you miss the point ENTIRELY. Some people are not going to be interested until you actually have something meaningful to say and they know exactly what you want. You invest that time to avoid the several next back and forths which would otherwise take up yet more time.

2. Only an absolute cunt would not send a reply to that. Now there are sadly absolute cunts online and indeed on FabGuys, so replies are not guaranteed, but if someone is too rude to acknowledge that sort of message then you are very much better off not hearing from them, let alone meeting them.

3. If the person writing anything like that is not my type, I would still reply courteously to say exactly that. If I was not available but otherwise might have been interested, I’ll reply to establish interest in case anything could happen in the future. The person who was clear-minded enough to send me such a message will have impressed me whatever.

4. Nothing has been lost by you writing that. But they have now no reason not to be able to make an informed decision about replying to you. They know what you look like; they know what you’re looking for and when; etc.

B] “hi”

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1. My heart sinks. Genuinely. It’s a totally passive way to initiate something. You’re already expecting the person you’ve contacted to have to find out why you’re contacting them!

2. It took zero seconds. Are they lazy - how keen is their interest - are they going to be able to send any sort of meaningful replies - have they sent a hundred ‘hi’ messages out hoping at least one person replies?; etc.

3. I already know I need to fast forward through the several ongoing layers of guff that will come otherwise. “Wuu2” etc. I will often try to force the issue with a “Hello. How can I help?” Or “Why are you messaging me?”

4. That is why some people default to saying they will not bother to reply to one word messages or ‘hi’ etc. They have enough experience of 1, 2, 3 above.

5. If I get a rather feeble opening message from someone who looks eminently fuckable and whose profile looks interesting, the weakness of their opening gambit is easily forgiven. This is called human nature. If I get a rather feeble opener from someone who has no pictures and no info on their profile, I’m already feeling unimpressed. I’m not going to fall over myself to find out if they are hiding their light under a bushel. This is called human nature.

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By *h22cdTV/TS
7 days ago

BH22

A 'hi' message gets me to look at profile. If I'm interested in what I see, I'll reply.

If the profile is as bland as the message then I'll be asleep before I've had to courtesy to repl-hi.

I prefer the messages that give something, for example, I love your collar. Where did you get it? Or. Wow, your pics are amazing.

Basically, have an interesting profile and it doesn't matter whether you only say hi or more.

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By *oodpeckerMan
7 days ago

Falkirk

"Perhaps the question is better expressed not so much as “What's wrong with just 'hi'?” as “What could be better than just ‘hi’?”

Compare and contrast:-

Commentary:

B] “hi”

Commentary:

1. My heart sinks. Genuinely. It’s a totally passive way to initiate something. You’re already expecting the person you’ve contacted to have to find out why you’re contacting them!

4. That is why some people default to saying they will not bother to reply to one word messages or ‘hi’ etc. They have enough experience of 1, 2, 3 above.

I'm sure some 'men' on here (I care not one jot) already consider me an "absolute cunt," but I'd consider answering your aforementioned opening message. I generally (with some exceptions, of course) have no interest in answering "hi" messages and you've done an exemplary job of explaining why 👍 😅

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

"Some guys on here say they delete messages with just 'hi' in them.

Why?

It's an ice-breaker. You don't want to go to the trouble of writing a long message if it is just to be ignored!

Also, you wouldn't go up to a stranger in a bar and let them know in detail what you're after. You would start with an ice-breaker. Like 'hi'..."

Totally agree...it's a complete waste of time putting loads of effort into writing a long message, just to be ignored

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..."

No. Not difficult. But pointless if it is going to be ignored."

Spot on

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By *lim_sportyMan
6 days ago

stevenage

Lazy. It shows lack of ability to interact with a profile they should have read.

I'll always message a profile I like with something that shows I've read their profile and is personal about it.

I find the hi msgs come from partnered guys tossing their meat.

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By *oodpeckerMan
6 days ago

Falkirk

Lol, it's what winks are for?

… or, is "Hi" above a wink? 🤔

Does anyone have a mine detector? It might come in handy 😏

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By *lackbootzMan
6 days ago

Hayes, Middx

" … Totally agree...it's a complete waste of time putting loads of effort into writing a long message, just to be ignored

… "

Why do you think you are going to be ignored? Are you often ignored?

I do note that you cannot travel nor accommodate; haven’t met anyone from this site (or at least one that has verified you) though have been on the site some time; and your profile is full of a whole list in capitals of all the things you don’t like and the negative traits you see in others. I don’t write this in any way as a sort of critique or judgment: just observations. But we all make instant conclusions both conscious and unconscio*s from our learnt experiences.

But based on the profile, if you sent me “hi”, I would think “This person is just wanting to chat - or having a wank - he’s not here actually to meet.” That could be totally erroneous and unfair, but it’s the way our brains are likely to default. Perhaps you are the most enjoyable and garrulous boon-companion of all time. And I will have missed out on that.

If you sent me a message like the one I’ve outlined above, giving information, saying why you were contacting me and showing yourself, then I’d start to take you seriously as someone who might be looking to meet.

I suppose all of this is predicate to what we’re trying to get out of the site. I’m not here to chat idly. I need to ascertain quickly and as painlessly as possible if my interlocutor is just here to chat idly.

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

I'm happy with "hi" messages, as long as any subsequent conversation isn't just a series of one word replies.

Now, first contact messages that just say "Meet", on the other hand

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

" … Totally agree...it's a complete waste of time putting loads of effort into writing a long message, just to be ignored

…

Why do you think you are going to be ignored? Are you often ignored?

In actual fact, most guys on here are tissue wankers, and I meet at saunas. I just use this site for the forums when I get time. If anything else happens, that's a bonus...but I don't look for it in here.

As for me not travelling or accommodating, you're cleary missing what I'm saying in my profile...and it's the tissue wanking majority on here that the caps are aimed at.

So no, I'm not "often ignored"...it's just that I don't really look for meets on here, with all the "wasteoftimeguys". Give me a sauna anyday.

How about you...are you often ignored?

I'm so glad that you're not being judgemental or personally attacking another user for daring to have a difference of opinion to you, because a) that's against the rules on here, b) is boring and arrogant and c) is the sign of a troll...I hope you're not a troll?

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

Tbh I lost interest in reading your profile within a couple of paragraphs. Most guys on here don't want to read the New Testament...they want to get to the "good stuff", i.e. what you like doing, etc. They don't want a life history.

That's not an attack or a critique...just an observation

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By *lim_sportyMan
6 days ago

stevenage

" … Totally agree...it's a complete waste of time putting loads of effort into writing a long message, just to be ignored

…

Why do you think you are going to be ignored? Are you often ignored?

As for me not travelling or accommodating, you're cleary missing what I'm saying in my profile...and it's the tissue wanking majority on here that the caps are aimed at.

So no, I'm not "often ignored"...it's just that I don't really look for meets on here, with all the "wasteoftimeguys". Give me a sauna anyday.

How about you...are you often ignored?

I agree totally with the post you are responding with. He's spot on, but you have taken insult.

I'd say he isn't ignored looking at his verifications!

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By *ocksucker71Man
6 days ago

Dudley

" … Totally agree...it's a complete waste of time putting loads of effort into writing a long message, just to be ignored

…

Why do you think you are going to be ignored? Are you often ignored?

As for me not travelling or accommodating, you're cleary missing what I'm saying in my profile...and it's the tissue wanking majority on here that the caps are aimed at.

So no, I'm not "often ignored"...it's just that I don't really look for meets on here, with all the "wasteoftimeguys". Give me a sauna anyday.

How about you...are you often ignored?

I agree totally with the post you are responding with. He's spot on, but you have taken insult.

I'd say he isn't ignored looking at his verifications!"

Good for you...maybe you can hook up

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By *lackbootzMan
6 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"Tbh I lost interest in reading your profile within a couple of paragraphs. Most guys on here don't want to read the New Testament...they want to get to the "good stuff", i.e. what you like doing, etc. They don't want a life history.

That's not an attack or a critique...just an observation

That’s the wonder and beauty of FabGuys, sir. It allows very different people to use the same space. Sometimes rubbing shoulders unceremoniously but otherwise gliding straight past each other.

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By *ager-to-pleaseMan
6 days ago

Aylesbury

Just "hi" gets nothing more from me other than a "hi" back.

That way it's up to them to actually start the conversation that they want to have rather than try to force me to start it.

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By *ckSuccer4YouMan
6 days ago

cumbernauld

Exactly feel same way, you've messaged me put some effort in is my thoughts. I find text talk worse though, the hi m8 horny ? Or meet now m8 ? Ends with a delete most of the time

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By *al430Man
6 days ago

Nearby

“Hi”, “How are you” or even just a wink is absolutely fine. I respond to both and hopefully the conversation will become more meaningful. In fact I’m more likely to respond positively to a casual Hi than someone who opens with “Do you want a fuck” which is more likely to turn me off. The conversation itself tell me so much about a guy and whether I want to meet them or not.

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By *ootsloverTV/TS
6 days ago

Tetbury

Hi is fine, no problem but start to chat after that or it becomes one way.

It's not a deal breaker for me

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By *yzantineMan
6 days ago

Offshore now, ignore pistcode

I find an opening comment like ‘fancy a fuck?’ Or ‘meet me now’ too blunt and pushy. I didn’t realise how contentious meeting people could be until I read this thread. So many made up rules!

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By *ichey6Man
6 days ago

aberdeen

The immortal words of a woman called Shania spring to mind...

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By *erts1Man
6 days ago

Welwyn

If I get a "Hi" message, I read the persons person's profile. If we have things in common I will reply with something like "Good morning, thank you for your message" and go on to describe myself and interests a bit.

If when I've read the profile we obviously don't have anything in common, I assume (rightly or wrongly) they haven't read mind I will ignore it. If I get repeated "Hi" messages from the ones I ignored in the first place, I will block!

This filters out the ones not sending "Hi" as not necessarily lazy but those too lazy to read my profile.

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By *iggreenockMan
6 days ago

Greenock

Because it's a stupid message to send. Hi, no bye!

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By *etstalkMan
6 days ago

Liverpool

"Because the messages usually go

Yea, you said that already

*offline*"

Exactly this 🙈🙈🙈😂😂😂

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By *etstalkMan
6 days ago

Liverpool

Generally one word messages I tend to ignore.

Put some effort in!

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By *iscreetly100Man
6 days ago

lancashire

If someone starts with a hi I usually reply with a hi...

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By *ig3Man
6 days ago

Maldon

Same as

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By *athyCDTV/TS
6 days ago

morpeth

I can't be arsed with one word/line messages. I state in my profile I won't respond, therefore I assume they either haven't read my profile,or are too thick to comprehend

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By *ichey6Man
6 days ago

aberdeen

Hi Time Magazine

Hi Pulitzer Prize

I like that

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
6 days ago

Bedford

A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,(Confucius)and a conversation likewise with a single word ,Hi is fine x

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By *usan 749ukTV/TS
6 days ago

Bangor

I try and reply to all my messages, you never know who you meet

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By *ensualblokeMan
6 days ago

Colchester /London

"I can't be arsed with one word/line messages. I state in my profile I won't respond, therefore I assume they either haven't read my profile,or are too thick to comprehend "

Pretty much the same as this to be honest- I say in my profile that I won't respond to these lazy openers, and then continuing to do so anyway suggests to me you haven't read the profile properly; and if you are lazy about that, it implies you may be lazy in other areas- or just sitting there wanking with no intention to meet. On the few occasions I have responded to it- or indeed the equally hideous 'HowsU' - it's always been someone who just wants wank-fodder style chat and disappears after they have cum.

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By *tar33Man
6 days ago

North London (outer)

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..." "

Exactly, and it's an indication towards towards how much effort the other party might put in. I've responded to 'hi' previously, only to be answered with another one word response.

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By *tar33Man
6 days ago

North London (outer)

"It's not difficult to type: "Hi, I like your profile, I also enjoy doing..."

No. Not difficult. But pointless if it is going to be ignored."

You don't get it, it's more than likely the whole reason it's being ignored.

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By *iwmwpg1Man
6 days ago

Kidwelly

The first line on my profile says -

"I block everyone sending a message that only says "Hi" or the equivalent; lazy in the interview, lazy on the job."

So when I get a "Hi", "Hey" message, especially from a blank profile, I know that they have not read even 1 line of my profile or they couldn't care less what I said. Why would I bother with them?

Block..... LOL

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By *ichard 30Man
6 days ago

Sheffield

I’ve noticed that the majority of men who write hi on their profile. They have blank profiles. If you write hi back. They seem to write hi again. Or how r u.

They don’t have to tell me anything or much. But hi is as pointless as a wink.

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By *iwmwpg1Man
6 days ago

Kidwelly

"Perhaps the question is better expressed not so much as “What's wrong with just 'hi'?” as “What could be better than just ‘hi’?”

Compare and contrast:-

Commentary:

B] “hi”

Commentary:

1. My heart sinks. Genuinely. It’s a totally passive way to initiate something. You’re already expecting the person you’ve contacted to have to find out why you’re contacting them!

4. That is why some people default to saying they will not bother to reply to one word messages or ‘hi’ etc. They have enough experience of 1, 2, 3 above.

Superb analysis! You would receive a prompt, courteous reply, regardless of the outcome....

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By *hy-GuyMan
6 days ago

Glossop

If I'm not really interested I just respond 'Hi' back when someone says 'Hi'.

If I am interested, you would get more 😊

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By *mbatmanMan
6 days ago

west end, southampton

"Perhaps the question is better expressed not so much as “What's wrong with just 'hi'?” as “What could be better than just ‘hi’?”

Compare and contrast:-

Commentary:

B] “hi”

Commentary:

1. My heart sinks. Genuinely. It’s a totally passive way to initiate something. You’re already expecting the person you’ve contacted to have to find out why you’re contacting them!

4. That is why some people default to saying they will not bother to reply to one word messages or ‘hi’ etc. They have enough experience of 1, 2, 3 above.

Id prefer just a “hi” than that message haha. We are all different

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By *roadstairs funMan
6 days ago

Broadstairs

As someone who can be a bit shy I much prefer hi to start off with and let a conversation flow naturally. I feel if an opening message is too bold it can be a turn off. Obviously some conversation's never go far but that's part of the fab fun

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By *airFetishMan
6 days ago

Maldon

"Some guys on here say they delete messages with just 'hi' in them.

Why?

It's an ice-breaker. You don't want to go to the trouble of writing a long message if it is just to be ignored!

Also, you wouldn't go up to a stranger in a bar and let them know in detail what you're after. You would start with an ice-breaker. Like 'hi'..."

But a conversation in a bar would not go:

(One day of silence)

It would be more like:

I like your jacket / did I see you here last week? / I like the way you look / Can I get you a drink?

But often the online exchange is the usual tired ping pong of pointless words. Not always though as it always depends on the other man.

Writing “Hi, I like your profile” is no more effort than writing “Hi” and if that’s too much then I wouldn’t want a chat.

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By *i-lifeMan
6 days ago

Kempston

If I’m in a feeling generous (I am most days) I’ll reply to “Hi” with “Hi”. That’s courtesy. Typically, I think a message just saying “Hi” is no more useful than a wink. I might view the profile and if of interest reply.

Tell me a bit more about yourself, what you’re after, when, and why you’re reaching out to me. That always gets a reply. It also moves the conversation forward quickly.

I did have one guy local to me who would, sometimes within hours, send me the exact same copy and paste message he would send to everyone, everywhere, all the time.

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By *teelballsMan
6 days ago

central london

Nothing wrong with “hi” in my opinion; other than when i “hi” back i never hear from them again.

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By *incumbriaTV/TS
6 days ago

Cockermouth

"Some guys on here say they delete messages with just 'hi' in them.

Why?

It's an ice-breaker. You don't want to go to the trouble of writing a long message if it is just to be ignored!

Also, you wouldn't go up to a stranger in a bar and let them know in detail what you're after. You would start with an ice-breaker. Like 'hi'...

But a conversation in a bar would not go:

(One day of silence)

It would be more like:

I like your jacket / did I see you here last week? / I like the way you look / Can I get you a drink?

But often the online exchange is the usual tired ping pong of pointless words. Not always though as it always depends on the other man.

Writing “Hi, I like your profile” is no more effort than writing “Hi” and if that’s too much then I wouldn’t want a chat. "

Totally agree ...

A simple 'Hi' signals

a) you have not read anything about me so don't know what to say,

b) it is one of dozens you have chucked out today/this moment

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By *ull bi for funMan
6 days ago

hull

If someone messages me with a one word "Hello"

I reply back and say, is it me your looking for.

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By *0yguyMan
6 days ago

Cumberland

I have no problem with “hi”. It’s an icebreaker and, just like in a pub, sometimes I’ll engage, other times I won’t.

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By *lackbootzMan
6 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"I find an opening comment like ‘fancy a fuck?’ Or ‘meet me now’ too blunt and pushy. I didn’t realise how contentious meeting people could be until I read this thread. So many made up rules!

You see I don’t have a problem with a pushy opening that at least suggests they know what they want.

“Fancy a fuck?” - would likely get a “Always. But with whom? Let’s see your pictures and know more” type response. It scores a 3 or 4. It suggests a bit of up-for-it attitude. From a younger lad I can find that spunkiness quite beguiling.

But “hi”. It scores zero. It gives me ZERO to work with. Feeble. Inane.

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By *lackbootzMan
6 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"The immortal words of a woman called Shania spring to mind...

What - “Man… I feel like a woman”..?!

Richey! What haven’t you been telling us….

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By *ighthole69Man
6 days ago

SPALDING

Its lazy, in my experience, Hi is followed by: wot u up to. Block.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
6 days ago

Bedford

Ive had a fuck bud for over 15 years, half my age black fit and it started with Hi dont look at the title try reading the book xx

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By (user no longer on site)
6 days ago

I'm sure that some of them cut and paste a "hi" if they're sending out multiple messages.

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By *ondomhunterMan
6 days ago

hastings

I font mind a message thstvsays 'hi' but I want the conversation you move on when I respond

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By *lackbootzMan
6 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"I'm sure that some of them cut and paste a "hi" if they're sending out multiple messages.

That’s genuinely made me hoot! 🤣

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By *inkycokMan
6 days ago

Walkden

Hi....

Boring lol I'd prefer get your knickers off I wanna fuck

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By *im le2Man
5 days ago

aylestone leic

After 20 messages a day saying just "HI" them you look at a blank profile. It's quicker to just delete.

Winks and fabbing pictures are a good way to get my attention I will definitely look at your profile And if interested I'll message you with more than just one word.

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By *punkybumMan
5 days ago

leeds

It’s just lazy and all it shows me is that the sender hasn’t read my profile

Remembering when I was younger and thirsty and used to answer all messages those ones rarely went anywhere, they were as pointless as the games of wink tennis I used to have

It’s a shit ice breaker tbf it’s just an innocuous word with little meaning or room to expand the conversation other than parroting the same back

If someone I don’t know says it to me in the wild they get a polite smile and nod or eye nod or “you alright” at most if I think I might want to talk to them

If their response was an equally monosyllabic “yeah” I just respond with “sound” and walk on

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By *ishman62Man
5 days ago

Crewe

Yes very true I never thought of it like that, very good point

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By *ornybisubslutMan
5 days ago

Coventry

If I get a hi message I respond with the same if it continues in merry go round or hi, it does happen, I stop messaging. Often though they will build up once I’ve responded.

I’ve had some great meets that started with a hi message.

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By *opcock58Man
5 days ago

Helston

If they have bothered to read my profile they will see I gave already replied to their "hi" but very few do and there lays the problem. The fact they have sent a "hi" message just demonstrates they haven't read it.

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By *i-inexperienceMan
5 days ago

Manchester

Treat it as a red flag.

People who are offended by people only saying hi are people to avoid. If somebody is demanding and needy BEFORE meeting, what is it going to be like AFTER meeting them?

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By *askia.TV/TS
5 days ago

Huddersfield

I think some people just want to test the water with a “Hi” to see if I am willing to exchange messages so I usually reply ( I might miss some occasionally ), sometimes I never hear from them again…..and sometimes it can result in a nice exchange of messages, occasionally even a meet.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
5 days ago

Bristol East

"Treat it as a red flag.

People who are offended by people only saying hi are people to avoid. If somebody is demanding and needy BEFORE meeting, what is it going to be like AFTER meeting them?"

I agree with this.

If someone makes the effort to reach out to you, using the widely used introductory term, and somehow it causes you offence, then take that broomstick out of your arse.

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By *punkybumMan
5 days ago

leeds

🤣effort

Its the most basic thing you can say

Don’t be basic is that too much to ask honestly

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By *lackbootzMan
5 days ago

Hayes, Middx

" … If someone makes the effort to reach out to you…

We’ll have to agree to disagree on sending out a pointless “hi” message as “making an effort” and “reaching out to you”… To me that’s exactly what it is NOT doing. It makes no effort and provides no attempt to try to reach out.

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By *hedebaucheeMan
5 days ago

Carlisle

"Some guys on here say they delete messages with just 'hi' in them.

Why?

It's an ice-breaker. You don't want to go to the trouble of writing a long message if it is just to be ignored!

Also, you wouldn't go up to a stranger in a bar and let them know in detail what you're after. You would start with an ice-breaker. Like 'hi'..."

Nothing wrong with hi, so long as you don’t feel you are owed a reply.

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By *punkybumMan
5 days ago

leeds

"Treat it as a red flag"

I do then press delete

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By *urriousBiMan
5 days ago

SE London

Just simple “hi” is no effort. Especially if that hi comes from empty profiles, profiles with no or friend only pics, profile that doesn’t match my preferences (e.g. I don’t do oral only meets but someone who use oral as position), hi from other Tops etc.

The only Hi I would potentially reply to would be sent from profile with face pic, matching my preferences in sex and decent bio. I am happy to acknowledge the effort put into profile. But my reply wouldn’t be just Hi though.

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By *oeshmoMan
5 days ago

bridgend

Not offended by “hi” I will reply but usually with “hi” back to them only to be returned with a “you ok” which gets my “yes fine “ and then comes the “what you into” which gets my “all on profile “ then their off line never to be heard from again usually got a blank profile or the “will fill in later”

If I get a “hi nice profile “ that’s a different story that gets a decent response and a decent reply which can usually lead to a meet

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 days ago

Falkirk

"Treat it as a red flag.

People who are offended by people only saying hi are people to avoid. If somebody is demanding and needy BEFORE meeting, what is it going to be like AFTER meeting them?"

EXCELLENT, though inaccurate, approach: I'd be grateful if those who think it's "demanding and needy" to ignore "Hi/hi" messages end up avoiding my profile altogether 🙏👍

BTW; not offended, just indifferent, usually, but not always, depending on mood/time of day, battery level, … 😴 🫥

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By *punkybumMan
5 days ago

leeds

☝️this guy gets it

How can you take offence to something that means nothing to you

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
5 days ago

Heathrow

Ice breaker

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By *orestguywantsbjMan
5 days ago

Ross on Wye

You don't owe anybody a reply to a message.

Doesn't bother me if I don't get a reply to a message I have sent.

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By *ighthole69Man
5 days ago

SPALDING

Its still lazy. 🙁

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By *arrheadguyMan
5 days ago

barrhead

I will reply to "hi" with one, maybe two, sentences. If they then reply with two or three words I will stop responding. It's been my experience that this type of conversation goes nowhere.

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By *ussexDadMan
5 days ago

Bexhill

I've replied tohimany times. Sometimes you get nothing back, other times it leads onto a good convo. But it just means I need to make a bit of effort. I'd rather to reply to hi if someone has read my profile than reply to a long message and they haven't.

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By *urriousBiMan
4 days ago

SE London

"Treat it as a red flag.

People who are offended by people only saying hi are people to avoid. If somebody is demanding and needy BEFORE meeting, what is it going to be like AFTER meeting them?"

I am not offended in slightest by those sending just hi. I am indifferent to such messages. If it comes from profile without a pic I’ll delete without looking into profile.

Red flag are these who expect and demand reply from a stranger to a meaningless message.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
4 days ago

Motherwell

Someone saying hi is fine with me. The funny ones I get sometimes are the repeat hi guys. It goes like this

DM : Hi

Me : Hi huni mm Mx

Five or ten minutes later..

DM : Hi

Me : We did that bit. Mx

No further messages from that person.

Happens at least 3 times a month, sometimes more on fabswingers.

So I surmise they have changed their mind.

They came prematurely.

They are too shy to talk to me.

They already got a pull and are arranging sex with them.

Fab life in full flow.

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By *opguy11Man
4 days ago

frodsham

I reply all the time

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By *ettightsTV/TS
4 days ago

Radcliffe

If some says hi to me, I look at thier profile.

If they are miles away, can't accommodate, been on for 12 months and no verifications, been on over 12 months and no pictures.

I just delete message and usually block them. It saves a lot of wasted time

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By *lackbootzMan
4 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,(Confucius)and a conversation likewise with a single word ,Hi is fine x"

Confucius never got to spend much time on FabGuys. If he had, I think even his patient harmony would have been quite strained.

And furthermore Confucianism is supposed to be founded on the notion of properly observed rituals and properly observed social etiquette being the mechanisms to maintain order and demonstrate your respect to your peers. Confucius would have thought an anonymous, impersonal, anodyne “hi” message very poor etiquette.

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By *0yguyMan
4 days ago

Cumberland

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,(Confucius)and a conversation likewise with a single word ,Hi is fine x

Confucius never got to spend much time on FabGuys. If he had, I think even his patient harmony would have been quite strained.

Wow! Impressive. I never would have believed I would see a lecture on Confucianism on a gay hook up site. Genuinely surprised.

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By *lackbootzMan
4 days ago

Hayes, Middx

" … Wow! Impressive. I never would have believed I would see a lecture on Confucianism on a gay hook up site. Genuinely surprised… "

Oh, we’re a motley crew in the Forum… from fashion tips to philosophical tropes… political commentary from left and right…

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By *umlover71Man
4 days ago

Lowestoft

It’s bearable I suppose, unlike those that go “Yo” “up” or text speak messages.

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By *amelaXTV/TS
4 days ago

Swindon

A simple "Hi" can often lead to much, much more

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
4 days ago

Bedford

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,(Confucius)and a conversation likewise with a single word ,Hi is fine x

Confucius never got to spend much time on FabGuys. If he had, I think even his patient harmony would have been quite strained.

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By *etterbiggerMan
4 days ago

Scunthorpe

I've had a few heys in a row from the same guy who I don't fancy meeting that much. He's ok but not at the top of the list. I eventually messaged him back saying I'm abroad atm. Which is true. I'm back on the 16th. 2 more heys. Again I'm abroad. Not back until the 16th. Probably won't be able to meet anyone until after Easter. I bet I get a hey on Tuesday next week. I'm hovering over the. Block button. I feel stalked one word at a time

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By *AA 43Man
4 days ago

EDINBURGH

If someone says hi to me and I don't like their profile I'll often reply saying lo. Seems to puzzle them into silence.

If I do like their profile then I'll reply with something a bit more exspansive. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
4 days ago

Bristol East

I'm less likely to reply to an opening message that feels like a cut-and-paste sent to 100 people in the hope one might take the bait.

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By *astDevonGuyMan
4 days ago

East Devon

I prefer “ Hello”

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By *lackbootzMan
4 days ago

Hayes, Middx

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step,(Confucius)and a conversation likewise with a single word ,Hi is fine x

Confucius never got to spend much time on FabGuys. If he had, I think even his patient harmony would have been quite strained.

did he tell you that ?or is that your assumption, as I fail to see how you could possibly know what he would say. "

Yes, Confucius and I chat all the time.

You wouldn’t want to get him on to the subject of trans issues however. Disharmonious and disturbing of the patriarchy.

The only third sex he understands is eunuchism.

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By *assoMan
4 days ago

cumbernauld

I’ll guess everyone on here has been “let down” on meets

Reality is it’s a largely anonymous site and there will be some folk not really want to meet

I’ve let guys down cos I can’t accom and sometimes family emergencies happen

We can be “Wuerns” at times

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By *assoMan
4 days ago

cumbernauld

Oops I meant queens

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By *eryCuriousGuyMan
4 days ago

Tidworth

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By *opcock58Man
4 days ago

Helston

Appart from "hi" messages if its obvious the sender hasn't read my profile then I don't reply and delete, repeat offenders get blocked. Got better things to do!

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By *ongbluMan
1 day ago

About

"Hi"

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By *Aguy2022Man
1 day ago

Littlehampton

As much as I think you could say just more than " hi " for your opening lines, it is still better than the " I'm horny" statement.

" Hi" gets a hi back and then we see what sort of communication level we are looking at.

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By *ip71Man
1 day ago

Darlington

Hi all

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By *ddie197Man
1 day ago

Preston

In my experience, messages that are just 'hi' never lead to a meeting. Messages like 'hi I would like to meet you, when are you available?' do sometimes lead to meetings.

I think some people are on here to meet and have sex, and some are on here to just get off on exchanging messages.

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By *atexlover50Man
1 day ago

Barton upon humber

Hi is a simple way to get someone's attention. That person will take a loom at your profile to see if he likes you. The rest follows suit.

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By *arrogateDadMan
1 day ago

Harrogate

"Hi is a simple way to get someone's attention. That person will take a loom at your profile to see if he likes you. The rest follows suit. "

Sometimes ….

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By *estafellaMan
1 day ago

Leicester

Who would have thought that a little word like "hi" could, in some cases, be loaded with so much meaning! It makes me fear for my life when I go out in the day!

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By *en ToverMan
1 day ago

Telford

Just for the record, I’m ‘hi’ friendly

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By *izXXXMan
1 day ago

Calcot

If 'Hi' comes from profile with no pics, no reply.

Other than that, if I like what I see, I will say 'Hi' as well, so the effort is on his side again.

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By *bonybucksMan
1 day ago

High Wycombe

Nothing wrong with a ‘hi’ it’s a start

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By *estlondonguyMan
1 day ago

Hammersmith

I always take “hi” to mean “I’m interested in your profile” and like to respond - even if it’s a polite “no”

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By *oodpeckerMan
1 day ago

Falkirk

"Who would have thought that a little word like "hi" could, in some cases, be loaded with so much meaning! It makes me fear for my life when I go out in the day!"

Don't go out in the day: stay in and compile the first Fabguys Dicktionary?

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By *ldderMan
1 day ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks

Nothing wrong with Hi

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By *tar33Man
23 hours ago

North London (outer)

"Nothing wrong with a ‘hi’ it’s a start "

You only get one chance to make a first impression, and sending one word consisting of two letters isn't likely to create a good one.

Surely it's a chance to sell yourself, and/or offer a praiseworthy comment to the recipient. Just saying 'hi' indicates that you can't be bothered to make even the smallest effort.

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By *ornybisubslutMan
23 hours ago

Coventry

I will respond to hi messages generally with the same. I find it annoying when they then just say hi again.

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By *ttmblkMan
23 hours ago

West Midlands

Hi is ok for me. Seen as an ice breaker if the person isn't confident. I'll reply to hi but if one word dialogue keeps happening then something is not connecting.

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By *oggy-69TV/TS
13 hours ago

Gainsborough

There's nothing wrong with "hi" or "hey" but if you get you receive it time after time then it can get tedious.

When someone sends a message with more than one word it stands out and can be easier to start a conversation

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By *ray_UKMan
13 hours ago

Somewhere in DY

Because it's just fucking lazy and unimaginative....that's why I delete them.

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By *ubguyinbriefsMan
13 hours ago

glasnevin

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By *ubguyinbriefsMan
13 hours ago

glasnevin

What's the harm in saying "Hi"

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By *igerwaMan
13 hours ago

Cockermouth

I don’t mind tbh it shows an interest in communication I prefer it to a 4 paragraph messsge from someone I am not remotely interested in

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By *ojanglesMan
13 hours ago

mk41

Hi lol

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By (user no longer on site)
13 hours ago

The first time is okay and gets a reply, some then repeat the hi message a week or more later?

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By *lim_sportyMan
13 hours ago

stevenage

Noticed most who seem to be a fan of hi's can't accomm and have no verifications.

Enforces reason I ignore them.

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By *ightswimmer2090Man
13 hours ago

Basildon/London

I don't mind "Hi" as an opening message, it's when I respond with something like "Hi, how's it going?" and their response is "ok" - that's when I tap out.

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By *lim_sportyMan
13 hours ago

stevenage

"I don't mind "Hi" as an opening message, it's when I respond with something like "Hi, how's it going?" and their response is "ok" - that's when I tap out. "

Lol. A hi followed by a hi how's it going. Amazing.

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