FabGuys.com forum: Is it wrong to be married and have gay sex

By *homas888 OP Man
2 days ago

newcastle

I can't stop having it xxx

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By *amelaXTV/TS
2 days ago

Swindon

I love married men xx

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By *lex46TV/TS
2 days ago

Wells

It’s not for me to say but a lot of people do it, rightly or wrongly.

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By *evanianMan
2 days ago

Tegeingl, Gogledd Cymru

"Is it wrong to be married and have gay sex?"

I guess by posing the question you think that it may well be wrong, but it's for your own conscience to decide and if there is a guilt factor involved can you cope with it?

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
2 days ago

Bristol East

It's not wrong to be married and it's not wrong to have a gay sex?

Can you have both?

It's a question only you can answer.

The fact you are asking suggests you have doubts.

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By *nalAngelTV/TS
2 days ago

Droitwich, WORCS

All I will say, is ask your wife and see what she says

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
2 days ago

Bedford

I'm married and have gay sex infact its the only form of penetrative sex I do have is it wrong dunno don't care I enjoy it lifesto short to be otherwise just my pov x

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By *ustOneBearMan
2 days ago

Neath

Lots of married men have gay sex. With their husbands as well as others.

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By *adellaMan
2 days ago

Etwall Derby

Basically it's wrong to have any type of sex outside your marriage .If you want do it just susk it up and live with it.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
2 days ago

Bedford

What is gay sex anyway my wife took it up the bum does that make her gay? X

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By *atth86Man
2 days ago

Its wrong if youre partner is unaware its happening. If you do it and they dont know, you do it knowing its not ok and live with the consequences

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By *ais1Man
2 days ago

Renfrewshire

If it's behind your wife's back then I would say... yes.

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By *ubmanMan
2 days ago

Dublin 24

My wife gave up all forms of sex and gave me her blessing to find a woman to have sex with.The thing is,i was already having sex with men and i told her id never sleep with another woman.She doesnt know about the men,or this lifestyle.Question is ,am i going straight to hell?.And is anal sex easier there?

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By *ngelic69Man
2 days ago

Southmpton

It doesnt worry or concerns me. I love having sex with men. She doesn't know, so whats the problem!

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By *eefandfurMan
2 days ago

Edinburgh

Does your wife serve tea and biscuits after you and your gay lovers are done?

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By *oggy-69TV/TS
2 days ago

Gainsborough

"Basically it's wrong to have any type of sex outside your marriage .If you want do it just susk it up and live with it."

Please tell me why it's wrong.

I'm very happily married, have a great sex life with my wife and we have a mutually agreed open relationship. We both have sexual partners outside of the marriage and we both know about them.

How is this wrong?

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By *orthfieldsnickMan
2 days ago

West London

It’s not ideal is it, but lots of us do it anyway, it’s just one of those things

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By *ubslut42Man
2 days ago

Maidstone

I'm married but wife knows I serve men. She excepts it and has a good life off the back of me being what I am.

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By *ames canMan
2 days ago

monaghan

"I can't stop having it xxx

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...it is if you're a Catholic...otherwise....carry on...

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By *al6OMan
2 days ago

hornchurch

It’s a dilemma I’ve come to terms with , to me it’s sex no connection or commitment.

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By *ogwhammerMan
2 days ago

Rainham KENT

I don’t think so but my wife would agree

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By *bbillMan
2 days ago

Aberdeen

Are you gay is my question

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By *jh59Man
2 days ago

Hinckley

I’m married, but still I’ve sex with guys

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By *aohiaochiaokengMan
2 days ago

Ireland

No it is not wrong.

It is the right thing to do if it is what you wanted.

But it is only fair to let your wife or partner know and if she or he agrees - this is what I will do.

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By *i_guy_WBayMan
2 days ago

Whitley Bay

What you do and how you justify it is ultimately up to you. In the end of the day you are the one that has to live with the fallout if your partner discovers you are having an illicit affair behind their back.

For me, I am married but my wife and I have a non monogamous relationship that was agreed long before we were married. We have a great sex life and clear communication. She knows every time I see someone else and I know when she sees someone else.

I am not going to judge anyone else for their decisions, in the end of the day they have to live with their decisions, while I would prefer that everyone was as open as my wife and I are I am realistic enough to know that this is rarely the case.

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By *lim_sportyMan
2 days ago

stevenage

"Its wrong if youre partner is unaware its happening. If you do it and they dont know, you do it knowing its not ok and live with the consequences "

Agree. And strangely the original OP didn't say whether his partner knew, while asking the question. I wonder why, as that was the important bit!

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By *arkinSuffolkMan
2 days ago

Lowestoft

It's wrong to cheat on your partner regardless if its straight or gay sex. Why not openly discuss your feelings with them ?

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By *obbie hiwayMan
2 days ago

CHELMSFORD

Ive had BJ's from a number of women and I can tell you the worst BJ I had from a guy was still better than the best I've had from any female. Women don't suck cock because of a sexual need, unlike men. Men want to and need to taste and feel a guy in their mouths, and hopefully experience the taste of his cum. Woman do it because they think it makes them sexier and more attractive to men.

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By *lim_sportyMan
2 days ago

stevenage

"Ive had BJ's from a number of women and I can tell you the worst BJ I had from a guy was still better than the best I've had from any female. Women don't suck cock because of a sexual need, unlike men. Men want to and need to taste and feel a guy in their mouths, and hopefully experience the taste of his cum. Woman do it because they think it makes them sexier and more attractive to men."

Not sure any of that relates to the OP!

But regardless of that, do you share what you have said here with your wife?

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By *anmannersMan
2 days ago

It's only wrong depending which 'bible' you believe.

You have only one life. It's up to you to decide and no one should tell you if it's right or wrong

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By *opActiveMan
2 days ago

London

Life is too short and too unpredictable and too unreliable to worry about. Is it alright or is it wrong to have a bit of fun? But you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else?

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By *oodpeckerMan
2 days ago

Falkirk

"My wife gave up all forms of sex and gave me her blessing to find a woman to have sex with.The thing is,i was already having sex with men and i told her id never sleep with another woman.She doesnt know about the men,or this lifestyle.Question is ,am i going straight to hell?.And is anal sex easier there?"

I should imagine that anal sex would be more difficult: the heat would quickly dry up the lube 🤔😈

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
1 day ago

Motherwell

Well hung married guys are my jam mm Mx 😹

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By *oleWorshipMan
1 day ago

Braintree

Married here and have mixed feelings but really enjoy taking a cock

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By *ature gay dadMan
1 day ago

blackhall

No if it was mist of the guysin the country would be guilty

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By *hippy507Man
1 day ago

CHELMSFORD

Married 3 times ,always had bi sex

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By *ookingFor...Man
1 day ago

West Sussex

"I can't stop having it xxx

If you're married to a man, it's probably quite normal.

If you're married to a woman, maybe ask her what she thinks?

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By *amsoonMan
1 day ago

stornoway

My wife has a regular lover and always encourages me to meet other men

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By *yzantineMan
1 day ago

Offshore now, ignore pistcode

You’re seeking moral guidance in a place like this?!

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By *arrogateDadMan
1 day ago

Harrogate

Who’s to decide Right or Wrong ? - probably only you get to make the call as you have all the relevant information.

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By *irralGuy20Man
1 day ago

Wirral

I think if you're married and having sex with men and your other half doesn't know then it's more likely feelings of guilt can come soon afterward.

I'm VERY LUCKY in that I have a very supportive wife who encourages me to explore my sexuality (up to a point) so I never have that feeling of regret afterwards that some do.

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By *d sometimesTV/TS
1 day ago

Melton Mowbray

The sauna seems to have quite a few married men,they are there for pleasure as is everyone else. I don't judge, especially if they have a lovely hard cock. Lol.x

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By *hil96Man
1 day ago

Portsmouth

It is very wrong. But oh so addictive. When a guy is knocking at my back door, the only thing I can do, is push back... xx

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By *iExCuckMan
1 day ago

Lowestoft

The Ex wife and I knew what our sexual desires were before we got married. Had 37 years of watching each other with other men.

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By *teve8888TV/TS
1 day ago

No, not in the slightest..

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By *iExCuckMan
1 day ago

Lowestoft

Wrong but nice

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By *lutttyChristineTV/TS
1 day ago

Walsall

The Church would like us to believe that. But I’m not religious so no!!!!

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By *optobottomrctMan
1 day ago

Penygraig

I don't see any conflict myself. You only live once so enjoy the things that you get pleasure from. Probably the concept of monogamous marriage is the thing thst "wrong".

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By *q oralistMan
1 day ago

Torquay

There is straight, gay, and bi sexual. The dilemma raised here is mostly one for bi sexual men who love their woman and their family life but have to address the other side of their sexuality. It is not easy

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By *uffolkman22Man
1 day ago

lavenham

I personally think guys are less complicated about sex and often admit to their suppressed bi sexuality and the need to be wanted sexually

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By *azaMan
1 day ago

Walsall

Let's face it it's wrong to be unfaithful I do feel it's wrong to have any sex with a woman or a guy but unfortunately I can't help myself I didn't discover my bi side till late in life and I wouldn't want my wife to find out

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By *etterbiggerMan
1 day ago

Scunthorpe

I'm married and have gay sex. I'm married to a man. The sex isn't always with my husband though

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By *assionate BIMan
1 day ago

Exmouth

I waited until I was divorced and free

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By *SAOFMan
1 day ago

That there London, mostly

Married men need to have gay sex more I’d say. If they stopped I would be down to two shags a week! Perish that thought!

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By *yespy57Man
1 day ago

Hull

Yes. IT IS wrong.

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By *utSouthenderMan
1 day ago

Southend-on-Sea

To be honest mate it's your body no one can tell you what to do just because you're married they don't own you if you like playing around with guys it's your choice.

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By *ishman62Man
1 day ago

Crewe

I’m not married but I enjoy sucking a nice cock and being fucked , but I’m not gay mmm

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By *VLIZTV/TS
1 day ago

warrington / anglesey

When I dress fem for a meet I become a different person ( Liz) so in my mind it's not me who,s cheating,and so I have no guilty feeling,..hope that makes sense,

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By *terag5581Man
1 day ago

Dunfermline

If a guy is still having sex with his wife, then he is taking a risk having gay sex.

However, in a sexless marriage. Then shouldn't be an issue

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By *ardforall56Man
1 day ago

belfast

Bit late now to be thinking about it.Its been happening since the dawn of time.its just a lifestyle choice.I know a guy married with four kids.He just loves to be on his knees worshiping a good cock.That just life he can live with it.

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By *om9Man
1 day ago

Saint Helens

I don't feel guilty because ultimately when we die we only answer to our selves did we live our best life

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By *en22Man
1 day ago

renfrew

The easiest answer is to ask your spouse.

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By *oodpeckerMan
1 day ago

Falkirk

"It’s not for me to say but a lot of people do it, rightly or wrongly."

There’s no right or wrong. It's wrong, since marriage vows are being ignored/broken?

Of course, human beings regularly indulge in wrongdoing and make all sorts of excuses for their errant behaviour

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By *ildwestheroMan
1 day ago

Llandrindod Wells

If you are married to another man then of course it is fine. Married to a woman? Better if she knows and agrees to it rather than sneaking behind her back, breaking your marriage vows and deceiving her

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By *ikkikentTV/TS
1 day ago

Westgate

My gf is fully aware and fine with me having sex with guys. Has watched once too. Me having sex with other women is a no no though

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
1 day ago

Bristol East

"When I dress fem for a meet I become a different person ( Liz) so in my mind it's not me who,s cheating,and so I have no guilty feeling,..hope that makes sense, "

changing your clothes doesn't change who you are

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By *oodpeckerMan
1 day ago

Falkirk

"If you are married to another man then of course it is fine. Married to a woman? Better if she knows and agrees to it rather than sneaking behind her back, breaking your marriage vows and deceiving her"

It's somehow OK to ignore vows/commitment if you're a man?

I would think it's all about the vows, rather than sex?

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By *lastactionheroMan
1 day ago

Liverpool

Its wrong to cheat on your wife, but sex with men is so thrilling it can be worth the risk of being found out

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By *en22Man
1 day ago

renfrew

It's somehow OK to ignore vows/commitment if you're a man?

I would think it's all about the vows, rather than sex?"

Agreed. Despite the stereotype, there are plenty of monogamous gay couples.

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By *rMagicFingersMan
1 day ago

Bournemouth

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By *ndyfy7Man
1 day ago

Fleetwood

"It’s a dilemma I’ve come to terms with , to me it’s sex no connection or commitment."

If there’s no connection it’s going to be an uncomfortable meet I think

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By *punkybumMan
1 day ago

leeds

Lots of sociopaths in this thread

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By * G WellsMan
1 day ago

Hertford

I’d like my own man. Could be married. Maybe he’d dress to. But he’d like me dressed. I’d dress just how he wanted me to

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By *ellowbladeMan
1 day ago

Grantham

I hope not lol

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By *ngelic69Man
1 day ago

Southmpton

No.

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By *ulgeSlut008Man
1 day ago

near Barnstaple

Definitely not, fun with married guys is the best x

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By *lmparkgreenMan
1 day ago

Hornchurch

A lot of us are in trouble if it is.

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By *bonybucksMan
22 hours ago

High Wycombe

Yes it’s very wrong in my eyes!

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By *leets89Man
22 hours ago

Birmingham

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By *itchianMan
22 hours ago

Liverpool

Depends on circumstances. Better not to be too judgemental

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By *ike919Man
22 hours ago

Milton Keynes

U don't judge .. but, nobody fucks better or harder than a hole hungry married man!

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By *westMan
18 hours ago

Hull

I love sex with men, especially men who want sex with me because I"m married and who want me to forget my wife

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By *sh45Man
18 hours ago

dublin

No eveeyone has their likes can be bi etc

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By *ardforall56Man
17 hours ago

belfast

Not at all,but if it makes you feel guilt or unhappy,give one or the other up.

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By *treyu500Man
17 hours ago

Australia

"I don't feel guilty because ultimately when we die we only answer to our selves did we live our best life"

Exactly, life is short. Which is why I personally don't see the point in continuing a sexless or Loveless marriage/relationship.

It can be quite daunting to picture being out on your own again. But , people do it every day. The people in your life that you think will be affected badly , really are generally not. Your happiness matters too.

People choose that pathway everyday. There's support groups, counsellors and everything.

It's short term pain for long term gain. No judgement on those who think they can maintain the "have cake and eat it too" lifestyle. Good for you.

I'm just saying there's an alternative to the guilt and potential self loathing that some of us feel.

Is it right , is it wrong ?- it's your relationship and your unique set of circumstances. It's nobody else's business and at the end of the day - the people in your that you think care/judge about this stuff , generally don't give a flying fuck.

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By *arriedbiMan
13 hours ago

Aldershot

I married but now secretly gay X wrong or not I can't help way am

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By *ngel50TV/TS
13 hours ago

Kinross

"U don't judge .. but, nobody fucks better or harder than a hole hungry married man!

I'm the opposite, I'm married but don't want to fuck or be sucked.

I prefer to be the girl and suck the cocks of the men I'm with.

I often wish I was a girl, but I will do all a girl could do to sexually satisfy the man I'm with.

I love the feelings of being effeminate, submissive and often love to be humiliated too

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By *ewrykinkMan
11 hours ago

newry

The only thing wrong with it is I can't get enough gay sex.

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By *otley24Man
10 hours ago

burton upon trent

Let's be honest there are lots and lots of guys on here doing it.

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By *ickwayverMan
10 hours ago

Sheen Putney

I don't judge one way or the other

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
10 hours ago

hot wife

Not at all me and my wifey are allways having sex with others

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
10 hours ago

hot wife

What is wrong is not being open about it like I've told her I'm going out today for fun and sex

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By *rishTedMan
10 hours ago

Manchester

You only have one life. Do the best you can!

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By *zaac CoxMan
10 hours ago

FOREST OF DEAN

Why should it be wrong for married men to engage in gay sex while presuming that straight sex with other "straight" people whilst married is acceptable ?

What opinions have other people on this issue ?

PS. In no way am I being judgemental but I'm just interested in other people's opinions.

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By *lue555Man
10 hours ago

harrow

Yes & no it’s wrong to cheat but lots of women are not having sex with there husbands so if they get it some where else the wife has to take some blame.

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By *oodpeckerMan
9 hours ago

Falkirk

"Why should it be wrong for married men to engage in gay sex while presuming that straight sex with other "straight" people whilst married is acceptable ?

What opinions have other people on this issue ?

PS. In no way am I being judgemental but I'm just interested in other people's opinions."

I don't think any posts have mentioned that 'heterosexual adultery' is OK and that 'homosexual adultery' is not?

No holes barred seems to be the general theme here amongst the oath breakers

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By *hubsloverMan
9 hours ago

East/west sussex

Marriage is the theatre of the church and mosque and other religions . labels are also engineered by them . Imagine the world without religion , labels such as gay straight bi , wouldn’t be much easier for all of us.?? wtf does sin mean especially if you don’t harm anyone, why not ? If you feel guilty then try to find out a way to come out to your partner if possible . I would Go to gum clinic get advice how to do sex safely, no one judge you over there and no one asks you for your real name or Address all lovely friendly people working there , no one knows why you are there.. many married guys with wives going there to check themselves , or you can tell you went there for hiv test . No one business tbh , they would love you to go there and get tested . Imagine zero hiv , less sti ‘s , 2030 is a target

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By *ature gay dadMan
9 hours ago

blackhall

In Egypt its encouraged for men to have sex with men prior to getting married,then when married it's illegal and punishable by death.

However the woman gets her criteria cut so that she gets no pleasure from the man.

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By *iltshireBiMan
8 hours ago

Chippenham

"Yes & no it’s wrong to cheat but lots of women are not having sex with there husbands so if they get it some where else the wife has to take some blame. "

How much of the blame exactly, 50%, 80%, 100%? Making the presumption that the wife is not getting sex elsewhere and just doesn't want to have sex, what justification is there for being unfaithful? Surely it's just selfish desire? Sex is not a need, it's grasping at pleasure, nothing more.

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By *ick cumMan
8 hours ago

Oldham

I car help it I love cock

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By *ood-guyMan
8 hours ago

wild, wild west

"You only have one life. Do the best you can! "

This, wise words but I’d add the caveat that you should ‘do the best you can, but avoid hurting anyone’.

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