FabGuys.com forum: AGE ? How to Choose age range for guys to have sex with?

By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

Just had a conversation with my friend . I got messaged by a guy aged 21 and my friends says he's too young and he would never meet anyone that young...

I never said I was going to meet this guys just that he looked good and had a nice cock. How do you guys choose an age range for guys you would have sex with?

Obviously they must be 18+ but how do you choose and do you ever feel guilty if they are younger than you or older than you?

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I have to add I had a bad experience with a guy on Grindr who was white but muslim. He was 22 and I was in my 40's. He was coming to meet me when i joked his family would hate it if they found out he was bi. the next thing hes across the road from me and he said he would call the police and tell everyone i groomed him.I was so scared and i had to delete the app..I eventually went back on and apologised to him but I have been reluctant to meet Younger guys after that.

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

All advice would be respected and I would be grateful for...

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

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By *ongw1960Man
3 weeks ago

Belvedere

Most of the guys in I've had sex with have been around my age group, that's not deliberate it's just happened that way, when it comes to sex I'm open to having sex with any man from the age of 18 upwards

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By *ustinaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

cardiff

Always chose men round about my age, sometimes 10-15 years younger. Having a 20-30 year old with a hot body doesn't do anything for me, it's not my thing. Ideally a young looking 60 year old with a decent size cock and a soft, gentle manner is usually enough to win me over.

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By *dambi00Man
3 weeks ago

Leicester

Experiment, meet guys around your age, guys older, and guys younger and see what you like and enjoy.

Nothing wrong with older men meeting younger guys (18+) if they’re both consenting adults

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By *addy7x6Man
3 weeks ago

High Wycombe

Age is largely irrelevant IMHO.

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By *excessMan
3 weeks ago

Sleaford

"Age is largely irrelevant IMHO. "

As with anything it's a personal thing.

Age is very relevant to me.

I'm not going near a 20 year old and tbh I would seriously have to consider anyone under 30!

The younger age gap just doesn't sit easily with me

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol East

I've developed a preference over time for younger tops, guys in their 20s and 30s.

It's a generalisation, of course, but they tend to be in better shape than older guys and fuck like their lives depend on it.

My new fella is 20 and giving me the best sex of my life.

OP - if you are going to "joke" about outing a young man from a religious family, please do not be surprised if the person does not get the "joke". You become a risk, a threat, in his eyes.

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

I aim for guys 30s or older. I am nobody's 'Daddy' and if any guy calls me that the meet is over. Older guys also tend to know what they want and are in less of a rush. Don't want to be just another notch in the bedpost

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By *tar33Man
3 weeks ago

North London (outer)

"Just had a conversation with my friend . I got messaged by a guy aged 21 and my friends says he's too young and he would never meet anyone that young...

I never said I was going to meet this guys just that he looked good and had a nice cock. How do you guys choose an age range for guys you would have sex with?

Obviously they must be 18+ but how do you choose and do you ever feel guilty if they are younger than you or older than you?

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Why did you apologise, and what for?

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By *ature gay dadMan
3 weeks ago

blackhall

As you found out young guys are temperamental, want it their way or no way a d cry if they did not like it

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By *tar33Man
3 weeks ago

North London (outer)

"I've developed a preference over time for younger tops, guys in their 20s and 30s.

It's a generalisation, of course, but they tend to be in better shape than older guys and fuck like their lives depend on it.

My new fella is 20 and giving me the best sex of my life.

OP - if you are going to "joke" about outing a young man from a religious family, please do not be surprised if the person does not get the "joke". You become a risk, a threat, in his eyes."

I didn't read any suggestion, implied or otherwise, that he would out the younger guy. The response was uncalled for.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol East

I imagine it is how the younger guy would have interpreted it, that this person twice his age is letting him know he has knowledge that could be extremely damaging to his stability.

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By *romsgrove1968Man
3 weeks ago

bromsgrove

I never into younger just don’t do anything for me . I love guys from around 45 onwards and guys around my age I totally love . The youngest I’ve ever done was 35

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol East

"I imagine it is how the younger guy would have interpreted it, that this person twice his age is letting him know he has knowledge that could be extremely damaging to his stability."

Hence, the young guy reciprocates, and creates his own piece of information that would be equally as damaging to the stability and wellbeing of the OP.

Mutually assured destruction.

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By *avenMan
3 weeks ago

Stoford

Youngest was 21 ,and I was 58,and oldest ,a few over 80.Its if you are right for each other.Sometimes I have met guys,and just didn't really gel.

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By *umlover71Man
3 weeks ago

Lowestoft

For me personally, I won’t meet anyone under the age of 40.

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By *raveheart1Man
3 weeks ago

Central Belt Area

I wouldn’t meet very young guys and prefer around my age or older even.

But not set in stone

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By *ustOneBearMan
3 weeks ago

Neath

I just don’t gel with younger men.

A young slim toned and hairless body has never been attractive to me.

I find most younger men who have contacted me on these sites think they can cajole you into sex. Which is worrying that they don’t see No means No. Thankfully this site has message filters.

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By *SAOFMan
3 weeks ago

That there London mostly.

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My thoughts on the OP’s issue with the young chap on Grindr mirror Sara’s. His mentioning of the guy’s family and what they would think if OP shared info with them could easily have been seen as a threat by the guy. His reaction may have appeared overboard to us but no one know what goes on inside a family and many deeply conservative Muslim gays - and many deeply conservative Christian gays - have worried about their own physical safety were their families to find out about their orientation.

It was a grown up adult move to apologise to the fella. Well done OP. It is not our mistakes that define us as men but our responses to them.

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By *SAOFMan
3 weeks ago

That there London mostly.

"Just had a conversation with my friend . I got messaged by a guy aged 21 and my friends says he's too young and he would never meet anyone that young...

I never said I was going to meet this guys just that he looked good and had a nice cock. How do you guys choose an age range for guys you would have sex with?

Obviously they must be 18+ but how do you choose and do you ever feel guilty if they are younger than you or older than you?"

In relation to the question at hand of age; there is no right or wrong answer. There is also an intent. One day in a sauna I - at about 38 - fucked a guy who was 21 and then fucked a 79 year old up from the West Country to have dinner with his regimental mates to celebrate his 80th the next week. I enjoyed having sex with both. I would not want a relationship with either.

I think the OP will have sexual attractions to an age range. Also he may have romantic attractions to another age range. For me these age ranges overlap but are not the same - my romantic range is my own age plus or minus 10 years as I want a common frame if cultural reference and no chance of failing to get references. My sexual range is 16 to no upper limit as I want a heart beat and no chance of prison time.

Actually at 50 my sexual range is likely to be half my age to twice it; so long as the younger guys are in control of their behaviours and the older ones in control of their faculties.

OP will need to evaluate whom he wants to spend time with and why. And not be overly influenced by the value judgements of his mates. They will make their own decisions and we should respect what they decide for themselves but ask them to respect what we decide is right for us.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Motherwell

After spending a year or so with the late 20's guys I decided that sex with them just wasn't doing it for me, some just mimic the porn they have watched and are very one dimensional and thrust away like they are late for a train. So I decided to stop seeing guys under 40 and I have not looked back, nearly all the guys I meet are experienced and skilled tops and the sex is way better. Mx

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By *tar33Man
3 weeks ago

North London (outer)

"I imagine it is how the younger guy would have interpreted it, that this person twice his age is letting him know he has knowledge that could be extremely damaging to his stability."

Even if this was the case, a normal response would be a simple question in order to clarify the meaning of a pretty innocuous comment. It certainly didn't warrant a threat to make a false and highly damaging allegation to police.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

In my youth i had my first experience and it was with a much older guy who tbh, took advantage of me

the experience has stayed with me, even though i tried to be straight and see only women - so my choice of a meet is always a mature dom guy

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By *SAOFMan
3 weeks ago

That there London mostly.

"Even if this was the case, a normal response would be a simple question in order to clarify the meaning of a pretty innocuous comment. It certainly didn't warrant a threat to make a false and highly damaging allegation to police."

I totally agree that the response was unwarranted but when people feel threatened on an existential level - such as my family may injure or kill me if their find out I like cock - they are likely to undertake *unwarranted* actions.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

A matter of taste really. When I was younger I tended to fancy guys my own age. Still do fancy guys younger than me but my preference has probably shifted to 40+ especially if there is the slightest chance of it becoming something more permanent than a one-night-stand.

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By *immy069Man
3 weeks ago

bolton

I have a preference for an older guy, one that puts me at ease, that I feel will look after me and listen to my wants as well as take what they want.

That said, I do get turned on by the thought of a young twink bringing out the Daddy side of me.

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By *amanthajanefallonTV/TS
3 weeks ago

cobham

Prefer older 50 plus they have more experience and less hang ups

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I prefer older and matured guys, they are more experienced, hot and sexy. They always make me so horny as fuck, orgasmic until I call their names bouncing up and down till I spunk up.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol East

"I imagine it is how the younger guy would have interpreted it, that this person twice his age is letting him know he has knowledge that could be extremely damaging to his stability.

That would be an understandable response of someone wiser and more mature with experience.

Need to remember this guy is 21, is coming from a conservative background, and the thought of being outed made him very defensive.

The hook-up obviously went pear shaped on the OP, but no actual damage appears to have done and I think the OP deserves credit for trying to repair things.

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By *treyu500Man
3 weeks ago

Australia

The age is largely irrelevant. I personally don't meet anyone under 25 for a few reasons.

They are often time waster and can't hold a conversation.

They're bad at sex due to inexperience and they cum too quickly.

Sometimes they want the daddy thing which is a bit of a stretch for me as a 37 year old 😂.

And my biggest pet peeve is that they are entitled, often asking for rewards or "can you pick me up"..... That kinda nonsense.

Yes, stereotypes, I know.

*They're perfectly capable of consent. It's not strange to be attracted to younger people or for them to be attracted to older men, it's nothing to be ashamed of.*

When you were 18, if you had access to apps for sex with men you would have been all over it

. Especially if you had access to all the information about LGBT stuff that we didn't have growing up. The positive influences, the social movements, the acceptance.

So meeting guys under a certain age doesn't appeal that much to me but if it does it for you then don't hesitate. Enjoy yourself. It's two consenting adults looking for the same thing - cock. You're not trying to marry them.

My only concern is they they are quite impressionable. The culture on these apps can be cold and calice at best. So be nice to the young gay/bi guys

. If we treat them well, they will do the same to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"Prefer older 50 plus they have more experience and less hang ups "

Me too. All the guys I have sex with are matured guys from age 35 till 80. Love older guys they make me so horny that I moan each time.

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By *anontheroadMan
3 weeks ago

working in the area next month

18 upwards, as long as they can still cum and remain hard who cares. Good to get a skinny twink and have had many sessions with gay men in their late 70’s

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By *elfordsubMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

Over 18 and willing to fuck me is all I'm really bothered about when it comes to age.

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By *shubMan
3 weeks ago

manningtree

I generally prefer my age or older but did very much enjoy a younger twink visiting me when in my 30's

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Navan

I’ve only ever been attracted to mature men. Especially if they’re chubby.

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By *iscretechubMan
3 weeks ago

Carlow/Kilkenny

Like guys around my own age or slightly older. Less messing around .

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Heathrow

"Just had a conversation with my friend . I got messaged by a guy aged 21 and my friends says he's too young and he would never meet anyone that young...

I never said I was going to meet this guys just that he looked good and had a nice cock. How do you guys choose an age range for guys you would have sex with?

Obviously they must be 18+ but how do you choose and do you ever feel guilty if they are younger than you or older than you?

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By *os001Man
3 weeks ago

Oxford

I'll meet older or younger,it does really depend on whether we fancy each other or not.

I find it's not just the younger guys who can be time wasters, though. I can't always meet right there and then so find some older men or lads just need to cum right at that moment they'll more on to the next.

Sometimes that's a blessing, not into a quick hump and dump lol.

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By *altyStarfishMan
3 weeks ago

Biting the pillow

I won't meet anyone who looks younger than 25, just my preference. I don't mind playing a power dynamic when I'm the younger one but I don't like too much of one the other way.

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By *ood-guyMan
3 weeks ago

wild, wild west

Would it be unfair to suggest those with zero age preference are probably only interested in a receptacle for their cock & cum. It would seem to me that they’re not even offering the pretence of any form of connection other than a short-lived physical one.

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By *irralGuy20Man
3 weeks ago

Wirral

My preferred age range is 30-40,

Young enough to be sexually appealing and with a little life experience to enable them to hold a adult conversation.

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

Update 8/05/25- 3.55pm

Got a message from a 23 year old who says he wants to meet me in his parents house which is wild...

what should i do?

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

He's very demanding are all younger guys like this expecting you to meet them immediately for sex?

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By *astleighbi77Man
3 weeks ago

EASTLEIGH

Always been attracted to guys 60 plus even when I'm my teens. Really not interested in guys my own age or younger. Don't find gym fit guys attractive to.

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By *50xxxMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Some of them dont respect age limits x I get messages from guys under 40 all the time x my age range is over 40 !! Can't they read x

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By *dambi00Man
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"Some of them dont respect age limits x I get messages from guys under 40 all the time x my age range is over 40 !! Can't they read x "

You can use message filters so you do not get messages from people outside your age range

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By *dambi00Man
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"Update 8/05/25- 3.55pm

Got a message from a 23 year old who says he wants to meet me in his parents house which is wild...

what should i do?"

You’re an adult, decide for yourself

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By *ornyfeckerMan
3 weeks ago

Dundee

I had a conversation with a young lad earlier today. His final words were "oh well, I will just have to come round and suck you". Instant block, I won't be told what to do / have done to me. It was a reminder why I am only interested in emotionally mature adults

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By *ranford cruiserTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Heathrow

You can set a a limit

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By *ornybottom39Man
3 weeks ago

Stockport

"Update 8/05/25- 3.55pm

Got a message from a 23 year old who says he wants to meet me in his parents house which is wild...

what should i do?"

Well presumably either a) they aren't going to be there or b) they are and are used to his "friends"/"visitors".

Either way, I say go for it.

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By *0thirtyMan
3 weeks ago

Redhill

I’m

Really open to messages from 20 year olds - but alas , I get messages from over 60 year olds …. Im polite in my reply - up to a point - when after a few months , ….. block

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By *orny101Man
3 weeks ago

anytown

When I was younger, they would be upto 30 years older then me..

But as I got old, we slowly passed the over direction until now there 25+ years younger then me..

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By *ardforall56Man
3 weeks ago

belfast

Younger are mostly a waste of time.stick to you own age or older.

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By *ammiTVTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Inverness

Something about older guys for me, not sure what exactly but always been that way

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By *ttmblkMan
3 weeks ago

West Midlands

Always been older guys for me. I'd go late 40s upwards.

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By *inkycokMan
3 weeks ago

Walkden

I like all ages I guess

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

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3 weeks ago

I’ve always preferred older guys, they’re more fun and experienced and it’s just a thing I find hot x

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By *unincovMan
3 weeks ago

coventry

Same age or older more fun less drama & better

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By *otsexwanted OP Man
2 days ago

manchester

Great replies thanks

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By *igerwaMan
2 days ago

Cockermouth

Age doesn’t really bother me too much how well people look after themselves does.

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By *lumbs238Man
2 days ago

Pompey ish

I’ve generally had older guys most of my life now I’m

In my fifties I’ve taken a liking for a younger top guy I hook up with a guy who is 26 and another is 30 we have a great time and no issues about age etc

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By *al430Man
2 days ago

Nearby

I don’t really have an issue about age or age gap as it’s more about the lad I’m with. I’ve had some amazing fun with some really nice lads in there twenties and thirties., Bring it on!

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