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"In my book 'curious' ends once a guy has picked up couple of verifications. Try it once = curious. Going back for more = I liked that and want more" Hence you are now Bi, not curious any more | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then?" Well two obvious possibilities: 1. They are too bone idle to update their profile. 2. They are lying to themselves (and everyone else) because they are too scared to admit what they really are. Personally I would class curious as “you wonder about and think about it” and maybe try it once to see what it is really like. After that the curiosity is gone you either don’t like it and don’t do it again, or you have worked out that you are at least bi. | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then?" ..im mystified by space, distant galaxies, interstellar time travel...you should expand your horizons...try to get out more... | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then? ..im mystified by space, distant galaxies, interstellar time travel...you should expand your horizons...try to get out more... " I think maybe I should have said that I was curious.... | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then? ..im mystified by space, distant galaxies, interstellar time travel...you should expand your horizons...try to get out more... " from a guy who is "bi-curious" with a verified profile. perhaps time for an update- just saying  | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then? ..im mystified by space, distant galaxies, interstellar time travel...you should expand your horizons...try to get out more... I think maybe I should have said that I was curious...." ....I just find the whole thing slightly ridiculous....why are some people triggered by other people's description of themselves...? | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. " ...what's your definition of "success " on this app? | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. ...what's your definition of "success " on this app?" So, you're mystified by 'success'? | |||
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In my experience it’s felt clunky with some bi curious who feel it’s wrong or get the guilt vibe | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. ...what's your definition of "success " on this app? So, you're mystified by 'success'? " ...you seem to have comprehension issues...?...I was asking a question...didn't you see the question mark...? | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then?" It’s a fair question from a logical perspective, but from a human one, does it need an answer? | |||
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"I agree. I’ve been fortunate enough to have met some really nice guys and having enjoyed all things safe and clean I couldn’t longer claim to be curious and changed my status. " This was the same for me. | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. " Pure preachy BS | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then? It’s a fair question from a logical perspective, but from a human one, does it need an answer? " Agreed, it doesn't need an answer... | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not." HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy" It feels a lot like people projecting their viewpoint onto others to try to explain things they are not part of and which doesn’t impact them. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy" I was curious about Denmark until I visited and enjoyed it. I would like to return to Denmark. I am no longer curious; I know that I like Denmark. I'm happy to tell people, because I don't feel any shame or internal conflict about my affinity for Denmark. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy I was curious about Denmark until I visited and enjoyed it. I would like to return to Denmark. I am no longer curious; I know that I like Denmark. I'm happy to tell people, because I don't feel any shame or internal conflict about my affinity for Denmark. " 🤔 But you're not identifying as Danish, are you! | |||
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"I was curious as an 8 year old at school getting our cocks out under the desks I don't class myself as curious, better change my profile" Importantly you must call yourself what others tell you is right. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy I was curious about Denmark until I visited and enjoyed it. I would like to return to Denmark. I am no longer curious; I know that I like Denmark. I'm happy to tell people, because I don't feel any shame or internal conflict about my affinity for Denmark. 🤔 But you're not identifying as Danish, are you!" No, however I would not be offended or defensive if someone thought that I was. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy I was curious about Denmark until I visited and enjoyed it. I would like to return to Denmark. I am no longer curious; I know that I like Denmark. I'm happy to tell people, because I don't feel any shame or internal conflict about my affinity for Denmark. 🤔 But you're not identifying as Danish, are you! No, however I would not be offended or defensive if someone thought that I was. " Bloody Danish they're just dressed up Norwegians | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy I was curious about Denmark until I visited and enjoyed it. I would like to return to Denmark. I am no longer curious; I know that I like Denmark. I'm happy to tell people, because I don't feel any shame or internal conflict about my affinity for Denmark. 🤔 But you're not identifying as Danish, are you! No, however I would not be offended or defensive if someone thought that I was. " The Danes are a superb bunch. It would be a compliment. And growing up in Scotland or England, I dont suspect you need to go back very far to find some Dane in you anyway. Thank you to Phil Lynott for pioneering the obvious innuendo. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy" ....he probably did an in depth survey...  | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy" Hardly judgey. Just giving my opinion which, I believe, we are still entitled to do so. Plus I'm basing my opinion on a mixture of experience and common sense. Let's be real. If you are on this site you are not 100% straight whether you like it or not. You may have sex with women 90%, even 99%, of the time but the fact you are seeking a bit of sex with other men means you are bisexual or at least bi-curious. I could say that I went bi-curious once. After several years of having sex with men only, I ended up one d*unken night in bed with a mate's wife. They were swingers in an open marriage. I had told her I was gay so she decided to 'convert' me. After that I was a bit confused. Started dating a girl who I knew liked me and ended up marrying her. 2nd time I had sex was with my new bride and I really thought 'This is not for me' We had sex a few times during the first few months. She got pregnant and we never had sex again and eventually divorced. So yes I was bi-curious for awhile. Prior to that I had had sex with a guy I was sort of mates with. He knew I was gay and asked if he could have sex with me to see what it was like, so I obliged. He thanked me but said it was not for him and never wanted to do it again. Fair enough. He was bi-curious but then he became totally straight. | |||
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"After one 'gay experience' you might still be a bit confused and curious. However if after the second experience you still want more then you are now bisexual assuming you still have sex with your wife or other women. I think a lot of guys on here describe themselves as bi-curious because they are in denial. Still think they are straight which obviously they are not. HOw the hell would you know?? So judgy Hardly judgey. Just giving my opinion which, I believe, we are still entitled to do so. Plus I'm basing my opinion on a mixture of experience and common sense. Let's be real. If you are on this site you are not 100% straight whether you like it or not. You may have sex with women 90%, even 99%, of the time but the fact you are seeking a bit of sex with other men means you are bisexual or at least bi-curious. I could say that I went bi-curious once. After several years of having sex with men only, I ended up one d*unken night in bed with a mate's wife. They were swingers in an open marriage. I had told her I was gay so she decided to 'convert' me. After that I was a bit confused. Started dating a girl who I knew liked me and ended up marrying her. 2nd time I had sex was with my new bride and I really thought 'This is not for me' We had sex a few times during the first few months. She got pregnant and we never had sex again and eventually divorced. So yes I was bi-curious for awhile. Prior to that I had had sex with a guy I was sort of mates with. He knew I was gay and asked if he could have sex with me to see what it was like, so I obliged. He thanked me but said it was not for him and never wanted to do it again. Fair enough. He was bi-curious but then he became totally straight." This is actually a good point because it definitely does work the other way. I've had mates who were curious and tried stuff with me and others but decided actually it wasn't for them. They were curious and tried it and then realised they didn't enjoy it. No longer curious, back to being straight. Similarly at university despite being out as a gay man I did twice try to sleep with women out of curiosity, I was briefly bi curious. Could barely even get it up (had to think about men) and didn't enjoy it. Never did it again, no longer curious, instead gay. 'Curiousity' is a transient stage that can only exist until you engage in the activity you are curious about. Once you've tried it you are no longer curious. In this case: gay, straight or bisexual, or perhaps even asexual. You certainly can't be getting railed by men regularly or railing men regularly, sucking cock etc. and still be claiming to be 'bicurious'. That's just flat-out denial which isn't healthy and is indicative of internalised homophobia which is definitely a red flag to many people for obvious reasons (risk of violent shame based outburst i.e. 'gay panic') which definitely does happen with depressing frequency. | |||
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"If you've had sex with a man then you aren't curious, you are either gay or bisexual. Guys with multiple verifications are absolutely not curious anymore. Even more absurd are men that claim to identify as 'straight' and take great pains to explain that they aren't attracted to men and won't kiss, but then proceed to explain at great length the particular male attributes they find attractive "only interested in clean shaven 40+ tradesmen types" as well as the multitude of gay sex activities they seek, including anal sex etc. There's no point beating around the bush, such people are in deep denial and it bleeds out in these forums where they either engage in lazy casual homophobia or make loud performative declarations on many threads about how much they love women and aren't actually gay / bi, despite being on a site that ONLY allows men and is explicitly geared for gay sexual relations. " ....I don't believe there is one person on this site who identifies as straight...have you met anyone..? | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. ...what's your definition of "success " on this app? So, you're mystified by 'success'? ...you seem to have comprehension issues...?...I was asking a question...didn't you see the question mark...?" How would I define success on this site..? Actually meeting as opposed to talking about meeting. I regularly have guys flake out of the meets they have talked about (you knew it would only be chat) because they didn’t have as much experience as they first claimed and clearly felt uncomfortable revealing this until after they’d flaked out when you pushed them to commit to meeting! Some of these wanted to brand themselves as bisexual but actually had never been with women and were basically very late-to-the-party gays with little sexual background. Meanwhile several relatively inexperienced younger bi lads have been incredibly honest with me about what they have done so far with women and in more limited ways with men, and also what they’d like to try - and thus meets have been very successful in that regard. And if you are upfront about your orientation you are able to find out if a potential partner will work out for you or not. If you are one of the “I’m a frustrated married guy and I just want to scratch a quick sexual itch with someone as I’m not really interested in men” and honest enough to say that, I can send you on your way as I wouldn’t be right or interested in you. If you are one of the “I’m a married man and I can’t stop thinking about sex with men and I’d like a big gay man to show me what I’m missing”, then I know I could have a suitable playmate. I’m a gay man. If I see gay on another profile, I know exactly what this means and (within reason) what they are likely to be up for. If I see bisexual or bi-curious, it can mean literally anything here, so I have to do a lot more digging to find out what exactly they are after from another man especially if he is gay. | |||
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"In my book 'curious' ends once a guy has picked up couple of verifications. Try it once = curious. Going back for more = I liked that and want more" This. Was for me, anyway. Try before you’re bi. | |||
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"I would say on the third occasion with a guy. 1st time is genuine curious 2nd time is confirmation 3rd well you aren't curious anymore " Agreed | |||
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"Once you touch suck or take another guys cock you are no longer curious about anything you are officially gay or bisexual "...it's official...?....do you get a certificate...? | |||
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"A] Other men’s insecurities, uncertainties or general diffidence about their sexuality or orientation are on their shoulders, not mine. Just saying. B] The more accurate and truthful a man is about his sexuality or orientation, the more success he is likely to meet in how he interacts and meets with other men. Just saying. ...what's your definition of "success " on this app? So, you're mystified by 'success'? ...you seem to have comprehension issues...?...I was asking a question...didn't you see the question mark...? How would I define success on this site..? Actually meeting as opposed to talking about meeting. I regularly have guys flake out of the meets they have talked about (you knew it would only be chat) because they didn’t have as much experience as they first claimed and clearly felt uncomfortable revealing this until after they’d flaked out when you pushed them to commit to meeting! Some of these wanted to brand themselves as bisexual but actually had never been with women and were basically very late-to-the-party gays with little sexual background. Meanwhile several relatively inexperienced younger bi lads have been incredibly honest with me about what they have done so far with women and in more limited ways with men, and also what they’d like to try - and thus meets have been very successful in that regard. And if you are upfront about your orientation you are able to find out if a potential partner will work out for you or not. If you are one of the “I’m a frustrated married guy and I just want to scratch a quick sexual itch with someone as I’m not really interested in men” and honest enough to say that, I can send you on your way as I wouldn’t be right or interested in you. If you are one of the “I’m a married man and I can’t stop thinking about sex with men and I’d like a big gay man to show me what I’m missing”, then I know I could have a suitable playmate. I’m a gay man. If I see gay on another profile, I know exactly what this means and (within reason) what they are likely to be up for. If I see bisexual or bi-curious, it can mean literally anything here, so I have to do a lot more digging to find out what exactly they are after from another man especially if he is gay. " ..." so actually meeting instead of just talking about it" is basically what you define as success...?.I agree 100% | |||
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"I'm mystified by the guys that identify on here as bi-curious, but post about their experiences with men 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. Surely you are bi on some level by then?" Seriously, why is this bothering you. Does it matter, what is it with labelling and putting people in boxes. I've met a few bi curious guys that enjoyed my cock. I just enjoyed the moment like they did. Job done. | |||
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"Well ive sucked a few cocks and been fucked but i dont fancy men, i just like sex. If i had it all my way i would have sex with hot women all day long but i cant, next best thing is hot trans that actually look like women. Im dabeling with men coz sex is easy to come by. Am i still bi?" yeah. | |||
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"I just find the whole thing slightly ridiculous....why are some people triggered by other people's description of themselves...?" Well we all come here looking for the same thing, and rely on what is on people’s profiles to narrow our searches for the “type” (for want of a better word) we are looking for. If the profile is inaccurate then search results are going to not match what we are searching for. If someone lies about one thing in their profile, then what else (that may be less obvious) have they lied about? Just a point of view to consider as to why it is important to some people. | |||
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"Bi-curiousity ends once the curiosity is fully addressed." My position exactly. I drove home after having had my cock sucked by a man for the first time - and I felt no qualms in returning the favour, the first cock I had ever sucked - thinking "I'm bisexual now ..." Over that summer he completed the process fully. | |||
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"As soon as I took cock up my arse I stopped being bi and became Gay, love being bottom to real men xx" I’ll probably become the same when I finally get taken ….  | |||
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