FabGuys.com forum: Divorce/separation

By *rucked OP Man
2 weeks ago

canterbury

For guys that have divorced or separated;

What was the catalyst for the relationship breakdown? What made you or them leave?

How hard was it to start again and pick up the pieces? Do you have any regrets?

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

A friend of mine separated from his wife which went well but then got a divorce which went badly. He couldn’t talk about anything else and developed serious mental health issues. The original reason….just said things were not going well and wasn’t specific.

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By *ensualblokeMan
2 weeks ago

Colchester

We just drifted apart rather, but have stayed amicable, it doesn't have to be The War of the Roses.

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By *eneral distanceMan
2 weeks ago

infinity and beyond

We got to a point after 22years of marriage and the girls had both grown up and left for university, we sat one night and chatted about bucket lists going forward for the future

Ours was totally different, our friends was different and our social in general

We still had a good sex life and decided that we would broaden our horizons

We went to some clubs had some same room fun

Met some couples for fun also, but the more we did this the more we realised we enjoyed the other partners

So we chatted and agreed to split

We did so and it went well, still is, so much so we get on better and it has been great for our children too

Needless to say the sex got better too haha

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

What brought us together (music) was what split us up in the end. Tastes so different it got really difficult although music was just a reflection of our differences in personality. I could write reams about it but will spare you.

It was a long slow drift apart and kind of happened without either of us realising until she did. I'm just lazy and assumed this was how it went and trundled along.

We stayed amicable, finished bringing up four kids as co-parents even though divorced on paper and jot together any more. I probably signed away loads of money I could have fought in courts for (house etc) but honestly I was past giving a fuck so just let it go and started over. Don't regret a thing.

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By *iggreenockMan
2 weeks ago

Greenock

No regrets. I loved her once. She became asexual. I strayed and got caught. Much better place now without her. She was always hard work.

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By *jh59Man
2 weeks ago

Hinckley

No regrets on my side she played away then decided at the marriage was over which was fine by me as it gave the freedom to enjoy what I really like

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By *lcubMan
2 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

I bought a water bed to spice things up. We just drifted apart.

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By *enjamin2018Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

"I bought a water bed to spice things up. We just drifted apart."

Two ships , passing in the night.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"I bought a water bed to spice things up. We just drifted apart."

I bought an IKEA bed to spice things up. We just fell apart.

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By *optobottomrctMan
2 weeks ago

Penygraig

My wife had been my first and only girlfriend so I had little experience with other partners and although she was a great social companion sex had disappeared. Then following a stressful period I had a suspected heart attack and ended up in hospital. It was a false alarm but while in the hospital bed I realised I needed to expand my sexual horizons and after that looked for opportunities for sex fun with others.

Led to an affair which resulted in the divorce. It was extremely mentally draining and clinically depressing as well as being extremely sexually enjoyable.

Interestingly. That relationship ended a few years later amicablly but while ive not seen or heard from that lady in over 20 years but I am now on good terms with my former wife and we email each other regularly. But we live 200 miles apart and theres no likelihood of us ever getting back to a sexual relationship again..although we have had social meets over the years.

Although I have had other female sex partners I now only meet guys for sexusl gratification as I like no strings attached action while ladies seem to want romance and commitment. I just want cum and go !!

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By *ichardbyronMan
2 weeks ago

Ludham

Divorce is a wonderful institution, I highly recommend it.

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By *oodoorisingMan
2 weeks ago

Wirral

Married 25yrs now been divorced for 10 and couldn’t be happier. Ex and I basically got divorced as the kids had grown and started doing there own thing she was married to the company we both worked for she spent every waking minute working. I wanted more felt neglected felt like I was just there to clean up wash cook as well as doing shift job. I strayed as I needed something more got found out but for some reason didn’t care. We had a chat we both wanted different things and had grown apart so we decided to call it a day. We told the kids they were cool with it and were not very surprised by it. So we had an amicable divorce. We still talk and are civil to each other so I guess I was lucky in away.

Kids still tell me she’s a work aholic and never stops. Married to the job.

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By *enardeMan
2 weeks ago

Barnsley

For me , first proper girlfriend and I thought sex was great (only I found cis I was finally getting some)

But as time went by I got fed up with having to cajole a shag out of her

Always on her back didn’t even bend her knees and lift her pelvis

Never said anything or sighs of enjoyment

Hated oral giving or receiving hated doggy

I stayed for my son

Never cheated

Daughter happened along as a result of a one off her d*unk power cut shag

Stayed again

Oh and she was depressive and lazy

Made no effort to show or be affectionate

I thought I was a real crap bloke unable to please a woman and my confidence was gone

Eventually I met my second wife at work

Had an affair

Divorced and remarried 6 years later

I see on tik tok that most marriages fail from a male perspective due to lack of intimacy

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By *mizhereMan
2 weeks ago

durham botel 23rd

We were swingers great sex and lots of it

We always told the other when we played m or f

However she started playing and didn't tell

Came to a head one night and we separated

She married the bloke within 7days of divorce

As for me I set out an a sex fest and had lots of cock and pussy before settling down again

Mind you I play away so maybe it was my fault too lol

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By *ub bd4Man
2 weeks ago

Bradford

A number of things and I tried over a period of months to get him to listen but he chose not to and I felt unsafe. So I moved somewhere I know nobody which wasn't by choice but economic force.

Starting again has been incredibly hard but worthwhile if not essential to my survival

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Never give up.

Your partner loves you.

Same like my partner. We are in an open relationship.

But one day he fell in love with a guy but I never agree to polyamory.

I wasn't happy about it but finally agreed to it out of love for my partner.

After a few weeks, his new boyfriend left him after making an excuse. Very strange.

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