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By *punk1975 OP   Man
3 days ago

Glasgow

I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet?

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By *ecretissafeMan
3 days ago

bridgnorth

It's absolute awful the worst its ever been,so many dreamers

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By *oveitrawMan
3 days ago

Birmingham

You're lucky to get one or two a month

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By *bear67Man
3 days ago

Aldershot

I think I must be lucky then. I've met and am chatting to some amazing guys recently.

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By *q oralistMan
3 days ago

Torquay

Sure it probably is getting worse if you really want to meet. What's changed is that more guys are satisfied with using the internet doing video wanks or 'virtual sex. . And there's more sites like Telegram, What's app etc. So face to face meets might be taking a back seat so to speak

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By *heff24Man
3 days ago

Sheffield

3 meets in the last week.....I'm not complaining

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By *dambi00Man
3 days ago

Leicester

Site is pretty good, I can get a meet everyday if I wanted.

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By *are2PlayMan
3 days ago

moray

Yes I think it's worse than it used to be

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
3 days ago

Berkshire

I do okay out of it, you get your usual time wasters but you’re get those regardless.

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By *rMagicFingersMan
3 days ago

Bournemouth

I get the impression that TVs/TSs and anyone under 30 does quite well. The rest of us are fucked (or not as the case might be).

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

They start conversations and sound keen. Then it all just fizzles out. Either they get cold feet, find someone 'better' or have a wank and lose interest.

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By *oodpeckerMan
3 days ago

Falkirk

There are other variables at play, beyond _iews, meets and whether or not the site is getting worse! One person's experience getting worse has no direct link to the value of the site

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By *evinmanMan
3 days ago

Dublin

Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

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By *avid1968Man
3 days ago

Burslem

I know exactly what you mean.

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By *ussextgirlukTV/TS
3 days ago

chichester


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet? "

I think since Covid all online hookup site have got now bar standards tbh

Still it’s the reasonable free site of its kind for gay sex

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By *arcusUK2Man
3 days ago

Winchester


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet? "

Global warming. Must be.

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By *omo2026Man
3 days ago

Liverpool

A lot of guys I think just want pics ect not to bothered but just be straight up and say no intentions of meeting just want to look at naked men and talk as I like to be naked not to bothered but a nice cock is always nice

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By *3versMan
3 days ago

glasgow

It's not the site, just the people on it

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By *arridMan
3 days ago

bRiGhToN

I’m happy to chat and/or meet. This site works fine for what I want.

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By *ockysmountMan
3 days ago

sheerness

I would meet but I think i must be too old now, certainly older than most mens upper age limit.

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By *ockysmountMan
3 days ago

sheerness

And yes I agree there seems to be loads of comments regarding women, sex with women which I find a bit odd

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By *xperiencedBiGuy2025Man
3 days ago

Shrewsbury

bloody terrible these days

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By *ottonsub777Man
3 days ago

Rutland


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet? "
Think it down to how many men are soo picky now days. They want what they see in porn.

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By *ottonsub777Man
3 days ago

Rutland


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet? "
Think it down to how many men are soo picky now days. They want what they see in porn.

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By *IEWMan
Forum Mod

3 days ago

Village near Forfar & Findhorn

Works for me I’m 66, I accom so if any no shows I really haven’t been mucked about. I use the tools the site provides to sift through people I think may not be genuine and mostly I’m correct.

I don’t take any of it seriously, It’s casual sex nothing more serious than that.

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By *IEWMan
Forum Mod

3 days ago

Village near Forfar & Findhorn

And it’s free

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By *lackbootzMan
3 days ago

Hayes, Middx


"It's not the site, just the people on it"

Exactly!

Meets should be arranged by AI match-ups based on our profiles.

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By *hotterMan
3 days ago

Hartlepool

Yeah I find a lot of guys say that have interest meeting up yet very few ever follow through with it, most annoying!

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By *3versMan
3 days ago

glasgow


"It's not the site, just the people on it

Exactly!

Meets should be arranged by AI match-ups based on our profiles. "

That would be fun - "here's our Cillai"

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By *uncan62Man
3 days ago

stirling

No one is forcing you to be on fabguys …. It’s great .,.. lush cock ,,, nice arses etc etc ….. meets are easy if you can accommodate so guys dry your eyes and enjoy fab men lol

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By *owzerMan
3 days ago

Chester.....


"It's not the site, just the people on it

Exactly!

Meets should be arranged by AI match-ups based on our profiles.

That would be fun - "here's our Cillai""

Surprise. Surprise. The unexpected hits you between the legs

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By *obbie300Man
3 days ago

BANGOR Co Down

Th8nk a lot of guys like meet so come on but find it difficult to escape

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By *addies Boy96Man
3 days ago

Rhebogue,Limerick

A reason could be and I have this issue also is that you cannot accommodate, I used to be able to have meets all. The time when I was accommodating but now that I cannot accom anymore I don't get many meets

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
3 days ago

Navan


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful"

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site.

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By *arridMan
3 days ago

bRiGhToN


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful"

Tough Titty, Kitty.

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By *arridMan
3 days ago

bRiGhToN


" They start conversations and sound keen. Then it all just fizzles out. Either they get cold feet, find someone 'better' or have a wank and lose interest."
this happens to me. I must be as boring as fuck. The chats ‘fizzle’ out.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 days ago

I have been on this site on and off for several years now long before the pandemic.

Yes, I have seen it is getting worse and worse.

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By *oodpeckerMan
3 days ago

Falkirk


"It's not the site, just the people on it"

My point, put more succinctly 😂

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By *enpleasetomeetyouMan
3 days ago

Leeds ,kippax

Yeah its difficult to get meets , i like to me guys regular, so i always try to impress on first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
3 days ago


"It's not the site, just the people on it"

The site includes the people in it, only one of the several major factors.

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By *arrots77Man
3 days ago

Here, Perth

I've noticed a difference. Not that I'd expect loads of folk to particularly want to _iew me but I can, easily, go like 3 hours between anyone _iewing my profile, that wasn't the case previously.

I do think there should be an option to search for only site supporters, though.

The biggest issue is that it's far too easy to just delete and come back immediately under a new guise.

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By *ustOneBearMan
3 days ago

Neath

I can’t complain. I’m doing ok. Aiming for a few regular men to meet.

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By *enjamin2018Man
3 days ago

Halstead

I think it's pretty good

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By *os001Man
3 days ago

Oxford

It's not the site, it's people in general.

It has to be quick and right now, disposable sex. A lot of men are unable to cope if it's not on their terms and will move on to the next.

I've had a few guys message me on here recently and as soon I've said no to right now, they've ghosted me or disappeared.

Had it today via another site, a lad in Reading was really keen to meet and fuck me but I was working, he said he was keen to meet another time, but have now seen the chat is deleted and he has disappeared.

Just makes me chuckle a little and think I was probably right to say no in the first place. They were probably all just talk anyway!

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By *eaponOfAssDestruction.Man
3 days ago

Leeds

I really like it. There are periods which are great and then those that aren’t. C’est la vie.

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By *oxybi999TV/TS
3 days ago

The town

Yes

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By *lim_sportyMan
3 days ago

stevenage

The site is fine, but more guys wasting time these days.

Best summary is msg in this forum of a guy saying he could meet every day if he wanted. He's been on a year and has no verifications.

That says it all.

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By *iganbi_iewguyMan
3 days ago

wigan

No issues here other than double standards from mods ... But best not say much about that or get another ban but hey this time I would know what it's for

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By *ayne DesireTV/TS
3 days ago

Gloucester


"You're lucky to get one or two a month"

Gosh! You are lucky! I don't get that much cock in a decade.

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By *ayne DesireTV/TS
3 days ago

Gloucester


"The site is fine, but more guys wasting time these days.

Best summary is msg in this forum of a guy saying he could meet every day if he wanted. He's been on a year and has no verifications.

That says it all."

Why would anyone want to put his sexual history online for all to see? I keep mine private.

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By *ayne DesireTV/TS
3 days ago

Gloucester


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site. "

That is stalking! No wonder nobody wants to meet you.

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By *ayne DesireTV/TS
3 days ago

Gloucester


"No one is forcing you to be on fabguys …. It’s great .,.. lush cock ,,, nice arses etc etc ….. meets are easy if you can accommodate so guys dry your eyes and enjoy fab men lol"

I just adore positive people. You are so right.

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
3 days ago

Navan


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site.

That is stalking! No wonder nobody wants to meet you."

What on Earth are you talking about ?!

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
3 days ago

Berkshire

I think there was a mix up by replying to your post as opposed to My Happy’s 😂

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

Its 5 quid for two months of perving having a laugh some serious posts better than the television .I ain't complaining. And I can more often than not get cock when I want .if not I go to a sauna x

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By *ickeMan
3 days ago

watford

People expectations may be higher .

But think lot people got put off . By covid then monkeypox.

Then chatting with guy after bit exchange this that he told me he contacted HIV but don’t worry .

Well I did worry .

That sure killed that meet .

Then we read all these STI on rise

And on here loads people disappointment as it seems .

Some people have sex as it just sex .

Other want more .

For me getting showered , Traveling for 30 minutes to have wank in car , for 10 minutes can’t be bothered.

Anyway we all different.

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By *anmannersMan
3 days ago

no


"Yeah I find a lot of guys say that have interest meeting up yet very few ever follow through with it, most annoying!"

Definitely.

I've been a member on and off since 2010 and when I rejoin I get men who have contacted me in the past forgetting they have done so with the usual bollocks of wanting to meet, I'm hot, sexy, gorgeous blah blah blah. However, I don't forget and when I remind them we've chatted before and nothing happened, they say, oh, I really want to meet etc then again mess about, so I block them

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By *lackbootzMan
3 days ago

Hayes, Middx


"The site is fine, but more guys wasting time these days.

Best summary is msg in this forum of a guy saying he could meet every day if he wanted. He's been on a year and has no verifications.

That says it all.

Why would anyone want to put his sexual history online for all to see? I keep mine private."

Why would anyone want to put their small-mindedness online for all to see? I keep mine private.

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By *lackbootzMan
3 days ago

Hayes, Middx


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site.

That is stalking! No wonder nobody wants to meet you."

You sound very hard work.

Reading someone’s profile is stalking..?!

You’re mixing up the OP in Glasgow saying it is difficult to get meets from the site with the poster in Dublin who just wanted (yet again) to slag off there being TVs and CDs here with the TV/TS in Navan who is sensibly defending her right to be here and pointing out the false logic of the Dublin poster. The words you’ve quoted were written by 3 different posters in the thread.

🙄

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By *lackbootzMan
3 days ago

Hayes, Middx


"People expectations may be higher .

But think lot people got put off . By covid then monkeypox.

Then chatting with guy after bit exchange this that he told me he contacted HIV but don’t worry .

Well I did worry .

That sure killed that meet .

Then we read all these STI on rise

And on here loads people disappointment as it seems .

Some people have sex as it just sex .

Other want more .

For me getting showered , Traveling for 30 minutes to have wank in car , for 10 minutes can’t be bothered.

Anyway we all different.

"

You sound full of the joys of Spring.

Try fly-fishing instead.

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By *pat71Man
3 days ago

London

Open to meets and offers in and around London. Just need to plan ahead for a date that works for both or all x

Had good meets here but it is occasional unfortunately.

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By *arkinSuffolkMan
3 days ago

Lowestoft

I think it's fine

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By *punk1975 OP   Man
3 days ago

Glasgow

I am glad of the lively debate..

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By *anexplorer99Man
3 days ago

lincoln

Plenty of meets on here. Met some wonderful guys and had some fa6fun

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By *ichelleclassyCDTV/TS
2 days ago

Shaw

I get quite a few dreamers and time wasters unfortunately and block them thank God I know plenty of genuine guys who are respectful and polite and know how to write a proper message to me not the normal one liners which turns me off xxx

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By *redfurMan
2 days ago

Swindon

Where you live in the country appears to make a big difference to the number of people willing to meet. For example, Wales and the North East seem to have a lot of beautiful TVs/CDs (IMO). There are lots of Fabbers in ‘That There London Village’ while Wiltshire is… quieter.

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By *olchBiMan
2 days ago

Colchester

Been on an off here for years, probably most of the time it existed. It has always tended to be a bit up and down.

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By *rient_topMan
2 days ago

Huntingdon

I don’t think the site has changed particularly. There’s a proportion of fantasists who’ve made a profile, have horny chat and then disappear, or people who set up a profile, have buyers remorse or fear and then delete, only to repeat the cycle.

Also, Covid did a bit of a number on social skills- I do think people aren’t as good at social niceities now.

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful"

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By *endmeoverpleaseMan
2 days ago

nr Bourne lincs

All I get is lookers and talkers and pic fabing. In the sth lincs area. No gen meeting s.

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By *avid62Man
2 days ago

Skelmersdale

So many timewasters x it seems to be worse now around school holidays as most of men on here are married with kids x

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
2 days ago

Glasgow

Gets worse every day.

Just liked a few pics of a guy and winked, got a message "waste of space" then "you included"

Blocked - his loss

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site. "

But is the “perceived” deterioration due to the current mix of people on the site now? There “seems” to be a lot less Gay guys on the site now and a lot more Bi’s many of whom are either TV’s or CD’s and all the Wife/Women talk is very off putting which may well be responsible for more gay and true Bi’s disappearing (by true Bi’s I mean those who can’t have a relationship with a man rather than those looking for a quick bit of relief because they aren’t getting it from the wife which seems to cover a lot of people now on the site).

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By *jh59Man
2 days ago

Hinckley

Lookers and time wasters at present

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By *arridMan
2 days ago

bRiGhToN


"Gets worse every day.

Just liked a few pics of a guy and winked, got a message "waste of space" then "you included"

Blocked - his loss"

it wasn’t actually his loss though because he didn’t want to meet you. In fact, he’s saved you both time.

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By *arridMan
2 days ago

bRiGhToN

Yet more ‘anti-bi’ drivel from the screaming queens, this time as a reason for the site failing them.

It’s easy to blame other people or the way the site works for lack of success rather than look closer to home at profile wording, messages, photos, etc.

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"Yet more ‘anti-bi’ drivel from the screaming queens, this time as a reason for the site failing them.

It’s easy to blame other people or the way the site works for lack of success rather than look closer to home at profile wording, messages, photos, etc."

Believe what you like but it doesn’t make it true.

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By *nnie mosityTV/TS
2 days ago

tranniesylvania

I'm guessing if you're a young fit guy in your 20s...30s... you're going to have no complaints if you're an old git like me...then yeah this site ain't going to be too good... I'm on two other sites and it's pretty much the same... though I guess a muscular heavily tattooed tranny with hands like shovels is always going to be a niche market anyway 😹...I tend to get more action on nights out than on the sites these days..

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
2 days ago

Navan


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site.

But is the “perceived” deterioration due to the current mix of people on the site now? There “seems” to be a lot less Gay guys on the site now and a lot more Bi’s many of whom are either TV’s or CD’s and all the Wife/Women talk is very off putting which may well be responsible for more gay and true Bi’s disappearing (by true Bi’s I mean those who can’t have a relationship with a man rather than those looking for a quick bit of relief because they aren’t getting it from the wife which seems to cover a lot of people now on the site)."

You obviously haven’t read the OP’s opening post. It’s clearly a post about how difficult it is to get a meet these days. The OP has met TV’s / CD’s before so he clearly doesn’t have an issue with this site having that mix of people here.

But you’re trying to twist his post so you can wedge in yet another one of your anti bi & anti TV prejudice rants.

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By *illingVicMan
2 days ago

Sevenoaks

I never had much luck in the first place so I’ve not noticed a difference.

A)the men I’m looking for are somewhat specific

B)the men I’m looking for typically aren’t looking for me

C) I have very limited availability.

I’m not upset about any of these facts - that’s life. I enjoy the opportunity to just haunt the forums and have occasional chats with like-minded adults.

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By *ad Bod ManMan
2 days ago

Gloucester

It’s the same for both sites Fab and this most men don’t read profiles.

I have encountered many local guys just want a blow n go most messages are free now?

Which a) I wouldn’t do a blind meet b) I need a connection c) it says all this on my profile

Those I engage with good connections and good conversations are usually miles away and planned meets will take some time.

As with the other site this one is growing and growing so the numbers of men searching always makes it difficult.

Modern life is also busy and quite a few are married so makes meets equally as tricky.

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By *lexieMan
2 days ago

Just north of Southampton


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet?

Global warming. Must be. "

Do you realise yur profile won't show... maybe you made it private and didn't realise? Or perhas I'm just blocked? lel

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By *illingVicMan
2 days ago

Sevenoaks


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet?

Global warming. Must be.

Do you realise yur profile won't show... maybe you made it private and didn't realise? Or perhas I'm just blocked? lel"

Shows up for me!

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

The OP is referring to his frustration at getting meets, and not the mix of people on the site.

You’re just taking the opportunity to post yet another anti trans / CD moan.

In fact, if you’d looked at the OP’s profile, you’d have seen that he looks to, and has met, trans / CD’s. So it’s likely he’d welcome more trans / CD’s on the site.

But is the “perceived” deterioration due to the current mix of people on the site now? There “seems” to be a lot less Gay guys on the site now and a lot more Bi’s many of whom are either TV’s or CD’s and all the Wife/Women talk is very off putting which may well be responsible for more gay and true Bi’s disappearing (by true Bi’s I mean those who can’t have a relationship with a man rather than those looking for a quick bit of relief because they aren’t getting it from the wife which seems to cover a lot of people now on the site).

You obviously haven’t read the OP’s opening post. It’s clearly a post about how difficult it is to get a meet these days. The OP has met TV’s / CD’s before so he clearly doesn’t have an issue with this site having that mix of people here.

But you’re trying to twist his post so you can wedge in yet another one of your anti bi & anti TV prejudice rants. "

And if you obviously haven’t read and understood my post, I am looking at POSSIBLE causes for the “perceived” deterioration.

For example from the gaydar threads, the site went down hill after a more “global” redesign and you could no longer check by town. That site is now full of scammers with fake profiles so is now worthless using. That is causes and effect.

You may not agree with my observations- fair enough, BUT you fail to advance any alternative explanation for the “perceived” deterioration of the site. Whether or not an “individual” is interested in a particular type or not has no bearing on the effect that the current mix has on other members remaining on the site, and if the effect is that more people leave because of it then the site is going to go the way of gaydar if they are not careful.

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By *lexieMan
2 days ago

Just north of Southampton


"I used get at least 1 to 2 meets a week on this site. Now am lucky if I get 1 or 2 per month. However I get around 100 _iews per day. So is it just full of time wasters now or does nobody meet?

Global warming. Must be.

Do you realise yur profile won't show... maybe you made it private and didn't realise? Or perhas I'm just blocked? lel

Shows up for me!"

Oh right... good to know, thanks! I must be on his naughty step for some reason? I won't lose any sleep...

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By *treyu500Man
2 days ago

Australia


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful"

Yep. This is the main issue in my opinion.

In addition to that, I don't know the statistics but there also seems to be less gay men. Gay men on fabguys are more likely to accommodate and less likely to waste your time from my experience. If my hunch is right, this gay website is less appealing to men that can atleast admit they're here to meet men. They've gone elsewhere.

The user base has changed.

I probably won't be buying another membership. I can talk about and sift though comments about knickers and women's talk on other websites.

Let the fantasists and pic collectors have the website since the admins/owners have no interest in basic quality of life changes like more forum categories for CDs/wife chat.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 days ago

Didcot

I found that post Covid things have slowed a lot, I still get a fair amount of interest/messages but they are mostly from guys who are not sexually compatible (in to too many things I'm not) or just chancers who think I'm going to just drop my pant, bend over and say "come and get it big boy" but are unwilling to earn the right.

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By *ort_wladMan
2 days ago

Prestatyn

I no im feeling the same at the moment lots of _iews but no messages regarding meets

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By *adwolf75Man
2 days ago

Grantham

Its not as bad as grindr take the win

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By *ighway expressMan
2 days ago

Campbeltown

I've had plenty of fun . Got no complaints. Don't raise your expectations. Keep it realistic..

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By *ustaNormalBlokeMan
2 days ago

Strood

People just aren’t meeting my personal preferences lately.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 days ago

Didcot


"People just aren’t meeting my personal preferences lately. "

Same here, maybe over the years I've been on here I've got more fussy.

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By *cunnySucker69Man
2 days ago

Scunthorpe

Well last year I only had three meets so mostly look at the videos these days, no need to go on a porn site, I pay on this site and I can then watch all the videos on here.

I would meet if someone wanted sucking though

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By *ldderMan
2 days ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks

I noticed people complaining lol but are still here 😂😂

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By *ndypiercedMan
2 days ago

WATFORD

Yup, was meant to have a meet yesterday and gave him my address and he never showed up and hasn't had the decency to message, but alas it's becoming to often they do that. I used to get a few hits but I'm basically here for the videos now.

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By *tandbymeMan
2 days ago

mitcham

Yes. Lots of time wasters.

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By *athman45Man
2 days ago

bath

It’s like fishing on here, some days loads then other days fk all 😂

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"Site now dominated by Trans, CDs, and 'straight' men talking about women they fancy- awful

Yep. This is the main issue in my opinion.

In addition to that, I don't know the statistics but there also seems to be less gay men. Gay men on fabguys are more likely to accommodate and less likely to waste your time from my experience. If my hunch is right, this gay website is less appealing to men that can atleast admit they're here to meet men. They've gone elsewhere.

The user base has changed.

I probably won't be buying another membership. I can talk about and sift though comments about knickers and women's talk on other websites.

Let the fantasists and pic collectors have the website since the admins/owners have no interest in basic quality of life changes like more forum categories for CDs/wife chat. "

I agree with you, purely from observation the user base does seem to have changed and the site doesn’t seem to be what it once was. Would be interesting to know where they are going now, although not something to be talked about here as it is against the rules, and you would probably have those that are slowly killing this site go there as well.

I also doubt that I will buy another subscription when this one runs out, as it just doesn’t seem worth it now. It was a bit like in the hay day with gay pubs - when the dykes moved in they took over and the gays got pushed out - they just killed it.

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By *uxbritMan
2 days ago

hemel hempstead hertfordshire

listen we should be grateful a site like this actually exists so please take the win lol

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By *awihMan
2 days ago

Aldershot


"listen we should be grateful a site like this actually exists so please take the win lol "

That is a bit like being on the Titanic as it is sinking and saying well this deck is still above the waterline -take the win.

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By *aid2TV/TS
2 days ago

Swindon

I've been visiting the site for about 9 years now. Fab started going downhill around COVID when everyone stopped meeting and it's never really recovered.

Over the last few years I have noticed a surge in new bi-curious guys with low effort profiles. I used to get a mix of messages but these days most of the messages I get are from those types. Most annoying with these type of people is they never bother reading profiles first.

Lots of people whining about TV/TS in this forum but it's pretty simple, they have always been welcome on this site and will continue to be. Do I get annoyed that after spending hours dolling myself up I get lumped into the same category as hairy married blokes in their wives knickers? Sometimes, but it is what it is.

All that said there are still plenty of serious people on here looking to meet and I'll stay on the site for as long as that is the case.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 days ago

Hayes, Middx


" … Don't raise your expectations. Keep it realistic..."

Have you been in the Forum before, dear?!

😉

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By *heshire BottomMan
2 days ago

Sandbach


"

That is a bit like being on the Titanic as it is sinking and saying well this deck is still above the waterline -take the win."

But it is lovely and peaceful now the women and children have left.

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By *lamMan
2 days ago

Merthyr-Tydfil

Compared to the days pre covid it's dead. 2017 ish was my best years

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By *amie1402Man
2 days ago

Merseyside

Site still works well.

But since Covid the number of dreamers, talkers, wankers, and general time wasters does seem to have increased.

I think a lot of people joined during lockdown and think they are still in it

But the genuine people are still here

Just have to sift out the dross a bit more carefully

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By *lackbootzMan
2 days ago

Hayes, Middx


"

That is a bit like being on the Titanic as it is sinking and saying well this deck is still above the waterline -take the win.

But it is lovely and peaceful now the women and children have left."

And "Nearer, My God, to Thee" is a fine hymnal tune on strings.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 days ago

Hayes, Middx


" … Just have to sift out the dross a bit more carefully … "

Exactly.

Dross sifting and chaff winnowing require more time and energy than they used to. That’s the change. It’s universal - it’s not specific to this site.

The moaning always seems to come from those who are unprepared or ill-equipped to do that bit.

And as has been said in a myriad threads on this same theme - including guidance from moderators who have posted in person - if you are unwilling or too lazy or stupid to use the many tools the site gives us… Verifications; were they in person or by camera; what do they say; are they displayed; are they prepared to display if asked… You can use settings to search by age, whether people can accommodate, filter out certain sexuality types, block non verified or new users…. Insist on speaking to someone on phone before driving 100 miles to a non-existent address…

Constant whinging.

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By *heone30Man
2 days ago

portsmouth

Its been mentioned so many times however use the options available and youll only meet the real people. When back home(currentlt away) i chat to so many but get to meet probably once a week which suits me...

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By *ighway expressMan
2 days ago

Campbeltown


" … Don't raise your expectations. Keep it realistic...

Have you been in the Forum before, dear?!

😉

"

God, you'd think people were FORCED to be on here or something......🙄😁

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By (user no longer on site)
21 hours ago

Worse in some areas and good in many areas but it depends on the people.

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By *lackbootzMan
20 hours ago

Hayes, Middx


"Worse in some areas and good in many areas but it depends on the people. "

Thank you for this searingly incisive comment.

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By *heerlobvecockMan
20 hours ago

coventry

I think fun on here occurs when it happens it happens, it’s not guaranteed, try other things like saunas or organised events if your not getting much fun if your confident do to do obviously, 1 or two a month is about right really as you need to also look after yourself.

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By *arridMan
16 hours ago

bRiGhToN

All these people moaning about the site - why stay then? Nothing worse than a moany nagging complainer who doesn’t have the balls to do something about it.

No one blames themselves for their own lack of success but as can be seen, other guys like the site, have meets and are enjoying it all.

If you don’t like it, leave!

Except, of course, they will stay and attempt to spoil it for those who are enjoying it by blaming other people for their own flaccid failures.

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By *ndrew40Man
16 hours ago

hartlebury

Think a lot depends where you live. Can be harder to find if not in a big city

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By *nkedmancMan
15 hours ago

Manchester

I must admit I do find it pretty difficult getting meets but then I understand I'm only interested in meeting tgirls and cd's, also I'm not exactly young and potentially not to everyone's taste,but that being said it's not expensive to be a member and always good for a perv and have a browse through the forums.

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By *anbidadMan
15 hours ago

East Lancs

I hate the positive one or two

Messages. Even adding to my friend lists and then everything goes stale. 99% are removed after a week. Dunno why this is. I’m here for real meets.

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By *V71Man
14 hours ago

Chelmsford

None of us are getting any younger, and as the song goes "Nobody loves a fairy when she's forty"

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By *androvermanMan
14 hours ago

Burton upon Trent


"And yes I agree there seems to be loads of comments regarding women, sex with women which I find a bit odd"

For me, that's the worst part - the site was created for gay guys after all.

There are numerous things the site owners could do to improve the experience too, but I've given up on suggestions and giving feedback as they don't seem to care much.

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By *q oralistMan
7 hours ago

Torquay


"And yes I agree there seems to be loads of comments regarding women, sex with women which I find a bit odd

For me, that's the worst part - the site was created for gay guys after all.

There are numerous things the site owners could do to improve the experience too, but I've given up on suggestions and giving feedback as they don't seem to care much."

This angle comes up time and again. It does seem very hard for some guys on here to accept that the site is fully open for bi sexual men who, be definition also have an interest in women. Quite easy to pass them by if you are only interested in men that are fully gay.

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By *eatherloverukMan
7 hours ago

near Skegness

sites certainly not as good but none of the other sites are either, there is plenty of meets out there if you put the effort in, I used to love the old cottaging site got loads of excellent meets from there

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By *issy SiMan
7 hours ago

Horsham

So many whingers who aren't prepared to put a bit of effort into making meets happen.

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By *alker2468Man
7 hours ago

Folkestone

This site seems fine to me. Met or spoken to many nice men through fabguys

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By *teelballsMan
6 hours ago

central london

I think it’s very much a numbers game. Being in a large city helps, particularly in London where lots of people are staying over in hotels so that there is a constant turnover of new profiles.

In a less populated area everyone around will have seen your profile and possibilities become more limited.

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By *arridMan
6 hours ago

bRiGhToN

It works well for what I want too.

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By *he Full 100Man
6 hours ago

South West


"I think it’s very much a numbers game. Being in a large city helps, particularly in London where lots of people are staying over in hotels so that there is a constant turnover of new profiles.

In a less populated area everyone around will have seen your profile and possibilities become more limited. "

Totally agree

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By *_nottslad_xTV/TS
6 hours ago

Mansfield

Depends who you talk to. I find you quickly know who the time wasters are. I am in no rush to meet within 5 minutes of emailing so tend to chat to people over a period of time and if an opportunity comes up then we can meet. I also don’t meet anyone who isn’t at least a year on the site with at least 1 meet in person verification

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By *arkinSuffolkMan
6 hours ago

Lowestoft

I enjoy the site and get meets when I am looking etc

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By *wladMan
6 hours ago

high wycombe

It has felt a lot different lately. Usually, I'd be checking this site a few times a day, now I'm checking it maybe once or twice a week. Too many time wasters and people here to advertise their OF content

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By *ttmblkMan
5 hours ago

West Midlands

It's all subjective. For me personally, for every guy I'm not into there are types that I like. Even if they are not interested in me. Its nice to see there are guys I like or into that are out there. Don't lose hope.

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By *amie1402Man
5 hours ago

Merseyside


" … Just have to sift out the dross a bit more carefully …

Exactly.

Dross sifting and chaff winnowing require more time and energy than they used to. That’s the change. It’s universal - it’s not specific to this site.

The moaning always seems to come from those who are unprepared or ill-equipped to do that bit.

And as has been said in a myriad threads on this same theme - including guidance from moderators who have posted in person - if you are unwilling or too lazy or stupid to use the many tools the site gives us… Verifications; were they in person or by camera; what do they say; are they displayed; are they prepared to display if asked… You can use settings to search by age, whether people can accommodate, filter out certain sexuality types, block non verified or new users…. Insist on speaking to someone on phone before driving 100 miles to a non-existent address…

Constant whinging. "

Indeed

It’s not rocket science, as they say.

We all get caught out now and then but common sense will out most of the idiots.

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
5 hours ago

Berkshire

Your profile is confusing, says you’re TV/TS how do you explain that one to potential hook ups ?

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By *mthbivers72Man
5 hours ago

Bournemouth


"I get the impression that TVs/TSs and anyone under 30 does quite well. The rest of us are fucked (or not as the case might be)."

Fuck me anytime you like

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By *amie1402Man
5 hours ago

Merseyside


"Your profile is confusing, says you’re TV/TS how do you explain that one to potential hook ups ? "

Whose profile ?

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
5 hours ago

Berkshire


"Your profile is confusing, says you’re TV/TS how do you explain that one to potential hook ups ?

Whose profile ?"

The profile 4 or 5 up from my comment

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By *umboy321.Man
2 hours ago

All over the shop

It's because you're getting older

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By *iggreenockMan
16 minutes ago

Greenock

Obviously!! Harder to be worse than it was when I joined 10+ years ago. This is my last site supporting year. I'm not supporting below par!

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