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By (user no longer on site) OP   
2 weeks ago

William Hanson is a British etiquette expert who teaches millions on social media everything from table manners to business meeting rules.

Just started to read a few pages of his new book, "Just Good Manners". For anyone who have read his book, do you think it is the objective, accurate presentation of British etiquette or is it merely subjective ?

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By *0yguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cumberland

Lady Trowbridge’s is the definitive guide: a gentleman is a person who uses a butter knife even when eating alone.

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By *eefandfurMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

We all need some basic rules about acceptable behaviour just to make living in densely populated cities tolerable. However there is a lot of pretentious BS and elitism tied up in formalised etiquette. Strict rule following seems to be the preserve of the snooty middle-class, as you move up the social strata people feel more comfortable, confident, with less need to prove themselves.

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By *SAOFMan
2 weeks ago

Work/Play in London, live in Kent

William has always struck me as a wonderful entertainment professional. I enjoy his podcast.

He has learned much about traditional British etiquette but for some reason he strikes me the chap who marshalls the crowd looking in. Is he U or is he just a very knowledgeable but very desirous non-U? I’ve always thought the latter.

Being non-British, class still is a thing, but most people are less able to gauge what class somebody who doesn’t speak with a British accent comes from.

I felt socially at home in situations where I have shared a cup of tea with the salt of the Earth Yorkshire tradesmen who had come to clean my gutters and I have taken tea with an earl that recently been evicted from the family seat in the House of Lords which his ancestors had occupied since the 1600s. I felt just as comfortable with each but I suspect that neither would have been particularly comfortable with the other chap.

I think etiquette boils down to behaving in a way that makes your guest or your host, depending on your role, feel comfortable in your presence. I don’t believe there’s a right way or the wrong way to do things per se; just the right way or the wrong way to do a thing in the time and place.

I was raised to use a bitter knife if it were on the table as it lacked the fine serrations on a table knife so did no leave lines in the butter on your bread, but never to expect one to be one someone else’s table. At 50 I finally bought* myself some butter knifes and I do feel the buttered soda bread tastes better - though not because I think it posh; because it’s more homely.

* TBH nicked by a friend from the posh club he took me for my birthday.

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By *aptainCaveman50Man
2 weeks ago

stoke

A gentleman gets out of the bath the piss in the sink. Rather than pissing into the sponge the squeezing it into the sink.

You heard it here first folks.

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By *iFun76Man
2 weeks ago

Wallingford


"A gentleman gets out of the bath the piss in the sink. Rather than pissing into the sponge the squeezing it into the sink.

You heard it here first folks. "

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *SAOFMan
2 weeks ago

Work/Play in London, live in Kent


"A gentleman gets out of the bath the piss in the sink. Rather than pissing into the sponge the squeezing it into the sink.

You heard it here first folks. "

Best definition yet.

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By *ravelriderMan
2 weeks ago

Redruth

Which chapter is on gay sauna etiquette?

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By *laingreedyMan
2 weeks ago

Chelmsford

I heard a radio interview once in which an American commentator put the point forward that by and large Americans have better manners than the British; but the British are way more polite in that they conveyed this politeness across multiple registers and were generally more respectful. Whereas Americans tended to follow forms or rules rather than taking care not to be offensive.

In my experience I think that guy had a point.

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By *ro4hoesMan
2 weeks ago

Newport


"A gentleman gets out of the bath the piss in the sink. Rather than pissing into the sponge the squeezing it into the sink.

You heard it here first folks. "

I'm stealing this!!

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By *0yguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cumberland


"I heard a radio interview once in which an American commentator put the point forward that by and large Americans have better manners than the British; but the British are way more polite in that they conveyed this politeness across multiple registers and were generally more respectful. Whereas Americans tended to follow forms or rules rather than taking care not to be offensive.

In my experience I think that guy had a point."

If an American breaks the social norms there’s all he’ll let loose and a fight breaks out. In Britain if someone doesn’t follow social convention we just smile and say never mind, they don’t know any better.

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