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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
5 days ago

hastings

I wanted to write this as it may give someone some inspiration.

Hard to admit but I have not had sex with my Mrs for 7 years minimum. It might be as much as 10 years, its not exactly something you start counting.

I have tried romance, tried talking to her over the years and nothing seemed to change. The last time I asked was probably about 4 years ago. I just asked if we could have sex sometime soon and she just said 'maybe' but that was it.

I have got to the stage that I dont even try. We go to bed, sometime have a chat about our day and thats it...sleep

The last couple of years I have started fantasising about her going with another guy, even having an affair. Real proper fantasies and I even have spoken to a few guys on here about it. Maybe its a way of getting some sort of sexual satifaction by imagining her with someone else.

I actually got speaking to a guy recently, who knows her from face book and what initially started with some casual chat, turned into us talking about how much he would like to bed her and me saying I would love it too, although not sure I would actually go through with it.

I got so turned on one night about a week ago just laying in bed when I just sudeene,y found myself saying

"will we ever have sex again"

She said "why do you ask thats suddenly"

I said "because I miss it, dont you"

"yes I do" she said

"What, you want to have sex"

"yes"

We spoke a bit more the next day and basically, I am having the snip and she has assured me, we WILL get back to regular sex!

Just a couple of weeks ago, I would have said, there is no chance we will get back to a decent sex life, she simply does not want it!

How wrong I was!

So guys, those of you that were like me, just fucking ask!!

If just one person gets things back on track because of reading this post, I will be happy.

For any that have had sexual fun elsewhere though, make sure you dont have an STI before you start shagging the Mrs again!

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By *estOxonBottomMan
5 days ago

Carterton

Glad to read that you will soon be ejaculating into her vagina soon. It's been 11 years for me but that's because of my wife's MS disability, where her whole body goes into a spasm when she is laid onto the bed. If I had the strength to prise her legs apart, I would have lost my erection to get it into her.

Do let us all know if you are finally successful getting back into her body.

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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
5 days ago

hastings


"Glad to read that you will soon be ejaculating into her vagina soon. It's been 11 years for me but that's because of my wife's MS disability, where her whole body goes into a spasm when she is laid onto the bed. If I had the strength to prise her legs apart, I would have lost my erection to get it into her.

Do let us all know if you are finally successful getting back into her body."

Sorry to hear this

I will do.

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By *ick ZuckerMan
5 days ago

sheffield

May I ask why you are having the snip? Is wife still capable of getting pregnant?

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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
5 days ago

hastings


"May I ask why you are having the snip? Is wife still capable of getting pregnant? "

I assume so. She's 45

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By *antyLover66Man
5 days ago

Ilkeston


"May I ask why you are having the snip? Is wife still capable of getting pregnant?

I assume so. She's 45"

Yeah, and his lottery ticket is a dead cert too

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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
5 days ago

hastings


"May I ask why you are having the snip? Is wife still capable of getting pregnant?

I assume so. She's 45

Yeah, and his lottery ticket is a dead cert too "

Based on the last 7 years or so, it dont feel that way lol.

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By *ick ZuckerMan
5 days ago

sheffield

Personally I wouldn’t be having the snip on the promise of a shag off a woman that hasn’t let me shag her for 7 years. At least a few times with a condom first before going for surgery

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By *amelaXTV/TS
5 days ago

Swindon

Sounds like someone is being strung along 😢

Life is far too short to be messed around with false promises

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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
5 days ago

hastings


"Personally I wouldn’t be having the snip on the promise of a shag off a woman that hasn’t let me shag her for 7 years. At least a few times with a condom first before going for surgery"

Thats a good point but I have been with her for 27 years if she says she will do something she will. Offered to go to docs to sort contraception but i said i will have the snip after reading there are more side effects and risks for a woman.

A couple of days of pain for potentially loads of gain

Honestly though the point of this post really is to give hope to others in the same boat

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By *eemebabyMan
5 days ago

Dudley

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By *oaq2Man
5 days ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I love looking at my wife's tits when she gets dressed but that's the nearest thing to sex that I get now.

That's just the way it is. I have given up and just seek a bit of NSA naughtiness with other men now.

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By *wadbisexualMan
5 days ago

Castle Gresley

No sex within my marriage this last 6 years, only action i get now is with guys

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By *enardeMan
5 days ago

Barnsley

Mines made loads of promises but never keeps them

I’m 9 years in

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By *obbertMan
5 days ago

In a world of my own

Although I’m single so cannot speak from experience and wouldn’t either.

A sexless marriage must be difficult, both in terms of mental and physical wellbeing, trying to keep yourself true to your commitments to maintain an otherwise hopefully loving relationship would put immense strain on both, only through open conversation will the situation alter perhaps?

Hugs to all

Bob

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By *iman88Man
5 days ago

derry

Any men go of sex

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By *iman88Man
3 days ago

derry


"Any men go of sex "
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By *tar33Man
3 days ago

North London (outer)


"I wanted to write this as it may give someone some inspiration.

Hard to admit but I have not had sex with my Mrs for 7 years minimum. It might be as much as 10 years, its not exactly something you start counting.

I have tried romance, tried talking to her over the years and nothing seemed to change. The last time I asked was probably about 4 years ago. I just asked if we could have sex sometime soon and she just said 'maybe' but that was it.

I have got to the stage that I dont even try. We go to bed, sometime have a chat about our day and thats it...sleep

The last couple of years I have started fantasising about her going with another guy, even having an affair. Real proper fantasies and I even have spoken to a few guys on here about it. Maybe its a way of getting some sort of sexual satifaction by imagining her with someone else.

I actually got speaking to a guy recently, who knows her from face book and what initially started with some casual chat, turned into us talking about how much he would like to bed her and me saying I would love it too, although not sure I would actually go through with it.

I got so turned on one night about a week ago just laying in bed when I just sudeene,y found myself saying

"will we ever have sex again"

She said "why do you ask thats suddenly"

I said "because I miss it, dont you"

"yes I do" she said

"What, you want to have sex"

"yes"

We spoke a bit more the next day and basically, I am having the snip and she has assured me, we WILL get back to regular sex!

Just a couple of weeks ago, I would have said, there is no chance we will get back to a decent sex life, she simply does not want it!

How wrong I was!

So guys, those of you that were like me, just fucking ask!!

If just one person gets things back on track because of reading this post, I will be happy.

For any that have had sexual fun elsewhere though, make sure you dont have an STI before you start shagging the Mrs again!"

You're 59, how old is your wife? I only ask this because you mention getting a vasectomy, as if it's the reason for the lack of sexual desire, and something that could've been sorted years ago.

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By *tar33Man
3 days ago

North London (outer)


"I wanted to write this as it may give someone some inspiration.

Hard to admit but I have not had sex with my Mrs for 7 years minimum. It might be as much as 10 years, its not exactly something you start counting.

I have tried romance, tried talking to her over the years and nothing seemed to change. The last time I asked was probably about 4 years ago. I just asked if we could have sex sometime soon and she just said 'maybe' but that was it.

I have got to the stage that I dont even try. We go to bed, sometime have a chat about our day and thats it...sleep

The last couple of years I have started fantasising about her going with another guy, even having an affair. Real proper fantasies and I even have spoken to a few guys on here about it. Maybe its a way of getting some sort of sexual satifaction by imagining her with someone else.

I actually got speaking to a guy recently, who knows her from face book and what initially started with some casual chat, turned into us talking about how much he would like to bed her and me saying I would love it too, although not sure I would actually go through with it.

I got so turned on one night about a week ago just laying in bed when I just sudeene,y found myself saying

"will we ever have sex again"

She said "why do you ask thats suddenly"

I said "because I miss it, dont you"

"yes I do" she said

"What, you want to have sex"

"yes"

We spoke a bit more the next day and basically, I am having the snip and she has assured me, we WILL get back to regular sex!

Just a couple of weeks ago, I would have said, there is no chance we will get back to a decent sex life, she simply does not want it!

How wrong I was!

So guys, those of you that were like me, just fucking ask!!

If just one person gets things back on track because of reading this post, I will be happy.

For any that have had sexual fun elsewhere though, make sure you dont have an STI before you start shagging the Mrs again!

You're 59, how old is your wife? I only ask this because you mention getting a vasectomy, as if it's the reason for the lack of sexual desire, and something that could've been sorted years ago."

No need to answer that, I can now see you've already addressed it.

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By *enryDarrenMan
3 days ago

Harrow Weald

I have been in a sexless relationship with my GF for 4 years now

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By *rusoeMan
3 days ago

Uist

Am I missing something here or could the op just put on a condom rather than having a surgical procedure ? At least that way they would both find out if they both really do want to have sex with each other again.

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By *uckmeslow555Man
3 days ago

oakham

Mine dead in the water 14 years

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By *ostie52Man
3 days ago

Bournemouth

I’m the same we very rarely have sex and it’s both our faults think I just like the thrill of sex with strangers

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By *jh59Man
3 days ago

Hinckley

Not had sex with the wife since summer 2024,it does not bother me

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By *rangerMan
3 days ago

merseyside

I am in the same boat sexless wife

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By *erasusMan
3 days ago

Glasgow

I wonder if we just take the initiative and just start something unexpectedly while watching the telly or maybe after having a glass of wine after a meal it might spark something

Perhaps there are two people thinking the same thing but perhaps uncomfortable about being naughty after a long period of simple acceptance of the sex rut both have mutually fallen into?

Maybe I should take my own advice 😂

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By *azaMan
3 days ago

Walsall

I to have been married a long time and haven't been with my wife for about ten years she just doesn't want to know about sex any more I think that's why I started looking at guys more and more I used to love to cum in her pussy but just before we stopped having sex I could tell she wasn't interested as she just lied there and could not wait till I had finished

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By *og606Man
3 days ago

spalding

No sex in my marriage for past 8 years. Do I miss it? Yes but I accept that since going through the menopause she has lost interest. I have long been bi and now enjoy time with guys x

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By *artin1963Man
3 days ago

crouch end

I had the snip 15 years ago, as my wife was worried about having more children and that was putting her off sex. Sadly did not seem to help the reduction in our sex life. I still fancy her loads!

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By *yrman57Man
3 days ago

Ayr

11 barren years here which initially triggered my Fab membership.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

Must be 20years wife's lost interest but we've done it all the swapping fetish clubs etc now I play with men and the occasional girl she knows we are best mates I love her to bits 54years married and counting xx

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By *ashtoolMan
3 days ago

belfast

Good to read about your real life situations it will help others know they are not the only ones going through it

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By *lue555Man
3 days ago

harrow

This story doesn’t make sense she says you’re going to have sex could be a big lie.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

A good marriage isn't based on sex although its important being best friends there for each other right or wrong that's it for me xx

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By *ondomhunter OP   Man
2 days ago

hastings


"This story doesn’t make sense she says you’re going to have sex could be a big lie. "

I have known her and loved her for 26 years or so. Apart from the sex, out marriage is fine. I dont believe she would send me off to have my balls snipped and then not have sex after. Plus she is different since the conversation, coming to me for more cuddles and a couple of gropes.

Plus, she offered to go to the docs to sort contraception, its me that decided to have the snip.

But yeh....there's a risk that it doesn't happen but I think its a small one.

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By *parky6Man
2 days ago

Leigh on sea

Have some sympathy with the post had similar experiences with the comments and guess what a therapist would say female needs to be loved more help out etc but how does that reflect where you can go to a local dogging site and get a bj or more from a females you do not know or even there 1st name

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By *untzMan
2 days ago

Nantwich Cheshire

There is maybe a general assumption that it's always the woman's fault that sex is denied. In my case, I was the one at fault. Many years ago I discovered having an affair with the neighbour and apart from all the emotional pain the family suffered we inevitably stopped having sex. Thankfully we stayed together, moved house and started a new life. We began to have sex again, albeit not that often. Throughout all of this and over the period of our long marriage I was also having sex with guys. Yes, the guilt would often get to me and I'd stop for a while but temptation to have sex with men didn't last long. During one such period I chose not to have sex with my wife because I became paranoid about passing on an sti to her, and she clearly saw this as rejection. She vowed never to instigate sex with me again; she has remained true to her word to this day. Yes I have been a bit of a c##t and I accept all responsibility but we are still together after 30 yrs, we share the same sense of humour and still love each other in spite of what has happened.

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By *ull bi for funMan
2 days ago

hull

It was me and the wifes wedding anniversary yesterday, I celebrated it by having a wank with my morning glory whilst she was downstairs because she couldn't sleep from waking up early.

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