FabGuys.com forum: Shame after orgasm

By *erryBramley OP TV/TS
4 days ago

Why do I feel silly and lose interest after orgasm? Do I need to embrace the shame of being a sissy?

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By *hiamintyMan
4 days ago

rg25

"Why do I feel silly and lose interest after orgasm? Do I need to embrace the shame of being a sissy?"

I feel the same way but eventually come round to it again 🙄

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By *oeee1988Man
4 days ago

redcar

I feel shame after I cum

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By *ave6912Man
4 days ago

leeds

Yes , I’m the same , as soon as I’ve cum , that’s it’s , and feel shame I’ve given in to my urges again, but know I will time and again

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By *ockedlingerieMan
4 days ago

corby

I’m kinda the same, it’s part of why I love to be locked up and only give pleasure on a meet. That way I leave there still horny and wanting more rather than feeling the shame or regret or anything

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By *ristolsbMan
4 days ago

Bristol

Shame? Because it's a sin?

Not for me. Don't believe in God or sin. It's really simple... there's nothing wrong with being gay or bi or liking some cock. Nothing. Just get on and enjoy it.

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By *alphLDNMan
3 days ago

Woodford

I had a boyfriend who I loved a lot who was very religious. He always felt guilty after orgasm and seemed to find his own semen unclean. He didn't like me licking his sperm up and eating it even though I didn't try to share it with him. Knew that would be a step too far for him.

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By *ikey1976Man
3 days ago

Southampton

Guilt rather than shame I guess, but I still enjoy the experience

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By *arpedickemMan
3 days ago

Portsmouth

Some psychology to unpack here! Guilt after sex suggests lack of comfort with yourself…

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By *omo2026Man
3 days ago

Liverpool

I want to cum again and make the fella cum again to

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By *andomguy321Man
3 days ago

reading

All those stating that they have negative emotions after climaxing have either been bisexual or still clinging on to the bi-curious label.

The shame stems from an uneasy relationship with their sexuality.

Those with female partners will also feel bad about being unfaithful.

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By *ikey1976Man
3 days ago

Southampton

"Some psychology to unpack here! Guilt after sex suggests lack of comfort with yourself…"

Yes, some issues for sure

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By *wadbisexualMan
3 days ago

Castle Gresley

No, that's very common, I'm also affected by that... affliction..

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By *ice WankerMan
3 days ago

Lancs

"Why do I feel silly and lose interest after orgasm? Do I need to embrace the shame of being a sissy?"

Most of us do, you lose the feeling of being horny and the adrenaline after shooting the load.

Some can go again maybe after half n hour, takes me 3-4 days til I feel the same again.

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By *stronomiqueMan
3 days ago

Preston ish

No Shame or guilt here...its to be enjoyed.

Being intimate and passionate with a other guy equals shooting your spooge. Easy

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By *0sKidMan
3 days ago

Dublin

"Why do I feel silly and lose interest after orgasm? Do I need to embrace the shame of being a sissy?"

You just need to embrace you babes, there's no shame to talk of, gorgeous profile by the way

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By *ristol_Speedo_guyMan
3 days ago

Bristol

Post Nut Clarity.

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By *amsoonMan
3 days ago

stornoway

Feel shame if either he or I cum too soon. Means we could have done better

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By *arrogateDadMan
3 days ago

Harrogate

Feel knackered sometimes if it’s been a long session & I sometimes need some “recovery time” to chill out by myself….especially after Sauna or Group session. Never feel “shame” though. If all parties have had a good time & enjoyed the experience, where’s the “shame” ? Only shame is that’s it over ….for now at least

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By *ribi123Man
3 days ago

STOCKPORT

I agree. I don't feel shame after orgasm just fucked.

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By *rookeTVTV/TS
3 days ago

Linwood

I feel the same thats why my cock is caged and ignored when I play x

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By *athCDTV/TS
3 days ago

Morpeth

Lots of guys feel shame after their climax, that's why they fuck off home as soon as they've finished

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By *efo Love CokMan
3 days ago

banbury

Think the main regret i feel is if I don't eat my cum after I've finished.

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By *u2usemeMan
3 days ago

hyde

I rarely cum anyway doesn't really interest me more into my nipples being played with

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By *cunnySucker69Man
3 days ago

Scunthorpe

When I have cum I lose interest for a while but I don't feel guilty or anything, it even happens after a wank

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By *tar33Man
3 days ago

North London (outer)

It's the refractory period, a temporary state where an individual cannot respond to a new stimulus following a previous one, most commonly referring to the sexual recovery time after orgasm, especially in men. This period, also occurring in biology as a nerve or muscle cell recovery time, allows the body to recover before it can be excited again. Factors like age and overall health can influence the duration of a sexual refractory period, which can range from minutes to days.

An increase in the infusion of the hormone oxytocin during ejaculation is believed to be chiefly responsible for the male refractory period, and the amount by which oxytocin is increased may affect the length of each refractory period.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

Think it is quite common with bisexuals. Especially married ones. We've probably all met them. Passionate, intense sex. Probably including kissing. Them once they've cum can't wait to get their trousers back on and out of the room. No chance of a goodbye kiss and barely a thanks. It's as if a switch has been flicked

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By *azaMan
3 days ago

Walsall

I feel the same after I have shot my load but after a couple of hours I want more lol

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By *alking HeadMan
3 days ago

Bolton

You only feel shame if it's dirty. If it's not dirty, your not doing it right

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By *tar33Man
3 days ago

North London (outer)

"Think it is quite common with bisexuals. Especially married ones. We've probably all met them. Passionate, intense sex. Probably including kissing. Them once they've cum can't wait to get their trousers back on and out of the room. No chance of a goodbye kiss and barely a thanks. It's as if a switch has been flicked"

Probably because we're attracted to having sex with other men, but not actually actually attracted to men on an emotional way. It's pretty common I would say, although in my case I don't mind chatting with a guy about things for a while afterwards.

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By *ensualblokeMan
3 days ago

Colchester/Waltham Abbey

Can't say I have. Extreme pleasure, yes, sometimes utter exhaustion after a long/ passionate session that has drawn every drop of spunk from my balls; but never 'guilt'.

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By *ovetodress72TV/TS
3 days ago

Scotland

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By *D_SuckerTV/TS
3 days ago

Sileby

I feel shame when I've been a filthy cocksucking sissy and taken a cumload in one of my holes....but within 5 minutes back to being a sissy cumloving slag again !

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By *amie1402Man
3 days ago

Liverpool

Never feel it sfter sex with another

But guilt after masturbation yes.

Which is odd because I didn’t have repressive or religious parents.

I suspect this is what the OP is referring to

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By *ikepetersMan
3 days ago

yeovil

I have exactly the same feeling after wanking

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By *has2Man
3 days ago

Chaddesden, Derby

There's a saying attributed to Galen, a Greek physician from ancient times "Post coitum omne animal triste est sive gallus et mulier' which can be translated as 'After intercourse all animals are sad both the cock and the woman'.

After I've cum I simply lose interest and sometimes wonder what all the fuss was, which feels a bit sad. But not shame.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

Remember one guy say something like "I'm not gay. I'm not even really bi. Don't know why I'm here. I'm sorry should never have been here" minutes after we had had full passionate sex. A couple of days later he is messaging me to meet again!

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By *enardeMan
3 days ago

Barnsley

I lose all sexual feeling when I’ve cum

I don’t feel any shame

I don’t fancy guys but I love cock the more so if I’m carrying a few day load and horny

But when I’ve cum I lose all interest

I’ve met other guys who are the same, always married guys

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By *treyu500Man
3 days ago

Australia

"Some psychology to unpack here! Guilt after sex suggests lack of comfort with yourself…"

Not necessarily. But, ya, generally.

In my case, my post orgasm guilt did go away when I explored it through therapy and mostly by talking to other men.

These forums also helped me initially, many years ago. Because knowing that other men thought the same as me, had similar fantasies, experiences etc. It made me less judgemental on myself I suppose. The funny thing about that is, even back then, I wouldn't judge someone else but I did judge me .

The sense of self and the subconscious mind can be quite complex.

My only regret is that I didn't speak to a professional earlier. I just didn't trust anyone enough to talk about it at the time. I'm glad I pushed myself. Best decision I ever made tbh.

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By *igsdMan
3 days ago

Norwich

Yep another one here who feels guilty, deletes profile then the urge just builds….

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By *erryBramley OP TV/TS
3 days ago

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By *dambi00Man
3 days ago

Leicestershire

Not at all

I’ve accepted my sexuality and don’t see anything wrong with the fun I get up to, so no feel of guilt.

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By *erryBramley OP TV/TS
3 days ago

"I feel the same thats why my cock is caged and ignored when I play x"

That's a good work around xx

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By *unguy2429Man
3 days ago

worthing

"Why do I feel silly and lose interest after orgasm? Do I need to embrace the shame of being a sissy?"

I get like it too

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By *lokenexdoor2025Man
3 days ago

Ludlow

"Post Nut Clarity. "

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

No shame no guilt I'm bottom most of my guys fuck and crawl away happy because I fucking knacker them out though often they just lay there on the bed while I make a coffee when I drank my coffee I untie them and they fuck again or fuck off x

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By *usterMan
3 days ago

Cramlington

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By *usterMan
3 days ago

Cramlington

It’s not shame you’re feeling it’s an in built mindset derived from the evolutionary requirements to leave the female alone while your sperm does what it needs to do what it needs to be done and not be disturbed, this feeling manifests as a shame feeling to walk away from the situation. Thus we feel a sense that translates as a shame feeling.

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By *treyu500Man
3 days ago

Australia

"Post Nut Clarity.

Also that lol. We forget how much our hormones can dictate our behaviour

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By *emmaDarlingTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedfordshire

I never feel any shame, just pull my knickers up and carry on as normal 😊

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

"I never feel any shame, just pull my knickers up and carry on as normal 😊"
my kinda gal lol x

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By *orny747Man
3 days ago

andover

Only for about 30 seconds

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By *eejames99Man
3 days ago

eastleigh

I don't feel shame at all I enjoy it to much

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By *allsdeep75Man
3 days ago

dunmow

I have been the same but recently with a partner found I just wanted more as as it turned out so did he that was very different in a good way

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By *ashtoolMan
3 days ago

belfast

Why be ashamed of doing something you like

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By *andomguy321Man
3 days ago

reading

A great shame for those who recoil away in disgust after their lust is sated ... They are missing out on what can be very pleasurable post-coital closeness and shared affection.

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By *sfguyMan
2 days ago

stockton

I've only gone through that feeling in recent years since my partner has been off sex. I spend hours edging, when I've cum I feel the need to clean up quickly. In the past when we had a sex life, I never felt that way. I'd love the feeling afterwards. Touching, feeling cum on each other and kissing.

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By *erryBramley OP TV/TS
17 hours ago

"A great shame for those who recoil away in disgust after their lust is sated ... They are missing out on what can be very pleasurable post-coital closeness and shared affection."

I'd love to be held and kissed xxx

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By *ildwestheroMan
14 hours ago

Llandrindod Wells

After an orgasm with another guy I'm usually on Cloud 9 and hoping he will stay for a kiss and cuddle until we've got the strength back to orgasm again.

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By *ocalMan
6 hours ago

North West

Before I tried bi/gay sex I used to wank off watching porn and now and then fantasize about being the one sucking, wanting to know what a cock felt like in your mouth, when id cum I used to feel ashamed of myself for wanking over such stuff, and that there is no way I could do it for real as the shame would overwhelm me, but then I did end up sucking cock for real and after I cum I felt no shame at all, none.

When I am getting fucked I can often have anal orgasm's, sometimes multiple anal orgasm's and alls good, the top can keep on fucking me, but if I have a proper orgasm through wanking whilst getting fucked with spunk flying then I have to stop the fucking, it's not shame, I wish I could carry on but it's my arse telling me to get that fucking thing out of me, it's my arse that say stop, no shame involved, at times it works out good as ten minutes or so later when my arse says "am good to go" then usually my top is still horned up and ready for round two

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By *uckmeslow555Man
5 hours ago

oakham

No never feel guilty love cock fun

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By *wannaMan
5 hours ago

Merseyside area

I've felt shame when met a guy who literally shot his load within 2 minutes of me touching his cock and then legged it leaving me standing there naked and hard.

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By *egginzboyMan
4 hours ago

Newcastle / Trentham

Go to church & confess your sins

I always get a really good feeling after confession

Its like having the weight lifted from your shoulders truly uplifting

But you have to tell everything and be honest

It will make you feel much better

It works for me anyway

Amen

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By *am3032TV/TS
3 hours ago

Alfreton

No shame, happy to try for seconds. Happy to try to go again, would love a repeat cummer X

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By *treyu500Man
2 hours ago

Australia

"Go to church & confess your sins

I always get a really good feeling after confession

Its like having the weight lifted from your shoulders truly uplifting

But you have to tell everything and be honest

It will make you feel much better

It works for me anyway

Amen"

Tried that when I was young. I have better things to do that give "celibate" men erections on the other side of a wooden box

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By *perm nurseTV/TS
2 hours ago

colchester

I'm still horny dressed x

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