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By (user no longer on site) OP
11 weeks ago

How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid

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By *ertsguy77Man
11 weeks ago

Welwyn garden city

Feel same when had meet... its normal

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By *upertedMan
11 weeks ago

Nelson

I'm on the other side. Single fella here.

Not on this app to out anyone.

If I can provide a service and help scratch an itch I'm happy...

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By *uriouscum33Man
11 weeks ago

Hull

I get the guilt feeling after but mans got needs sometimes and its my secret side

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By *easdown_dadbodMan
11 weeks ago

Bath/Bristol

Had a number of meets since becoming a dad, always feel the guilt afterwards but learning to just push past it, I have sexual needs that I'm just not getting at home at the end of the day, I know it's somewhat selfish but no one's perfect.

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By *i naughty builMan
11 weeks ago

Plymouth

Married dad

I have needs and the guilt I felt in the beginning is long past

Healthy swingers sex life at home

And super careful with my gay life

Never meet at home

Always safe sex

Regularly wipe clean phone messages

Massaging apps kept in separate folder and regularly deleted and reloaded....Inc fab guys

Keep the rules and no one needs to be hurt

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By *edServiceMan
11 weeks ago

Hull

I'm obviously saying this as a single guy, so maybe the context is unavailable for me.

But ultimately conversations have to be had to open relationships up when needed.

Often sex can and should be considered a key part of relationships and sometimes that means open relationships or even hall passes need to be spoken about.

Modern society and religion just forces everyone into hetro normative relationships and that works for a lot of people but it's just not the case for a lot of people too.

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By *arridMan
11 weeks ago

Brighton

I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty. Maybe I’m good at compartmentalising. Also my marriage vows never said anything about loyalty or fidelity or anything christian actually.

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By *an24Man
11 weeks ago

dundee

No guilt now adays, to start with yes x

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By *hetlad30Man
11 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Married real dads are my biggest turn on. DMs are always open guys.

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By *etechattingMan
11 weeks ago

Nottingham

No issues meeting married guys.

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By *excessMan
11 weeks ago

Sleaford

Afyer 40 years of serial adulterery, I've long come to terms with it.

Not proud of it, and guys can rightly be critical, but I'm not stopping any time soon.

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By *loverfieldMan
11 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness

If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts.

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By *arridMan
11 weeks ago

Brighton

"If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts. "

Thank you for your contribution. I’m almost certain no-one cares what you think about men who cheat on their partners, but at least you used some time and energy getting that negativity out of your head.

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By *ickSeekerMan
11 weeks ago

Canterbury

Married (to another man) but NOT a father. Yes, there's still an intense pang of guilt. Does this make me a bad person? It probably does and I'll probably have to atone for it. I think I'd need a year-long Yom Kippur

or maybe even that boat has also sailed...sigh

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By *oresterMan
11 weeks ago

stroat

But. If you met and he was not wearing a wedding ring, would you know!

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By *etechattingMan
11 weeks ago

Nottingham

The assumption is that the guy has told you they are married. Most do not

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By *arridMan
11 weeks ago

Brighton

"The assumption is that the guy has told you they are married. Most do not"
sometimes the name gives it away

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By *etechattingMan
11 weeks ago

Nottingham

True

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By *ra57Man
11 weeks ago

Manchester

I have fun

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By *ocksucker501Man
11 weeks ago

Southend

I just have to ask myself why are you on this site as you have high moral view ?

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By *loverfieldMan
11 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness

"If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts.

Are you sure?

The op asked a question. I simply answered it.

He had asked the whole site, not just your little self.

If you cannot deal with other views, stay offline, or stick to private messages.

My opinion is as valid as yours, even if they differ.

And you talk about my negativity...

Sad sod. Get real.

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By *arridMan
11 weeks ago

Brighton

"If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts.

Are you sure?

The op asked a question. I simply answered it.

He had asked the whole site, not just your little self.

If you cannot deal with other views, stay offline, or stick to private messages.

My opinion is as valid as yours, even if they differ.

And you talk about my negativity...

Sad sod. Get real. "

The usual ad hominen abuse. Why be abusive? I wasn’t. Why tell me what to do? I didn’t tell you. Perhaps you live alone and don’t have a life long partner so all the envious bile comes seething out in the forums. Who know? More to the point, who cares?

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By *ustOneBearMan
11 weeks ago

Neath

I must admit I love a bit of a cuddle after sex- I miss it. If a man feels uncomfortable in doing it great. But if the guilt gets to you, I understand that, too. I don’t want to make things difficult for others. I have a rule that I don’t acknowledge you/ stare at you if I see you in public unless you acknowledge me.

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By *irthybearrMan
10 weeks ago

Cheadle

Always enjoy meeting married guys

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

My wife now knows after many years of not being able to tell here for a very long time married. It was the most nervous thing I have ever done and I assumed my life would change and I would lose my family and children and home.

But to my surprise after a very long few months talking through things and how I felt and what I had been doing she decided to accept me for who I am and not judge me. I get tested every 3 months, have prep for my meets and as also Vax Hep A -B. And I'm allowed only a few meets each month.

I do get very ashamed after meets and struggling to deal with the guilt when I come home and see her as I love her so so much but I just love having sex with guys especially bareback breeding

I always tell her where I'm going and roughly how long. There is no kissing allowed which is good as I could not do this anyway due to my PTSD from physical abuse as a young child.

Being a Bi Dad is very hard, my kids, family family, friends don't know. I live in fear of being found out plus the issues it will cause my wife with shame and being accused of a not satisfying me in the marriage.

She is an amazing women but I can not stopped being a Bi dad who enjoys sex with guys.

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By *anDadBodMan
10 weeks ago

Speke

my mrs is fully aware of my whereabouts and what i’m doing 👍🏻

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By *undatesMan
10 weeks ago

north London

Adore dating other mature married men like myself - l find it adds resonance

Can chat if anyone is interested

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By *andybigboiMan
10 weeks ago

sheffield

Had cocks in my youth upto now.

Didn’t have my first pussy until my mid 20s.

Tbh the cock urges/cravings are hard to resist, and needs satisfying often.

Had more cocks than pussy tbh

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By *andybigboiMan
10 weeks ago

sheffield

"Had cocks in my youth upto now.

Didn’t have my first pussy until my mid 20s.

Tbh the cock urges/cravings are hard to resist, and needs satisfying often.

Had more cocks than pussy tbh

Forgot to say, I married and a dad, meeting is trickier indeed.

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By *leets89Man
10 weeks ago

Birmingham

My Mrs loves it and loves watching. Best of both worlds

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By *rickie-dickieMan
10 weeks ago

South Durham

Same, I love my wife but I also enjoy sex with men. I try to be 'good' but it feels so good with a man.

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By *ittlelad69Man
10 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I’m in a sexless marriage but have needs

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By *ummerTV/TS
10 weeks ago

I am in Spain, not

Are you sure?

The op asked a question. I simply answered it.

He had asked the whole site, not just your little self.

If you cannot deal with other views, stay offline, or stick to private messages.

My opinion is as valid as yours, even if they differ.

And you talk about my negativity...

Sad sod. Get real. "

Perhaps before lashing out and attacking someone, first consider it breaks forum rules, then take time to step back from what you grasped as an opportunity to vent your judgmental opinion of others, including bringing up unrelated topics, and actually read what the OP wrote.

The OP was NOT asking the whole site, he was asking for the opinion of other men married to a female who are fathers if they felt guilt about THEIR adultery, and how THEY dealt with it.

So, unless you are presently married to a female and a father committing adultery, your opinion was not sought and is not valid.

As far as it being morally wrong, that sounds very much like religion based bias, bigotry and hetero normality that, as a gay man, you are no doubt aware is discriminatory and harmful so should know better.

Many gay guys post about sniffing jockstraps and other gay orientated variants of those other activities you voiced disgust at seeing in the Forum, the site includes bisexual in the identity option and there are no rules saying only homosexual sexual activity may be discussed.

Like it or not, it is a shared space, learn to scroll by if it doesn't interest you.

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By *heap charlieMan
10 weeks ago

Ringwood Hampshire

I also have mixed feelings

I would hate to hurt her…and it certainly would

Still am 76 so now and in the foreseeable future

I am not of a lot of guys radar..which means

Less meetings I guess .

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By *nT on the RocksMan
10 weeks ago

Oswestry

I expect it must get very lonely up there on the moral high ground. Still, you’ve always got your judgmental self for company. Meanwhile, in the real world…..

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By *ucker4you80Man
10 weeks ago

Chippenham

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

As much as we don't like experiencing guilt, the emotion is there for a reason. If you have guilt it's because you are doing something you know you shouldn't be doing. The feeling of guilt is more valuable to you than the urge you have for sex, listen to it and ask yourself if you would like the type of person you would be without experiencing guilt.

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By *amsoonMan
10 weeks ago

stornoway

My wife used to enjoy meeting other men too, so no worries there

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By *umlover68Man
10 weeks ago

Worthing

I'm always happy to meet up with married guys, I know a lot feel guilty, but I don't judge as they obviously have needs and I'm happy to help out and can be very discrete

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By *irtyfacesMan
10 weeks ago

near

Guilt will always be there but the need for male company is overwhelming

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Im married and bi and by the sounds of it one of the lucky ones to still be having sex with the wife. But i never feel guilty as she cant fullfill my side of loving a nice cock. If she had one ide feel guilty but as she hasnt i dont

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I’d love to meet a single Dad 😊

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By *ucker4you80Man
10 weeks ago

Chippenham

"Guilt will always be there but the need for male company is overwhelming "

This is where we fool ourselves into bypassing our guilt. It's not a 'need' for male company, it's a desire, nothing more. I get that it can be difficult to resist a desire, and one of the most simple tricks we use to justify giving in to it is by rebranding the desire as a need.

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By *orthfieldsnickMan
10 weeks ago

West London

Of course there are times when I feel guilty but in general I don’t. I feel so good when I play with a guy it cancels out any negative feelings of guilt, and I don’t see why I should feel guilty for something which feels so good.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Married dad here think Ive passed the guilt stage

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By *nmykneesagainMan
10 weeks ago

salford

Married dad here, i dont feel guilty, me and wife dont have sex anymore, i have needs, and i know shes cheated to

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By *ayhubbyMan
10 weeks ago

liverpool

Wife has had other cocks while we’ve been married so thought I’d do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Its lust, a craving. I like cock.

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By *nickersdadMan
10 weeks ago

Preston

It can be difficult yeah, but obviously only accom when they are out

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By *im le2Man
10 weeks ago

aylestone leic

In my day it was still illegal to be gay so all gay men got married and had kids. That didn't stop them being gay. Evan today we get married just to please family, friends, work.

If a guy doesn't tell you he's married how are we to know?.

What's the difference of a gay having sex with another guy and a guy having sex with a woman?

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By *hristof64Man
10 weeks ago

swindon

I have no guilt what so ever with regards to my extra marital affairs. All my lovers are aware of my marital status and I am not deluding anyone.

My partner gradually went off sex ten years ago with the advent of menopause. Before then we where rampant and divulged in the swinging scene. We have now got to the point we sleep in separate beds. Life is what it is and you make the best of it.

We tried relationship therapy etc and she wishes she had the desire but she doesn't. I would love if there was some magic potion she could take, god knows we have tried HRT but it just doesn't work.

I still have healthy desires and enjoy sex, so when the opportunity presents itself I indulge. If I didn't, I would most probably have left the relationship by now. Life is not all romantic happy endings for everyone.

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By *H IpswichMan
10 weeks ago

Ipswich

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

Then be honest with yourself, "her" as you refer to her and your "kid". Pleased to hear you adopted a goat.

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By *jh59Man
10 weeks ago

Hinckley

I have no guilt whatsoever

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By *ll foxMan
10 weeks ago

WORKSOP

I feel guilty after a meet!

Although sex is still on the menu at home it’s on the wife’s terms unfortunately those terms are not very often!

Another issue is I have always been interested in guys so the urge to meet is too much!

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By *ornyforcockXXXMan
10 weeks ago

Morecambe

She can't give me a cock or cum and I crave them. No guilt

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By *nknk456Man
10 weeks ago

Sth Herts

I worry about getting caught and I feel pretty bad about myself for the position I’m in and how it could affect the people I love the most, but I’m not labelling it as guilt. I might be deluding myself but I don’t feel guilty about what I do

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By *ig3Man
10 weeks ago

Maldon

No guilt here

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By *hs12Man
10 weeks ago

huntingdon nr

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By *hs12Man
10 weeks ago

huntingdon nr

No sex here. I'm.lucky ti have a peck on the cheek here

So.i.dont call.myself bi I'feel.more gay..xx

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By *arriedbiMan
10 weeks ago

Aldershot

I don't feel guilty X sexless any way but now class myself as gay now so nope not guilt

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By *oodsman2Man
10 weeks ago

Galashiels

My conscience is clear

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By *uckmeslow555Man
10 weeks ago

oakham

It’s normal but you have to do it you are a long time dead so enjoy it

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Berkshire

So guilty but they keep coming back for more 😉

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By *erscumdumpMan
10 weeks ago

Watford

We've all got needs and chances are another man can satisfy something a woman simply can't. I dont care if he's married or not. Some are fucking me more than they fuck their wife or husband. I'm probably helping to keep the marriage together.

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By *arridMan
10 weeks ago

Brighton

It’s easy for people to make judgements and have opinions and comment on others situations, but these are made with only the very basic information available and by people who aren’t experiencing the same. Consider this: no one - absolutely no one will change their behaviours no matter how barbed, vindictive and nasty anyones comments might be. Yes, you opine, yes, it’s a forum, yes, you don’t agree. You know what? Tough shit.

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By *ucker4you80Man
10 weeks ago

Chippenham

"It’s easy for people to make judgements and have opinions and comment on others situations, but these are made with only the very basic information available and by people who aren’t experiencing the same. Consider this: no one - absolutely no one will change their behaviours no matter how barbed, vindictive and nasty anyones comments might be. Yes, you opine, yes, it’s a forum, yes, you don’t agree. You know what? Tough shit. "

Not seen any barbed, vindictive and nasty comments recently on this thread. Also, people may change their behaviour in light of an insightful comment, especially with something so unpleasant as guilt.

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By *orth yorks guyMan
10 weeks ago

Castleford

Married 52 years

I still love my wife but not in the sexual way these days so the occasional meets I manage with men is exciting and fun

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Any bi single Dads 😜

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By *ornyJosh_247Man
10 weeks ago

Preston

Love a horny bi married man

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By *untzMan
10 weeks ago

Nantwich Cheshire

I completely get it. I'm a married bisexual guy who has been in a sexless, but nonetheless loving marriage for a very long time. I've battled with the guilt for many years but I keep coming back to this site as I now favour cock over pussy!

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

So far I've had great compliments from guys I've met who do enjoy meeting bi dad's like me.

We know what we want but we are genuine because there is alot at stake. Sex with guys is just as enjoyable as sex with my wife, it's just different and my wife can not fck me with a cock and she does not like or want anal so I love cumming in guys who are tops.

In my eyes it's all very enjoyable I love it.

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By *askia.TV/TS
10 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I don’t judge guys, if they have made the decision to have sex with me then that is up to them, and I’m going to assume that they have a cast-iron excuse to get away. When married guys contact me saying they would love to fuck me but they are married and not sure about getting away, I always say “don’t risk your marriage for a bit of fun with me”

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By *etstalkMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool

I Have met many in that situation.

Their private life is their own.

We’re all here to NSA fun. Nothing more.

As long as they don’t start saying theyre leaving their wives 🤣🤣

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By *arriedbiMan
10 weeks ago

Aldershot

When came out as gay to very close mates they all supported me but all said don't hurt wife and that why careful

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By *ishop666Man
10 weeks ago

ls19

If you’re enjoying life why not

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By *otcleanguyMan
10 weeks ago

Manchester

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

Married here and way past the guilt stage. Tried to get the wifey to swing and broaden her horizon for years but in the end gave up. Realized that you truly and really only live ONCE and sex is not meant to be with just one person all your life. It's just not natural. So if cheating and sneaking around is the price to pay then so be it. I'm sure loads here will be judgemental and that's quite OK.

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By *punklover_69Man
10 weeks ago

Nearby

Married for thirty plus years here. Our sex lives have taken different paths. My wife knows I'm gay. I know about her lovers. I love meeting married guys and to destroy their world is just not on my agenda. I am happy to be a dirty little secret.

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By *fourjMan
10 weeks ago

Here, there or somewhere nearish March

"I Have met many in that situation.

Their private life is their own.

We’re all here to NSA fun. Nothing more.

As long as they don’t start saying theyre leaving their wives 🤣🤣"

Isn’t that a judgement call no one can decide except for the two people involved? I could not carry on living a double life and the mental health issues that had plagued me since my teens were getting worse and affecting everyone around me. Eventually I found the courage to come out to my wife. I still am not sure whether it was to try and deal with my conscience or to meet her constant demands for honesty and openness. She did not take it well and five years later the abuse I was receiving daily was worse than ever. Naturally God was on her side and her church leaders demanded I attend reparative therapy (I was not part of their gang, although I did count many of them as friends) or she should divorce me. I knew where this downturn in depression was heading and I was not going back to that place where I was going to finish it and do the job properly this time. I felt backed into a corner with no other choice except to leave. Sometimes leaving is the best option although the pain caused to loved ones and the consequent guilt take a lot of work to get through. These days, decades later, life is good and I’m on good terms with her and the children who are all middle-aged now. Please don’t try to second guess what others live with.

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By *ornymwellbiMan
10 weeks ago

Motherwell

I still feel guilty but can't stop meeting guys for the cock fun

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By *otsure03Man
10 weeks ago

witney

For me it’s nsa fun that I can’t get at home

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Nothing wrong having a great time and fun with friends. It is normal. It is like a hobby or sports. After a great workout, one can always go back to one's family and live as normal.

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By *alking HeadMan
10 weeks ago

Bolton

According to definitions I have seen for a sexless marriage, I can say I've been in one for twenty five years. We have been married for thirty years. She has refused to do anything about improving the situation and so has basically taken the decision, unilaterally, we won't be having sex. And she's been perimenopausal for the last two years and won't even go to the drs about her problems with that. It's never going to improve.

Guilt on my part for meeting a guy maybe once a month? Not a fucking chance.

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By *treyu500Man
10 weeks ago

wickow

"According to definitions I have seen for a sexless marriage, I can say I've been in one for twenty five years. We have been married for thirty years. She has refused to do anything about improving the situation and so has basically taken the decision, unilaterally, we won't be having sex. And she's been perimenopausal for the last two years and won't even go to the drs about her problems with that. It's never going to improve.

Guilt on my part for meeting a guy maybe once a month? Not a fucking chance."

I hear you and all that makes sense. But, what prevents you from leaving the relationship? What keeps you in the relationship.

My X gf was assaulted and for various reasons she lost her labido. I tried to support her to fix it for a few years. She didn't want to try alternative treatments and sorta gave up. So I left the relationship. I'm much happier now. She seems to be too as it snapped her out of whatever was going on with her. Lots of you married guys are still quite young too. If I had kids , I would be outta there as soon as they finished school. Earlier if we were really unhappy.

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By *ummerTV/TS
10 weeks ago

I am in Spain, not

Some deep and honest responses in this thread, thank you for being able to share, hopefully you also found it cathartic

Maybe some of your stories will provide hope to those feeling unhappy with their life looking to change it for an alternative, rather than the often desperate & tragic route

So many of you appear to be loving and sensitive men trapped by your kind nature with wives that, although they may have justified sexual frigidity, some sound harsh, selfish & unkind - you deserve better.

Those who passed judgement maybe are too bitter and narrow minded to appreciate the complexities of a situation that was entered into due to social & family pressures at the time, youth and naivety creating a hope they could suppress that side of themselves.

A complexity often wound in decades of ever widening family and friendships behind an image, that I can only imagine, to now expose would feel like betrayal of enormous magnitude.

Astounding that those who have lived experience of how difficult it is for most in coming out of the closet, yet have no empathy to those with far more challenging circumstances to overcome.

Hopefully those that have told how they took the bravest of options in breaking free are open to messages from others looking for support.

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By *irthybearrMan
10 weeks ago

Cheadle

Any married stocky dads interested in something regular? Can host in Stockport, south Manchester. Message if interested

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By *ishop666Man
10 weeks ago

ls19

Great chat about it

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By *enny_J_JonesTV/TS
10 weeks ago

sheffield

Same issues as many here in terms of a long marriage and post menopause lack of sex drive. Complicated by the fact that I get a thrill from cross dressing and when I tried to bring it up a long time ago she was horrified by the idea. Makes things difficult and I do feel guilt. But I love the release of dressing up and serving cock.

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By *athman45Man
10 weeks ago

bath

I love a married guys mouth on my cock mmm

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By *ucker4you80Man
10 weeks ago

Chippenham

"Some deep and honest responses in this thread, thank you for being able to share, hopefully you also found it cathartic

Maybe some of your stories will provide hope to those feeling unhappy with their life looking to change it for an alternative, rather than the often desperate & tragic route

A complexity often wound in decades of ever widening family and friendships behind an image, that I can only imagine, to now expose would feel like betrayal of enormous magnitude.

Astounding that those who have lived experience of how difficult it is for most in coming out of the closet, yet have no empathy to those with far more challenging circumstances to overcome.

Hopefully those that have told how they took the bravest of options in breaking free are open to messages from others looking for support.

While what you've written applies to some of the married people, it does not apply to all. Ultimately, every person that is being unfaithful to their partner is choosing to do so.

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By *andy biMan
10 weeks ago

Greenford

I think as long as you are not reckless and discreet you have to fulfill your desires

Better than feeling frustrated about it and have regrets

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By *rookeTVTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Linwood

I do feel guilty but also a side of me needs to pleasure men dressed as a slut lol x

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By *ornyJosh_247Man
10 weeks ago

Preston

I’m lucky in that my wife knows but I have met guys who’s wife does not, tbh I love giving them what they aren’t getting from their wives maybe x

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By *iUKmMan
10 weeks ago

Nr Birmingham

Some very helpful and thoughtful comments. Thanks for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Any horny single Dads

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By *alking HeadMan
9 weeks ago

Bolton

Guilt on my part for meeting a guy maybe once a month? Not a fucking chance.

I hear you and all that makes sense. But, what prevents you from leaving the relationship? What keeps you in the relationship.

What prevents us splitting? Honestly, it comes down to money. If I walked out and gave her the house she would still want money regularly and no doubt get it, as well as future pensions I have. So fuck it, grin and live with it and get the sex I really want now and again and remain sane.

I'm patiently waiting for the day when she might possibly suggest having sex. It's going to be be a cold day in hell before I say yes.

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By *immerBoyMan
9 weeks ago

bexley

I love a dad

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By *eg4youMan
9 weeks ago

withywood

It doesn't bother me if they are gay, straight, bi, married or single. If they good at kissing and looking wanting company say hi.

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By *ummerTV/TS
9 weeks ago

I am in Spain, not

" While what you've written applies to some of the married people, it does not apply to all. Ultimately, every person that is being unfaithful to their partner is choosing to do so. "

The thread is about those in sexless marriages, as was my response.

Down to what type of marriage and vows the marriage was based on, plus that individuals interpretation on "unfaithful" in a situation where their partner has made the decision the marriage no longer includes sex.

Male to male marriages seem more open to recognising that sexual interactions wane over time and that it does not need to be a monogamous partnership.

On a less serious note

Statistics show that Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rate, followed by heterosexual marriages, the lowest is amongst gay men.

The highest is two females, the second has one female, the lowest has no females, draw whatever conclusion you wish from that

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By *umquakeMan
9 weeks ago

Boston

I am a single dad to a disabled son and I have a female partner who isn't my wife. We are doing just fine.

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By *eorgesdadMan
9 weeks ago

Nottingham

Most of my meets are with married men , they enjoy sex without an affair 🤪

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By *otsure03Man
9 weeks ago

witney

Married men now hassle bang and go

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By *bztradieMan
9 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Married dad but love cock

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By *ucker4you80Man
9 weeks ago

Chippenham

" While what you've written applies to some of the married people, it does not apply to all. Ultimately, every person that is being unfaithful to their partner is choosing to do so.

The thread is about those in sexless marriages, as was my response.

Male to male marriages seem more open to recognising that sexual interactions wane over time and that it does not need to be a monogamous partnership.

On a less serious note

Statistics show that Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rate, followed by heterosexual marriages, the lowest is amongst gay men.

The highest is two females, the second has one female, the lowest has no females, draw whatever conclusion you wish from that

I'm not sure the term 'unfaithful' is open to interpretation. If one person takes sex off the cards that doesn't justify being unfaithful.

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By *u2usemeMan
9 weeks ago

hyde

"Married dad

I have needs and the guilt I felt in the beginning is long past

Healthy swingers sex life at home

And super careful with my gay life

Never meet at home

Always safe sex

Regularly wipe clean phone messages

Massaging apps kept in separate folder and regularly deleted and reloaded....Inc fab guys

Keep the rules and no one needs to be hurt"
I agree .

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By *opmaster62Man
9 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

Only way to find out is to unlock your profile. Better chance of meeting someone

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By *westMan
9 weeks ago

Hull

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

I know I shouldn't but I can't help being interested in other men and gay porn. A small part of me hopes I make a mistake and she finds out. The thought of her leaving me is worrying but so erotic for me. No kids.

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By *aveyboyxxxoMan
9 weeks ago

Warwickshire

"I’m in a sexless marriage but have needs"

Same here , never teied cock until the sex stopped at home . Ive always wanted to try it but never had the guts to do anything . Met some gteat men off this site , and can truly say I love all aspects of gay sex now .

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By *orcester GuyMan
9 weeks ago

Worcestershire North

Married dad here

Always had bi side

Now no sex in marriage drives you more that side

It the animal side of men

No emotions in it

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By *traight.lad45Man
9 weeks ago

Ebbw Vale

Luv married guys

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By *vionxMan
9 weeks ago

Nuneaton

I feel the same, but the thought of have this dirty little secret makes me want it more. Anyone in Nuneaton message me maybe week can arrange something.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Can’t keep away just love cock fun xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I love dads, daddy cock was my first

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
6 weeks ago

Leics/Warks

Im single but keep my _issy side away from friends and family, do have an ex gf who is aware of my lingerie habit as I was her cuck for years, but as far as I know she is unaware of me fully dressing or meeting men.

I dont identify as anything other than kinky, but get a huge sexual thrill from dressing like a slut and being called one or used like one.

I have no objection to being a bit on the side for married men who just need a slut to unload on

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By *ssexbttm31Man
6 weeks ago

romford

I love daddy cock. Hit me up daddies

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By *lutttyChristineTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Walsall

I don’t feel guilty or even give it a thought. Especially if they have contacted me and arrange a meeting with me for Fun. If they didn’t meet me they would meet someone else. So I have Fun meets. The word being FUN!! Not angst about a married man cheating with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Nice men they are.

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By *ayboy1966Man
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

"How do u feel about meeting

I get guilty but the urge keeps happening as in a sexless marriage bit dont want upset her or kid"

We’re only here once, this is not a dress rehearsal, enjoy your life, have sex, it’s part of our make up to enjoy it as best you can with whoever you can!

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By *irthybearrMan
6 weeks ago

Cheadle

Any hairy mature men?

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By *avewill1Man
6 weeks ago

melksham

"If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts. "
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Really put off by judgemental people on any subject in any walk of life. If you approve, enjoy. If you can't approve, walk away. That's my policy

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By *otsure03Man
6 weeks ago

witney

I’m a married dad who likes to crossdress

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

No guilt as we are both Pan and agreed early on that same sex wasn't cheating as it offered each of us something we couldn't provide each other.

Just never in the house and be discrete.

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By *ldderMan
6 weeks ago

Oxford and Sevenoaks

I'm a dad but absolutely love sucking and swallowing another dad's cum especially if he's not getting any relief at home

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By *opster77Man
6 weeks ago

Wantage

"I’m a married dad who likes to crossdress "

And you do look very sexy x

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By *treyu500Man
6 weeks ago

wickow

"If you can live with the fact you are supporting the actions of a cheat, good for you.

To me, people who have no respect for their lifelong partner are unlikely to show respect to anyone else, so no I won't attempt to meet them.

And, as they are less likely to be regularly tested than guys who are not cheating, they are more likely to have nasties too (without knowing).

The misogyny of their situation is also something I find hard to digest.

The whole "pic swapping, knickers sharing, without the wife knowing" scene is the most off putting too.

Cheaters are, to me, men without guts. .

Really put off by judgemental people on any subject in any walk of life. If you approve, enjoy. If you can't approve, walk away. That's my policy "

Yeh, the judgement isn't generally helpful. But the OP said he feels guilty and asked for opinions.

The urges he has won't go away. He likes sex with men, he can't change that. What he can change is why he feels guilty. Which would require him to be honest with his partner. People get over things and she's not looking for sex anyway. Kids really don't want to know what their parents do in the bedroom.... It's probably far less of an issue than you think.

As someone pointed out. You get one life, enjoy it. If living with the guilt seems easier then do that.

I prefer to think of getting rid of emotional baggage like pulling off a band-aid. Sore for a few seconds, then no pain ever again...

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By *ucksitupMan
6 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"I'm obviously saying this as a single guy, so maybe the context is unavailable for me.

But ultimately conversations have to be had to open relationships up when needed.

Often sex can and should be considered a key part of relationships and sometimes that means open relationships or even hall passes need to be spoken about.

Modern society and religion just forces everyone into hetro normative relationships and that works for a lot of people but it's just not the case for a lot of people too."

Yes, the context is clearly unavailable to you.

You are entitled to your opinion but it is without context or experience. It therefore comes over as condescending.

Just my opinion.

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By *at2121Man
6 weeks ago

Swindon / Algarve

Daddy cock here

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By *athman45Man
6 weeks ago

bath

I love a married guys mouth on my cock mmm

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By *issy SiMan
6 weeks ago

Horsham

I'm here to provide a service for anyone who wants me. Many of my gentlemen are in relationships which are sexually frustrating, and I'm happy to give them a release

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By *arridMan
6 weeks ago

Brighton

"Nice men they are."
Yoda, get lost!

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By *enardeMan
6 weeks ago

Barnsley

No guilt at all

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By *otsure03Man
6 weeks ago

witney

Any other dads not working this afternoon? I will be crossdressing

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By *opster77Man
6 weeks ago

Wantage

"Any other dads not working this afternoon? I will be crossdressing "

What time? Please message me.

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By *ttminneedMan
6 weeks ago

oxford

Married dads huge turn on my holes have provided relief to many married dads over the years

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By *zaac CoxMan
6 weeks ago

FOREST OF DEAN

I'm a 74 year old hubby, Dad and Grandfather and I've been been married for over 50 years. For 25 years of that marriage I have also been having lots of sensual fun with other guys many of whom are local buddies who I enjoy having fun with whenever I can.

I don't have sex with my wife anymore and haven't had sex with her for a long time as my preference these days is for cock to be honest but having said that I'd like to meet a couple so that I could have some pussy fun too.

I don't feel guilty about my situation as it is my own business as long as noone is hurt and damaged. I love my family deeply but I can't deny the fact that I have feelings for other men and those feelings are nearly always about the sexual dynamic. Occasionally I meet guys who offer an emotional aspect as well.

I couldn't ever give up my lifestyle and I have no intention of doing so.

Guilt is a destructive emotion and my advice is value yourself and be your own person and don't ever let other people change who you are.

Happy fabbing guys x

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By *ucker4you80Man
6 weeks ago

Chippenham

"I'm a 74 year old hubby, Dad and Grandfather and I've been been married for over 50 years. For 25 years of that marriage I have also been having lots of sensual fun with other guys many of whom are local buddies who I enjoy having fun with whenever I can.

I couldn't ever give up my lifestyle and I have no intention of doing so.

Guilt is a destructive emotion and my advice is value yourself and be your own person and don't ever let other people change who you are.

Happy fabbing guys x"

Guilt can be a destructive emotion, any emotion can be, it's not unique to guilt. As unpleasant as guilt is, it has much the same function as pain, to let us know that something is wrong. Ignoring pain is done so at one's peril, guilt is no different, beware!

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By *dfunMan
6 weeks ago

west Sussex

I love serving married guy giving them pleasure and love hearing them moan

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By *wanttosuckcockMan
6 weeks ago

bridgend

First guy I let have sex with me I loved it when I was there. When he pushed it in me my whole body tingled and I remember thinking god that feels good.

When he finished and I left I felt so ashamed.

Same time the next night though I was on my back in his bed.

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By *uckmeslow555Man
6 weeks ago

oakham

Never feel guilty as I need it no sex with her for 14 years

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By *ammy57TV/TS
6 weeks ago

Stevenage

Part of me, that very few want, is fem.

And I just love to let a man play with and own that part of me.

It is escapism.

But if it doesn't get in the way of life and can actually make me more productive , then what harm?

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By *_gradeableMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester

I like meeting married guys, I find they are more dominant and they are rougher and naughtier. They make me feel more used!Probably feeling taboo and guilt and need to take out the frustration!

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By *otsure03Man
6 weeks ago

witney

I like to meet other married dads that like to crossdress

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By *hubbyman10Man
6 weeks ago

Bloxwich

Most of the guys I've met are married

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By *wladMan
6 weeks ago

high wycombe

"Married dad

I have needs and the guilt I felt in the beginning is long past

Healthy swingers sex life at home

And super careful with my gay life

Never meet at home

Always safe sex

Regularly wipe clean phone messages

Massaging apps kept in separate folder and regularly deleted and reloaded....Inc fab guys

Keep the rules and no one needs to be hurt"

I've got an honest question. If you've already opened up your relationship to dip into swinging, the communication between you two must be really strong. So why did you decide to hide this aspect from her? Surely if the communication is there, telling her you're into guys as well as women would be something to celebrate between the two of you, no?

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By *traight.lad45Man
6 weeks ago

Ebbw Vale

Luv hearing from married guys

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By *ttminneedMan
6 weeks ago

oxford

Just love married cocks

Providing them with the release they need

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By *ay7956Man
6 weeks ago

Birtley

I’m sure most of us on here don’t mind pleasuring a married cock

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By *odge66Man
6 weeks ago

rotherham

Bi married dad here

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By *ooky69Man
6 weeks ago

Heysham la3

I see it as providing a public service. I prefer married men less hassle. Sex is normally fucking hot and comes without the added attachment problems.

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By *urious44walesMan
6 weeks ago

South Wales

Being married has stopped me acting on what id like to do. She is fine, but sexually not very actuve so id like to tey more things with more people.

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By *oketguyMan
6 weeks ago

WOODHALL SPA

I used to have guilt but no longer. I'm in a no sex marriage and I still have needs so what's the alternative?

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By *uriouscum33Man
6 weeks ago

Hull

Hard to get free time with wife and kids but for a married man who often thinks about edge and sucking cock and stroking them meets are few and far between but you cant beat the pleasure of another man enjoying your cock in his mouth or getting to make someone erupt from edging and sucking them. Just love the taste of precum and thick cock in my mouth just sadly my wife doesnt have one so to get best of both worlds i just play now and then

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By *i man oxMan
6 weeks ago

Thame

Always happy to suck married cock.

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By *uesada guyMan
6 weeks ago

grays

Love meeting up with horny men who loves us married guys x

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By *ucker4you80Man
6 weeks ago

Chippenham

"I used to have guilt but no longer. I'm in a no sex marriage and I still have needs so what's the alternative?"

They are not needs, they are desires, the alternative is not to act on your desires.

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By *ustOneBearMan
6 weeks ago

Neath

"I used to have guilt but no longer. I'm in a no sex marriage and I still have needs so what's the alternative?"

I bet it takes a lot of stress off and probably makes your situation easier to deal with. Possibly you easier to live with?

It is only sex, after all.

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By *etstalkMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

Their marital status is non of my business,

I’m here for NSA fun.

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