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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " Agreed, I don't really meet without seeing one anymore as it's painfully awkward if there is no attraction. Faces are a huge part of the attraction for most. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " Can't say I've agreed with you on everything on these forums but you are correct on this. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. Agreed, I don't really meet without seeing one anymore as it's painfully awkward if there is no attraction. Faces are a huge part of the attraction for most. " Quite agree, that is how we work in the real world, and online is no different no matter how much some would like to pretend otherwise, because it is the way our brains are wired. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " and also another thing, if you are going to send a face pic, make sure it's up to date. | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. " In my case they wouldn’t get very far with that, as everyone already knows, plus the police would be informed. | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. " Just take a new picture that's not used on socials.. | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. Just take a new picture that's not used on socials.. " Technology doesn’t work like that | |||
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"And I've also noticed some of you guys who don't want to send face pics want or demand to see others' face pics. If you want to see mine, you send me yours. until then. Goodbye, and I think many other guys think the same way" Except yours is on show as you’re using it as your profile pic. Beard and all… | |||
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"And I've also noticed some of you guys who don't want to send face pics want or demand to see others' face pics. If you want to see mine, you send me yours. until then. Goodbye, and I think many other guys think the same way Except yours is on show as you’re using it as your profile pic. Beard and all…" Ha good point | |||
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"And I've also noticed some of you guys who don't want to send face pics want or demand to see others' face pics. If you want to see mine, you send me yours. until then. Goodbye, and I think many other guys think the same way Except yours is on show as you’re using it as your profile pic. Beard and all…" having my face pic public. It shows that I'm genuine. and not some time-wasting neanderthal. | |||
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"Haven't you noticed that once somebody strong has the guts to say things like this in public, you get all the **** slandering because they are all passive-aggressive ****... You can say what you like. It doesn't bother me. I've got balls, unlike some." There's nothing strong about what you've posted, just a lot of misguided demands, assumptions and conclusions! I've occasionally posted face pics but, generally, I don't and have no interest in explaining my position. If someone doesn't understand why it's perfectly reasonable NOT to post face pics and INSIST on one, then I'm content to strike them off my potential meet list and to be struck off theirs. Making a song and dance about face pics seems to me to be a complete waste of time: I'm kind of disappointed in myself for taking the time to respond on this occasion but, hey, I'll admit that I‘m having a quiet Sunday night 🤪 | |||
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"And I've also noticed some of you guys who don't want to send face pics want or demand to see others' face pics. If you want to see mine, you send me yours. until then. Goodbye, and I think many other guys think the same way Except yours is on show as you’re using it as your profile pic. Beard and all… having my face pic public. It shows that I'm genuine. and not some time-wasting neanderthal. " It doesn't!  | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " Or maybe you try to understand that some people aren’t interested in your face or in showing their own. No mental gymnastics from them or you. Just move on. Simple as that. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " ....I don't actually use "mental gymnastics "....I just tell them I'm not sending a face pic. | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. " Some of us have very good reason not to show a face pic. I don’t need to justify that decision. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. "  | |||
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"There are no “mental gymnastics” going on, it’s simply that your requirements and theirs differ. If you need a face pic, there could be many reasons for wanting one, and I suspect that high on the list for many may be that you feel that there has to be a physical attraction in order to have a meet or engage in sex. Others don’t need that and prioritise anonymity over attraction. Both requirements are valid. If you need a pic and they don’t want to share, then scroll past each other, your needs aren’t aligned. " Sensible | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. " Absolutely right... you are crazy if you don't want your identity exposed to put a face pic up on here! The internet is a scumbags jungle, perpetually on the make... and if their is any milage to be made from a face pic, they will! Some folks on here are 'out' and don't care. Others have wives, family that would be hurt and relationships damaged if everything was exposed if face pics shown on what is a public forum! I don't reel against people that brazenly show a face pic... it should work the other way too; please respect peoples choices on their own personal privacy. | |||
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"I don’t mind sending a face pic before I meet, but if u think ur getting one after 2 messages, think again." | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. Absolutely right... you are crazy if you don't want your identity exposed to put a face pic up on here! The internet is a scumbags jungle, perpetually on the make... and if their is any milage to be made from a face pic, they will! Some folks on here are 'out' and don't care. Others have wives, family that would be hurt and relationships damaged if everything was exposed if face pics shown on what is a public forum! I don't reel against people that brazenly show a face pic... it should work the other way too; please respect peoples choices on their own personal privacy. " The risk is relatively small, but throw in potential identity theft as well  | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " From the man with the hidden profile 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 29/12/25 09:16:14]" .. If you don't mind what the guy looks like then WHY do you need a pic | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now"" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. " I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you?" ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise" Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun”" ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are" Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours) | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours)" Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours)" Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours) Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch " Just use the block - that will prevent them viewing your profile if you do not want them to. | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours) Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch " It is however a natural and normal conclusion to draw when you don’t address something. It certainly isn’t something anyone would normally refer to as “cute” It’s also natural, when involved in a discourse with someone on here, to view their profile (more than once if necessary to avoid errors) As someone has just pointed out, if you don’t like it, block me. Not to worry now anyway since I’m done with you. | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours) Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch It is however a natural and normal conclusion to draw when you don’t address something. It certainly isn’t something anyone would normally refer to as “cute” It’s also natural, when involved in a discourse with someone on here, to view their profile (more than once if necessary to avoid errors) As someone has just pointed out, if you don’t like it, block me. Not to worry now anyway since I’m done with you. " How many mistakes were you concerned about making?? 3 views in 10 minutes is creepy not cautious. | |||
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"It always amazes me.... and I find it incredibly irritating, when guys are prepared to trust you with the sexual health of themselves and their wives, but don't trust you to afford you the courtesy of actually knowing who you're responding to.with their lazy and desperate pleas to "fuck now" Surely they are trusting you when they meet. You see their face then. If you are responding to desperate and lazy pleas of “fuck now” then I would suggest you have the problem rather than the person who won’t send you a face pics before meeting. I have no problem hun. I'm openly gay and can meet who I want when I want with confidence that I'm not cheating on anyone going to have any secret life exposed. Can you? ... oh and I always reply because thats what having manners means. But to those sorts of messages, it's always a polite no thank you. .... as an aside, it would be hilarious if a faceless fuckbuddy rocking up.at your door turned out to be someone you know. Maybe you're taking more risks than you realise Firstly, thank you for shaming all the married bi guys on here. Secondly a polite no thanks reply to a “fuck now” message doesn’t get you to the point of discussing face pics so your point there is irrelevant Thirdly if someone you know turns up then you are both in the same situation. I don’t meet after one or two vague messages, I assess any risk based on profiles and the message exchanges. Don’t presume you know what “risks” (or otherwise) that I take (or don’t take). Finally, I’m not your “hun” ... an openly gay friend or colleague is NOT in the same position as you. Don't assume we are Thanks for not denying the shaming. Thanks for accepting that your point was irrelevant Thanks for assuming my openly gay friends and colleagues don’t have face pics on here or don’t send face pics prior to meeting. Thanks for assuming that I don’t know who my openly gay friends and colleagues are, where they live, their ages etc and that I cannot make sensible risk assessments based on the profiles and the conversations I engage in prior to meeting. It would appear you are making far more assumptions than I. (Yes that’s my assumption - based on the evidence unlike yours) Ignoring something isn't acceptance but it's cute that's how you choose to see it. Please stop viewing my profile... that ISNT cute. Just creepy. Unless you want to show your face and not just your crotch It is however a natural and normal conclusion to draw when you don’t address something. It certainly isn’t something anyone would normally refer to as “cute” It’s also natural, when involved in a discourse with someone on here, to view their profile (more than once if necessary to avoid errors) As someone has just pointed out, if you don’t like it, block me. Not to worry now anyway since I’m done with you. How many mistakes were you concerned about making?? 3 views in 10 minutes is creepy not cautious. " Well whilst drafting a response I may need to check something. You are clearly not clever enough to work out that I’m now winding you up. | |||
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"Oh hun trust me, you're not winding me up. Though I am getting mixed messages given you were "done" with me yet still kept viewing my profile. Its always nice to have fans but you're excessive so I've not blocked you to save you from yourself" Trying to wind me up by using “hun” is cute. The last thing I am is a fan of yours. I doubt there are many so using the plural/multiple was conceit. As I said the extra views were a wind up because you said to stop. That seems to be beyond your comprehension. And finally you claim not to have blocked me. But you have. I’m guessing that was just carelessness in your posting. I am done with you but I’m sure you will need the last word. | |||
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"How about sending a face pic and get blocked after ? Would you send it again to someone else? " Yes. Because normal people don't assume everyone behaves exactly the same | |||
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"How about sending a face pic and get blocked after ? Would you send it again to someone else? Yes. Because normal people don't assume everyone behaves exactly the same " There is no assurance supporting your reasoning. Ultimately, it is my decision whether to upload a picture of my face or share one with someone. If they do not appreciate it, they are free to move on. I generally prefer chubby men, and I do not require a facial pic to arrange a meeting. | |||
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"As a gay guy you say nobody is judging you? I say this is the internet. Be intelligent- if you don’t want people - wife - family - friends - to know your secrets don’t send a bloody face pic. A reverse image search may bring up your photos on Facebook / Linked In etc then they have your name and all your connections to oppositeofwhitemail and extort you if they so choose. Just take a new picture that's not used on socials.. Technology doesn’t work like that " It works exactly like that. Sending a picture that isn't published elsewhere is a very good idea. | |||
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"You guys are ruining this thread by quoting previous replies in full and not snipping them, just sayin' "Well said. Replying to someone without using reply +quote is just as bad. | |||
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"Well said. Replying to someone without using reply +quote is just as bad." True, context is everything but only the exact context is required really. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " All very well but that's where identity theft and stalking starts. I havent had too many issues but I did have one or two in the past so I tend not to. There was also a spate of bl**kmail*ng and on this site I believe it was dealt with. You're choice but not gor me anymore. | |||
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"I don’t meet without seeing a face pic but if someone doesn’t want to send one it doesn’t bother me really. There are thousands of profiles on here, just move on to the next guy" | |||
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"Haven't you noticed that once somebody strong has the guts to say things like this in public, you get all the **** slandering because they are all passive-aggressive ****... You can say what you like. It doesn't bother me. I've got balls, unlike some." "I've got balls" said OP Then "brains" kicked in and he bailed out of the thread - and his strong guts said to him to hide his profile. Figures. | |||
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""I've got balls" said OP Then "brains" kicked in and he bailed out of the thread - and his strong guts said to him to hide his profile. Figures." Hid profile AND created a new one!  | |||
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"I dont really understand why all the hate. I get some people want to swap face pics. And if thats what you need to do thats fine. If the other person doesnt want to send face pics, then move on. Get over it. Find someone who will." Agree with this, find what works for you and accept it's not the same for everyone. I clearly state on my profile to send a face pic before I'll even reply - my choice, and I'm happy with it. Others are happy with anon meets and the risks that go with it - crack on if you're happy with that. | |||
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"I dont really understand why all the hate. I get some people want to swap face pics. And if thats what you need to do thats fine. If the other person doesnt want to send face pics, then move on. Get over it. Find someone who will. Agree with this, find what works for you and accept it's not the same for everyone. I clearly state on my profile to send a face pic before I'll even reply - my choice, and I'm happy with it. Others are happy with anon meets and the risks that go with it - crack on if you're happy with that." I agree: find what works for you and accept it's not the same for everyone. Some insist on face pics and the risks that go with it - crack on if you're happy with that. 😉🙂 | |||
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"Always got my fave pic available ".... .. Fucking hell I've just saw my doppelganger. I won't use your pic. Looking good though... 😝 | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " You do you Lad!! | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. " Wow, judgemental much. Many guys have very good reasons for not wanting their face plastered all over the internet. You exactly ARE judging people for making a free choice, not to show their faces. You are the one with the problem if you cant accept other people's free choices. If you cant accept their choice thats fine, thats YOUR choice. But don't go slating people just because they do things differently to you. | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. Wow, judgemental much. Many guys have very good reasons for not wanting their face plastered all over the internet. You exactly ARE judging people for making a free choice, not to show their faces. You are the one with the problem if you cant accept other people's free choices. If you cant accept their choice thats fine, thats YOUR choice. But don't go slating people just because they do things differently to you." That's an appropriate response. Here, here! | |||
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"Hey there, Guys. The mental gymnastics some of you guys do online just to avoid sending a face picture are fucking wild. If you want a hookup, you should be comfortable showing your face first — nobody is judging your “discreet” lifestyle. Honestly, it saves everyone’s time and dignity. Well said. Let us be real: no one cares that you are gay/BI. You are not Tom Cruise. No one is tracking you or following you around. And I am not going to feel bad or lower my standards just to be polite when you show up. It will be way more awkward if you arrive and I am not into you. So, if you are not ready to be seen, maybe you are not ready to meet. Simple as that. Wow, judgemental much. Many guys have very good reasons for not wanting their face plastered all over the internet. You exactly ARE judging people for making a free choice, not to show their faces. You are the one with the problem if you cant accept other people's free choices. If you cant accept their choice thats fine, thats YOUR choice. But don't go slating people just because they do things differently to you." | |||
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"“I never send a face picture on the internet” = I am only on here to have a wank. I’d freak out if I ever met someone. “I can’t send a face picture because of my job, my wife, Great Auntie Maud’s dodgy ticker, etc” = I’m a fugly. [If you’re not, and one of the very few with good looks but overwhelming privacy issues, then you’re going to be missing out big time.] “I’ll only send a face picture once we’ve agreed to meet up” = I’m definitely a fugly, but absolutely desperate for sex and hoping you’re even more so. " NOT AGAIN! Yet another one taking verbal potshots at people who don't want to splash their picture all over the Web - and then hidding its own profile. One more wannabe street preacher of the "do as I say, not as I do" kind? | |||
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"“I never send a face picture on the internet” = I am only on here to have a wank. I’d freak out if I ever met someone. “I can’t send a face picture because of my job, my wife, Great Auntie Maud’s dodgy ticker, etc” = I’m a fugly. [If you’re not, and one of the very few with good looks but overwhelming privacy issues, then you’re going to be missing out big time.] “I’ll only send a face picture once we’ve agreed to meet up” = I’m definitely a fugly, but absolutely desperate for sex and hoping you’re even more so. NOT AGAIN! Yet another one taking verbal potshots at people who don't want to splash their picture all over the Web - and then hidding its own profile. One more wannabe street preacher of the "do as I say, not as I do" kind? " My profile is full of face pictures that anyone can see. I’m not a furtive online weasel. You won’t be able to see because you were blocked ages ago - as the private notes on your profile say “argumentative and judgmental ****** in the Forum”. Odd that… | |||
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"I don’t mind sending a face pic before I meet, but if u think ur getting one after 2 messages, think again." I quite agree! | |||
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