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"in my case, I'm bisexual and love it and it's easier finding a guy for nsa than a woman as they tend to get emotionally involved and it's much more difficult trying to arrange something lol" Have to agree and with the right guy can be even better | |||
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"in my case, I'm bisexual and love it and it's easier finding a guy for nsa than a woman as they tend to get emotionally involved and it's much more difficult trying to arrange something lol" I absolutely agree I love pussy but women want commitment most men don't.. Fuck and go don't even need a name. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. " I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. | |||
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"Hi All, share your opinion. Is a man’s desire to have sex with men based on physical attraction or interest in erotic situations/actions? E.g. daddy and twink, BDSM, glory holes, saunas, orgies etc." Men just want to nut mostly or get fucked. It’s just mechanical and primal not emotive for the bulk id say | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. " I think you are completely right, unfortunately there are some people on here who will have a which hunt on your thoughts until they get you a permanent forum ban. | |||
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"I found out on an MFM meet, the lady asked me to suck her partners cock as she found it a huge turn on seeing two guys playing - absolutely loved it and subsequently went on to playing with guys alone. Love the thrill of NSA ‘ naughty ‘ sex, which others have said is harder to find the the ladies. Rock" Seems there is plenty of women that have fantasies to watch men sucking each other’s cock or have watched it for real. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. " Not sure that is correct that you are born gay or bi but who knows. I never had any leanings towards men whatsoever. For over 50 years I’d always only ever been interested in females. It was only when my wife (now ex) who had a fantasy to watch men having sex that opened up another world sexually for me. Now after having my first experience with a guy a few years ago I love wanking and sucking cock and much prefer it to pussy. It’s seems less hassle meeting guys instead of the mood swings of females. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. I think you are completely right, unfortunately there are some people on here who will have a which hunt on your thoughts until they get you a permanent forum ban. " Crikey - I do hope not, darling!- free speech and so on. (Though come to think of it, one of my fav dresses could be described as 'Witchy"...) | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. I think you are completely right, unfortunately there are some people on here who will have a which hunt on your thoughts until they get you a permanent forum ban. Crikey - I do hope not, darling!- free speech and so on. (Though come to think of it, one of my fav dresses could be described as 'Witchy"...)" Free speech is fine, unless enough people don't like what you're saying, then it's not fine. A witchy dress sounds intriguing, definitely a fine outfit to make a point with! | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. " Nurture may play a role. But, most of us grew up with very homophobic rhetoric being pushed on us all day every day -in school, friend groups, social groups, at home, at church etc. It's why so many gay and bi men have issues accepting their sexuality. I know I did. I'm not sure how that environment and upbringing would contribute to nurturing homosexuality. I liked girls first.then I realised I liked looking at dicks and began to fancy other boys and men too since puberty. For many it's as simple as that, although it may be hard to admit for some. The mind is a bit mysterious. I have remembered various things over the years from my early teens related to early experiences that I had pushed into the back of my mind. | |||
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" Gay sex was the norm in roman and before. It was common for men to have sex with each other as no risk of pregnancy." Homosexuality was not the norm in Roman times, slve owners could do want they want to their slves including sex with young men and boys, however slves were a commodity, they weren't seen as human and the owner had to be dominant during sex, a blind eye was turned when it came to the relationship between Hadrian and Antinous because Hadrian was regarded a good emperor, that said there's a lot of speculation that Antinous's death was not an accident. The same goes for the Greeks, someone in a powerful position could have sex with young men and boys of lower stature but it more about power than actually fancying men. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. " I think there has to be some kind of gay gene or gay spark within us. Most straight men--and let's be honest they are the vast majority--are repulsed by the thought of having sex with another man. Nurture may possibly play a part in it but still think that initial spark has to be there. I had a reasonably normal upbringing. Did thigs most boys did. Gay--or queer, pansy, nancy-boy--was rarely mentioned except in the most derogatory fashion. All books, films, TV progs etc were about straight couples and straight sex. At the rare sex lessons at school homosexuality was only mentioned once and that was to say that gay men were either paedos or men desperate to become women. Neither of which applied to me and yet I still grew up to be gay from an early age. I know two identical twin guys who are in their 50s now. Bought up together. Did everything together. Both keen sportsmen and always the best of friends. One is a married family man whereas the other is totally gay. Explain that/ Nurture doesn't come into it. | |||
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"Hi All, share your opinion. Is a man’s desire to have sex with men based on physical attraction or interest in erotic situations/actions? E.g. daddy and twink, BDSM, glory holes, saunas, orgies etc." As a generic question, it depends on interpretation of what 'physical attraction' means to each individual, some consider it to be one or more of aesthetic, sensual and romantic attraction. The penis and anus are physical elements but sexual attraction perhaps better defines attraction to male genitalia, which may or may not also include attraction to masculinity. Many bisexual males are aesthetically, sensually and sexually attracted to women but only sexually attracted to men. The rest of your question relates to kinks and fetishes, which are not limited to bi/homosexual activities. . My personal attraction is to everything about males, aesthetic, sensual, romantic and sexual attraction, I consider romantic to be about passion, embracing and kissing, not emotional & romantic love. Not every liaison offers all elements so some are very sensual and passionate whilst others are pure sexual lust. . . There are many labels regarding what can people find sexually attractive, just a few... Gynesexual - attraction to femininity, can include males, i.e. FemBoys Androsexual - attraction to masculinity Sapiosexual - attraction to intellectual stimulation or connection Demisexual - needs strong emotional connection with another person in order to feel sexual attraction toward them | |||
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"OP asked about 'physical attraction', which is interesting when I think about it. The number of guys I've seen and fancied with their clothes still on is a small number, but it's not none... On the other hand, the number of guys I've seen naked (90% online TBF) and thought 'I want you!' is loads. Maybe it's the difference between romantic attraction and lustful attraction? But both are valid feelings I think. " I think that could work with straight men and how they feel about women, I've had mates that have had really attractive girlfriends but have also had the attitude of if it's female, old enough and human they'll shag it. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. I think there has to be some kind of gay gene or gay spark within us. Most straight men--and let's be honest they are the vast majority--are repulsed by the thought of having sex with another man. Nurture may possibly play a part in it but still think that initial spark has to be there. I had a reasonably normal upbringing. Did thigs most boys did. Gay--or queer, pansy, nancy-boy--was rarely mentioned except in the most derogatory fashion. All books, films, TV progs etc were about straight couples and straight sex. At the rare sex lessons at school homosexuality was only mentioned once and that was to say that gay men were either paedos or men desperate to become women. Neither of which applied to me and yet I still grew up to be gay from an early age. I know two identical twin guys who are in their 50s now. Bought up together. Did everything together. Both keen sportsmen and always the best of friends. One is a married family man whereas the other is totally gay. Explain that/ Nurture doesn't come into it." You've said that nurture may play a part and in the same comment said that nurture doesn't come into it? Odd. There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. | |||
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" There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. " That view sounds like the long disproven claims about lacking a father figure or an over possessive mother. Kinks and fetishes may be associated with puberty and social interactions. The brain, hormones, pre and post birth, are what influence sexuality, not nurture. "No conclusive evidence has been shown that environmental or learned effects are responsible for the development of non-heterosexual orientation (Rahman, Q (2005)." Source: The neurodevelopment of human sexual orientation. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews. 29 (7): 1057–66.) Maybe do some research. "A significant volume of research has found that the more older brothers a man has from the same mother, the greater the probability he will have a homosexual orientation. Estimates indicate that there is a 33–48% increase in chances of homosexuality in a male child with each older brother, and the effect is not observed in those with older adoptive or step-brothers, indicative of a prenatal biological mechanism... ...referred to as fraternal birth order (FBO) effect. The mechanism by which the effect is believed to operate states that a mother develops an immune response against a substance important in male fetal development during pregnancy, and that this immune effect becomes increasingly likely with each male fetus gestated by the mother. This immune effect is thought to cause an alteration in (some) later born males' prenatal brain development. " "Multiple areas of the human brain have been found to display structural differences associated with sexual orientation... ...the interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus (INAH-3), has demonstrated size differences between heterosexual and homosexual men... ...research found that the thalamus tends to be larger in heterosexual individuals compared to homosexual individuals" All readily available to read, source: Neuroscience and sexual orientation, Wikipedia. | |||
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" There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. " I'd sort of agree, I don't believe anyone is born gay, however I was certainly different in the last year or so of primary school and knew I wasn't straight in secondary school (boarding school in my case). | |||
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" There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. I'd sort of agree, I don't believe anyone is born gay, however I was certainly different in the last year or so of primary school and knew I wasn't straight in secondary school (boarding school in my case)." Sounds like you haven't considered it was just hitting puberty, the awakening of your sexuality as the brain sends hormonal signals to the gonads, that in turn release hormones and trigger libido. Boys heterosexual urges also only begin at that age, if one follows your logic you are saying they weren't born straight, yet nobody makes that claim, which indicates that questioning the origin of ones homosexuality is influenced by the negative attitudes in society. | |||
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" Sounds like you haven't considered it was just hitting puberty, the awakening of your sexuality as the brain sends hormonal signals to the gonads, that in turn release hormones and trigger libido. Boys heterosexual urges also only begin at that age, if one follows your logic you are saying they weren't born straight, yet nobody makes that claim, which indicates that questioning the origin of ones homosexuality is influenced by the negative attitudes in society. " I get where you are coming from and perhaps my post was quite clumsy but I would not have even known what gay was when I was at primary school, it was the 1960s in to the 1970s there was no LGBT literature in schools and certainly nothing in kids TV programs, plus I grew up in a very rural area. I get what you are saying about hitting puberty and bare in mind my birthday is in September so I was a couple of weeks off being 12 when I moved up a school so yeah maybe the behavioural issues were part of puberty and my sexuality starting to come out. | |||
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" There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. That view sounds like the long disproven claims about lacking a father figure or an over possessive mother. Kinks and fetishes may be associated with puberty and social interactions. The brain, hormones, pre and post birth, are what influence sexuality, not nurture. "No conclusive evidence has been shown that environmental or learned effects are responsible for the development of non-heterosexual orientation (Rahman, Q (2005)." Source: The neurodevelopment of human sexual orientation. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews. 29 (7): 1057–66.) Maybe do some research. "A significant volume of research has found that the more older brothers a man has from the same mother, the greater the probability he will have a homosexual orientation. Estimates indicate that there is a 33–48% increase in chances of homosexuality in a male child with each older brother, and the effect is not observed in those with older adoptive or step-brothers, indicative of a prenatal biological mechanism... ...referred to as fraternal birth order (FBO) effect. The mechanism by which the effect is believed to operate states that a mother develops an immune response against a substance important in male fetal development during pregnancy, and that this immune effect becomes increasingly likely with each male fetus gestated by the mother. This immune effect is thought to cause an alteration in (some) later born males' prenatal brain development. " "Multiple areas of the human brain have been found to display structural differences associated with sexual orientation... ...the interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus (INAH-3), has demonstrated size differences between heterosexual and homosexual men... ...research found that the thalamus tends to be larger in heterosexual individuals compared to homosexual individuals" All readily available to read, source: Neuroscience and sexual orientation, Wikipedia. " Maybe don't come across as so patronising? There is no way to tell if a newborn is gay or straight. The notion that a child has a predetermined sexuality, other than heterosexual, is ridiculous. Biological factors may be responsible for sexual orientation but nurture also plays a part in biological factors. | |||
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" I think there has to be some kind of gay gene or gay spark within us. Most straight men--and let's be honest they are the vast majority--are repulsed by the thought of having sex with another man. Nurture may possibly play a part in it but still think that initial spark has to be there. I had a reasonably normal upbringing. Did thigs most boys did. Gay--or queer, pansy, nancy-boy--was rarely mentioned except in the most derogatory fashion. All books, films, TV progs etc were about straight couples and straight sex. At the rare sex lessons at school homosexuality was only mentioned once and that was to say that gay men were either paedos or men desperate to become women. Neither of which applied to me and yet I still grew up to be gay from an early age. I know two identical twin guys who are in their 50s now. Bought up together. Did everything together. Both keen sportsmen and always the best of friends. One is a married family man whereas the other is totally gay. Explain that/ Nurture doesn't come into it. You've said that nurture may play a part and in the same comment said that nurture doesn't come into it? Odd. There is no gay gene, and the idea that a newborn pops out being homosexual is preposterous. Presumably we are all born heterosexual, going by the purely nature argument. Somewhere along the way things change and there has to be a nurture element that comes into it. " Okay I kinda contradicted myself or at least did not explain myself. I'm not a definitive expert and nor, I suspect are you. Although they have been trying for years no one has been able to explain why some people are attracted to/want to have sex with people of the same sex as themselves. Some still think nurture has something to do with it and in some cases this may be true. If a boy is brought up in a very female household he may veer towards effeminacy himself which may in turn lead to homosexuality. Not always the case as we have all probably met some very effeminate men who are totally straight. I threw the situation of the twins in because there is no explanation for that. Certainly not nurture there. I know of others where one brother is gay whereas his other siblings are totally straight. So why? Perhaps we are not born gay or straight for that matter. Sexuality rarely manifests itself in our early years. However I do believe there is a gay gene/hormone/spark/whatever, that ultimately takes us onto that path | |||
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" Maybe don't come across as so patronising? There is no way to tell if a newborn is gay or straight. The notion that a child has a predetermined sexuality, other than heterosexual, is ridiculous. Biological factors may be responsible for sexual orientation but nurture also plays a part in biological factors. " Maybe it sounds patronising to you because you make biased statements that have no substance or foundation in facts and, rather than the usual mocking that takes place in here, I write in a way that attempts to avoid that whilst providing resources to allow you to corroborate what I am communicating. You seem to disregard anything that does not fit your bias as preposterous and ridiculous wheras I have put forward scientific research. Thousands of hours over decades has been put into understanding sexuality, you simply dismiss it to fit that bias. Perhaps you if you provided some peer backed review from the field of social sciences or the medical profession to support your claim that nurture affects sexuality you would have a credible point. | |||
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" Maybe don't come across as so patronising? There is no way to tell if a newborn is gay or straight. The notion that a child has a predetermined sexuality, other than heterosexual, is ridiculous. Biological factors may be responsible for sexual orientation but nurture also plays a part in biological factors. Maybe it sounds patronising to you because you make biased statements that have no substance or foundation in facts and, rather than the usual mocking that takes place in here, I write in a way that attempts to avoid that whilst providing resources to allow you to corroborate what I am communicating. You seem to disregard anything that does not fit your bias as preposterous and ridiculous wheras I have put forward scientific research. Thousands of hours over decades has been put into understanding sexuality, you simply dismiss it to fit that bias. Perhaps you if you provided some peer backed review from the field of social sciences or the medical profession to support your claim that nurture affects sexuality you would have a credible point. " Thousands of hours of research (which you skimmed over in Google) over decades cannot determine if a newborn is straight, bi or gay. Which is probably for the best. | |||
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" Maybe don't come across as so patronising? There is no way to tell if a newborn is gay or straight. The notion that a child has a predetermined sexuality, other than heterosexual, is ridiculous. Biological factors may be responsible for sexual orientation but nurture also plays a part in biological factors. Maybe it sounds patronising to you because you make biased statements that have no substance or foundation in facts and, rather than the usual mocking that takes place in here, I write in a way that attempts to avoid that whilst providing resources to allow you to corroborate what I am communicating. You seem to disregard anything that does not fit your bias as preposterous and ridiculous wheras I have put forward scientific research. Thousands of hours over decades has been put into understanding sexuality, you simply dismiss it to fit that bias. Perhaps you if you provided some peer backed review from the field of social sciences or the medical profession to support your claim that nurture affects sexuality you would have a credible point. Thousands of hours of research (which you skimmed over in Google) over decades cannot determine if a newborn is straight, bi or gay. Which is probably for the best." It's really unimportant as to what makes us bi or gay. It's natural. I personally believe it's mostly genetic. I have friends that knew they were gay from well before puberty. There are more important things to research medically and tbh I hope we don't discover a "gay gene" because with the way the world is going, there are countries and people in this world that will begin to edit it out of their childs DNA. That statement really isn't as ridiculous as it sounds. Soon it will be happening for the genetic markers for diseases/conditions like Parkinson's, ms, allergies skin conditions etc. It will start with getting rid of kids with disabilities, then the gays. Ha ha , I sound a bit like a conspiracy theorist. | |||
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" Thousands of hours of research (which you skimmed over in Google) over decades cannot determine if a newborn is straight, bi or gay. Which is probably for the best." Seems to suggest that you have dropped your theory "Presumably we are all born heterosexual... ...Somewhere along the way things change..." To now saying external factors influence everyone's sexuality. Puberty is the time when the brain sends hormonal signals that initiate sexuality, those parts of the brain that are responsible are developed prior to birth, the parts of the brain that relate to sexuality are found to be different between homosexuals and heterosexuals. Research also shows that prior to puberty, other homosexual attractions are experienced. From as young as 5 years old people felt attracted to the same sex in a completely different way than to the opposite sex. They had not reached the age to experience sexual arousal, the attraction was aesthetic and emotional attraction, not sexual. As the saying goes - Born this Way. Heterosexual people do not experience a day when they suddenly realise they are straight, but it is a question often asked to homosexual people. In my opinion, feeling the need to blame something external for homosexual attraction is rooted in the expectation to conform to the majority in society or relgion, or family expectations/disappointment. Those pressures have convinced the person they are not 'normal' and that they are looking for a reason and a solution, to fix it. The fact that Heterosexual people aren't all questioning their sexuality is a pretty good indicator. | |||
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" Thousands of hours of research (which you skimmed over in Google) over decades cannot determine if a newborn is straight, bi or gay. Which is probably for the best. Seems to suggest that you have dropped your theory "Presumably we are all born heterosexual... ...Somewhere along the way things change..." To now saying external factors influence everyone's sexuality. Puberty is the time when the brain sends hormonal signals that initiate sexuality, those parts of the brain that are responsible are developed prior to birth, the parts of the brain that relate to sexuality are found to be different between homosexuals and heterosexuals. Research also shows that prior to puberty, other homosexual attractions are experienced. From as young as 5 years old people felt attracted to the same sex in a completely different way than to the opposite sex. They had not reached the age to experience sexual arousal, the attraction was aesthetic and emotional attraction, not sexual. As the saying goes - Born this Way. Heterosexual people do not experience a day when they suddenly realise they are straight, but it is a question often asked to homosexual people. In my opinion, feeling the need to blame something external for homosexual attraction is rooted in the expectation to conform to the majority in society or relgion, or family expectations/disappointment. Those pressures have convinced the person they are not 'normal' and that they are looking for a reason and a solution, to fix it. The fact that Heterosexual people aren't all questioning their sexuality is a pretty good indicator. " Nobody is 'blaming' an external source for being gay. It's not a blame issue. | |||
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"It’s just an animal instinct the need to fuck male or female,but guys understand it more than women " It's not a need, it's a desire, clearly some don't understand. | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. " I'm happily married and have regular sex with my wife but equally enjoy the company of men for nsa "fun" nurture or nature had no part in my bisexuality it's just something that happened almost accidentally 30 yrs ago and I've never looked backwards since | |||
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"You're born gay, or bi, or straight, apparently, so, you have no choice in the matter. And it's a need, apparently, as well, so, if you're not getting sex off the Mrs then you're completely justified in cheating on her. I think it's more complex than that- nurture as well as nature plays a part. So the society and influences you grow up with have an influence too. I'm happily married and have regular sex with my wife but equally enjoy the company of men for nsa "fun" nurture or nature had no part in my bisexuality it's just something that happened almost accidentally 30 yrs ago and I've never looked backwards since"  | |||
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"I found i was attracted to a nice looking cock and it has progressed to finding men attractive hence I love kissing men to now " I believe that's the case for a lot of guys on Fab particularly tbh. As a person becomes more accepting of their sexuality, the walls come down in their mind and they enjoy more about man fun than just "I like cock". Also "attraction" to cock is what I would label it. We dance around that on here daily. Of course some guys may genuinely just like a bit of cock play and the attraction to man on man fun purely rests there. But, I think they're the minority. From being on several apps and websites for many years, you start to see themes and commonalities in the user base. | |||
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"in my case, I'm bisexual and love it and it's easier finding a guy for nsa than a woman as they tend to get emotionally involved and it's much more difficult trying to arrange something lol" Spot on | |||
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"Does anyone else wonder where their desire for sex with men comes from?" Think it did initially as a teenager when I first realised I was gay. A bit of a 'why me?' question. Gradually became happy with the situation, accepted it and wouldn't want to be anything else. | |||
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"as a bi, gotta say there’s nothing quite like it that rock hard, super masculine, dominant vibe… just being able to switch off, relax and let him completely take over is next level hot." That's it for me too. | |||
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"Men are not supposed to cry. Men are not supposed to show emotion. I think we crave it. Finding another a fella to just show intimacy with. Whether it be a fleeting hookup, FwBs or a relationship. In the early days of a relationship with my ex, he admitted to me that he was bi and I was his first fella since when he was in school. He said my cuddles were stronger, he loved my smell (in a good way, I checked!) and I was really responsive when we had sex. His exact words were I'd flinch and clench more that he'd ever experienced it before... " I like this, makes sense to me. | |||
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"Hi All, share your opinion. Is a man’s desire to have sex with men based on physical attraction or interest in erotic situations/actions? E.g. daddy and twink, BDSM, glory holes, saunas, orgies etc." I've always been physically attracted to guys older than me, but I never considered it a daddy/twink or uncle/nephew dynamic, I was just attracted to the maturity, sophistication and confidence of older guys, the hairier the better too. Now that I've hit my 60s, the guys don't need to necessarily be that much older than me. | |||
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"I'm generally not attracted to men but I am women. However the sight of a nice cock gets me excited and I love to play with one, which is the same as a seeing a woman and pussy. But for me, although the thought for fucking both ways with a women is a turn on, fucking a man is a turn off. Only being fucked by a man gets me going Tbh." Exactly the same for me! Men are just sexual, we like sex in whatever form it comes in. I’m no believer in the labelling system at all! I just enjoy sex and the sight of a nice clean mans cock gets my juices flowing | |||
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"It seems in my long life I've moved on from fucking as much fanny as I could get to sucking as much cock I can get and gotta say I prefer the latter" . Got to go along with you on that. | |||
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"What’s a “ Fanny” ?" Wasn’t she a TV cook in the 60’s and 70’s and had a “Little Johnnie”. 🤣 | |||
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