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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos." It's not rubbish, it was adopted by gays and lesbians in the 1940's as a way of signalling their sexual preference when it was still illegal for men and frowned on with women | |||
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"But as with most things, these days the meaning has changed again as people don't need to be so discrete, but the time when the OP was referring to it would have still been prevalent" Yeah it would have been 1986/1987 roughly | |||
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"Google it. No references to the wearer being gay" There are loads of references to it Here's one 'Gays and lesbians started wearing pinky rings in the 1940s. This trend became incredibly popular between 1950 and 1970. The pinky rings weren't just a fashion statement. In fact, they were a symbol of sexual preference' | |||
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"Personally I thought if you wore a ring on your pinky finger it was a sign you like cock " Personally I thought if you wear a ring on your cock it’s a sign that you like cock. | |||
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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos.It's not rubbish, it was adopted by gays and lesbians in the 1940's as a way of signalling their sexual preference when it was still illegal for men and frowned on with women" Correct, it should have a black stone in it as far as I recall. There was also Polari (a gay language) to disguise the conversation between gay men (you can hear it in “Round the Horne”). In those days you could be arrested and imprisoned for gay sex, so this was a way of disguising what was being said from others who may over hear. This is where the “a friend of Dorothy” came from as in “oh, he’s a friend of Dorothy” which meant that the person was gay. | |||
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"Didn’t come up on my search" Probably depends on how you phrase the search. I found a reference to it in the blog on the NYC’s dot co untitled signet-rings-as-silent-signals-of-queer-identity. | |||
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"Didn’t come up on my search Probably depends on how you phrase the search. I found a reference to it in the blog on the NYC’s dot co untitled signet-rings-as-silent-signals-of-queer-identity." Bloody predictive text that should have been NYXA not NYC’s | |||
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"Yep, a ring on your little finger in the 80s certainly was a discreet sign to others that you were gay. Not sure if it still is, or if its been hijacked for another meaning these days. Also, having the left ear lobe pierced rather than the right was deemed to be a sign of gayness. " It was the right ear in my neck of the woods | |||
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"Yep, a ring on your little finger in the 80s certainly was a discreet sign to others that you were gay. Not sure if it still is, or if its been hijacked for another meaning these days. Also, having the left ear lobe pierced rather than the right was deemed to be a sign of gayness. It was the right ear in my neck of the woods " Yeah I got my left ear pierced when at school and had to make sure it was the left as I was told not the right one as that was for gays lol | |||
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"Yep, a ring on your little finger in the 80s certainly was a discreet sign to others that you were gay. Not sure if it still is, or if its been hijacked for another meaning these days. Also, having the left ear lobe pierced rather than the right was deemed to be a sign of gayness. It was the right ear in my neck of the woods " Yep right ear down my way as well. Think the signet ring has gone out of style now, but certainly was still around in the 80’s. You have to remember that gay sex was only decriminalised in 1967, before that if caught you could end up in prison for it, so there would have been more people around who had lived through having to hide there true nature. Even after decriminalisation there was still stigma and discrimination, this started to fall away from the 80’s. In today’s society where it is much more open (there are still some who are prejudiced) it is hard for some people to understand what life was like. | |||
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"Only heard this when I bought a cheap but ornate Celtic ring in a Cornish gift shop. Would only fit comfortably on my little finger. Someone told me it was a 'gay thing' so not worn it since. Wasn't sure if they were winding me up or not." Well originally signet rings would have a design and were used to create an impression in melted wax as a seal, so they were around for a very long time. But they were adopted as a sign of being gay at some point, usually with a black stone in the ring. This allowed those “in the know” to distinguish between ordinary and gay wearers. | |||
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"On here it’s if you wear a ring on your ring finger you like cock. " Wonderful! | |||
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"If youve got your finger in someone’s ring chances are they are gay "Or a Doctor checking your Prostate - do you want to double check Dr? 😂 | |||
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"I find it astonishing that people seem to be in such denial. It's well known that this used to happen back in the 40's up to probably around the late 80's. Just because there were other uses, as well as it having died out by now doesn't preclude that it did happen" Wouldn't call it denial. More of a case of not knowing. Even though I was first sexual active in the '70s and '80s when gay sex was legal but still taboo, I never knew all the signs. Heard about the earring ones but never the little finger one. When someone told me--probably in the late '90s--I thought it was a wind up. | |||
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"Don't people have anything better to speculate about?" It is, apparently part of gay history. So interesting to some of us. | |||
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"I have worn one for many years, to signify to those in the know, of my "type". " I had no idea this was a thing, but have worn one for about 2 years because it was the only finger this ring fitted. Now finding this out, I'm glad I am wearing it. Happy days. | |||
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"Don't people have anything better to speculate about? It is, apparently part of gay history. So interesting to some of us. " Apologies. I didn't mean to criticise any interest in gay history. I meant those who says that he wears abc so he must be xyz. | |||
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"So if I've got a ring on my little finger, my right ear pierced and I wear a ring around my cock which says 'I love cock' on it as I'm getting blown by a guy, i'm gay?" You could still just be being ‘ironic’. You could suddenly shout “no homo!” and confuse us all. Or you could just be an “ally”. You know, the type of man who will take a cock just to prove his ‘gay-adjacency’ but still wouldn’t felch as that’s too queer. | |||
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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos." The King and upper class. Hilarious. Trash class perhaps. | |||
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"I worked in a bank in the early eighties in central London. The scene was clandestine. You could lose your job or promotion prospects or worse if people found out you were gay. Certainly some toffs wore pinkies usually worn gold ones but some gay guys wore a pinkie too, maybe a patterned one, left hand little finger bitch right hand butch. It was a subtle indicator that the straights were unaware of and I had a few lunchtime meets and even a job offer by wearing my ring. They dont know theyre born these days! Another sign was hanging a bunch of keys off your belt guide tucked in to thr left or right back pocket." This is also how I understood it back in the day. | |||
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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos. The King and upper class. Hilarious. Trash class perhaps." Hey!I agree! I hate the Establishment, just saying what it is. | |||
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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos. The King and upper class. Hilarious. Trash class perhaps. Hey!I agree! I hate the Establishment, just saying what it is." Anyone who goes around referring to “aristos”… 🙄 It’s Citizen Camembert. | |||
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"I think we can safely conclude - from the mixture of confusion, denial, argument, diffidence and uncertainty in this thread - that the wearing of a ring by a man on his little finger signifies absolutely zero in this day and age. " This! Lol. Bought a ring years ago, just because I liked the design. Pinky just happened to be the only finger it would fit. Never once heard any reference to it "being gay" mockingly, suggestively or otherwise... All it signifies is a man wearing a ring lol | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere " I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. " Have you properly considered how/where you wear it? 😅 | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. " When are the occasions when getting your phone out is not appropriate…? | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. When are the occasions when getting your phone out is not appropriate…? " When you are supposed to be working. | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. When are the occasions when getting your phone out is not appropriate…? " Funerals | |||
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"A signet ring on your left pinky with family crest engraving is an upper class status. A ring on your right pinky means you’re a villain. A plain small non engraved signet ring on your left pinky means you’re gay. " This sounds like it's a quote from "The little book of made up shit" by professor David Lammy, one of the few people who can make Dianne Abbott look like she has an O Level. | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. When are the occasions when getting your phone out is not appropriate…? Funerals " And obviously looking at your watch is more dignified?! | |||
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" … This sounds like it's a quote from "The little book of made up shit" by professor David Lammy, one of the few people who can make Dianne Abbott look like she has an O Level… " I’ve got that book: it’s brilliant! The section on wearing signet rings is between the pages on Henry VII succeeding his son Henry VIII and the pages on the racist black and white smoke from the Papal conclave. | |||
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"On here it’s if you wear a ring on your ring finger you like cock. " When you say ‘ring on your finger’ … | |||
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"On here it’s if you wear a ring on your ring finger you like cock. " When you say ‘ring on your finger’ … | |||
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"A lot of guys that have fucked me wore a ring on their cock often wondered if they were gay xx " Probably chose put it on their cocks to hide any outward signal  | |||
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"I can't wear jewellery, I always feel its wearing me. The few bits I own are locked away somewhere I'm like that. I just have a watch to wear on occasions when getting my phone out isn't appropriate. When are the occasions when getting your phone out is not appropriate…? Funerals And obviously looking at your watch is more dignified?! " More subtle. Easier to glance. | |||
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" Well originally signet rings would have a design and were used to create an impression in melted wax as a seal, so they were around for a very long time. But they were adopted as a sign of being gay at some point, usually with a black stone in the ring. This allowed those “in the know” to distinguish between ordinary and gay wearers." I guess the stone was black onyx. | |||
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"It's that another urban myth like planting Pampas grass in the front garden advertises that it is the home of a swinging couple?"  I’m in my sixth decade and have never previously heard this nugget of wisdom! NOW I know why I've never felt comfortable around my brother-in-law. Who knew (I certainly didn't) that visiting this forum would become a voyage of self-discovery?  | |||
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"It's that another urban myth like planting Pampas grass in the front garden advertises that it is the home of a swinging couple?" Can I ask the relevance if it is planted in the back garden? | |||
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"It's that another urban myth like planting Pampas grass in the front garden advertises that it is the home of a swinging couple? Can I ask the relevance if it is planted in the back garden?" They both take it up the arse? | |||
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"I wear my dads wedding ring on my little finger as he had very small hands compared to me and it was the only finger I could get it on" Same here - one of my late wife's rings. I also have a Pampas grass in the front garden... | |||
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"I thought left middle was more indicative of gay ..." Same here🖕 🤷🏽♂️ | |||
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"No, that's rubbish, wearing a ring on you're pinky finger is a class thing, all upper class men wear a signet ring on their left pinky, look at king Charles and all aristos." So all went to boarding schools. Are you saying the upper classes are never gay. | |||
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