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By *ucker24777 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Watford

Hi guys I really need some advise. My fwb for years tested positive for gonoreah. I seem him last weeks on twice occasions.. I had anal and oral both with him. He is married and active with Mrs. So I am I. I think I might have got it too.

I had sex with Mrs on Sunday(I didn't cum in her)

I can go to clinic and get treated.

But what about wife? No idea what to do.

Is there any out there been in same situation?

Been looking online I can get treatment. Give her somehow .

Please help..

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By *amagedgoodsMan
5 weeks ago

Halstead/ Karsiyaka N. Cyprus

Dont panic my friend has just been diagnosed with syphallis, and has got major eye probs because of it. He barebacked me a few months ago, so got tested and was thankfully negative. Be lucky

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By *starMan
5 weeks ago

Stroud

Yes, don't panic, get to the clinic asap and take their advice.

I would respectfully suggest that giving drugs to someone without their knowledge or consent would be considered a serious assault, particularly with something sourced from the internet rather than medically prescribed.

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By *ekanukMan
5 weeks ago

Marston Green, Birmingham

I've not been in that place but the first thing to do is to get yourself checked/tested.

Until then you are worrying about something you don't know whether you have or not.

(if you've not been to a GUM clinic before don't worry they're very discrete & friendly and they wont tell your GP or anyone unless you allow/ask them to. They have seen and heard everything before.)

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By *onest and DiscreetMan
5 weeks ago

Southend-on-Sea

You possibly haven't picked it up not everyone picks it up how many times say members of your family have had colds and you don't get it.

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

As above, GET YOURSELF CHECKED! Then you can figure out the next steps

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By *aturistnudeMan
5 weeks ago

Hoylake

Never have sex with your wife if you having Sex with Men

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By *arried68Man
5 weeks ago

ilford

Wow that’s potentially unlucky - that’s what I worry about all the time - now even with married too. So frustrating as I love sex so much with men but always try safe

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By *ustOneBearMan
5 weeks ago

Neath

No sex until you have been tested and got your results. Contact you clinic. Tell them you are a contact of gonorrhoea.

Once you've got you results. Go from there.

They may offer you treatment as a contact. A single small injection in the buttock. Take it. Cuts down the timeframe. Listen to the advice at clinic.

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By *urryheathbearMan
5 weeks ago

Camberley

As already advised get an appointment to be tested at your local sexual health clinic. Equally when there speak to them about Gonerea vaccination, mpox vaccination and doxycycline pep. They are all now free from most clinics and reduce the risks of an std significantly. Good luck.

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By *ough stuffMan
5 weeks ago

Northampton/Fakenham

lesson learnt and I'm sorry all round.

my mate had the same, single guy but tested positive for Gonorrhoea, told his mate and i who he'd fucked (I’m on prep but was clear, this is relevant later). I kept thinking I haven't met him for a while, why did he need to tell me. turns out this Bulgarian guy and I were the only two guys he BB’s. The Bulgarian gets tested and was clear for gonorrhoea but comes back pos for HIV!!

Imagine his thoughts. been fucking this guy for a year, and me for 3 years. Married Bulgarian whose wife was expecting lied all along. my mate tested 3 times and was clear for HIV. big lesson learnt. get tested regular, get Prep and think of those you you may affect.

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5 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

What a mess.

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By *hagmenowplsMan
5 weeks ago

Hereford

Everyone who is active should get tested......married are less likely to test incase they get the messages found on their phone

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By *ice WankerMan
5 weeks ago

Lancs

Condoms are also helpful

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By *aturistnudeMan
5 weeks ago

Hoylake

Concur Go on PrEP hep vaccine Doxycycline and regular Checks

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Hi guys I really need some advise. My fwb for years tested positive for gonoreah. I seem him last weeks on twice occasions.. I had anal and oral both with him. He is married and active with Mrs. So I am I. I think I might have got it too.

I had sex with Mrs on Sunday(I didn't cum in her)

I can go to clinic and get treated.

But what about wife? No idea what to do.

Is there any out there been in same situation?

Been looking online I can get treatment. Give her somehow .

Please help.."

First things first, get to the clinic and get yourself tested. Depending on when last week it happened, you might be showing symptoms which can include discharge, and burning when peeing.

If the test is negative breath a big sigh of relief and think yourself lucky. If it is positive, you are going to need treatment. You’ll have to tell her because she will need testing and if infected treatment as well. No sex until you are both clear otherwise you will end up reinfecting each other.

Remember there are some nasty versions of it that have become resistant to antibiotics

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By *ice WankerMan
5 weeks ago

Lancs

I caught something just by getting oral a few weeks ago, 3 weeks to get rid of the infection.

If the other person ain't clean, you ain't going near me.

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By *iscreetmarried-bi-bottomMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

You would need to get to a gum clinic ASAP then need to tell the wife aswell, then all your pervious male buddies who you have met aswell in-between some lives will be wrecked now never mind your own marriage.

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By *attersbyMan
5 weeks ago

cotswold


"You would need to get to a gum clinic ASAP then need to tell the wife aswell, then all your pervious male buddies who you have met aswell in-between some lives will be wrecked now never mind your own marriage."

Have you considered volunteering with the Samaritans . With your positive and helpful advice .

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By *ull bi for funMan
5 weeks ago

hull

OP, have you got any symptoms yet, it's not the point and testing is still important, but it may help your anxiety a bit.

You can also buy kits on amazon and get them posted to drop boxes.

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By *orcester GuyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcestershire North

Can imagine how stressed you must be

Best to be practical to start with

Contact a clinic they probably be able to offer an urgent appointment to get checked

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By *ub460Man
5 weeks ago

S. Derbys


"I caught something just by getting oral a few weeks ago, 3 weeks to get rid of the infection.

If the other person ain't clean, you ain't going near me."

Gonorrhea is quite often asymptomatic, so the person has no symptoms and will often only know if they get tested. This is also true for Chlamydia and Syphillus. Many people are surprised to find they have a STI when they've not had any symptoms and had thought of themselves as 'clean'.

Regular testing will pick these STIs up if you're unlucky enough to catch one and treatment for those three will be done by local clinics with complete discretion.

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By *orcester GuyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcestershire North

Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male

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By *ough stuffMan
5 weeks ago

Northampton/Fakenham


"Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male"

this is your best bet, say it was a blow job and you couldn't resist trying it once with the lads. Gonorrhoea is rare from oral but plausible. be mortified and gutted how badly its backfired and she might forgive.

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By *rooozerMan
5 weeks ago

Nwk

Like most are saying here make an appointment to get tested

I’m not sure anyone has mentioned it yet but there is an incubation period for sti’s - I believe for gonorrhoea it is 2 weeks. (Certainly used to be)

But go straight away anyway and get the advice from your nearest GUM clinic - they’ll have the latest info on when tests can pick it up. They will probably test you straight away, just ask you pop back for a repeat test once the incubation period is has been reached.

Good luck to you

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By *astonMan
5 weeks ago

Inverclyde

You have my sympathy my friend.I went through a similar thing after barebacking a guy last year. My bell end started itching

and kept shedding skin. I worried I'd caught all sorts and after a sleepless night or two, I went to the local clinic and got tested. It was all clear thankfully and I was diagnosed with a fungal infection (thrush). It cleared up with ointment. I have never been so relieved. It was all done anonymously and the results were texted to my phone and were deleted soon as I'd read them.

I say you should go straight away

and get tested and stop torturing yourself. Get the results and then you can take it from there.

Good luck.

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By *oghillterryMan
5 weeks ago

Rochdale

I would suggest you go straight for some tests. Google, walk-in clinic (you may need to travel, for a rapid appointment). They provide a great service & nothing shocks them. Your results should help determine your next move.

I recently (September) thought that I had caught something. We all got a little carried away in the moment & ended up going Bareback with a couple of guys. A week or so later, several symptoms (incubation periods for common STI's are 3-10 days), so took myself to a walk-in clinic. Very friendly, very non-judgemental. A few simple tests, some results immediately, some, by text, a week later. Fortunately, a simple fungal infection & nothing too serious.

So, for me, going forward, it's safe sex only!!

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By *3versMan
5 weeks ago

glasgow


"Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male"

What if the anal swab comes back positive "oh by the way I forgot to tell you the female sex worker had a dick"

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By *altnsand60Man
5 weeks ago

Dover


"Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male"
I think that's potentially worse for the wife,at least a man isn't a direct alternative to her and hopefully after talking she's more likely to understand the attraction.

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Hi guys I really need some advise. My fwb for years tested positive for gonoreah. I seem him last weeks on twice occasions.. I had anal and oral both with him. He is married and active with Mrs. So I am I. I think I might have got it too.

I had sex with Mrs on Sunday(I didn't cum in her)

I can go to clinic and get treated.

But what about wife? No idea what to do.

Is there any out there been in same situation?

Been looking online I can get treatment. Give her somehow .

Please help.."

From the NHS https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/gonorrhoea/

Symptoms “usually” start around 2 weeks, but can start earlier OR months later.

Link gives you symptoms and help to find your local sexual health clinic.

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By *tmguylookingMan
5 weeks ago

Chesterfield

In fairness, if you're having sex with anyone on hook up sites such as this, then you owe it to yourself and to those you meet, to have regular check ups wether you always play 'safe' or not.

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By *ickSeekerMan
5 weeks ago

Canterbury

This seems to be the address of GUM clinic in Watford, if it's your local:

TOWN HALL, 1ST FLOOR THE ANNEX, Watford WD17 3EX

9-5

0300 008 5522

Hope it all turns out ok 👍 and a false alarm 🙏

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By *ucker24777 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Watford

I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 weeks ago

Visiting

Look on the bright side: education is invaluable.

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By *bear67Man
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful.."

Sorry to hear that, but you've done absolutely the right thing by getting tested and treated.

Wish you all the best with however you square this with your wife, but she really needs to get tested too.

All the best 🙏🏻🤞🏻

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By *3versMan
5 weeks ago

glasgow


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful.."

That's very quick, from posting to getting your results in under 3 hours - what service did you use?

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 weeks ago

Visiting


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

That's very quick, from posting to getting your results in under 3 hours - what service did you use?"

Well done 'Poirot' 😂

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

Sorry to hear that, but you've done absolutely the right thing by getting tested and treated.

Wish you all the best with however you square this with your wife, but she really needs to get tested too.

All the best 🙏🏻🤞🏻"

Second that. You need to talk to her very soon so that she can get tested. And remember NO SEX until you are both tested clear to avoid reinfecting yourselves.

The longer you leave it the worse it will be especially if she starts showing symptoms.

Also try avoid things like kissing the kids good night as there is a very small risk of passing it this way. Passionately kissing should definitely be avoided as a much higher risk.

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 weeks ago

Visiting

Where’s Baron Munchausen when you need him?

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By *amie1402Man
5 weeks ago

Liverpool

Tested already ?

Very fast.

But if you didn’t cum inside her then the odds are that she’s not been infected anyway

Bodily fluids are the main way to pass things on.

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By *erbysuckMan
5 weeks ago

derbyshire

Did you think to wear a condom???

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By *bear67Man
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"Did you think to wear a condom???"

Not a helpful comment at this stage.

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By *amie1402Man
5 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

Sorry to hear that, but you've done absolutely the right thing by getting tested and treated.

Wish you all the best with however you square this with your wife, but she really needs to get tested too.

All the best 🙏🏻🤞🏻

Second that. You need to talk to her very soon so that she can get tested. And remember NO SEX until you are both tested clear to avoid reinfecting yourselves.

The longer you leave it the worse it will be especially if she starts showing symptoms.

Also try avoid things like kissing the kids good night as there is a very small risk of passing it this way. Passionately kissing should definitely be avoided as a much higher risk."

That’s bollocks.

STIs are not passed on by kissing

And even if they were a peck on the kids cheek is not going to harm them.

So much rubbish talked on here

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By *arridMan
5 weeks ago

Brighton


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

That's very quick, from posting to getting your results in under 3 hours - what service did you use?"

There are walk in clinics and they can have you in and out in an hour: that includes registering, having them take a swab, test the swab, inject you and boot you out. Someone at work went in his lunch-hour.

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By *amie1402Man
5 weeks ago

Liverpool


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

That's very quick, from posting to getting your results in under 3 hours - what service did you use?

There are walk in clinics and they can have you in and out in an hour: that includes registering, having them take a swab, test the swab, inject you and boot you out. Someone at work went in his lunch-hour. "

The walk ins do the test quickly.

But the results usualky take 3-4 days to come back

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"That’s bollocks.

STIs are not passed on by kissing

And even if they were a peck on the kids cheek is not going to harm them.

So much rubbish talked on here "

“If there are active infections in the throat, kissing could transmit the bacteria, particularly if there the infected person has cuts or sores,” says Dr Vinekar. Deep kissing, which involves exchange of saliva, may lead to gonorrhoea, as per research published in The Lancet Infectious Diseases in 2019. Another research published in the Sexually Transmitted Diseases journal in 2023 found that tongue kissing may be a risk factor for oral gonorrhea. While it is possible to contract this STI through kissing, the risk is generally lower than through other forms of sexual activity, such as vaginal or anal sex,” says the expert.

So believe what YOU want, personally I’d say better safe than sorry. Oh and if you have infected saliva on your hand and rub your eyes, it is possible to get it in your eyes as well it would seem.

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By *jorkishMan
5 weeks ago

seaforth

Go to the clinic if your test is negative ask them for the gonorrhea vaccine and doxy pep (prevents to getting chlamydia and gives some protection against sysphillis)

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By *3versMan
5 weeks ago

glasgow


"That’s bollocks.

STIs are not passed on by kissing

And even if they were a peck on the kids cheek is not going to harm them.

So much rubbish talked on here

“If there are active infections in the throat, kissing could transmit the bacteria, particularly if there the infected person has cuts or sores,” says Dr Vinekar. Deep kissing, which involves exchange of saliva, may lead to gonorrhoea, as per research published in The Lancet Infectious Diseases in 2019. Another research published in the Sexually Transmitted Diseases journal in 2023 found that tongue kissing may be a risk factor for oral gonorrhea. While it is possible to contract this STI through kissing, the risk is generally lower than through other forms of sexual activity, such as vaginal or anal sex,” says the expert.

So believe what YOU want, personally I’d say better safe than sorry. Oh and if you have infected saliva on your hand and rub your eyes, it is possible to get it in your eyes as well it would seem."

I doubt anyone going to be tonguing their kids

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By *treyu500Man
5 weeks ago

wickow

This type of scenario does happen quite often and I can empathise with the amount of stress, worry , shame etc that comes with it. But I'm still going to call this instance total BS. Attention seeking stuff, since no-one else has. Like others pointed out, it's probably too early to test positive unless you have symptoms. I've had rapid HIV tests before that show instant results but 3 hrs for an sti screening, I havnt seen that before.

There's only 2 full proof ways to prevent this kind of thing.

1) wear condoms

2) be honest with your partner.

Also get your vaccines - hep, hpv, monkey pox.

Then you can live the life you want , guilt free. It's often a lot easier than it sounds. Many on here have gone through it.

And if the story is true and you do the right thing and talk to your wife about exposing her to a health risk, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

It's all out in the open now. No endless worrying about deleting texts and uninstalling apps. All that shite is exhausting anyway. I did it for a very short time and it was far worse for me personally than just coming out.

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By *ubberFunkerMan
5 weeks ago

Thanet & London


"This type of scenario does happen quite often and I can empathise with the amount of stress, worry , shame etc that comes with it. But I'm still going to call this instance total BS. Attention seeking stuff, since no-one else has. "

I'm with you cobber.

OP has hidden their profile, so I'm guessing a drama queen with a passing on a STD to wife fantasy.

You get all sorts on here

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 weeks ago

Visiting

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By *oodpeckerMan
5 weeks ago

Visiting


"This type of scenario does happen quite often and I can empathise with the amount of stress, worry , shame etc that comes with it. But I'm still going to call this instance total BS. Attention seeking stuff, since no-one else has."

Each of my three previous posts, I thought, demonstrated skepticism

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By *orcester GuyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcestershire North


"Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male I think that's potentially worse for the wife,at least a man isn't a direct alternative to her and hopefully after talking she's more likely to understand the attraction."

If he says a man that will completely do her head in likely to end marriage and make things 1000 times worse

A female one off to scratch the itch

She be angry upset etc

But most likely forgive after a while make him suffer

Best of bad situation

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By *orcester GuyMan
5 weeks ago

Worcestershire North


"Also if worst case scenario and test positive

Maybe tell wife you went with a female sex worker

As one off etc and caught it

Maybe as damage limited exercise

Chances of recovering from that probably greater than saying it was sex with male

What if the anal swab comes back positive "oh by the way I forgot to tell you the female sex worker had a dick""

Don’t think that matters ?

You treated for it regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful.."

But in your original post just a few hours before you said, and I quote "I think I might have got it too."

Hmmm.

Let's hope pinnochios nose doesn't poke your wife in the eye causing her to go to A&E who do a routine blood test for infections.

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By *wladMan
5 weeks ago

high wycombe


"This type of scenario does happen quite often and I can empathise with the amount of stress, worry , shame etc that comes with it. But I'm still going to call this instance total BS. Attention seeking stuff, since no-one else has.

I'm with you cobber.

OP has hidden their profile, so I'm guessing a drama queen with a passing on a STD to wife fantasy.

You get all sorts on here"

Going from worrying to being tested within 3 hours felt awfully convenient.

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By *heerlobvecockMan
5 weeks ago

coventry

Get into a regular testing cycle is my advice

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"This type of scenario does happen quite often and I can empathise with the amount of stress, worry , shame etc that comes with it. But I'm still going to call this instance total BS. Attention seeking stuff, since no-one else has.

I'm with you cobber.

OP has hidden their profile, so I'm guessing a drama queen with a passing on a STD to wife fantasy.

You get all sorts on here

Going from worrying to being tested within 3 hours felt awfully convenient."

It is possible - depends on the site and the test.

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/visiting-an-sti-clinic/

Getting your test results

With some tests, you can get the results – and treatment, if you need it – on the same day. For others, you might have to wait for a week or 2. If this is the case, the clinic will check how you would prefer to receive your results.

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By *ucksitupMan
5 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

He posted here at approximately 2pm yesterday and then posted that he had got the result by approximately 5pm.

So he got ready immediately after he posted (despite saying he didn’t know what to do) travelled and arrived at the clinic, waited, got the test done, got the result, talked it through, got an appointment for treatment, went back home and posted here at 5pm.

I think those calling BS are right. It all seems a bit too dramatic.

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By *hyna HutchMan
5 weeks ago

valleys

..... A bit sick if that's the case.😠

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By *atexlover50Man
5 weeks ago

Barton upon humber

I've caught it once from a female. The symptoms come out after about 24hrs. Boy oh boy it Hurst and I mean Hurst. Like pissing razor blades. Blood and green puss comes out of your penis. Has to take antibiotics fur 2 weeks. Was told a female can have it but not show any symptoms. But if is shows that you have it then she may. If she does not get tested and leaves it it can make her sterile. Well that's what the clap clinic told me.

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

It is entirely plausible (in purely logistical terms) for the OP to have received STI testing in the 3 hr window in which they went from their opening post to a secondary message informing us of their results. There are some places where you can do a walk-in (if you are very, very lucky) and be seen that quickly. I refer just to the taking of tests. So that aspect is not scientifically impossible. Though it does seem unlikely.

(Given their stated reluctance, hesitancy and the fact they were canvassing opinions at the start of the thread, whether you find that a remotely plausible part of the story is another matter.)

What then makes it clear we are dealing with an utterly fantasy situation is the claim they have received their results within 3 hours of the start of the thread. This is scientifically impossible.

You can obtain certain DIY swabbing at home gonorrhoea testing kits that purport to give a result within an hour. These are not very reliable and often not used correctly. The OP didn’t start off with one, note, didn’t really have time to go and get one, and then *specifically states he is being booked into a clinic for injections*. No clinic is going to book you in for injections based on your own home testing: they would have to have performed the tests themselves.

If you report to any public STI clinic in the UK stating you have symptoms of gonorrhoea or have been in contact with someone who has tested positive for gonorrhoea, the clinic is duty bound to perform a full screening. This means oesophageal swabbing, rectal swabbing and urethral swabbing and/or urine sampling. Gonococcal cultures take a minimum of 1-2 days for the culture to develop to see any positive results. A lot of clinics send testing to an off-site laboratory such as the nearby hospital, and even if they have a lab in-house and start developing a gonococcal culture IMMEDIATELY the swabs left your bodily cavities, the supposed time-frame here is absurd.

Any public STI clinic when it is aware you have had unprotected sex will naturally screen for the full gamut of infections. They are duty bound to do so. Some of these can take at least 3 days for cultures to be developed when done properly. A further factor in the story here being absurd. You can’t just rock up to a clinic and say “Clap swabs only and give me the 30 minutes turnaround!” It’s not Kodak Express.

In summa, this is a load of cock and bull. Why anyone would want to elaborate this fantasy situation, I can only surmise.

Why so many users have taken their time to write advice and sensible guidance about sexual health, I don’t know. Some of you are clearly filled with the milk of human kindness. At the same time some examples of advice above are questionable and some of the information misleading - certain statements categorically wrong. This is the problem about any discussion of health matters amongst random, anonymous profiles, whose motives could be highly questionable, on an unregulated public Forum.

There is so much ignorance and embarrassment about sexual health that I suppose it must only be a good thing if people can reach out and ask stuff on FabGuys (better than not asking and potentially suffering or not addressing problems) but nearly every one of these threads leaves you with your head in your hands.

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By *londebiguyMan
5 weeks ago

near Southport

It is a highly infectious one so I'd say it's very likely indeed that you have it and definitely get tested.

As for your wife then I think that she's going to find out herself if you've got it and do not tell her.

Discharge is probably a bit of a giveaway .

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By *londebiguyMan
5 weeks ago

near Southport


"Condoms are also helpful "

Only if you use them for all contact such as oral too.

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By *londebiguyMan
5 weeks ago

near Southport


"I got myself tested and it's positive..my oral swab and anal swab both came back positive...

They book me appt for tomorrow morning for injections..

Very stressful..

That's very quick, from posting to getting your results in under 3 hours - what service did you use?"

I do not know anywhere that has results that fast

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"… giving drugs to someone without their knowledge or consent would be considered a serious assault..."

You would have thought it didn’t need spelling out… but there we are.

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"… You’ll have to tell her because she will need testing and if infected treatment as well… "

This is the CORRECT response.

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"… As for your wife then I think that she's going to find out herself if you've got it and do not tell her… "

THIS IS NOT THE CORRECT RESPONSE!!!

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By *witchMan
5 weeks ago

Chester

Get tested, cross your fingers that you are negative, but if you are positive you will have to come clean with the Mrs, be iresponsible not to.

Do not give her meds without her knowledge.

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By *ooby01Man
5 weeks ago

Glencoe

Calling bullshit with this person.

Other posts elsewhere:

On Prep does it prevent STD's?

On Prep knows it doesn't prevent STD's

Weirdo!

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"Calling bullshit with this person.

Other posts elsewhere:

On Prep does it prevent STD's?

On Prep knows it doesn't prevent STD's

Weirdo!"

You mean the user who says he will keep a man’s cum up his arse “if he knows them” but will “splash it out” down the toilet if they are strangers…?! That one?! You’ll be telling me some of the people on this site are fantasists next! Heaven forfend…

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By *wladMan
5 weeks ago

high wycombe


"It is entirely plausible (in purely logistical terms) for the OP to have received STI testing in the 3 hr window in which they went from their opening post to a secondary message informing us of their results. There are some places where you can do a walk-in (if you are very, very lucky) and be seen that quickly. I refer just to the taking of tests. So that aspect is not scientifically impossible. Though it does seem unlikely.

(Given their stated reluctance, hesitancy and the fact they were canvassing opinions at the start of the thread, whether you find that a remotely plausible part of the story is another matter.)

What then makes it clear we are dealing with an utterly fantasy situation is the claim they have received their results within 3 hours of the start of the thread. This is scientifically impossible.

You can obtain certain DIY swabbing at home gonorrhoea testing kits that purport to give a result within an hour. These are not very reliable and often not used correctly. The OP didn’t start off with one, note, didn’t really have time to go and get one, and then *specifically states he is being booked into a clinic for injections*. No clinic is going to book you in for injections based on your own home testing: they would have to have performed the tests themselves.

If you report to any public STI clinic in the UK stating you have symptoms of gonorrhoea or have been in contact with someone who has tested positive for gonorrhoea, the clinic is duty bound to perform a full screening. This means oesophageal swabbing, rectal swabbing and urethral swabbing and/or urine sampling. Gonococcal cultures take a minimum of 1-2 days for the culture to develop to see any positive results. A lot of clinics send testing to an off-site laboratory such as the nearby hospital, and even if they have a lab in-house and start developing a gonococcal culture IMMEDIATELY the swabs left your bodily cavities, the supposed time-frame here is absurd.

Any public STI clinic when it is aware you have had unprotected sex will naturally screen for the full gamut of infections. They are duty bound to do so. Some of these can take at least 3 days for cultures to be developed when done properly. A further factor in the story here being absurd. You can’t just rock up to a clinic and say “Clap swabs only and give me the 30 minutes turnaround!” It’s not Kodak Express.

In summa, this is a load of cock and bull. Why anyone would want to elaborate this fantasy situation, I can only surmise.

Why so many users have taken their time to write advice and sensible guidance about sexual health, I don’t know. Some of you are clearly filled with the milk of human kindness. At the same time some examples of advice above are questionable and some of the information misleading - certain statements categorically wrong. This is the problem about any discussion of health matters amongst random, anonymous profiles, whose motives could be highly questionable, on an unregulated public Forum.

There is so much ignorance and embarrassment about sexual health that I suppose it must only be a good thing if people can reach out and ask stuff on FabGuys (better than not asking and potentially suffering or not addressing problems) but nearly every one of these threads leaves you with your head in your hands.

"

I didn't realise Coleen Rooney had a login

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By *ubfordom-travellingMan
5 weeks ago

south wales and south west

It happens, get tested first. Then, if you are positive, you will have to tell the wife. It is a criminal offence to knowingly have sex with someone whilst knowing you have an sti.

Your fwb was honest enough to tell you and you should be honest enough to tell your wife.

There are risks and consequences to having affairs, either way, you have been exposed to something that can have long lasting effects for both partners and you have a responsibility and legal obligation to do the right thing regardless of what anyone tells you or suggests i.e giving medication that she doesn't know about.

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By *ubfordom-travellingMan
5 weeks ago

south wales and south west

To add to the above, any pharmacy will provide you with the antibiotics if you tell them you've been exposed to someone with an sti

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"… I didn't realise Coleen Rooney had a login … "

I’m more Wagamama Christie.

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By *londebiguyMan
5 weeks ago

near Southport


"… As for your wife then I think that she's going to find out herself if you've got it and do not tell her…

THIS IS NOT THE CORRECT RESPONSE!!!"

I said..."if you do not tell her".

Meaning that she needs to be told.

Do you have issues with compression?

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"… As for your wife then I think that she's going to find out herself if you've got it and do not tell her…

THIS IS NOT THE CORRECT RESPONSE!!!

I said..."if you do not tell her".

Meaning that she needs to be told.

Do you have issues with compression?"

Lots of issues with compression.

Occasionally issues with comprehension if things are not explained clearly.

“She needs to be told” is the clearest way of indicating that you think she needs to be told. “She’s going to find out herself if you’ve got it and do not tell her” does not indicate in any way that you believe she needs to be told. But I’m very pleased to read this is the case. So back down, Tonto.

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By *antsMeetsMan
5 weeks ago

uxbridge

You live in Watford, theres a good clinic there that does walk ins near the Horns pub, I know because I use that clinic. Go and get checked and dont be so selfish in future and use protection if you're going to cheat on your wife.

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By *hagmenowplsMan
5 weeks ago

Hereford

The only time I caught a sti was from a woman, gonorrhea! Get tested and follow the advice from the clinic. They don't judge you but treat and advise.....I play bareback and take event prep

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By *ere2pleaseuMan
5 weeks ago

everywhere

I once knew a guy I worked with who caught a sti ( I can’t remember what, I’m going back quite a few years now) he got tested and it found out got the tablets then went to another sti clinic in a different town got tested again and got the medication then he took one and gave his wife the other so he didn’t have to admit it.

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By *arridMan
5 weeks ago

Brighton

Play your wife ‘The Nightmare Continues’ by Discharge and say ‘Do you know why I’m playing you this, darling?’

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By *obert xMan
5 weeks ago

West Lancs


"Calling bullshit with this person.

Other posts elsewhere:

On Prep does it prevent STD's?

On Prep knows it doesn't prevent STD's

Weirdo!"

Number of people on here who take prep and don't know what it does/does not protect against is pretty shocking. A lot seem to think it's an immunity shield to protect you (and your wife if married and secretly shagging men) from everything

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"I once knew a guy I worked with who caught a sti ( I can’t remember what, I’m going back quite a few years now) he got tested and it found out got the tablets then went to another sti clinic in a different town got tested again and got the medication then he took one and gave his wife the other so he didn’t have to admit it. "

At what point were the police involved?

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By *lackbootzMan
5 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"Play your wife ‘The Nightmare Continues’ by Discharge and say ‘Do you know why I’m playing you this, darling?’ "

I shouldn’t laugh but this has made me roar.

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By *arridMan
5 weeks ago

Brighton


"Play your wife ‘The Nightmare Continues’ by Discharge and say ‘Do you know why I’m playing you this, darling?’

I shouldn’t laugh but this has made me roar. "

Well, some people….

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By *ndyfy7Man
5 weeks ago

Fleetwood


"Hi guys I really need some advise. My fwb for years tested positive for gonoreah. I seem him last weeks on twice occasions.. I had anal and oral both with him. He is married and active with Mrs. So I am I. I think I might have got it too.

I had sex with Mrs on Sunday(I didn't cum in her)

I can go to clinic and get treated.

But what about wife? No idea what to do.

Is there any out there been in same situation?

Been looking online I can get treatment. Give her somehow .

Please help.."

If it’s less than two weeks not everything shows up on a test - so may have to be tested again a few weeks later

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By *odger300Man
5 weeks ago

Inverurie

Get tested and take it from there fingers crossed 🤞

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By *hyna HutchMan
5 weeks ago

valleys

I suppose you could curb the horror by saying you fucked a woman.

However ....

Some wives may find that more upsetting than the fact you 🩷 teh cock.

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By *treyu500Man
5 weeks ago

wickow

I have a true sti story to tack onto this that happened this week.

I have a regularly guy I see for "fun" but we also hang out. He's been away travelling. I picked him up from the airport on sunday. He had a scab on his lip, he said he had cut himself shaving and it was healing slowly and that it was very embarassing because a few people have pointed it out to him.

Anyway, a few days went by. We both had our sti tests done that week (coincidentally). I met him after my test on Wednesday because the hosp is near his apartment and I stayed over.

His doc took a swab of his lip scab "just in case" and did the other usual tests. That night I was still a bit suspicious of his scab but he assured me he remembered cutting himself shaving. I decided to risk having fun and not wait for the results. We kissed and had oral sex, then went to sleep.

The next day all his results came back negative, except ....he has herpes type 2 - on his face.

So, lesson learned for me. Google was a bit useless tbh because I wanted to see if there was any advantage to taking the meds he has. I've done quite a bit of research on it now. It's very common and most people don't realise they have it as they are asymptomatic. Obviously, I would still rather not have it. But, apparently it can spread even with people who are asymptomatic.

The doc gave him extra viral meds, I wasn't sure weather to take them or not as I have no symptoms but I eventually decided to take the course and started last night.

At the end of the day, the only sure way to protect yourself from STI's is condoms. And I'm not using them for BJ's so, like everything else in life, it's a calculated risk I suppose.

This is actually my first time ever being on someone's sexual contact list after an sti screening. It was a bit upsetting at first but it's my friend that feels terrible for exposing me to it.

There's no guarantee that I contracted it anyway from one interaction. From what I've read online, I might already have it from decades ago anyway but I've never displayed symptoms. So, I've decided to not worry about it too much.

Google did say to go to a doc but I don't see the point and it didn't explain why. It can't be cured, I have the viral meds and the tests for herpes are unreliable and pointless until about 15 weeks when antibodies show up in your blood.

Thoughts ? Should I go

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot


"I have a true sti story to tack onto this that happened this week.

I have a regularly guy I see for "fun" but we also hang out. He's been away travelling. I picked him up from the airport on sunday. He had a scab on his lip, he said he had cut himself shaving and it was healing slowly and that it was very embarassing because a few people have pointed it out to him.

Anyway, a few days went by. We both had our sti tests done that week (coincidentally). I met him after my test on Wednesday because the hosp is near his apartment and I stayed over.

His doc took a swab of his lip scab "just in case" and did the other usual tests. That night I was still a bit suspicious of his scab but he assured me he remembered cutting himself shaving. I decided to risk having fun and not wait for the results. We kissed and had oral sex, then went to sleep.

The next day all his results came back negative, except ....he has herpes type 2 - on his face.

So, lesson learned for me. Google was a bit useless tbh because I wanted to see if there was any advantage to taking the meds he has. I've done quite a bit of research on it now. It's very common and most people don't realise they have it as they are asymptomatic. Obviously, I would still rather not have it. But, apparently it can spread even with people who are asymptomatic.

The doc gave him extra viral meds, I wasn't sure weather to take them or not as I have no symptoms but I eventually decided to take the course and started last night.

At the end of the day, the only sure way to protect yourself from STI's is condoms. And I'm not using them for BJ's so, like everything else in life, it's a calculated risk I suppose.

This is actually my first time ever being on someone's sexual contact list after an sti screening. It was a bit upsetting at first but it's my friend that feels terrible for exposing me to it.

There's no guarantee that I contracted it anyway from one interaction. From what I've read online, I might already have it from decades ago anyway but I've never displayed symptoms. So, I've decided to not worry about it too much.

Google did say to go to a doc but I don't see the point and it didn't explain why. It can't be cured, I have the viral meds and the tests for herpes are unreliable and pointless until about 15 weeks when antibodies show up in your blood.

Thoughts ? Should I go "

Well you need to remember that “cold sores” and herpes are both caused by the same virus family “cold sores” by the HSV-1 virus and Herpes by either the HSV-1 or HSV-2 virus, and as you have observed they can’t be cured, and they remain in the body for life. So if you have ever had a cold sore you probably already have the virus.

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By *treyu500Man
5 weeks ago

wickow


"I have a true sti story to tack onto this that happened this week.

I have a regularly guy I see for "fun" but we also hang out. He's been away travelling. I picked him up from the airport on sunday. He had a scab on his lip, he said he had cut himself shaving and it was healing slowly and that it was very embarassing because a few people have pointed it out to him.

Anyway, a few days went by. We both had our sti tests done that week (coincidentally). I met him after my test on Wednesday because the hosp is near his apartment and I stayed over.

His doc took a swab of his lip scab "just in case" and did the other usual tests. That night I was still a bit suspicious of his scab but he assured me he remembered cutting himself shaving. I decided to risk having fun and not wait for the results. We kissed and had oral sex, then went to sleep.

The next day all his results came back negative, except ....he has herpes type 2 - on his face.

So, lesson learned for me. Google was a bit useless tbh because I wanted to see if there was any advantage to taking the meds he has. I've done quite a bit of research on it now. It's very common and most people don't realise they have it as they are asymptomatic. Obviously, I would still rather not have it. But, apparently it can spread even with people who are asymptomatic.

The doc gave him extra viral meds, I wasn't sure weather to take them or not as I have no symptoms but I eventually decided to take the course and started last night.

At the end of the day, the only sure way to protect yourself from STI's is condoms. And I'm not using them for BJ's so, like everything else in life, it's a calculated risk I suppose.

This is actually my first time ever being on someone's sexual contact list after an sti screening. It was a bit upsetting at first but it's my friend that feels terrible for exposing me to it.

There's no guarantee that I contracted it anyway from one interaction. From what I've read online, I might already have it from decades ago anyway but I've never displayed symptoms. So, I've decided to not worry about it too much.

Google did say to go to a doc but I don't see the point and it didn't explain why. It can't be cured, I have the viral meds and the tests for herpes are unreliable and pointless until about 15 weeks when antibodies show up in your blood.

Thoughts ? Should I go

Well you need to remember that “cold sores” and herpes are both caused by the same virus family “cold sores” by the HSV-1 virus and Herpes by either the HSV-1 or HSV-2 virus, and as you have observed they can’t be cured, and they remain in the body for life. So if you have ever had a cold sore you probably already have the virus."

Thanks for the reply. I've never had a cold sore but based on how common hsv1 is, I do probably already have it, but I've just never displayed symptoms.

My fwb's apartment is around the corner from his clinic. I just did a walk in as they are open until 3pm (it's noon now). I just wanted to ask a question about the meds. The best they could do was give me a phone call on Monday which would cost me about $80 so I left. Usually its free but I haven't been to that clinic since I got my mpox vaccine a year ago. It's probably something to do with high demand of the service.

I have a cousin in Sydney that I barely know lol. I'll send her an awkward voice message to find out .

Or maybe I can just give Sydney University a call. They're popular on this website .

After sleeping on the all the information I looked up, I'm not actually worried about it now. I just want to know if taking the meds is pointless or not.

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