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By *arla999 OP   Man
4 days ago

glasgow

Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 days ago

Watford

You're making the mistake of pairing being penetrated with feminity when there is no connection between the two things at all.

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By *appylondonMan
4 days ago

West London


"You're making the mistake of pairing being penetrated with feminity when there is no connection between the two things at all."

Yep. I’m not at all feminine and like a cock in my arse.

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By *lderbttmMan
4 days ago

Inverness

I'm am bi and masculine, love being fucked. Have for decades but it doesn't make me feminine. I certainly don't claim to be heterosexual.

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By *ai989Man
4 days ago

Sydney

Because everyone is different and it’s impossible to apply labels to anyone but yourself.

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By *awihMan
4 days ago

Aldershot


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance.

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 days ago

Watford


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance."

You would have a point - had the OP not framed it with the word "femininity". In doing so he has assumed the receiver is feminine, as that is how he has accepted he is. He's off the mark by several galaxies.

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By *ucksitupMan
4 days ago

Shrewsbury


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance."

You have misconstrued it. He also refers and links penetration to masculinity Whilst they are at least bi if they like to be penetrated they can still be masculine. A point he gets wrong and you appear to have missed completely.

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By *eorgesdadMan
4 days ago

Nottingham

I am masculine but enjoy being fucked I don’t act or feel feminine at all but boy do I enjoy taking cock up me xx

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By *excessMan
4 days ago

Sleaford


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance."

Nope, the OP clearly states he is "feminine in his sexual nature"

As a bi versatile guy, I'm attracted to masculinity, and would definitely describe myself as masculine.

Whether I'm topping or bottoming, I'm still "masculine in my sexual nature"

He's conflating masculinity with heterosexuality.

I know many straight guys who are camp as a row of tents, and I'm pleased to say, many masculine gay guys, because they are mainly what I'm attracted to.

And men who have sex with men but identify as straight is pretty common and well researched

Read " Still straight: sexual flexibility in white men in rural America" by Tony Silva.

Interesting stuff.

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By *awihMan
4 days ago

Aldershot


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance.

You would have a point - had the OP not framed it with the word "femininity". In doing so he has assumed the receiver is feminine, as that is how he has accepted he is. He's off the mark by several galaxies."

What the OP said was “at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me”. The key phrase being “honest enough to admit” regarding their own orientation and nature, which someone who professes to be straight but like to be fucked by a man is not. The latter (at least to me) just hi-lited the difference between someone who is honest with both themselves and others about their sexuality and someone who is not. Perhaps the OP would like to clarify their intent.

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 days ago

Watford

His post isnt about him, it is about his perceived observation of other people. He has amplified his perception by equating it with his own experience. Its like saying I like oranges but I dont like pears, ergo nobody who likes oranges can like pears. I think we can all accept that's not true. I think we can also accept that the vast majority of men who take it up the bum dont identify as feminine like the OP does.

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By *ucksitupMan
4 days ago

Shrewsbury

Just read the title of the thread.

There is absolutely nothing at odds with being masculine and being penetrated.

It is the OP’s first post that introduces (erroneously) the issue of femininity and links it to penetration.

Not everyone who likes to be penetrated is feminine and equally not all claim to be masculine.

Discussion over.

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By *mizhereMan
4 days ago

Thame and Surrounds

Never been a fan or being penetrated but enjoy penetrating

I'm bi and proud of it

Takings isn't a sign of feminism it's what they enjoy

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By *awihMan
4 days ago

Aldershot


"Never been a fan or being penetrated but enjoy penetrating

I'm bi and proud of it

Takings isn't a sign of feminism it's what they enjoy "

Yes, but neither is having sex with a man (either way) a sign of being “straight” which quite a few on here seem to profess - it (at least to me) says they can’t accept to themselves or others that they are bisexual.

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By *dambi00Man
4 days ago

Leicestershire

Being masculine doesn’t mean you can’t be a bottom

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By *heoilcanMan
4 days ago

solihull

I am masculine and have just found the pleasure of anal sex now looking for a local top who can accommodate

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By *jh59Man
4 days ago

Hinckley

I love being penetrated

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By *hristof64Man
4 days ago

swindon

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By *rookeTVTV/TS
4 days ago

Linwood

I dont even try to be masculine lol x

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By *uy near ArundelMan
4 days ago

Nr Arundel


"The chinese have been poisioning the water hence all the sub fags"

Finally! If only they admitted to it. I've been wondering what the problem was for years!!

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By *u2usemeMan
4 days ago

hyde


"The chinese have been poisioning the water hence all the sub fags"
I must drink more water I am a sub fag poof lol

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By *uy near ArundelMan
4 days ago

Nr Arundel


"Just read the title of the thread.

There is absolutely nothing at odds with being masculine and being penetrated.

It is the OP’s first post that introduces (erroneously) the issue of femininity and links it to penetration.

Not everyone who likes to be penetrated is feminine and equally not all claim to be masculine.

Discussion over. "

In fact you could be feminine and a very avid top!! And probably very good at it too.

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By *oolpeteMan
4 days ago

Chesterfield

The answer to this is keep your nose out of other people's business , why comment on and label or mis label others .

I know it make make me a dinosaur but I'm sure in my youth we hated and fought against labels but it seems they are back again with a vengeance xx

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By *oolpeteMan
4 days ago

Chesterfield

By the way my label is I am me xx

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By *ucksitupMan
4 days ago

Shrewsbury


"Never been a fan or being penetrated but enjoy penetrating

I'm bi and proud of it

Takings isn't a sign of feminism it's what they enjoy

Yes, but neither is having sex with a man (either way) a sign of being “straight” which quite a few on here seem to profess - it (at least to me) says they can’t accept to themselves or others that they are bisexual."

The topic as defined by the title has nothing to do with being straight or otherwise. That misleading issue was introduced in the first post and clouded the original issue/topic.

If you want to discuss that then you should also consider that a man can be feminine and still be straight.

Being masculine or feminine does not define your sexual preference or your identity as straight/bi/gay.

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By *ohnny007Man
4 days ago

Worcester


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

I’m masculine and bottom… I don’t get it??

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By *ickSeekerMan
4 days ago

Canterbury

Too many nuances and subtle differences and particulars to be addressed by typing on a minuscule keyboard here, but clearly a universal concern. In my parts of the world we have a saying, that translates roughly as: 'you gotta be man enough to take c*ck up your a*se' and its variants 'a real man is the one prepared to take c*** up his a***' and 'a real macho (oops!) takes c**k up his ar*e and decides he doesn't like it'.🤔

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By *wladMan
4 days ago

high wycombe


"The chinese have been poisioning the water hence all the sub fags"

WTF is wrong with you?

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By *0skidMan
4 days ago

Stockton

I'm a typical masculine bloke. Body outlook , blokey hobbies . Love taking g it

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By *yle400Man
4 days ago

Chesterfield

I'm all man, please top me..

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By *elshymaleMan
4 days ago

thanet

I would love to take a hard cock inside me but still a virgin

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By *ocklover1456Man
4 days ago

sheffield

I am all male and love being penetrated. Enjoy it from masc or feminine guys

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By *napperMan
4 days ago

Brighton and Hove

Some seriously screwy thinking on here, and all started by the ridiculous and bigoted proposition by the threadstarter which boils down to being that only 'feminine' men should take cock and any 'masculine' man who does so is lying to himself. I am personally sick of such idiotic thinking from so many gay men; you really aren't special just because you're gay and you're not gay just because you like cock up your bum.

So I do not wholly identify as gay. Largely because the people I am physically attracted to are overwhelmingly women. The only bit of a man I am properly attracted to is a thick, hard, veiny cock but I'd still choose a pussy first to bury my tongue in. I am not at all feminine, I take the biggest cocks I can find up my arse, and I'll marry Scarlet Johansson when she finally gets round to asking me. That's the reality of sexuality; it's not a simple binary 'choice' and those who appear to be upset by this, like our threadstarter, are guilty of exactly the sort of bigotry they'd be the first to whinge about if directed towards them.

My advice? Stop worrying about how others identify and sort your own small-mindedness out.

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By *arla999 OP   Man
4 days ago

glasgow


"Some seriously screwy thinking on here, and all started by the ridiculous and bigoted proposition by the threadstarter which boils down to being that only 'feminine' men should take cock and any 'masculine' man who does so is lying to himself. I am personally sick of such idiotic thinking from so many gay men; you really aren't special just because you're gay and you're not gay just because you like cock up your bum.

So I do not wholly identify as gay. Largely because the people I am physically attracted to are overwhelmingly women. The only bit of a man I am properly attracted to is a thick, hard, veiny cock but I'd still choose a pussy first to bury my tongue in. I am not at all feminine, I take the biggest cocks I can find up my arse, and I'll marry Scarlet Johansson when she finally gets round to asking me. That's the reality of sexuality; it's not a simple binary 'choice' and those who appear to be upset by this, like our threadstarter, are guilty of exactly the sort of bigotry they'd be the first to whinge about if directed towards them.

My advice? Stop worrying about how others identify and sort your own small-mindedness out."

You seem to be a very confused individual

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By *itherMan
4 days ago

Leeds

Call it what you want but I like it up the bum.

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By *omo2026Man
4 days ago

Liverpool

I consider myself masculine but love a man dominating me and fucking me the feeling is fantastic feeling him ride and pulsate his throwing cock in my holes

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By *ildwestheroMan
4 days ago

Llandrindod Wells


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

Sound like the myth straight people have being putting about for years. They seem to think that if a man engaged with sex with another man he is no longer masculine. Especially if he gets penetrated. Obviously neither participants are truly heterosexual. They are either bi or gay, but it does not mean they are in anyway effeminate unless they actually set out to be.

What you do sexually is a matter of personal choice and taste. It does not affect who you are at all.

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By *anfun1090Man
4 days ago

Monaghan

Im gay. Love to be fucked and fuck. Im not into anything "feminine" because im gay.

I can be as judgmental as yourself and say, real gay lads wouldnt be into "feminine" because they are ment to be attracted to men.

Maybe you're just pretending to be gay but really you're bi if you're into been feminine. See how silly it gets when we start trying to tell people what they are?

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By *uffolkmale54TV/TS
4 days ago

Lowestoft


"Call it what you want but I like it up the bum.

"

that's the spirit

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By *anfun1090Man
4 days ago

Monaghan


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Sound like the myth straight people have being putting about for years. They seem to think that if a man engaged with sex with another man he is no longer masculine. Especially if he gets penetrated. Obviously neither participants are truly heterosexual. They are either bi or gay, but it does not mean they are in anyway effeminate unless they actually set out to be.

What you do sexually is a matter of personal choice and taste. It does not affect who you are at all."

I agree. Its the old " whos the man and whos the woman" statment they sometimes make.

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By *OMPLACIENT GUYMan
4 days ago

Hove

I not only do it for pleasure but for the degregation.I enjoy facing my friends and colleagues with my secret shame which I enjoy so much.I would appreciate any comments on this please.

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By *napperMan
4 days ago

Brighton and Hove

"You seem to be a very confused individual"

Er, well done seeing my point that sexuality in general is both confused and confusing. Sadly I can't congratulate you on your judginess.

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By *ay4121Man
4 days ago

Bexleyheath

I would say im masculine but clearly not retro. Can be submissive but no feminine i don't believe.

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By *ildwestheroMan
4 days ago

Llandrindod Wells


"I not only do it for pleasure but for the degregation.I enjoy facing my friends and colleagues with my secret shame which I enjoy so much.I would appreciate any comments on this please."

You do what you enjoy. Some guys like the 'degradation' of submitting to another guy. Others might call it making love. To me it is the intimacy and I've always been versatile. Used to be a 'giver' but now prefer to be on the receiving end. It's about giving each other pleasure.

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By *OMPLACIENT GUYMan
4 days ago

Hove


"I not only do it for pleasure but for the degregation.I enjoy facing my friends and colleagues with my secret shame which I enjoy so much.I would appreciate any comments on this please.

You do what you enjoy. Some guys like the 'degradation' of submitting to another guy. Others might call it making love. To me it is the intimacy and I've always been versatile. Used to be a 'giver' but now prefer to be on the receiving end. It's about giving each other pleasure."

Yes that's what it's about Pleasure. 🤣🤣

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 days ago

Didcot


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

Heterosexual, no they're not, however being bottom or top does not relate to being masculine or feminine, one size does not fit all, a lot of gay guys are actually quite masculine with typically male interests/hobbies, where as some like me are a lot more effeminate and thus more obviously gay but that doesn't always define their role when it comes to sex.

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By *3versMan
4 days ago

glasgow

Don't worry folks, it's just Carla's time of the month when she gets all broody and wants her man fanny to be flooded with hot masculine sperm

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 days ago

Didcot


"Don't worry folks, it's just Carla's time of the month when she gets all broody and wants her man fanny to be flooded with hot masculine sperm"

Is Carla the only gay in the village?

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By *rancd2TV/TS
4 days ago

Wolverhampton

So is masculine drinking beers, watching football, fixing cars and getting into scrapes, but feminine is cooking, cleaning, looking after the other half and raising kids?

I’ve done all of those, so what am I.

I really don’t see all this masculine/feminine shit really holding much water these days tbh.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 days ago

Didcot


"So is masculine drinking beers, watching football, fixing cars and getting into scrapes, but feminine is cooking, cleaning, looking after the other half and raising kids?

I’ve done all of those, so what am I.

I really don’t see all this masculine/feminine shit really holding much water these days tbh."

Same here apart from football, can't stand it, but yeah all the other things, I've striped and rebuilt car engines, built model airplanes including radio control, may have got in to the odd scrap when younger, I certainly drink beer go fishing, I cook, I clean and I've raised a child as a single parent (for some of her life) but guess what girls are quite capable of doing everything I've listed.

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By *enardeMan
4 days ago

Barnsley

I’m masculine straight acting as they say

Can’t say I’m straight cos I suck cock and if lucky I take cock

But it doesn’t make me feminine

I feel sub when getting shagged but after the sex I’m back to me

So I don’t think it’s guys pretending to be masculine the majority are

With of course some who like a bit of cock

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By *enardeMan
4 days ago

Barnsley


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me

Think some people has misconstrued your point, which as far as I read it is men who like to be penetrated by a hard cock but claim they are still “straight”.

If they enjoy being fucked by another man they are at the very least Bi not straight, they are just in denial about their sexuality.

The fact you are gay and comfortable with your sexuality and sexual desires is just a contrast between their denial and your acceptance."

Well from all the education I have had on the subject the last I heard was as always

It subjective to the guy

If he isn’t attracted to the same sec he’s not gay

Guys can separate sex out from emotions

So if a guy thinks he’s straight then let him think that your opinion doesn’t matter

You might just be irked that he isn’t fitting g into your objective view

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By *ildwestheroMan
4 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

If you are masculine then you are masculine. If you are effeminate then you are effeminate. I've fucked some very masculine guys in the past. I've also heard some cds/tvs are tops. You just cannot generalise.

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By *immewillyMan
4 days ago

Dundee


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

There should be NO place for this kind of misguided judgement and accusation. The OP simply doesn't have a clue what they are on about.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 days ago

Didcot


"If you are masculine then you are masculine. If you are effeminate then you are effeminate. I've fucked some very masculine guys in the past. I've also heard some cds/tvs are tops. You just cannot generalise."

Agree, being masculine or effeminate has for most people no bearing on their role, you can be top, bottom or versatile regardless of traits, a lot of guys become bottom as they get older because they either can't get a proper erection or can't rely on getting one.

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By *ayobiguyMan
4 days ago

Castlebar

Amazing how someone of the op's age can be so clueless about basic stuff

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By *ustOneBearMan
4 days ago

Neath

What a palaver!!

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By *b20Man
4 days ago

Glasgow

Who cares folks

Live and let live

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By *hecknudeMan
4 days ago

Checkendon

I gladly take cock and still feel masculine !

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
4 days ago

Glasgow

OP's view is somewhat black and white. Can you enjoy being penetrated and still be masculine? Yes, I believe you can. Masculinity/femininity have nothing to do with it at all. Sexuality is a totally different issue. The most feminine guy I know has been married twice, has a string of children and grandchildren and is very happy with his situation. Please don't force your own views on others OP

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By *enjamin2018Man
4 days ago

Gosfield

I don't see any inconsistency between being masculine and sub at all, and I prefer a sub masculine guy , which for me is hairy, inshape , articulate and confident.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
4 days ago

Didcot


"I don't see any inconsistency between being masculine and sub at all, and I prefer a sub masculine guy , which for me is hairy, inshape , articulate and confident."

Sub has nothing to do with being masc or fem, you're trying to bring BDSM in to it, I consider myself fem but I'm certainly not in to sub/dom stuff.

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By *im le2Man
3 days ago

aylestone leic

I love a nice cock in me always have but I'm still masculine. And have a rough voice

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By *arla999 OP   Man
3 days ago

glasgow

My point here is that so many men on this forum pretend to be heterosexual when they love being penetrated by another man's hard penis. Why cant they admit that they are gay and adore the male body.

Perhaps I've erred in stating my belief that they have compromised their masculinity by being penetrated, a judgement made on my own feelings of femininity.

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By *upertedMan
3 days ago

Nelson

Is this all about what the gay community have been striving for - no labels.

Does it matter how someone presents?

They may say they're a pitcher in the streets but a catcher in the sheets and that's entirely up to them.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot


"My point here is that so many men on this forum pretend to be heterosexual when they love being penetrated by another man's hard penis. Why cant they admit that they are gay and adore the male body.

Perhaps I've erred in stating my belief that they have compromised their masculinity by being penetrated, a judgement made on my own feelings of femininity.

"

The thing is, they're not straight and this site doesn't even have straight as an option when you set your profile up. I think you are referring to those on here that say they're not attracted to men, they just like the sex acts, they don't have to be gay, bisexual is a long recognised sexuality, it's the B in LGBT. As for masculinity or femininity yes, probably a mistake to bring that into your post as it really has little to no bearing on what role someone is, also it's not one size fits all for those of us who are gay, some of us can be straight acting and masculine, some can be very effeminate, many are something in-between.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

Some guys--very often married guys with kids--like to secretly dress up in women's clothing, call themselves Dirty Deidre, and think their arsehole is a vagina. So yes they are not being very masculine. Other guys are just ordinary guys who dress and do things like other guys do except when it comes to sex. If they enjoy having a hard cock pumping away in their arsehole then it makes them no less a man.

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By *owzerMan
3 days ago

Chester.....

I wonder if any men on here pretend to be Rachel Reeves with her red box

" I'm going to raise your taxes and increase child benefits"

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot


"I wonder if any men on here pretend to be Rachel Reeves with her red box

" I'm going to raise your taxes and increase child benefits" "

WTF????

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By *awihMan
3 days ago

Aldershot


"I think you are referring to those on here that say they're not attracted to men, they just like the sex acts,"

No, there are people on here who post that they are “Straight but just like Cock”. If they like Cock they are not “Straight” but somewhere on the “Bi Spectrum” (for want of a better phrase).

By maintaining that they are “Straight but just like Cock” they are lying to themselves and everyone else, if they were straight they wouldn’t want someone’s cock near them, especially in them.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot


"I think you are referring to those on here that say they're not attracted to men, they just like the sex acts,

No, there are people on here who post that they are “Straight but just like Cock”. If they like Cock they are not “Straight” but somewhere on the “Bi Spectrum” (for want of a better phrase).

By maintaining that they are “Straight but just like Cock” they are lying to themselves and everyone else, if they were straight they wouldn’t want someone’s cock near them, especially in them."

Yeah I get that but there's no "Straight" option in the drop down when setting up your profile, just Bisexual, Bi Curious or Gay so at least on here they are one of those options, maybe outside Fabguys they are not out in the real world, however that probably goes for about 90% of the bi guys on here.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 days ago

Llandrindod Wells


"I think you are referring to those on here that say they're not attracted to men, they just like the sex acts,

No, there are people on here who post that they are “Straight but just like Cock”. If they like Cock they are not “Straight” but somewhere on the “Bi Spectrum” (for want of a better phrase).

By maintaining that they are “Straight but just like Cock” they are lying to themselves and everyone else, if they were straight they wouldn’t want someone’s cock near them, especially in them."

Well said

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By *mrmarkMan
3 days ago

Tavistock

I've never been interested in being macho, just in touch with my feminine side. Just love the feel of a nice hard cock up me.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot


"I've never been interested in being macho, just in touch with my feminine side. Just love the feel of a nice hard cock up me."

I'm a lot happier having come to accept that I'm more femme, wasted far too much of my life trying to be masculine.

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By *awihMan
3 days ago

Aldershot


"I think you are referring to those on here that say they're not attracted to men, they just like the sex acts,

No, there are people on here who post that they are “Straight but just like Cock”. If they like Cock they are not “Straight” but somewhere on the “Bi Spectrum” (for want of a better phrase).

By maintaining that they are “Straight but just like Cock” they are lying to themselves and everyone else, if they were straight they wouldn’t want someone’s cock near them, especially in them.

Yeah I get that but there's no "Straight" option in the drop down when setting up your profile, just Bisexual, Bi Curious or Gay so at least on here they are one of those options, maybe outside Fabguys they are not out in the real world, however that probably goes for about 90% of the bi guys on here. "

I know there is no “Straight” option in the drop-down list on the profile, that is not what I’m talking about. I have seen it actually typed into forum posts on this site “I’m straight I just like Cock”.

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By *etterbiggerMan
3 days ago

Scunthorpe


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

A broad generalisation. I can camp it up a bit when I want but I'm not feminine in the slightest. Over 6 foot 44 inch chest. I've never faced any homophobia that I couldn't handle. Or a cock that I couldn't handle either come to think of it.

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By *ingslynnMan
3 days ago

Grantham

I class myself as one of the lads when out and about. But there are times when i just like to be a sissy for a naughty man and lust for cock....

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By *arla999 OP   Man
2 days ago

glasgow


"I class myself as one of the lads when out and about. But there are times when i just like to be a sissy for a naughty man and lust for cock.... "

Can't beat being his sissy bitch and getting your man-pussy feminised, I love it

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 days ago

Didcot


"I class myself as one of the lads when out and about. But there are times when i just like to be a sissy for a naughty man and lust for cock....

Can't beat being his sissy bitch and getting your man-pussy feminised, I love it"

Man pussy, really?

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By *uy near ArundelMan
2 days ago

Nr Arundel


"

A broad generalisation. I can camp it up a bit when I want but I'm not feminine in the slightest. Over 6 foot 44 inch chest. I've never faced any homophobia that I couldn't handle. Or a cock that I couldn't handle either come to think of it.

"

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By *ammy57TV/TS
2 days ago

Stevenage


"You're making the mistake of pairing being penetrated with feminity when there is no connection between the two things at all."

Very true. For some of us it is liked in our minds, and for me it's acceptance of my fem side. But for others I know that even the suggestion of a female aspect to anal sex would be a big turn off.

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By *os001Man
2 days ago

Oxford

There are plenty of big masculine men out there and some probably enjoy a cock in their arse.

If that's what they like, it's no business of anyone else's.

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By *aid2TV/TS
2 days ago

Swindon

What a braindead take. Obviously you can be masculine and still enjoy bottoming.

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By *um4usenowMan
2 days ago

Wymondham

I'm also masculine in every respect (except when in stockings and a dress!) and happen to adore a hard penis inside me.

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By *ete4fun4Man
2 days ago

Axminster


"I'm also masculine in every respect (except when in stockings and a dress!) and happen to adore a hard penis inside me."

I'm the same I watch football love going to the pub and love to do lots of so called masculine stuff but love putting on some lingerie on and being fucked I'm bi and proud lol

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By *ildwestheroMan
2 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

As I have said before this is often a misconception by straight people. How many times have we heard someone say, when talking about a gay couple, 'Which one's the wife?'. If you are masculine then you are masculine. If you are effeminate then you are effeminate. What you do in bed is what suits you and what you enjoy.

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By *xX8p5Man
2 days ago

London

How do you know until you try taking cook,if you would like it.

Although I haven't yet.

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By *ottomcumslut999Man
2 days ago

Woburn


"I'm also masculine in every respect (except when in stockings and a dress!) and happen to adore a hard penis inside me.

I'm the same I watch football love going to the pub and love to do lots of so called masculine stuff but love putting on some lingerie on and being fucked I'm bi and proud lol "

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By *ottomcumslut999Man
2 days ago

Woburn


"I'm also masculine in every respect (except when in stockings and a dress!) and happen to adore a hard penis inside me.

I'm the same I watch football love going to the pub and love to do lots of so called masculine stuff but love putting on some lingerie on and being fucked I'm bi and proud lol "

I couldn’t agree more with both these posts.

I love dressing and becoming someone else for a while. I turn into a big slut!

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By *njoysfunMan
2 days ago

Telford

I’m bi, really enjoy getting fucked and having a cock deep in me but I’m not feminine?..

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By *eorgesdadMan
2 days ago

Nottingham

I am masculine but love being fucked and sucking cocks. Don’t need to be feminine to enjoy that 🥸

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By *arla999 OP   Man
1 day ago

glasgow


"I am masculine but love being fucked and sucking cocks. Don’t need to be feminine to enjoy that 🥸"

Yes, we are all different but I love taking the female role to a dominant power top and let him feel free to treat me like his bitch

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By *tevejbMan
1 day ago

Leeds

It s a denial connected to homophobia Carla

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By *arla999 OP   Man
1 day ago

glasgow


"It s a denial connected to homophobia Carla"

Nonsense, I just love being fucked like a woman

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By *onstant.Man
1 day ago

Middlesbrough

I just love a nice hard cock sliding deep inside my tight little hole

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By *ndy61hMan
1 day ago

Plymouth

It's just another sexual act, we're in it for the thrill, not for a label.

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By *om_essexMan
1 day ago

Chelmsford

If a woman likes beong fucked in the arse does that make her more feminine?

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By *ildwestheroMan
1 day ago

Llandrindod Wells


"It s a denial connected to homophobia Carla

Nonsense, I just love being fucked like a woman "

That's because you like to think of yourself as a woman/wish you were a woman. We ordinary blokes still think of ourselves as being blokes when we are being fucked by another bloke.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
1 day ago

Didcot


"It s a denial connected to homophobia Carla

Nonsense, I just love being fucked like a woman

That's because you like to think of yourself as a woman/wish you were a woman. We ordinary blokes still think of ourselves as being blokes when we are being fucked by another bloke."

Not sure I completely agree, I consider myself as femme leaning gay, not trans and have never considered it, but quite effeminate, I like a guy to pamper me and sex to feel like making love, I don't want a guy who with fuck my brains out and I sort think that is what Carla means.

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By *owboy1975Man
1 day ago

staffs

I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
1 day ago

Didcot


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating "

Really? The straightest guys I've ever met wouldn't even contemplate taking cock or any form of intimate contact with men.

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By *55 ManMan
1 day ago

Castlerea

I don’t pretend I’m masculine, that’s just the way I am, but that doesn’t stop me from loving being bent over and getting gang fucked by hung tops. I even slip into some stockings from time to time. I still get plenty of pussy too. The OP’s original premise is absolutely fucking ludicrous. “Masculinity” and the appreciation of a cock up the arse, or anything else for that matter are in no way related.

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By *3versMan
1 day ago

glasgow


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating "

Lol, is this parody?

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
1 day ago

Didcot


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating

Lol, is this parody?"

Or delusion?

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By *stronomiqueMan
1 day ago

Preston / Fylde

Youre joking.

" does this big cock up my arse make me look gay"?

Yep..

Straight men don't take nob up their arse and still maintain they are "str8"

I notice you say you're bisexual...thats not str8

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By *owboy1975Man
1 day ago

staffs


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating

Lol, is this parody?

Or delusion?"

Behave

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By *uby SlippersMan
1 day ago

Oz

Let’s not stick so many labels on this…it’s not good for mental health.

Can a straight man enjoy the feeling of something inside him? Absolutely. Dose that make him gay ? No.

He just likes that feeling of something inside him.

Why we making it so stuffy…let’s just enjoy ourselves and not worry how others see themselves.

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By *3versMan
1 day ago

glasgow


"Let’s not stick so many labels on this…it’s not good for mental health.

Can a straight man enjoy the feeling of something inside him? Absolutely. Dose that make him gay ? No.

He just likes that feeling of something inside him.

Why we making it so stuffy…let’s just enjoy ourselves and not worry how others see themselves. "

On the other hand, a man who likes something inside him (another man perhaps) who then proclaims himself straight is just another little bit of homophobia that this gay person doesn’t really appreciate and more specifically in a space that is meant for gay and bisexual men

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
1 day ago

Didcot


"Let’s not stick so many labels on this…it’s not good for mental health.

Can a straight man enjoy the feeling of something inside him? Absolutely. Dose that make him gay ? No.

He just likes that feeling of something inside him.

Why we making it so stuffy…let’s just enjoy ourselves and not worry how others see themselves.

On the other hand, a man who likes something inside him (another man perhaps) who then proclaims himself straight is just another little bit of homophobia that this gay person doesn’t really appreciate and more specifically in a space that is meant for gay and bisexual men"

Yeah, more "labels don't matter" bullshit from bisexual men. I wear my label with pride because people made sacrifices so our sexuality could become a protected characteristic, the Gay Liberation fought long and hard for the L,G,B and the T. and the fight carried on so we could get some sort of equality.

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By *ildwestheroMan
1 day ago

Llandrindod Wells


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating

Really? The straightest guys I've ever met wouldn't even contemplate taking cock or any form of intimate contact with men. "

Guess he means that he appears straight to anyone who doesn't know what he likes to do with his pants down. Think I could identify with that. Not a 'straight act' Just how we are. Ordinary blokes into ordinary blokish things except we fuck each other instead of fucking wimmin.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
1 day ago

Didcot


"I’m the straightest guy you’ll meet, but love cock, and been pegged quite a few times and have a selection of anal toys, love the feel of my ass being played with and penetrating

Really? The straightest guys I've ever met wouldn't even contemplate taking cock or any form of intimate contact with men.

Guess he means that he appears straight to anyone who doesn't know what he likes to do with his pants down. Think I could identify with that. Not a 'straight act' Just how we are. Ordinary blokes into ordinary blokish things except we fuck each other instead of fucking wimmin."

If that's the case it doesn't make him anything special, there are lots of straight acting gay guys one size does not fit all.

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By *hris4tvMan
1 day ago

liverpool


"Always amazed by the number of men on here who loved being penetrated by another man's hard cock but still claim they are still heterosexual and masculine, at least I'm gay and honest enough to admit being feminine in my sexual nature when taking a hard cock inside me "

I find this a bizarre question from a member of a community that seeks inclusion and tolerance from others while simultaneously posing a question that is inherently intolerant or exclusionary toward a specific group's desire.

Actually its an excellent example of a stupid question.

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By *awihMan
1 day ago

Aldershot


"Guess he means that he appears straight to anyone who doesn't know what he likes to do with his pants down. Think I could identify with that. Not a 'straight act' Just how we are. Ordinary blokes into ordinary blokish things except we fuck each other instead of fucking wimmin."

Agree with that, BUT when someone comes on here and posts in a forum that “I’m Straight I just like cock”, then they are (as I have pointed out before) lying to themselves and everyone one else. If they don’t let people IRL know they are Bi fair enough, but to come onto a site like this and proclaim that you are Straight but like cock, who is going to believe them. And if they lie about that what else are they going to lie to people they meet here about?

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By *uby SlippersMan
24 hours ago

Oz

Gents…my comment was not intended to offend.

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By *oyotaguyMan
24 hours ago

swaffham

I love to take cock, live a guy to fuck me, I also love to fuck guys, am I masculine, who knows and when the cock is about to go on, who cares

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By *ildwestheroMan
24 hours ago

Llandrindod Wells


"Guess he means that he appears straight to anyone who doesn't know what he likes to do with his pants down. Think I could identify with that. Not a 'straight act' Just how we are. Ordinary blokes into ordinary blokish things except we fuck each other instead of fucking wimmin.

Agree with that, BUT when someone comes on here and posts in a forum that “I’m Straight I just like cock”, then they are (as I have pointed out before) lying to themselves and everyone one else. If they don’t let people IRL know they are Bi fair enough, but to come onto a site like this and proclaim that you are Straight but like cock, who is going to believe them. And if they lie about that what else are they going to lie to people they meet here about? "

I agree. Guys claiming to be straight but enjoying another guy's cock are in denial. The fall somewhere in the very wide spectrum of being bisexual. My point was that you cannot necessarily tell a gay or bi man just by talking to him. Example: A lady in her 80s whom I have known for around 40 years, were chatting one day when the subject of sexuality came up. I casually said 'Of course you know I'm gay'. He response ' YOU ARE!!!' followed by 'Well I suppose that answers the question of why no wife or girlfriend'. I don't 'act straight' but probably appear to be.

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By *arfield53TV/TS
22 hours ago

Atherton

To put it all in the proverbial nutshell:

Someone who enjoys sex only with a person of the opposite sex is heterosexual.

Someone who enjoys sex with persons of both sexes is bi-sexual.

Someone who enjoys sex only with persons of the same sex is homosexual or lesbian.

Masculinity or femininity have no bearing on the physical act.

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By *andomguy321Man
22 hours ago

reading

What a bizarre thread

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By *arla999 OP   Man
17 hours ago

glasgow


"What a bizarre thread "

Not half as bizarre or weird like some of the threads on here

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By *amie1402Man
17 hours ago

Liverpool

I’m beginning to wonder if there are any totally straight men left . . .

Someone once said the only difference between a straight guy and a bi guy is four pints of lager.

Plenty of straight guys, if suitably inebriated and lacking a woman, will take a blow job from another man.

But they doesn’t make them gay in any sense of the word does it ?

Oh no of course not . . . lol !

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By *om_essexMan
17 hours ago

Chelmsford

If a lady gives a strapon to a guys backside then is he gay

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By *andomguy321Man
17 hours ago

reading


"If a lady gives a strapon to a guys backside then is he gay"

I don't think that's a very, 'ahem', hard and fast rule ... Some straight men just gravitate towards being 'bottom' when it comes to purely recreational sex.

As many female dominatrices can testify.

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By *SAOFMan
11 hours ago

Work/Play in London, live in Kent

I am a man who likes to penetrate other men. I seek out opportunities to do so and I engage in this activity frequently. I have a history of also penetrating women. I do not seek out opportunities to do this but if a woman asks me to have sex I won’t say no, so I engage in this activity less frequently. In my mind this makes me a gay-preference male with incidental bisexual tendencies. A Kinsey 5.

These are my self-definitions. I don’t think many would find them disagreeable. It took me some time to move from “I am not sure I am like other boys” to “asexual” to “heterosexual” to “female-preference bisexual” to my current definitions. I probably always was what I am now, but I was the product of my society and family and situations and life so I did not realise I was on a transit and the transit has ended up where I am and, just as importantly, with my being assured, confident and happy with where I am.

The problem with much of the discourse above is that it assumes no one is on a journey of self knowledge or is anyone ever was, everyone has reached the same place as the contributor writing.

I would love to have had a resource like this when I was a baby-gay. Mostly because at every stage I thought I was at my destination and I never thought I was wholly gay.

Had I known of the forums on sites like this and NakedMates I would have fast-tracked my learning. And maybe had more sex.

So I would counsel against applying one’s own values, judgements or decisions to other people.

In particular I ask readers to remember we all exist in a society. And that is very individual; the society I live in is different from my husband’s and from my sister’s etc. We each have uniquely varying interactions with those around us.

Presentation to the outside may discord with internal thought processes.

I should also write that we should not confuse different spectra. We may be masculine or feminine. We may be asexual or allosexual. We may be homosexual or bisexual or homosexual. We may be aromantic or heteroromantic or biromantic or homoromantic.

And we will be an intersection of many of the above and that may change and evolve.

People may present masculinity or as less masculine. That will often be unrelated to whether someone is bi or exclusively gay and definitely unrelated to whether someone is top or verse or bottom. And that being top or bottom or verse also varies with time and circumstance.

So if you want to know why someone describes themselves in a way when you think their actions do not match those actions, remember that what you are saying is you would not describe yourself in that way given your roles, your experiences, your history and your society.

I sometimes marvel at how other guys describe themselves. But I don’t let myself judge. I may decide if I fancy them or not and if I think they fancy me I will decide if I’ll try to fuck them or I won’t.

So I just suggest we are kind to each other here. If we don’t understand someone in how they auto-describe we ask them; we may have a feeling we would describe our self differently were we to have their characteristics but until we have lived their life we can’t tell. So accept what other people say; we are each only responsible for ourselves. The world is complicated enough trying to fix one’s own place in it without trying to figure out someone else’s.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 hours ago

Llandrindod Wells


"If a lady gives a strapon to a guys backside then is he gay"

Hardly. Straight couples often try different things to spice up their sex life. A world of difference between a woman with a strap-on and an actual man with a real cock.

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By *arla999 OP   Man
3 hours ago

glasgow

Tried being fucked with a strap-on by a friend who couldn't really get a hard on, it was good and he done it frequently but a real hard cock is the best

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