What you're asking is maybe the most complex question in all of human nature. Wanted for what? In my primary relationship I'm in zero doubt that my wife wants, needs and is comforted by me. There's very little rampant sex but we are 100% compatible in every other way. Best friends, co-dependent, partners.
I'm maybe fortunate to be one of those here who get plenty of offers of sex with men but honestly I don't even countenance about 95% of them because it's patently obvious that's all it is, a slightly sad dopamine hit of masturbation-fuelled desire that wouldn't last 30 seconds beyond an orgasm. I value myself a bit more than that.
