FabGuys.com forum: First time to a gay bar club

By *ldergayman OP Man
2 weeks ago

weston super mere

Not been yet very nervous not certain what to do would like to be meet or get pick up inside

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By *eepeter4Man
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth

My first gay bar visit was Basil on the Strand in Blackpool owned by Basil Newby

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By *wladMan
2 weeks ago

high wycombe

Nervous for going to a place that sells alcohol and is frequented by people that are gay? Come on.

Most of the time gay bars are filled with straight groups out for a drink.

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By *0yguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cumberland

"Nervous for going to a place that sells alcohol and is frequented by people that are gay? Come on.

Most of the time gay bars are filled with straight groups out for a drink. "

That’s right - the “woke” think it’s “cool” to be seen at a gay bar.

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By *wladMan
2 weeks ago

high wycombe

"Nervous for going to a place that sells alcohol and is frequented by people that are gay? Come on.

Most of the time gay bars are filled with straight groups out for a drink.

That’s right - the “woke” think it’s “cool” to be seen at a gay bar. "

Why are you using 'woke' as something derogatory?

It's not to be 'cool', but more the vibe is better and less confrontational

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By *ull bi for funMan
2 weeks ago

hull

"Nervous for going to a place that sells alcohol and is frequented by people that are gay? Come on.

Most of the time gay bars are filled with straight groups out for a drink.

That’s right - the “woke” think it’s “cool” to be seen at a gay bar.

Why are you using 'woke' as something derogatory?

It's not to be 'cool', but more the vibe is better and less confrontational "

In addition, it's also a place where anyone who's anyone can carry on drinking into the early hours as well.

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By *evanianMan
2 weeks ago

Flintshire

"Not been yet very nervous not certain what to do would like to be meet or get pick up inside

My first time in a gay bar was in Liverpool, I went in late afternoon when it was quiet and the staff had time to chat, so less of a challenge and more of a confidence booster for future visits.

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By *oxleyMan
2 weeks ago

Wetherby

Where in Leeds ?????

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By *evanianMan
2 weeks ago

Flintshire

"Where in Leeds ?????"

Google will tell you that.

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By *reenbinMan
2 weeks ago

Portishead

Old school the new penny

New school queens court

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By *oxleyMan
2 weeks ago

Wetherby

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By *ornet99Man
2 weeks ago

stockport

Mine was canal st M/C . Then on to a club on bloom st . Was an eye opener

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By *hickenmcnuggetsMan
2 weeks ago

Coxlodge, Newcastle upon Tyne

I have no idea what the “rules” would really be in these places other than those that generally apply in any bars? Ha.

For what I remember, my first visit to a gay bar was to The Yard in Newcastle a few years back. It was with a bisexual female friend though, so that made it easier.

I wish I had more free time to get round to more of the others on/near Scotswood Road (although I at least visited Rusty’s Showbar recently)

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By *ldergayman OP Man
2 weeks ago

weston super mere

As stated my first to vist a gay pub bristol area

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By *dol1Man
2 weeks ago

North Wexford

I haven’t been to a gay bar or club yet, it is something that I will do maybe in the new year. There is no gay bar close to me, the closest is in Dublin City centre

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By *ldergayman OP Man
2 weeks ago

weston super mere

So whats best to do as im shy find a seat get a drink and wait .....

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By *b20Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Just do what you would do in another bar

They're not like the blue oyster bar

Well most aren't anyway

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By *im le2Man
2 weeks ago

aylestone leic

What's the difference between a gay and str8 bar.

Do you honestly think your the only gay in your local pub. Ok most of the men are married but they still play with cock. I know there's at least six gay/bi men in my local. 4 tops n 2 bottoms. All still in the closet. Two of them are on fab just cock pics on profiles.

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By *ustOneBearMan
2 weeks ago

Neath

Sit in bar. Open fabguys. See who’s near

Maybe put that you’re in the bar on your status.

Or open other location based apps. It seems to be how cruising is done these days. No one actually chats.

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By *hil96Man
2 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Decorated a few gay bars and clubs over the years. My local one, Martha's, closed a while ago now. I felt lined, a trophy cabinet, thinking it was for pool trophies etc. Went back to snag the bar a couple of weeks later, and found it to be full of aromas, condoms, and copies of the Pink Paper. Lol. X

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By *DC2000Man
2 weeks ago

Coningsby

My first was Brief Encounter in St Martin's Lane London many, many years ago. Nervous beyond belief but discovered it was really just like any other bar and, of course, why wouldn't it be? It was full of suited men having a drink after work (probably before heading home to their wives).

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By *luvnylonstockingsTV/TS
2 weeks ago

southsea

My first times in a gaybar was in manchester when i was 16 in the 70,s .

I went with my gay step sister for the music ,i wasnt gay but they played bowie,roxy,funk and early punk .

My sister kept any predertory guys away ,from then ive been to lots of gaybars but i was never gay .

More recently dressed as cherry ive been to a few in blackpools gay area when visiting ,nothings changed ,they just friendly fun places .

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By *ldergayman OP Man
2 weeks ago

weston super mere

When would be time to go and visit

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By *hubbyGinger76Man
2 weeks ago

Halesowen

Would love to go to a gay bar. Need work to send me to a conference so I can do it away from home

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By *avid1066Man
2 weeks ago

Birkenhead

Liverpool when I was 17

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By *3versMan
2 weeks ago

glasgow

"When would be time to go and visit "

Just go whenever you want, obviously evenings and the weekends will be busier. It's just a pub that will have gay men in it, whether they're looking to pick up is less predictable.

You've got plenty of verifications, so it's not as if you're shy or haven't got experience.

The worst that can happen is you get a bad hangover.

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By *aciallover5Man
2 weeks ago

wrexham

my first was in 1976. I went on a course to Brighton.I was terrified but soooooo horny I went in and ordered a pint and a large whisky, necked the whisky. nearly died as it was far harsher than I was used to . I had denims and a white t shirt on, I saw two men kissing I was amazed I had never thought of that . Ten minutes later I was sat in a booth with a guy kissing me and rubbing my very hard cock . By the end of the week I had been fucked, suckedl licked and covered in cum,it was wonderful i

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"Not been yet very nervous not certain what to do would like to be meet or get pick up inside

Well you seem to have quite a few verifications, perhaps you could check with them if they go to any gay pubs. If they do ask if you could go with them for your first visit, that way there will be someone there that you know, and they can introduce you to people they know there. That way you won’t be a “wall flower” if you are shy, and it will be an easier first visit for you. That would be my suggestion.

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By *enri du lacMan
2 weeks ago

Coventry

"my first was in 1976. I went on a course to Brighton.I was terrified but soooooo horny I went in and ordered a pint and a large whisky, necked the whisky. nearly died as it was far harsher than I was used to . I had denims and a white t shirt on, I saw two men kissing I was amazed I had never thought of that . Ten minutes later I was sat in a booth with a guy kissing me and rubbing my very hard cock . By the end of the week I had been fucked, suckedl licked and covered in cum,it was wonderful i"

And all at the tender age of 16.

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By *u2usemeMan
2 weeks ago

hyde

Been to a few in manchester gay village just walk in buy a beer

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I’ve only been once but I meet a guy there and had an amazing time! It was so much fun! Just relax and don’t have any expectations going in.

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By *0yguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cumberland

"So whats best to do as im shy find a seat get a drink and wait ..... "

See who’s drinking on their own… they’re either there to meet someone like you… or they’re an alcoholic.

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By *ockhungry 777Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

I've only ever been to a gay bar once.

I was made to feel unwelcome by one guy as I "wasn't gay enough". He got kicked out for his comment. Was definitely a weird night lol

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By *b20Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

So if you're 57 years old, and you say you done this in 1976

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"I've only ever been to a gay bar once.

I was made to feel unwelcome by one guy as I "wasn't gay enough". He got kicked out for his comment. Was definitely a weird night lol "

Yes, we defend our territory savagely. If you’re not wearing a crop-top and deely-boppers and quoting cutting remarks from Joe Orton, you’ll be swiftly marched out.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"When would be time to go and visit "

A good time would be when they’re closed. Take a video of you banging on the door demanding entry at 7am and upload it to social media for shits and giggles.

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By *etterbiggerMan
2 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

It's a pub where the customers are usually gay. A safe space where we can be ourselves. Where we meet and make friends. Where we might get lucky and end up in bed with someone at the end of the evening. Like any straight pub but with better clothes and music. Stand at the bar, is more of an open space. If you sit on your own in a corner people will tend to leave you alone

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By *ildwestheroMan
2 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

"Nervous for going to a place that sells alcohol and is frequented by people that are gay? Come on.

Most of the time gay bars are filled with straight groups out for a drink. "

Sadly seems to be the case now. Used to love going to them. Sometimes took a short break in a town that had a gay scene, toured the bars, enjoyed to atmosphere and rarely ever went to bed alone. Then straights started using them because they were either considered safe places or they wanted some 'entertainment'. Got chatted up by a guy who after several drinks admitted he was straight and only chatted to me for fun. What a waste of time!

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By *enri du lacMan
2 weeks ago

Coventry

So if you're 57 years old, and you say you done this in 1976

Ok"

No. He says he's 65 now so would have been about 16 in 1976.

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By *orny7419Man
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

When I was younger and living in London I did go to the colherne pub , was quite intimidating as was quite young. But did enjoy. Also went to the Vauxhall tavern. Loved the tranny nights. Lots of erotic funxx

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By *b20Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

So if you're 57 years old, and you say you done this in 1976

No. He says he's 65 now so would have been about 16 in 1976."

Saw that must have changed his age on his profile,it did say 57

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By *ldergayman OP Man
2 weeks ago

weston super mere

Other than sittin on my own is their any other to say im looking

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By *3versMan
2 weeks ago

glasgow

"Other than sittin on my own is their any other to say im looking"

Maybe ask someone rather than sitting waiting

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By *awihMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

"Other than sittin on my own is their any other to say im looking"

Read my earlier suggestion, see if someone you already know goes to any of the gay pubs, and ask if you can go with them the first time so there is someone you know, and can introduce you to other people.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"Other than sittin on my own is their any other to say im looking"

You could wear a big pointy hat saying “I’m Looking!”…

I’m sorry if my suggestions might seem a little brusque. This is because you are clearly not lacking in wherewithal. It takes a certain amount of gumption to post sexual photos of yourself in women’s attire. This indicates you have a level of gumption. You have successfully met a number of people on the site and have received multiple verifications. This displays the necessary confidence, organisational and personal skills to navigate meeting strangers off the internet. A number of excellent suggestions have been made above by other users about going to a gay pub if this is a new experience and outside your normal comfort zone. But you seem to determined to ignore these.

This has now become one of those PLEASE TALK ALL ABOUT ME threads. Just put your gladrags on and get off to a bar.

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By *ettleTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Bury St Edmunds

Anyone remember the hotel in the middle of Preston Lancs owned by Bass Charington that had a gay bar back in the 1970s. I can’t remember the name now, but that was my first job as a barman. The atmosphere was always vibrant and the clientele polite, kind and considerate

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By *ockey stickMan
2 weeks ago

Hounslow

I used to go in to gay bars with the missus. We had some great times.

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By *amie1402Man
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

Just man up and go !

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By *omyorksMan
2 weeks ago

Nr York

It can be easy or sometimes nerve wracking. Some places are cliquey and often full of guys in groups that don't want to engage with guys outside the group. You can end up talking to nobody or being given the brush off. You can feel very alone in a crowd at times.

On another night it can totally different and very enjoyable once you start chatting.

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By *treyu500Man
2 weeks ago

wickow

It's just a bar but you can kiss a man or pull your dick out and nobody gives a damn (context depending). I went on Sunday to my local bar. It's men only so you don't have to bounce that question in your head if you're barking up the wrong tree when you talk to someone. I go for the "Sunday social". Sunshine , free sausages in a bun. Talk to lots of guys, makes some friends , have a play in the bathroom or take someone home.

Just go to a gay bar FFS. You only live once. For the most part it's a regular bar, so prepare to be disappointed lol. It's gets really " gay" when they host events like nude nights, leather nights, kink nights, Halloween etc .

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"…It can be easy or sometimes nerve wracking. Some places are cliquey and often full of guys in groups that don't want to engage with guys outside the group. You can end up talking to nobody or being given the brush off. You can feel very alone in a crowd at times…

What sort of advice is this to give someone who’s never been to a gay bar and looking for some reassurance?! Based on what…? Only your personal experiences, I presume. I’ve never found a gay pub or bar like that. But then I don’t have a victim mentality. As you yourself say - you haven’t found it like that on other occasions. And the thread is full of people describing the good times they’ve had in gay establishments.

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By *iimmybMan
2 weeks ago

Widnes

"Not been yet very nervous not certain what to do would like to be meet or get pick up inside

My first time in a gay bar was in Liverpool, I went in late afternoon when it was quiet and the staff had time to chat, so less of a challenge and more of a confidence booster for future visits."
I didn't know of any gay bars in Liverpool pm me were they are id like to nip in one day/evening

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"… For the most part it's a regular bar, so prepare to be disappointed lol... "

This is the most salient advice offered in the thread. Gay bars are mostly desperately unexciting and normal and you’ll wonder what the fuss was about.

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By *ldmanMan
2 weeks ago

Rawcliffe Bridge.

Never been to one, and I've no idea where the nearest one to me is.

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By *licequeenbear891Man
2 weeks ago

Teddington

Village, in Soho, loves it and being going there ever since

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By *ig paul 321Man
2 weeks ago

Blackpool

My first was flamingos in blackpool near the bus staion.the music was brilliant and i met a lovely trans lady to...

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By *raham2950Man
2 weeks ago

Derby

Any known in Derby....

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