FabGuys.com forum: To reply or not

By *DFmate OP Man
10 weeks ago

Cardiff Bay

When I receive an unsolicited one word message from someone who clearly hasn’t read my profile, I usually delete without replying. Is this ruder than replying no thanks?

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By *ibrum2025Man
10 weeks ago

round the corner

Same here, and asking if I’m ok is really irritating 🤦‍♂️

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By *erscumdumpMan
10 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

I do it all the time.

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By *omethingExciting41Man
10 weeks ago

Somewhere

I try to reply to most people but one word messages I wouldn't reply to. If you want to chat and have a conversation then I would reply but not one word messages

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By *elfordsubMan
10 weeks ago

Telford

I wouldn't send a message like that but I'd reply

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By *eedsbearmanMan
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I reply if I wish to, I do not feel compelled to do so for any reason.

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By *ornybisubslutMan
10 weeks ago

Coventry

If I get a one word message I generally reply with one word. Mostly it then turns into more of a conversation occasionally they just reply with one word again that’s when I tend to loose interest.

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By *angerEdMan
10 weeks ago

Bexleyheath

"When I receive an unsolicited one word message from someone who clearly hasn’t read my profile, I usually delete without replying. Is this ruder than replying no thanks?"

Not rude at all

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
10 weeks ago

Bargoed

"If I get a one word message I generally reply with one word. Mostly it then turns into more of a conversation occasionally they just reply with one word again that’s when I tend to loose interest. "

Same.

Him "Hi"

Me "Hi"

Him "Hi"

Me.....* silence *

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By *damb00Man
10 weeks ago

Leicestershire

I don’t respond to one word messages

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By *aid2TV/TS
10 weeks ago

Swindon

If someone clearly hasn't bothered reading my profile I block them, I have no time for lazy messages from blank profiles.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
10 weeks ago

Didcot

I made a tread the other day on a similar subject. I try and be polite and reply to one word messages as I understand that some people just might not be good at first moves and might be looking for a response that breaks the ice as it were, however more often than not my reply of "hello how are you?" gets met with crickets

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By *4BearsMan
10 weeks ago

Stalybridge, East Manchester

Delete/ignore

They usually then send another calling you rude and then block you

Nice of them tofilter themselves out like that

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By *9pleaseMan
10 weeks ago

Southend-on-Sea

Sometimes I'll reply to one word messages purely to act stupid and annoy the sender

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By *amie2018cMan
10 weeks ago

north cambs

I just delete

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By *adame BootsTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Tetbury

Yeah, just delete, its never going to turn into a meeting.

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By *wordfight70Man
10 weeks ago

Baldock

I've been on here well over a decade and I can tell you I am WAY past the point of entertaining one or two word messages now. I'm clear about it on my profile too, so if you can't be arsed reading it then more fool you, and I can't be arsed replying to your lazy "hi" either.

Also, I'm finding people are increasingly aggressive if you do reply with a "no thanks" these days, so I'm finding myself thinking it's not remotely rude to ignore "hi" given what can often come after it.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

If he hasn't read my profile and understood that I delete messages of less than 6 words without replying, then more cunt him. 3 strikes and he's blocked, too.

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By *poolBiTopMan
10 weeks ago

Liverpool

For the "hi, hey, hello, how're you, how's you" type of messages I'll usually reply with similar, being polite as you would a face to face conversation. Can't say they get answered above messages with a bit more to them.

I have noticed I'm getting more of the "wer u" (sic) and "we're u" messages which for some reason I'm finding more irritating and likely to be deleted or read with without replying.

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By *aney_FoxxTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Feltham

"When I receive an unsolicited one word message from someone who clearly hasn’t read my profile, I usually delete without replying. Is this ruder than replying no thanks?

Not rude at all"

The rudeness is not bothering to read the profile

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By *arsit1Man
10 weeks ago

Lucan

VERY RUDE not to reply

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By *arleyBearMan
10 weeks ago

chester

I try to reply using the same number of words unless it’s a sentence….. I can understand why people just Hi at the start but if it continues….

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I always try to reply, even if it's to say no thank you.

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By *ickSeekerMan
10 weeks ago

Canterbury

It takes effort and will to reply to one liners, true. On the other hand, they're easy (if clumsy) ways of 'breaking the ice'. Always a gamble...🤦🏽‍♂️

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By *arridMan
10 weeks ago

Brighton

It varies. Sometimes I reply, sometimes I don’t. I’m an unpredictable replyer.

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By *damb00Man
10 weeks ago

Leicestershire

"VERY RUDE not to reply"

No it isn’t, no one owes you a response, especially if you’ve clearly not read their profile

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
10 weeks ago

Glasgow

Usually I ignore after looking at the senders profile. If he is cute, local, can accom or is up for a sauna I might respond but that is very rare

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By *hubsloverMan
10 weeks ago

East/west sussex

he doesnt care too so not to worry.

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By *im le2Man
10 weeks ago

aylestone leic

My standard reply to one word text is.

I'm sorry but I don't reply to one word text. If you want to chat then chat.

After that it's upto them but I will block if they do it again.

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By *ornet99Man
10 weeks ago

stockport

A quick Hiya shows interest . And I will reply if still one word messages then lose interest

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By *ralBiguy63Man
10 weeks ago

manchester

I reply telling them to think of something .ore to say

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By *astDevonGuyMan
10 weeks ago

East Devon

Interesting

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By *arionX2TV/TS
10 weeks ago

Mansfield

I don’t reply to 1 & 2 word messages….i have it in my profile, but i still get them constantly, which means that they don’t read the profile just look at the pics…xx

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

If someone just sends a message like "hi" i usually reply with something like Hi, how's it going" and see if it opens the conversation.

On a separate matter on other sites where there are more Americans how do people respond to "whatsup"? I never really know what to say to that.

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By *ucksitupMan
10 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

I get messages that simply say

“Shame you can’t accom”

What do they think that will do? Suddenly change my situation?

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By *usan 749ukTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Bangor

I try to answer all my messages, even if they are abusive. lol

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By *inaCD66TV/TS
10 weeks ago

Wimbledon

"I get messages that simply say

“Shame you can’t accom”

What do they think that will do? Suddenly change my situation?"

🤣

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By *ucksitupMan
10 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"I try to answer all my messages, even if they are abusive. lol "

Any abusive ones get ignored and the sender blocked. Life is too short to engage with them and get wound up. 😀

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
10 weeks ago

Didcot

"I get messages that simply say

“Shame you can’t accom”

What do they think that will do? Suddenly change my situation?"

Some guys don't advertise the fact that they can accom so I guess a message like that just tests the waters as it were.

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By *esuckerMan
5 weeks ago

Long Eaton

Glad to hear there will be a penalty for profiles who don’t reply to messages coming in to place. So rude to not get a reply a simple ‘no thanks’ takes no time at all and saves everyone time

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By *ockanonamasMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester

I delete all messages from guys that clearly haven't read my profile as everything is there. I always read a profile before messaging someone

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By *starMan
5 weeks ago

Stroud district

I've recently received a total of 9 words over the course of 6 messages, although only four of those were compete words, and three of them were "sent friend invite". I don't know where to start with that, so just ignoring.

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By *damb00Man
5 weeks ago

Leicestershire

If they’ve clearly not read my profile I give them a sarcastic reply

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By *oe UKMan
5 weeks ago

Kent

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By *etro manMan
5 weeks ago

manchester

I always ask have you read my profile as interesting information there and it might help them with any questions also have posted stories on the forum page feel free to in joy the pictures

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot

Well I have stated in my profile that I won’t respond to profiles without a clear face pic, or that don’t send a face pic with their message. If they fail that they obviously haven’t read my profile so they won’t get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"I've recently received a total of 9 words over the course of 6 messages, although only four of those were compete words, and three of them were "sent friend invite". I don't know where to start with that, so just ignoring."

I can’t get my head around the maths there lol but get the drift of what you are saying.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
5 weeks ago

Didcot

Message today on Fabswingers from a newbie:

Them. Blow job?

Me, Is that all that's on offer?

Them. Wanna fuck.

Me. I think I'll pass thank you.

Then a little while later.

Them. Free? with some cock pics attached.

Me. Not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Not so much on this site but the one that gets me elsewhere is a one word message of “Whatsup” II never really know how to reply to that.

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By *awihMan
5 weeks ago

Aldershot

I can’t get my head around the maths there lol but get the drift of what you are saying."

4 x 1 word messages.

1 x 2 word message.

1 x 3 word message.

6 messages, total of 9 words.

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By *oungbi98Man
5 weeks ago

Cork

Between one liners and people that can’t spell properly I can’t deal

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"Not so much on this site but the one that gets me elsewhere is a one word message of “Whatsup” II never really know how to reply to that."

"Not my cock" might be the response?

@ the OP - that's fine. And if they try the one-word approach again, block them. You're missing nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

4 x 1 word messages.

1 x 2 word message.

1 x 3 word message.

6 messages, total of 9 words."

Gotcha. I read it as 3 messages said “sent friend invite” so 9 just for those lol.

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By *nimaAnimusMan
5 weeks ago

I am NOT in

Those that consider it rude not to reply are being self entitled, nobody has an obligation to respond.

No response is just a non verbal no thanks.

They may read your message, look at your profile, block you and delete message, it is neither rude nor malice.

Block isnt the best word, it is often wrongly interpreted as someone has an issue with the other person.

It just means not interested, do not want to interact with this person, don't want site to show profile to me again, do not want them to waste their time on me.

Every single profile I have clicked on and not been interested in gets blocked to avoid me looking again.

Many have already blocked me, doesn't bother me, we all have our type.

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By *b72Man
5 weeks ago

Moray

Had one yesterday,

Them-Hiya

Me- Never a good idea to send 1 word message from hidden profile

Them- Silence

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By *tephen_b50Man
5 weeks ago

Bristol

"I get messages that simply say

“Shame you can’t accom”

What do they think that will do? Suddenly change my situation?"

The appropriate reply to that one is

"Yes, it is, isn't it? "

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
5 weeks ago

Bargoed

I had a message the other day and all it said was:

Sex.

I just deleted it

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By *evanianMan
5 weeks ago

Gogledd Ddwyrain Cymru

Generally I try to be courteous and reply, as not everyone has the capability of expressing themselves effectively.

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