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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you " Meeting another married guy is not a bad idea as you are both in the same situation | |||
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"You need to decide if the risk is worth it. I guarantee your Mrs will find out. She might not say anything, but she will know. If you're not able to deal with risk and the fallout, dont do it. Its that simple. For many guys the risk is a major part of the thrill. Maybe have a conversation with your wife - she probably already knows anyway." Well said. | |||
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"It's like what you should do throughout your life, when you get in your car, get in a plane....do a risk assessment. You need to do things that make you happy and satisfy your needs. Personally I love having sex with married men, I'm happy to satisfy their needs and wants but I'm very aware of the need for discretion. Just watch your phone, it has your life on it !!!" Here's the crunch. Your discretion doesn't take into account his stupidity. The wife will always find out. Seen it happen countless times. Wives routinely go through thier husbands and kids phones, its just what they do. They notice teh slightest change in behaviour or glitch in routine and when their suspicion sensors are triggered they will honfull Miss Marple on it. It boggles my mind that they dont simply talk about it - theyre meant to be a loving partnership after all. The lying and dishonesty and lack of trust usually kills the marriage, not the physical desire. Chances are she won't mind him sucking a cock once in a while, but she'll mind the lying. | |||
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"It must be awful to live in fear... I've never known a married man to be outed by another person. " Neither have I, yet that's their major fear. They're mistaken and focusing on risk in the wrong place, a risk that's small. The wife finds out due to what he does. He will slip up. And the more he does the less careful he gets. She might even turn a blind eye for a while. | |||
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"... I guarantee your Mrs will find out....she probably already knows anyway." I'll second this thought. The women in a bi man's life (wife, gf, mother, sister, friend, etc.) almost always know already or have a strong suspicion. It doesn't mean of course you should lower your guard though 🔍👣 [ quote from a fellow fabber above, edited a la BBC Tr*mp speech style!] | |||
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"I love eating straight ass "How do you cook it? Suppose it tastes similar to horse flesh | |||
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"I never ask if married or not i don't care plus it's none of my business as long as we both discreet let the fun happen " Same here, just let me suck them or fuck me, not bothered if they are married or not as I never ask | |||
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"I love eating straight ass
How do you cook it? Suppose it tastes similar to horse flesh"So that's what Mary Berry means by a soggy bottom! | |||
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"I never ask if married or not i don't care plus it's none of my business as long as we both discreet let the fun happen Same here, just let me suck them or fuck me, not bothered if they are married or not as I never ask" I often do ask because if we’re in the same situation there is a mutual appreciation of the potential difficulties in meeting up | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you " I suppose the opportunity of getting your dick wet pushes the risk of being 'outed' to the back of your mind, until the deed is done and then the guilt sets in once again   xx | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you " It's not the end of the world if you get outed. You may end up divorced, but there's plenty on here whose wives don't sèm to mind. Being bi or gay isn't bad or a disease, plenty of us do just fine in life. It may turn out better in the long run as I'm sure all your secrecy and covertness can't be great for your state of mind. | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you It's not the end of the world if you get outed. You may end up divorced, but there's plenty on here whose wives don't sèm to mind. Being bi or gay isn't bad or a disease, plenty of us do just fine in life. It may turn out better in the long run as I'm sure all your secrecy and covertness can't be great for your state of mind." 100%. Seems far too many are more fearful of a conversation with the wife than they are of getting caught. Bonkers. | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you " All I can say that I'm glad I've lived the life I wanted. Yes, when young I put up with a lot of abuse but carried on being what I was and am and fuck what anybody else thinks. I wish you well.  | |||
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"From my experience choose your meets carefully. Always delete your browsing history. I have loads of meets over the years who are like minded and know the score, whether they are gay or bi. Plan meets in advance, there is always an opportunity to meet somehow. Build a rapport with the guy online. " There's no need to delete browsing history if you're sensible enough to use a browser that has incognito or private mode. Likewise use an additional private email address from somewhere like Proton or Mail.com. If you disable pop-ups, use biometric security such as a your fingerprint and take other sensible precautions, your phone will be secure and you're good to go. | |||
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"From my experience choose your meets carefully. Always delete your browsing history. I have loads of meets over the years who are like minded and know the score, whether they are gay or bi. Plan meets in advance, there is always an opportunity to meet somehow. Build a rapport with the guy online. There's no need to delete browsing history if you're sensible enough to use a browser that has incognito or private mode. Likewise use an additional private email address from somewhere like Proton or Mail.com. If you disable pop-ups, use biometric security such as a your fingerprint and take other sensible precautions, your phone will be secure and you're good to go." I'm on duckduck go. It's incognito and the flame at the top deletes everything you've looked at. No history | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you It's not the end of the world if you get outed. You may end up divorced, but there's plenty on here whose wives don't sèm to mind. Being bi or gay isn't bad or a disease, plenty of us do just fine in life. It may turn out better in the long run as I'm sure all your secrecy and covertness can't be great for your state of mind." I struggled for years when my kids were young,I had occasional discrete meets when I had the opportunity.It used to make me feel constantly guilty and depressed and was unhappy about it but couldn't stop. Eventually when kids were grown up and wife had completely gone off sex due to menopause I came out to her and she didn't mind at all as long as I play safe but just wanted me to be happy.It was an immense relief and our general relationship was much improved. Nowadays she tells me to just meet when I want but doesn't want to no any details,my biggest problem nowadays is getting free time to arrange meets and finding reliable local people. | |||
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"It's like what you should do throughout your life, when you get in your car, get in a plane....do a risk assessment. You need to do things that make you happy and satisfy your needs. Personally I love having sex with married men, I'm happy to satisfy their needs and wants but I'm very aware of the need for discretion. Just watch your phone, it has your life on it !!! Here's the crunch. Your discretion doesn't take into account his stupidity. The wife will always find out. Seen it happen countless times. Wives routinely go through thier husbands and kids phones, its just what they do. They notice teh slightest change in behaviour or glitch in routine and when their suspicion sensors are triggered they will honfull Miss Marple on it. It boggles my mind that they dont simply talk about it - theyre meant to be a loving partnership after all. The lying and dishonesty and lack of trust usually kills the marriage, not the physical desire. Chances are she won't mind him sucking a cock once in a while, but she'll mind the lying." I've been on the receiving end of a guys angry (rightly so) wife, she went through his phone which was logged in to this site and sent me a really shitty message basically calling me a pervert and blaming me for destroying her marriage, I along with other guys he'd met on here may have played a part but he was the one that took the decision to cheat. | |||
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"I love eating straight ass "I’m sure we all needed to know that although what but has to do with the OPs question I’ve no idea. | |||
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"What frustrates me about this topic is that you'll get a long list of hints and tricks to avoid being discovered. Taken as a whole, the list will read like a How To guide on being deceitful and manipulative. It's a massive investment in negative and destructive behaviour. It's hard to fathom how anybody with a conscience can not be affected by that. The other half of the problem is that (some) people feel like it's justified because they have this secret attraction to men that it feels wrong to deny, that there's a need that the Mrs can't satisfy, that deserves to be satisfied. Unfortunately, we can't have everything we want, we don't deserve anything we want, we're not entitled to anything just because we want it. In the end it's just another desire, by all means give in to it but it won't bring you lasting happiness. Most likely you'll get the occasional bits of fleeting happiness before it comes crashing down to destroy all the things you've spent so long putting your positive energy towards. " Thank you Jonah for your helpful contribution. | |||
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"It's like what you should do throughout your life, when you get in your car, get in a plane....do a risk assessment. You need to do things that make you happy and satisfy your needs. Personally I love having sex with married men, I'm happy to satisfy their needs and wants but I'm very aware of the need for discretion. Just watch your phone, it has your life on it !!! Here's the crunch. Your discretion doesn't take into account his stupidity. The wife will always find out. Seen it happen countless times. Wives routinely go through thier husbands and kids phones, its just what they do. They notice teh slightest change in behaviour or glitch in routine and when their suspicion sensors are triggered they will honfull Miss Marple on it. It boggles my mind that they dont simply talk about it - theyre meant to be a loving partnership after all. The lying and dishonesty and lack of trust usually kills the marriage, not the physical desire. Chances are she won't mind him sucking a cock once in a while, but she'll mind the lying. I've been on the receiving end of a guys angry (rightly so) wife, she went through his phone which was logged in to this site and sent me a really shitty message basically calling me a pervert and blaming me for destroying her marriage, I along with other guys he'd met on here may have played a part but he was the one that took the decision to cheat." If he's too stupid or too lazy to take even the most basic steps to cover his tracks, he deserves everything he gets. The wife is equally as stupid if she blames you. | |||
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"What frustrates me about this topic is that you'll get a long list of hints and tricks to avoid being discovered. Taken as a whole, the list will read like a How To guide on being deceitful and manipulative. It's a massive investment in negative and destructive behaviour. It's hard to fathom how anybody with a conscience can not be affected by that. The other half of the problem is that (some) people feel like it's justified because they have this secret attraction to men that it feels wrong to deny, that there's a need that the Mrs can't satisfy, that deserves to be satisfied. Unfortunately, we can't have everything we want, we don't deserve anything we want, we're not entitled to anything just because we want it. In the end it's just another desire, by all means give in to it but it won't bring you lasting happiness. Most likely you'll get the occasional bits of fleeting happiness before it comes crashing down to destroy all the things you've spent so long putting your positive energy towards. Thank you Jonah for your helpful contribution. " I'm guessing that you're being sarcastic? In which case, suggest a justification for destroying a happy family? Someone else said it further up the thread "your sexual needs need fulfilling", this is just not true, a need is very different from a desire and bonking a guy on the side is just a desire, nothing more. | |||
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"It's like what you should do throughout your life, when you get in your car, get in a plane....do a risk assessment. You need to do things that make you happy and satisfy your needs. Personally I love having sex with married men, I'm happy to satisfy their needs and wants but I'm very aware of the need for discretion. Just watch your phone, it has your life on it !!! Here's the crunch. Your discretion doesn't take into account his stupidity. The wife will always find out. Seen it happen countless times. Wives routinely go through thier husbands and kids phones, its just what they do. They notice teh slightest change in behaviour or glitch in routine and when their suspicion sensors are triggered they will honfull Miss Marple on it. It boggles my mind that they dont simply talk about it - theyre meant to be a loving partnership after all. The lying and dishonesty and lack of trust usually kills the marriage, not the physical desire. Chances are she won't mind him sucking a cock once in a while, but she'll mind the lying. I've been on the receiving end of a guys angry (rightly so) wife, she went through his phone which was logged in to this site and sent me a really shitty message basically calling me a pervert and blaming me for destroying her marriage, I along with other guys he'd met on here may have played a part but he was the one that took the decision to cheat. If he's too stupid or too lazy to take even the most basic steps to cover his tracks, he deserves everything he gets. The wife is equally as stupid if she blames you." He wasn't the brightest spark, he was back on here a few months later, then got sacked from his job because he was caught wanking in then toilets, funny thing is he seemed ok when I met him but his reappearance on here he turned in to a right Weirdo updating his profile status with inappropriate sexual comments about his step family, He's gone now. | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you " my advice to you is if you are going to continue to do this then cover your tracks at all costs never meet anyone unless you are a hundred percent sure that your covered most people get caught by their phone messages so be careful it’s totally in your hands just remember if you tell them lies etc make sure you remember what you said because they will | |||
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"Fellas with kids and gf/wife…. How do you avoid them finding out about your lifestyle? I’m bi and want to stay discreet and worried I may get outed. That would ruin me, in fact finish me. Thoughts please thank you Meeting another married guy is not a bad idea as you are both in the same situation " Exactly , as we are both in the same situation , discretion is important to both | |||
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"From my experience choose your meets carefully. Always delete your browsing history. I have loads of meets over the years who are like minded and know the score, whether they are gay or bi. Plan meets in advance, there is always an opportunity to meet somehow. Build a rapport with the guy online. " Spot on 👍 Oh, and whenever you can - hide in plain sight 😇 | |||
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"I got a phone call from a guy I knew I said “Hi ….” - it was his wife who’d rang my number - she said “I don’t want you having sex with my husband” I said “ You need to speak to him about it, not me “ He rang me a couple of day later to apologise " 👏 👏 👏 my point exactly. He gave it away, not you. Well handled! | |||
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