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By *airyScot40 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

…living their entire real-self life inside their head and not in the real world - all the very best for 2026.

My inbox is always open if you know what the fuck I am talking about and ever need to let off steam.

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
2 weeks ago

penzance

If I understand you correctly, then yeah, be nice to think the reality of who I am could actually creep into the so called real world, which mostly isn t as so many hide inside who they really are in order to fit in with society. I joke that at my funeral, the few that know me will suddenly realise that they all knew a different me, no one truly knew me, the crazy that is me...but then I may have misunderstood your thread

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford

Can there be anything more miserable than not being brave enough to be who you need to be? I cant think of anything. Life's too short for that nonsense.

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
2 weeks ago

penzance

It's not nonsense, sometimes its protecting others, sometimes it maybe trauma issues that you don t want people to experience, see, prefer to deal with them, process them alone, so no one else is affected. I was asked once by a dear friend what happened to me as a child, he wanted to know me. I warned him, told him he d rather not know, but he insisted. He s a gentle guy, family man, kinda family to me, only family. I told him one part of it and he got part way through and walked away crying saying he wished he d never asked...those flashbacks and traumas I have to live with everyday and have for 6 decades. I deal with them, hidden behind my mask, and I do it to protect both myself and others. That's all. I write this respectively ok.

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford

Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
2 weeks ago

penzance

We will agree to disagree, I m not talking about blushes, I m talking about things being told that can rock someone's idea, security of the society they live in. Many a war vet stays apart from society for similar reasons, they are two different worlds. I ve actually had people walk away from my friendship because they ve not been able to cope with what I ve told them and others have told me they don t want to know but will accept I have issues. But we ll respectively leave it here I think. I know only too well, after 6 decades, that people do prefer they don t know or see, and they ll never comprehend it. Best we leave it here eh.

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By *ucksitupMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else."

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

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By *ustOneBearMan
2 weeks ago

Neath

Change is scary.

It won’t be the fairytale of complete acceptance. Single life can be difficult.

However I realised it was necessary as the mental strain of being in a relationship that was completely wrong was worse. I lost a lot of friends and it crippled me financially for a while.

But was it worth it? Absolutely.

My late husband was married for 38 years before he met me.

Then he divorced and we set up a life together for the best 11 years of my life.

If we hadn’t done what we did we wouldn’t have had that joy.

Not having to hide was the best thing ever.

He died of cancer. His then wife had told him. “If you ever get really sick,like long term sick, I won’t take time off work to look after you. You’ll have to deal with it yourself”.

Who would wish that life on anyone?

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief. "

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year.

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By *ucksitupMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year."

It’s a forum, somewhere where people get to express what they think. Mine thought is that you were condescending, conceited and arrogant. The fact that you now say I “don’t get to call out anyone’s opinion” proves my point.

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year.

It’s a forum, somewhere where people get to express what they think. Mine thought is that you were condescending, conceited and arrogant. The fact that you now say I “don’t get to call out anyone’s opinion” proves my point. "

Your opinion of me has no bearing on me at all. You didn't have a point, you just had some shouty words about something you didn't like on a thread you weren't even involved in. Bravo.

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By *ucksitupMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year.

It’s a forum, somewhere where people get to express what they think. Mine thought is that you were condescending, conceited and arrogant. The fact that you now say I “don’t get to call out anyone’s opinion” proves my point.

Your opinion of me has no bearing on me at all. You didn't have a point, you just had some shouty words about something you didn't like on a thread you weren't even involved in. Bravo."

I care not whether my opinion has any bearing on you, it is my opinion and is therefore a valid part of a forum.

The words I used were not “shouty” just probably a little long for you. 😭

There is a reason that I blocked you some time ago and you are simply reinforcing that decision.

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year.

It’s a forum, somewhere where people get to express what they think. Mine thought is that you were condescending, conceited and arrogant. The fact that you now say I “don’t get to call out anyone’s opinion” proves my point.

Your opinion of me has no bearing on me at all. You didn't have a point, you just had some shouty words about something you didn't like on a thread you weren't even involved in. Bravo.

I care not whether my opinion has any bearing on you, it is my opinion and is therefore a valid part of a forum.

The words I used were not “shouty” just probably a little long for you. 😭

There is a reason that I blocked you some time ago and you are simply reinforcing that decision.

"

there's the attention you desperately seek. Either way, I'm done here.

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By *ucksitupMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"Avoiding other peoples potential for trauma or an opinion of you that might be unfavourable, or seemingly protecting them from knowing who you really are, isn't kind to them or you. You're giving an untrue version of yourself to someone you care about. Faking it to spare their blushes. Those who matter dont mind, and those who do mind dont matter. Life is too short for anything else.

Condescending and conceited laced with arrogance. No knowledge of an individuals personal situation but thinking that there is a “one size fits all” answer to everyone’s life.

Such confidence in one’s own omniscience is beyond belief.

You might regard my comment as condescending. I regard presenting a fake version of oneself to the people we care about as condescending, dishonest, disrespectful and hurtful. My response was in the context of a sex hook up site, without further info from the OP none of us can know he was speaking about something else entirely. As it seemed a post above knew he was in fact speaking about something else, brave enough to expand, and asked for it to rest, I did exactly that. You dont get to call out anyone's opinion as condescending when it wasn't, as really, you, like me, knows fuck all. Happy new year.

It’s a forum, somewhere where people get to express what they think. Mine thought is that you were condescending, conceited and arrogant. The fact that you now say I “don’t get to call out anyone’s opinion” proves my point.

Your opinion of me has no bearing on me at all. You didn't have a point, you just had some shouty words about something you didn't like on a thread you weren't even involved in. Bravo.

I care not whether my opinion has any bearing on you, it is my opinion and is therefore a valid part of a forum.

The words I used were not “shouty” just probably a little long for you. 😭

There is a reason that I blocked you some time ago and you are simply reinforcing that decision.

there's the attention you desperately seek. Either way, I'm done here."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 👋👋👋

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