FabGuys.com forum: What is 'side'?

By *moothshy OP Man
3 weeks ago

A14 West corridor

Not saying I am getting old and am not 'down with the kids'...

... but what is 'side'?

Have seen it a few times recently and I am sure it is quite a new term??

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By *astDevonGuyMan
3 weeks ago

East Devon

Always presumed this was “versatile”?

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I always believed it was oral or likes to watch

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By *damb00Man
3 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Oral only

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By *damb00Man
3 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Someone with IBS and / or erectile dysfunction

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By *irsutemaleMan
3 weeks ago

notts

Usually a small salad or bowl of chips

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By *eedsbearmanMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"Usually a small salad or bowl of chips"

Gaaaaaarlic bread

But in man to man fun it means oral only or more generally no bum fun.

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By *utual2Man
3 weeks ago

Angus

Do you have a sentence has been used for context? Haven’t seen this expression yet.

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By *ohnnyangerMan
3 weeks ago

It's just someone who doesn't have anal sex. Top, bottom, side.

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By *exualCumeleonMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

I take it as not into anal or oral, maybe just wants to give hand jobs and watch.

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By *ambi4uMan
3 weeks ago

Saint Helens

"It's just someone who doesn't have anal sex. Top, bottom, side."

This is my understanding too.

Basically anything apart from anal penetration.

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By *ike B W3Man
3 weeks ago

london

I understand "side" to be all the foreplay but no anal.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

Every other sexual delight except anal penetration. So oral, wanking, docking, frottage etc etc.

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By *aid2TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Swindon

Side usually means no anal either giving or recieving. Everything else is fair game.

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By *idingcockMan
3 weeks ago

Driffield

‘Side’ means it’s a ‘No’ from me!

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By *andomguy321Man
3 weeks ago

reading

Analphobic?

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By *tokerY2OMan
3 weeks ago

Bournemouth

So the correct answer is someone who isnt into anal sex.

Stats vary but between 30 and 60% of gay men have reported (over a 40 year period) that they dont (or no longer) engage in anal sex.

Alongside those reports many gay men assume anal sex was usual method of sex amongst men but were happier when they chose being 'sides'.

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By *utcock61Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow

place in Turkiye.

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

Straight people always assume that all man-on-man sex is anal but that is not the case. We are far more innovative. For two years I enjoyed a monogamous FWB/Boyfriend. We had to keep our relationship secret yet we were enjoying sex 3 or 4 times a week. We tried anal sex, both ways, but decided it wasn't for us. So it was mostly 69ing amongst other enjoyable things. So guess we were both 'sides'

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol

This is a new one to me...

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By *autiously_curiousMan
3 weeks ago

Craigavon

It's a guy who doesn't want to participate in anything oral.

Wanking and sucking only. It's listed here are oral but its the same thing

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By *oxleyMan
3 weeks ago

Wetherby

Side is fine

It just means fun times together without penetration.

So what ?

Plenty to explore.

Provided a good time is had and lots of oozing or spurting happens - yummo !!!!

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By *idingcockMan
3 weeks ago

Driffield

"It's a guy who doesn't want to participate in anything oral.

Wanking and sucking only. It's listed here are oral but its the same thing"

This is gibberish

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By *arridMan
3 weeks ago

Brighton

I guess two bi guys, both sides would be besides, besides each other.

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By *autiously_curiousMan
3 weeks ago

Craigavon

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By *autiously_curiousMan
3 weeks ago

Craigavon

Apologies. Doesn't want to participate in anything anal

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By *urious6667Man
3 weeks ago

bed

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By *urious6667Man
3 weeks ago

bed

"Usually a small salad or bowl of chips"

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By *bonybucksMan
3 weeks ago

High Wycombe

Wanking and sucking fun

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By *yleLMan
3 weeks ago

Burnley

"Not saying I am getting old and am not 'down with the kids'...

... but what is 'side'?

Have seen it a few times recently and I am sure it is quite a new term??"

DICKTIONARY DEF= A "side" in gay male sexual culture refers to someone who does not engage in, or does not prefer, anal penetration (neither topping nor bottoming). Instead, they find sexual fulfillment, intimacy, and climax through a broad range of other activities—often called "outercourse"—including oral sex, mutual masturbation, body rubbing, or frottage.

Key Aspects of the "Side" Position:

Definition: Coined by Dr. Joe Kort in 2013, it offers a third identity beyond the traditional top/bottom binary.

Sexual Acts: Activities include oral, manual, and frictional techniques. It is often referred to as "outercourse" rather than "foreplay" because it is the primary activity, not just a prelude to penetration.

Motivation: Reasons for being a side vary widely, including lack of interest in anal play, anxiety, physical comfort, health reasons, or simply preferring other types of intimacy.

Visibility: The term has gained prominence on apps like Grindr, providing validation for men who felt excluded from a culture heavily focused on anal sex.

"Sides" can still experience intense physical and emotional satisfaction without penetration, challenging the idea that penetrative sex is the only "real" gay sexual experience.

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By *ridayguyMan
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

just play.

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By *ull bi for funMan
3 weeks ago

hull

"Not saying I am getting old and am not 'down with the kids'...

... but what is 'side'?

Have seen it a few times recently and I am sure it is quite a new term??"

I thought side was a place in Turkey or Turkiye as its known now

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By *luvnylonstockingsTV/TS
3 weeks ago

southsea

A holiday destination in turkey ,its very nice

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By *iver.7Man
3 weeks ago

Worcester

It is my default and can last hours, especially if edging is added to mix. Love kissing, massage, oral, wanking, frot, tbag....high chance it leads to a fuck...but stating edging (for me) implies my goal is not to have a quick fuck n go. Went to a group club meet and lots of guys were fucking with stamina but it was so so dull! Barely any play going on!!!!

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By *illitMan
2 weeks ago

Knaresborough

"Usually a small salad or bowl of chips"

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By *lexieMan
2 weeks ago

Just north of Southampton

"It's a guy who doesn't want to participate in anything oral.

Wanking and sucking only. It's listed here are oral but its the same thing

This is gibberish "

...yes, gibberish and a nonsense, someone nicks a term from a restaurant table and thinks it is smart to apply it to gay sexual activity... unfortunately no one else can agree or knows what it means! It's a nonsense... and the sooner its forgotten the better! Use good old fashioned english to stop the confusion!

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By *ountainMan
2 weeks ago

ipswich

In general terms when applied to someones character it means not having any pretensions .

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By *hilmeMan
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Well I like it on my side but I call it spooning xxx

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By *omo-ErectusMan
2 weeks ago

Bolton

It's where you leave things.

"Wheres the car keys?"

"On the side!"

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