FabGuys.com forum: Looking for advice

By *ottomJayy OP Man
4 weeks ago

Bristol

Hey, I’m Jake.

Looking for advice on how to come to terms with what I am. Been fighting with it since I was a teenager and even though I fight it off for a while I always come back to this.

Exhausting going through this every few weeks.

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

Hello Jake. You dont need anyone's permission other than your own to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. It took me a long time to understand that. It also took way to long to appreciate that what other people think of me is none of my business. You do you. Do what makes you feel good and get on a path of accepting that it is an intrinsic aspect of who you are as a person. You're allowed to feel good about yourself. You'll feel better for it. Might take a while but it will happen. You'll find there are others out there into whatever it is you are. Good luck.

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By *enjamin2018Man
4 weeks ago

Portsmouth

It's your life to do with as you please , just live it , people and society in general aren't anything like as judgemental as they once were ,but it really doesn't matter what people think .

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

"It's your life to do with as you please , just live it , people and society in general aren't anything like as judgemental as they once were ,but it really doesn't matter what people think . "

100%. We spend so much time worrying what other people think about us, when actually they don't think anything about us at all. Bonkers.

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By *awihMan
4 weeks ago

Aldershot

"Hey, I’m Jake.

Looking for advice on how to come to terms with what I am. Been fighting with it since I was a teenager and even though I fight it off for a while I always come back to this.

Exhausting going through this every few weeks."

The question is why are you struggling to accept who you are.

I can understand the worry about “coming out” because of the fear of rejection by family and friends, but the world today isn’t the world of the 1980’s or earlier.

People are more accepting these days. So unless they are very anti or outright homophobic, they will probably accept it, some will accept it straight off, some may take a little while to digest it, but if they know you and care about you, you are basically still the same person they have always known, with one slight difference it should be ok.

The main issue is that if you can’t accept yourself for who you are, how can you expect others to accept you, and the constant battle with yourself will have a damaging effect on your mental health. Giving in to whatever fears you have about who you are is to let those fears win, beating them and being who you are is very liberating.

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By *arti G xTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Chandlers Ford

Just be yourself

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By *ttmcdguyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

So I’m presuming you may have a fear of rejection from friends and family

So my advice to you would be

How would you be if your friends or family told you the exact same thing?

There will be a few dickheads along the way and you will learn a lesson of who are you true friends and family really are and believe it or not that’s a good thing

You can always put it to the test and speak to your parents! There is nothing on earth that is stronger than the love for a child which can very rarely be broken or the person you class as your best friend there acceptance will give you some confidence

I wish you luck op

Let us know how you get on

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