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By *uriousAboutCock1996 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

I'm pretty new to all this and wanted to dip my toes into anal play. Well, I've actually done it before but the toy I had was way too large and it was a real hassle for little payoff most of the time, so I got rid of it. I feel like I enjoy anal in theory but when I actually try to do it it doesn't pan out. I want to understand what all the fuss is about and would hate if it just wasn't something my body likes lol.

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By *ottomguy89Man
4 weeks ago

Wexford

I think everyone’s sensitivity level down there is way different both in how good it feels and what they can fit in there

For me I could almost anything but finding what feels good actually took years of testing what works

I’ve heard with others sometimes good works everytime

For me my first try to see if it feels good was amazing!! But trying to get it to work again wasn’t as easy

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By *uriousAboutCock1996 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

Thanks for the feedback. Right now I don't feel like it feels any better than just wanking. Which seems a pretty big contrast to all the guys who rave about it lol

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By *wadbisexualMan
4 weeks ago

Castle Gresley

I use anal toys regularly & really enjoy it, I've enjoyed anal sex too, the feeling of a horny tops balls banging against my arse as he fucks me is devine, i love hearing his grunts as he pumps his seed into me,

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By *hubbyGinger76Man
4 weeks ago

Halesowen

I use my wife's dildos when she's not about

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By *airless-slutMan
4 weeks ago

London

I felt the same until I bought a 6" silicone dildo. Now I just relax, use some lube and it feel so good in my asshole that I usually cum within a minute.

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By *eefandfurMan
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes the flexible silicon dildos are definitely better. If you get one that's just a little bit bigger than an average cock, should help alleviate any anxiety about taking the real thing.

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By *mptyspace80Man
4 weeks ago

Cambridge

There's a few different elements to anal that I always notice. There's the headspace for one. I'm really submissive when being fucked and that makes even teasing down there a lot of fun. I don't have that so much when I'm playing by myself.

Toys feel a lot different to the real thing. I feel like I need to go much smaller in toy size than what I can take from a flesh-and-blood partner because the toy needs to be firm whilst the person can stay rigid while still being compressed to fit in my tight hole. Not to mention a partner can get angles that are much harder for me playing alone.

Finally I get turned on a lot more when playing with a partner. I can switch my brain off and obey whereas when playing with yourself and exploring there's a lot more thinking going on which can make it harder to enjoy the experience.

Obviously anal isn't always fun and it can take a bit of practice but when you get it right it's *Amazing*.

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By *m2025Man
4 weeks ago

northumberland

"I use my wife's dildos when she's not about"

Me too, great fun

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By *uriousSwitchMan
4 weeks ago

Basingstoke

One of the biggest factors for me was lube: lots and lots (and lots) of lube, hand cream or hair conditioner initially before I bought proper lube. With everything nice and slippery, you can start to explore with a finger or two. The first toy I bought was just larger than finger-sized and I now have a small collection of proper, dick-sized dildos and metal butt plugs. Slow and steady is the answer. Also, of course, it can feel amazing if you're with another guy (or girl) and they start to finger you.

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By *excessMan
4 weeks ago

Sleaford

I only enjoy toys as part of the overall sexual experience, so rarely use them when I'm on my own.

You might just be a guy that like myself needs the added stimulation of sex to enjoy anal

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By *upertedMan
4 weeks ago

Nelson

It's all about the headspace for me.

I've earned to take a 12" dildo easily. It's the girth that's the challenge and the stretch that now brings me the most pleasure.

Angling it right work my prostate. I've cum hands free many times and a weird orgasm as I cannot clench my hole as its strategy to maximum. The pumping comes from deep inside.

Don't over do it as tou csn make yourself sore...but persevere with it. Its magical...

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By *fcdTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Southend

"I use my wife's dildos when she's not about

Me too, great fun

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Does she know you're both using them?

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By *opipu8800Man
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

You can buy tiny anal sex toys and work yourself up.

Buy a silicone toy. Never anything metal or glass.

Buy one with a wide base so the toy does not disappear into your body. (A&E visit)

Use plenty of lube. Silicone toys cannot have silicone lube.

Take your time. Your muscles will relax in their own time.

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By *uriousAboutCock1996 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

Thanks for the feedback everyone.

I think it's a headspace issue for me. Having something in my arse obviously feels good, I can feel my prostate being touched and I do manage to cum without touching my cock. All good so far.

Having said that I'm unsure if I have that submissive mindset to want someone to fuck me or play with my hole in that way? I'm very new to all this so don't really know for sure. It's like I understand the appeal of it physically but my brain just isn't there mentally. And I cant have one without the other.

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By *andyhandymanMan
4 weeks ago

Barking

It's possible you'll never enjoy it for real, but more likely you just need to take some time experimenting, teach your body to relax and get familiar with the sensations, discover what works for you. Buy a few silicone toys in different sizes, plenty of lube, and at first try just stroking between your cheeks, over your hole, then gently teasing yourself open without actually penetrating. Don't decide it "must" go in "this time", wait until your arse is buzzing to be fucked.

Dildos aren't the same (or as good!) as real cock but they're fun and give your bum some practice.

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By *uriousAboutCock1996 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

"It's possible you'll never enjoy it for real, but more likely you just need to take some time experimenting, teach your body to relax and get familiar with the sensations, discover what works for you. Buy a few silicone toys in different sizes, plenty of lube, and at first try just stroking between your cheeks, over your hole, then gently teasing yourself open without actually penetrating. Don't decide it "must" go in "this time", wait until your arse is buzzing to be fucked.

Dildos aren't the same (or as good!) as real cock but they're fun and give your bum some practice. "

Well to be fair I've already tried a lot of that. I don't have a problem taking a toy or anything like that, it just doesn't feel as good as I feel like it should? Even when I cum from it it doesn't feel that different from just wanking.

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By *andyhandymanMan
4 weeks ago

Barking

"Well to be fair I've already tried a lot of that. I don't have a problem taking a toy or anything like that, it just doesn't feel as good as I feel like it should? Even when I cum from it it doesn't feel that different from just wanking."

Ah I see. Your last post wasn't up when I started mine. So is it anal with another guy you're not sure about? You mentioned submitting, but that doesn't have to be a part of being fucked. Some are into dom/sub dynamics and that's fine but doesn't come into it for me. If anything I take the lead more often, but either way it isn't significant in my case.

I also found that what I expected to enjoy and actually did (position, pace etc.) were quite different.

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By *uriousAboutCock1996 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

I'll be honest I'm not entirely sure what I'm even talking about myself lmao. I suppose I should just try it for myself at some point.

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By *ub460Man
4 weeks ago

S. Derbys

"I'll be honest I'm not entirely sure what I'm even talking about myself lmao. I suppose I should just try it for myself at some point."

I've tried a couple of toys and they don't really do anything for me. Being fucked by another man feels completely different for me and I love it.

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