FabGuys.com forum: How to tell the wife I’m bi

By *kindian200 OP Man
4 weeks ago

wednebury

I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x

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By *ridayguyMan
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

hmm just say, I'm bi X not that easy but guess she knows really..

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By *ryforuTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Lancaster

I told my wife after being together for 35years and she said no your not and would not talk about it xx

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By *andomguy321Man
4 weeks ago

reading

"I told my wife after being together for 35years and she said no your not and would not talk about it xx"

That rings very true

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By *evanianMan
4 weeks ago

Gogledd Ddwyrain Cymru

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x"

This is a really tricky situation, and you've got to be careful not to rock the boat for the sake of a fantasy. Before sharing your thoughts, ask yourself if it's for her benefit or just to get it off your chest. If it's just for you, it might be fairer to keep it to yourself rather than upsetting her.

Don't feel pressured by modern "tell-all" culture - sometimes the kindest thing for a long marriage is to keep certain thoughts private to protect the life you've built.

You could test the waters by seeing what she thinks about similar topics – mention a storyline or news bit and see how she reacts. If she's against it, the most unselfish thing you can do is deal with it in your own head and keep your marriage steady.

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By *anDadBodMan
4 weeks ago

Speke

the first mfm i had with my mrs the guy started sucking my cock, was totally out the blue, i never expected it as he said he was straight on his profile, afterwards my mrs said didn’t you mind the guy sucking your cock, i just said no it was an unexpected bit of pleasure, after that most of the guys that joined us for 3somes always had a little play with me too, mrs didn’t mind but she didn’t sit back and watch either, bi 3somes we’re always far better than the straight ones we had.

So i’d say, invite a guy round and just go with the flow 👍🏻

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By *aughtyboy87Man
4 weeks ago

fareham

Absolutely sound advice as I’ve been thinking the same.

Testing waters is a great one

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By *owerplay823Man
4 weeks ago

worthing

I told her ages ago, she wasn’t that keen and ignores it now

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By *IPMANMan
4 weeks ago

West London

Leave your p*ppers, lube and butt plug on the dressing table. She'll get the drift soon enough

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By *amie1402Man
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

DON’T !

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By *erscumdumpMan
4 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

After 18 years of marriage, if you dont know how to broach the subject with your wife, I suggest that you dont.

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By *Aguy2022Man
4 weeks ago

Littlehampton

Told my wife after 23 years together. Started by saying I had dreams about being with a man, then moved on to fantasies about it, then moved on to admitting that I enjoy watching guys together and ended by me saying that I wouldnt mind trying it. After a short time of her mulling it over, she accepted this side of me and supports me 100%. She won't join in which is fine but I know she likes hearing about it.

I say either do it bit by bit or just come out with it. Doesn't mean you love her any less, just a part of you is missing...and being with men could fill that void.

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By *idsguy81Man
4 weeks ago

mids

Be honest with her tell her is a fantasy to start does not mean you will act in it. Sure she has fantasies to. Watch porn with her what you like and her will open up sexually

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By *xtraoneMan
4 weeks ago

Gloucester

Be very careful you might destroy her world.

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By *lackbootzMan
4 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"After 18 years of marriage, if you dont know how to broach the subject with your wife, I suggest that you dont."

Succinctly accurate.

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By *olin 5 inchMan
4 weeks ago

durham

Probs knows u like cock but said nowt xx

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By *arriedbibtmMan
4 weeks ago

Grimsby

Mine knows

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By *fcdTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Southend

It’s highly likely she’ll see it as you lying to her for 18 years and the marriage has been a massive deception. You might get lucky but this scenario rarely works out well.

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By *antsMeetsMan
4 weeks ago

uxbridge

You say "excuse me wife but did you know that I'm bi sexual?" Then get on with your life and stop asking stupid questions

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By *otmyrealname1Man
4 weeks ago

Isle of Axholme

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x"

Start with I think everyone’s a little bit bi aren’t they.. then when she says what.. say we was talking at work and it came up. Then just say doesn’t everyone at some point at least look.

Then hope she doesn’t kick you out, change the locks call the locals to come and have… talk to you!! Cough cough..

Nah us closest lads need to accept it is what it is. Either deal with it head on consequences and all or stay in the closet so to speak.

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By *waff1102Man
4 weeks ago

King's Lynn, Norfolk

I would keep it to yourself.

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By *tephanie9090TV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bishop

DON'T !!!

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By *ometimesAnnaTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Worcester

Ask if she has any fantasies, take it from there.

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By *ayboy1966Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Buy her a pegging kit! Worked for me, never looked back. Now if I’m a good boy I get a treat

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

She knows my fantasies and when we fuck she will tell me about her (imaginary) lover and making me watch him fuck get and then describe how he fucks me afterwards

She knows how this turns me on but she is never going to live a mmf unfortunately

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By *ridayguyMan
4 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Buy her a pegging kit! Worked for me, never looked back. Now if I’m a good boy I get a treat "

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By *am187Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

"She knows my fantasies and when we fuck she will tell me about her (imaginary) lover and making me watch him fuck get and then describe how he fucks me afterwards

She knows how this turns me on but she is never going to live a mmf unfortunately "

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By *asioMan
4 weeks ago

Havant

My wife knew I was bi before we were married

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By *leeping cobraMan
4 weeks ago

London

"the first mfm i had with my mrs the guy started sucking my cock, was totally out the blue, i never expected it as he said he was straight on his profile, afterwards my mrs said didn’t you mind the guy sucking your cock, i just said no it was an unexpected bit of pleasure, after that most of the guys that joined us for 3somes always had a little play with me too, mrs didn’t mind but she didn’t sit back and watch either, bi 3somes we’re always far better than the straight ones we had.

So i’d say, invite a guy round and just go with the flow 👍🏻"
invite me round

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By *leeping cobraMan
4 weeks ago

London

"My wife knew I was bi before we were married"
does she play to

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By *asioMan
4 weeks ago

Havant

"My wife knew I was bi before we were marrieddoes she play to "

We meet bi couples yer, less so the last couple of years

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By *andy biMan
4 weeks ago

Greenford

Just an idea but let her catch you watching bi porn

Depending on your situation even wankiing watching it

Gives you deniability but possibly opens her eyes to the scenario knowing it turns you on

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By *ucker4you80Man
4 weeks ago

Chippenham

Tell her about fabguys and how long you've been on it and all the meets you've had.

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By *IPMANMan
4 weeks ago

West London

Next time you have been kissing her, tell her you dpent the afternoon in a gay sauna, rimming anything you could find and then giving them all blow jobs before depending an hour as a human urinal

See how that goes down....

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By *oaq2Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x

Don't feel pressured by modern "tell-all" culture - sometimes the kindest thing for a long marriage is to keep certain thoughts private to protect the life you've built.

Wise and thoughtful words. Thank you.

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By *rikMan
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I told my wife 16 years ago and she was incredibly understanding. Fortunately, she's bi too and it was an opportunity for us to be open about it.

I'd approach it by talking about fantasies. Be open, but tread cautiously, don't just fire off "I want to be with a man", go down the "I'd like to see you with another man and be involved" to test the water. If she seems intrigued and open to it, then open up further and tell her you've fantasised about sharing said man with her. You've often wondered what holding another man's cock would be like.

The truth is, we can all advise you, but we don't know her or you. Is she the sort who would listen and remain calm and non-judgmental, or could she fly off the handle?

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By *ucker4you80Man
4 weeks ago

Chippenham

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x

Don't feel pressured by modern "tell-all" culture - sometimes the kindest thing for a long marriage is to keep certain thoughts private to protect the life you've built.

Wise and thoughtful words. Thank you."

Perhaps read more carefully between the lines of these wise and thoughtful words. Do they promote honesty and compassion, skillful thought and right action, love and kindness, and if so, towards whom exactly?

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By *lackbootzMan
4 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

Why not show her this thread so she can appreciate your dilemma..?

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By *actilePigMan
4 weeks ago

LINCOLN

"Be honest with her tell her is a fantasy to start does not mean you will act in it. Sure she has fantasies to. Watch porn with her what you like and her will open up sexually "

But his profile suggests he does meet men. So in what way would that be being honest?

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By *illmymouth300Man
4 weeks ago

fleckney

My wife knows I am bi but the last thing she would do was a 3sum

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By *IPMANMan
4 weeks ago

West London

Why should she appreciate your "dilemma" Were you bisexual when you first married and didn't tell her ?

Or have you now decided to be bisexual and rewrite the rule book ?

Best call it a day and move on

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By *ukfellaMan
4 weeks ago

Gloucester

Easiest way is to tell them from day 1

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By *ranform71Man
3 weeks ago

Hinckley

It was easy for me. I came home from work early one afternoon. As I came through the door, she was on the laptop. She shut it far too quickly, I asked her what she was doing and watching. As I went to grab the laptop, she started crying. I opened it and the screen booted up to bisexual and gay porn. She was begging me not to leave her. What a relief it was for me. We sat and I told all about what I wanted, I told her that I was bisexual. Instantly it aroused her. So we joined fab. That was nearly 17 years ago. Our latest meeting was yesterday. She and our friends wife sat and watched me getting fucked and filled with his cum. I’m a very fortunate lucky man. Finding my wife, was the best thing I ever did.

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By *wansmickMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x

Don't feel pressured by modern "tell-all" culture - sometimes the kindest thing for a long marriage is to keep certain thoughts private to protect the life you've built.

Absolutely top advice ! It's far too easy in todays world to just say go ahead and FecK the consequences !

Well thought out answer 👌👌👌

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By *wansmickMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

"After 18 years of marriage, if you dont know how to broach the subject with your wife, I suggest that you dont.

Succinctly accurate. "

Spot on 👌

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By *ohnbi1965Man
3 weeks ago

Aberfeldy

I told mine not long after we started dating she knows I've been with men but only thinks it's been twice and just me getting sucked and she only used to say i was just curious if she knew how many guys I've enjoyed intimate relationships with and how much further than just getting sucked I've indulge in and enjoyed she would be very shocked.

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By *oveboysMan
3 weeks ago

grays

Me and my mate were sitting on sofa wearing satin undies and satin nightie playing with eachother.we thought she left but came back unexpectedly.thats how he had to tell her he likes guys

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By *eardedbiblokeMan
3 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"I really love to have a mmf but how do I tell the wife I’m bi and love a mmf we been together for 18 years and not that easy thanks x"
I told mine the day we met, its the deception that hurts

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By *weetpee9853Man
3 weeks ago

Exeter

Trouble is we guys in 60s ,,when we were young couldt say we were gay.

So we had to hide it so for me i didnt had a sexaul relationship with female until i was 24 which is my wife at time i throught my gay feelings go way but ho no .i got job as a bus driver then i notice i was looking at men this age 32 with 7 years marrage i notice my feelings getting stronger for men even stsrted cross dressing with her clouths which i had time to do when children at play school / school as mrs worked in Am ,then i did lates at work so felt i was being more .so i meet guy on phone chatn line 30 years ago ,it alll started all gentle as love what we did .He said he could see that i realy enjoyed it so then started going cruising ,

I now dont have sex with mrs for last 3 yesrs ,i have tried speak to mrs about sex she wont talk about it and even said go to sex paryy but shejust shut up .

I have regurly gay sex with my friend who under stand and wont want me finish the marriage as he know i love my wife and grown up children .one day 2 years ago went to cruising ground and i got fucked and love it so after that i decide should go get tested .

So i man up.went long at first i was very nervous and scared as i never had addmited i have gay feelings to anybody .

The staff was great got me to relax and say it narural to have gsy feelings .They got me to see a sexaual physcogyist which was great help ,i now more relax abiut my gay feelings as they advised as she dont talk about sex and her sexaul feeli as best to keep quiet as she not said anything in last 32 years amd go out enjoy it .

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By *orthfieldsnickMan
3 weeks ago

West London

Unless she’s planning on joining in the fun then I wouldn’t bother. It’s none of her business, you do you

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By *lackbootzMan
3 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

"… It’s none of her business, you do you…"

Why should any woman mind that a husband is cheating with men behind her back?! Selfish old fish-wife! Lucky even to know her place.

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By *ressmesissyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Basingstoke

After 18+ years you should have a grasp of how her mind works. I would be careful 18 years is lot to throw away for a fantasy that is not as good in reality.

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