FabGuys.com forum: No shows / Cancellations

By *ustOneBear OP Man
2 weeks ago

Neath

How do you respond?

If someone no shows. I block. They’ll do it again if you let them.

If they cancel that’s fine. A bit of a bother but life happens.

If they cancel twice before we actually meet, I don’t initiate contact again. If they arrange a meet after, I always arrange someone else as a back up.

This system has done me rather well this week.

How you you manage no shows / cancellations?

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By *ohn542026Man
2 weeks ago

West Lothian

Me I not keen on first message meet now

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Block them they won't change

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By *erasusMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Can honestly say only had one no show who didn’t apologise

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By *DAnnetteTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Dublin

No shows are a pain. And those that bother to send an excuse are even worse. 'I can't find the hotel' 'nowhere to park here' 'my dog is sick' 'oh I got the date wrong' etc, etc Wankers!!!

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By *upertedMan
2 weeks ago

Nelson

You're lucky you are getting to that stage.

Often for me it's a flurry of initial messages then they seem to log off and never log back in again.

It's not as bad as it sounds as I've made 3 new fuckbuddies this year...still a pain tho.

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By *eedsbearmanMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I take a credit card deposit that is non refundable in the event of a no show

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By *onest and DiscreetMan
2 weeks ago

Southend-on-Sea

Sometimes you have to cancel at the last minute because as we all know life happens especially if you have a partner or are married i understand there are many on here that play around but some honestly can be shy it happens.

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By *askia.TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Many will not change, it is a kind of hobby for them….they get a sad kick out of leading people on, messing people around and sometimes leaving people out of pocket……naming and shaming is not allowed, those whose accounts are removed for continuing to do it can simply just create new accounts, I’ve blocked so many sad fucks on here just to see them come back with new accounts…..sadly, coming across these morons is just a risk of using any site like this unfortunately.

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By *askia.TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Many will not change, it is a kind of hobby for them….they get a sad kick out of leading people on, messing people around and sometimes leaving people out of pocket……naming and shaming is not allowed, those whose accounts are removed for continuing to do it can simply just create new accounts, I’ve blocked so many sad fucks on here just to see them come back with new accounts…..sadly, coming across these morons is just a risk of using any site like this unfortunately."
I forgot to add, there are of course genuine reasons for cancellations/change of plans so this does not apply to those who message in advance with apologies etc….although some of these can be fake too, what a minefield this site is…lol

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Normally if they give reasonable notice of a change I will give them a second chance. Otherwise its a block

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By *onman666TV/TS
2 weeks ago

doncaster

As already said it happens , life gets in the way . But the realy annoying bit is when the profiles just dissappear as soon as the chatting ends

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By *orchlightMan
2 weeks ago

Chippenham

I tend to meet other married guys and fully understand that real life always has to come first. Cancelled meets and the unavoidable no show just come with the territory. Not explaining/ apologising afterwards is naughty though.

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By *DAnnetteTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Dublin

I get it that life gets in the way of pleasure and the best laid plans etc. I can accept that and give a second chance, but these sad fucks who lead us on and then let us down are a huge pain.

I had a guy message me one day to say that he was in the lobby of my hotel trying to find the lift? How ridiculous! Fab was telling me that he was 15m away!

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By *ustOneBear OP Man
2 weeks ago

Neath

There are a couple of men I regularly meet who sometimes have to cancel last minute. I know their situation and know they are as disappointed as I am.

They are the exception to the rule.

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By *uriousAboutCock1996Man
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

I've yet to meet anyone on here, but almost met up three times. The first time the other guy told me I was being too eager and he was right. I appreciate that candour. I was too horny to think straight at the time.

The second guy led me on for a week then rejected and even started arguing with me when I was finally free to meet. That really upset me but apparently he does that with loads of guys.

The third guy we had a date and time set but I cancelled because I caught him in a lie about his sexual history. He blocked me when I confronted him on it.

That's not including all the timewasters I just ignore or block.

Honestly getting anything done on this site is proving to be more of a hassle than I expected.

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By *eefandfurMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Gypsy curse and/or Karma.

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By *ust4inchesMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"How do you respond?

If someone no shows. I block. They’ll do it again if you let them.

If they cancel that’s fine. A bit of a bother but life happens.

If they cancel twice before we actually meet, I don’t initiate contact again. If they arrange a meet after, I always arrange someone else as a back up.

This system has done me rather well this week.

How you you manage no shows / cancellations?

Interesting. Does the back up know their status? What do you tell the back up if the first person shows up?

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By *ate500TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham

I don't let it get to me as there's always a reason and that's their business

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By *unMoonTattooMan
2 weeks ago

Wareham

"No shows are a pain. And those that bother to send an excuse are even worse. 'I can't find the hotel' 'nowhere to park here' 'my dog is sick' 'oh I got the date wrong' etc, etc Wankers!!! "

Totally agree. We should start a thread on the most ludicrous excuse you've ever been given.

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By *ustPeekinMan
2 weeks ago

Alresford

I recently cancelled on a guy. We had arranged that I would go to his place at 2pm. Checked messages on the way just to make sure everything was ok (pulled over first, obvs) and there was one from him saying looking forward to it, but we’d have to be quick. When I asked why, he said his wife was due home at 2.15.

Some other time, perhaps.

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By *ub slut SueTV/TS
2 weeks ago

penrith

If I get plenty of notice I’m chilled. If it’s a repeat chances are they won’t get a third chance. If it’s last minute and a crappy excuse (which they invariably are) no second chance.

Time is precious for me right now, for now I’m finding private parties and saunas to be a much more reliable source of fun…

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 weeks ago

Didcot

A couple of months back I had a guy contact me and we arranged to meet on a specific day, I sent him a message the day before just to check everything was still on, nothing, the message was showing as read so it seems to me he either had a better offer of chickened out, about a month later he contacts me again looking for a meet, I reminded him that he had already let me down once and it wasn't going to happen again.

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By *ustOneBear OP Man
2 weeks ago

Neath

"How do you respond?

If someone no shows. I block. They’ll do it again if you let them.

If they cancel that’s fine. A bit of a bother but life happens.

If they cancel twice before we actually meet, I don’t initiate contact again. If they arrange a meet after, I always arrange someone else as a back up.

This system has done me rather well this week.

How you you manage no shows / cancellations?

Interesting. Does the back up know their status? What do you tell the back up if the first person shows up?"

I usually stagger the times so if they both turn up it’s double the fun.

Everyone gets what they want.

The no show get to think he’s inconvenienced me and feels that buzz he needs and the one who turns up gets sex. Rarely they both not turn up.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 weeks ago

Didcot

The hassles around arranging meets post Covid are why I gave up trying and went to Saunas instead, sadly being out of work at the moment I can't afford Saunas so I'm back to trying to get meets off here for the time being.

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By *askia.TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"There are a couple of men I regularly meet who sometimes have to cancel last minute. I know their situation and know they are as disappointed as I am.

They are the exception to the rule. "
Yes I'm lucky enough to have a couple of "regulars" too, I know they are genuine and will let me know in advance.

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By *ountainMan
2 weeks ago

ipswich

Just got let down. I contacted him, apparently car trouble.

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

Cancellations are fine, life happens after all. No shows without an apology simply get ignored. I dont block them. They tend to try again, and ignoring seems appropriate. Sometimes I won't even open thier message for days, and then just delete without opening.

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By *ason-DMan
2 weeks ago

Bromsgrove

Sometimes cancellations are unavoidable, but some are really annoying, like the ones that start dithering about when you are actually on their street and waiting for them to confirm the house number!!

I’ve had this happen to me twice!

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By *ld4yngfunMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I exchanged several messages, with a guy on here.

He agree to meet ay my place, at noon today, Sunday.

He did not turn up.

Then apologised for missing it.

Then he said he would meet between 12 noon & 2.00pm.

Again, no show, & no messages back.

What pleasure do those guys get, from this sort of thing. He will

know who he is.Just a time waster.

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By *ockHardMcrCockMan
2 weeks ago

Bolton

Had a 2nd no show with the same guy last night, he was visiting me & at one point even said he was parked at the end of the road & walking down to mine. I’d showered, shaved below, douched and was so ready !! I messaged him, quite politely, for an explanation, he’s read it but not bothered replying ! Block ? Rock x

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By *oxymusicMan
2 weeks ago

Cowbridge

"I exchanged several messages, with a guy on here.

He agree to meet ay my place, at noon today, Sunday.

He did not turn up.

Then apologised for missing it.

Then he said he would meet between 12 noon & 2.00pm.

Again, no show, & no messages back.

What pleasure do those guys get, from this sort of thing. He will

know who he is.Just a time waster."

Hardly his fault because you got the day wrong!!😆

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By *amanthaCDTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Estepona Spain Not in

Lofe has an incredible knack of getting in the way of meets. When If someone backs out before the meet and lets me know thats fine and I'll happily arrange for another time. When it is a no show withoutbany message then I wait until a reason / excuse comes in and based on what is said I will decide on a new meet or not. If I decide they are then not worth meeting I will refuse a new date. I don't block them, I just ignor them. Means they can see my profile, see my new verifications and hopefully get frustrated which is more rewarding to me than blocking them.

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By *lokenexdoor2025Man
2 weeks ago

Ludlow

Thats why i prefer cruising and saunas, they either want you or not!

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