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Southport

Has anyone ever gone to a sauna and just watched? I want to go to one but I’m worried I will get too nervous and freeze.

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By *olfstarMan
3 days ago

Edinburgh

Just go and don’t overthink it - no obligation to participate and you can just enjoy the facilities in a safe environment. You might end up having some fun but then again perhaps not. No stress need be involved!

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By *airyDivDadMan
3 days ago

Whiston

There's no right or wrong answer about what to do at a gay sauna.

If you have sex there, it can be anything from solo or mutual masturbation to group sex and everything inbetween.

Equally you can go entirely as a voyeur and just appreciate the sights around you. Many guys do this either consciously or because, on the day, there's no-one they want to have sex with. Surprisingly, many guys really enjoy using the saunas etc as well! 🙂

It's all good. And remember, if you go to watch and are approached by anyone who's interested in you, a polite 'no thanks' is overwhelmingly all that's needed.

As for 'freezing', I'd say the vast majority of men who visit saunas would say their first time was nerve-wracking and preceded by endless walks past, trying to pluck uo the courage to cross the threshold! But they'd invariably also say that once inside, they felt relaxed and comfortable in their surroundings and that guys - and staff in particular - were very friendly. In short, there's nothing at all to fear.

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By *eefandfurMan
3 days ago

Edinburgh

Plenty of guys that go will welcome voyeurs.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot

"Has anyone ever gone to a sauna and just watched? I want to go to one but I’m worried I will get too nervous and freeze. "

go for your own reasons, some people do go to watch others play yet rarely get involved themselves. In a gay sauna consent is key, no-one will try and get you to do stuff you don't want to do, I find they are a pretty chilled and friendly environment, I'm quite socially awkward and yet I feel really comfortable and at home when I go to the sauna, yes plenty of sex going on but also guys just chatting to each other, something quite surreal about sitting at the bar, completely naked chatting about ordinary things to a guy you've just been very intimate with, as if you were just 2 guys in a pub.

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By *hickenmcnuggetsMan
3 days ago

Coxlodge, Newcastle upon Tyne

You can definitely just watch, but you might very quickly find that you don’t see the point of “just” watching when you have so many tempting cocks right in front of you, lol

As someone else said, gay saunas tend to be much more relaxing, comfortable and “chilled-out” places than you might expect (most of the time in my experience, anyway)

It’s also easy to just chat to guys in the jacuzzi or bar etc if you like

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By *ristol_Speedo_guyMan
3 days ago

Bristol

I’ve been in a sauna and when tried touching or interacting with a guy had the response, ‘thanks, I’m just here to watch’. No harm done, find someone else.

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By *harlieRedTV/TS
2 days ago

I’d love to go to one but I’m too scared haha xx

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By *ollyMan
2 days ago

Downham market

I've been 8-9 times and they are fantastic places to visit, walking around naked feels so liberating and some beautiful cocks and bums on show

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 days ago

Didcot

"I’d love to go to one but I’m too scared haha xx "

Trust me, there's nothing to be scared about.

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By *allsendlad111Man
2 days ago

wallsend

It’s totally understandable to be nervous, especially if you are bi and not out. I remember driving to a sauna in Newcastle about 6 times and just sitting in the car over the road watching! I eventually plucked up the courage and went in, I just enjoyed the sauna and watching other guys. Also if you worry about seeing anyone, they will probably be in the same boat as you

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By *KBottom25Man
2 days ago

London (Any)

To go as a bottom. Not clear how to indicate interest..

A gentle hand on my hips or arse might help... But never sure

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
2 days ago

Didcot

"It’s totally understandable to be nervous, especially if you are bi and not out. I remember driving to a sauna in Newcastle about 6 times and just sitting in the car over the road watching! I eventually plucked up the courage and went in, I just enjoyed the sauna and watching other guys. Also if you worry about seeing anyone, they will probably be in the same boat as you

It is understandable I suppose but the reality is they are not scary at all, as for bumping in to someone I know, not that I ever have, I'm single and gay. chances are they are not. I have bumped in to guys that I know are on here or other sites, some of whom I've been in contact with or even been intimate with in the past but I've never bumped in to anyone I've known outside the world of hook up sites, if i did I'd just act normally and pretend not to recognise them, what happens in the sauna stays in the sauna.

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By *uvolderMan
2 days ago

chester

"I've been 8-9 times and they are fantastic places to visit, walking around naked feels so liberating and some beautiful cocks and bums on show "

This is exactly what is so attracting about - the liberating aspect of it is just too good to keep putting it off so mid april will be my first visit to Northwich

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By *im le2Man
2 days ago

aylestone leic

It's a sauna guys want to get hot n sweaty not just for sex tho that helps. We are all nervous the first time just remove the towel and let it all hang out. Just because something is on show you can pick who you let sample the goods.

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By *im le2Man
2 days ago

aylestone leic

I have group meets and I know most of the men that come are nervous. Yeah Evan me so now I open the door naked and find this helps. And yeah some guys just want to watch and jerk off that's fine. Nobody will force you to do anything you don't want.

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By *im4UMan
2 days ago

Sandhurst

I was terrified about visiting a sauna. Once I plucked up the courage to go in having spent an hour walking backwards and forwards past the entrance. Then within seconds of walking through the door all my inhibitions melted away and I had the best time. Won't bore you with what happened exactly. To be honest there is a lot less to fear by doing to a sauna than there is trying to navigate meets on this site!

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By *DC2000Man
2 days ago

Coningsby

"I was terrified about visiting a sauna. Once I plucked up the courage to go in having spent an hour walking backwards and forwards past the entrance. Then within seconds of walking through the door all my inhibitions melted away and I had the best time. Won't bore you with what happened exactly. To be honest there is a lot less to fear by doing to a sauna than there is trying to navigate meets on this site!"

I agree with this 100%. I nearly chickened out my first time (greenhouse at Darlaston) but SO glad I didn't! Had the best time.

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By *SAOFMan
2 days ago

Work/Play in London, live in Kent

First thing to remember is that no one there is there as part of a morality police - we all go to enjoy ourselves so just relax and give yourself permission to have a good time.

Second you can go to just watch. If that is what you want go to one of the busy places and one of the busier days. If you are near London Pleasuredrome or Sweatbox are busier most of the time so often good for watching.

Conversely if you want to play, it being busy can often be less good - as sometimes guys think if it is very busy if they wait for a few more minutes, the 10/10 guy will play with them - I find that when it is busy the younger fitter guys gravitate to each other and often put in a show but there is a lot of back-and-forthing for the rest of us mortals! A quieter place is more conducive to more fun being had at times.

A great place to chat and for that to lead to fun is the locker Room - if you go to the Naked mates meets there (track them on the naked mates web site) they are on average an older group but also a friendly group of dtf shaggers) so if you need your confidence built go to an event like that.

If you know someone who has been before and is comfortable with the scene and with whom you are comfortable, arrange to go together. An introduction may be helpful. It can assuage your nerves. If you do agree before of you are to play together when you get there and if you are open to your or his splitting off to play with others.

Remember though that watching is good too. You can go planning to play and just watch or the other way round. You can say no if someone approaches you. But you can also say yes.

Good luck. I went with my now husband the first time and was glad of the company. I have loved the variety of places I have been. Both on my own with him and with other mates. Some I went to regularly and some I went to once. I say give it a go. You never know you may love it.

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By *iimmybMan
2 days ago

Widnes

Im planning to break my duck and go to sauna sauna in Northwich soon I've never been and feel quite anxious but after reading these comments im a bit more at ease now iam bi i like like getting sucked of by guys but I don't know wether ill go that far when I visit i think ill do a lot of watching maybe wanking while doing it

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By *allsendlad111Man
2 days ago

wallsend

"Im planning to break my duck and go to sauna sauna in Northwich soon I've never been and feel quite anxious but after reading these comments im a bit more at ease now iam bi i like like getting sucked of by guys but I don't know wether ill go that far when I visit i think ill do a lot of watching maybe wanking while doing it "

You will enjoy it mate. It’s like when you say you will go to the pub, only have a soft drink and drive home. The next thing you know you are 8 pints deep and calling a taxi home

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By *ryan2000Man
2 days ago

London colney

Just flash your cock

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By *needsfunMan
18 hours ago

Felixstowe

I've been going for years now, I was so scared the first few times.

Just remember no means no.

I just watched for the first few times and sometimes asked not to watch, so that's fine.

I tend to go in the dark rooms and gently touch a bottom or a cock. If they respond, then I just take it slow, more often than not end up snogging and sucking the guy. I have ended up in a full blown orgy on occasion. I am a large , old hairy guy, so not everyone cup of tea, but I have had some guys head straight to me and ask me to be with them, fuck them and even spank them.

Anything can happen or nothing can, if the latter then just have a walk and leave, you've used the place first to relax xx Hope this helps

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By *urvMan
16 hours ago

christchurch Dorset

I find saunas so dull everyone is looking for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or Zac Efron but my loves they won’t be in a gay sauna . I will have sex with anyone I’m not fussy that’s what I go for not a spa day

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
15 hours ago

Didcot

"I find saunas so dull everyone is looking for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or Zac Efron but my loves they won’t be in a gay sauna . I will have sex with anyone I’m not fussy that’s what I go for not a spa day "

Certainly not my experience, I've never struggled for attention, even though I'm fat and bald, still played with some good looking guys.

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By *atthew500Man
15 hours ago

east yorks/hull

Absolutely love my local sauna- same as all others on here with initial nerves and like a kid in a sweet shop first few times in, but now more than happy to go with the idea of just some naked chill time with like minded guys, which makes me more relaxed and ironically more open for good fun! Also made a couple of discreet social pals in there.

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By *ustOneBearMan
15 hours ago

Neath

You might see someone from the site in a sauna. But people are there to have sex. A smile if you fancy someone can indicate interest.

You can just watch, most have areas just for that.

Most importantly No means No. If someone reaches for your cock or arse and you’re not interested a quiet “no” or just move their hand away. It is almost always taken as a polite decline. This goes both ways. No means no.

There is usually a bar area where you can sit if you feel overwhelmed or just between action. If you don’t feel comfortable doing anything. Stop and walk away.

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By *weetpee9853Man
13 hours ago

Exeter

I rember my first time i just walked pass the door then once in found i just relaxing .then u went into my local one and bump into work mate in dark room i looked up after having his cock.in my mouth ask him for his name saidits ok Andy judt relax

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By *weetpee9853Man
13 hours ago

Exeter

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By *unMoonTattooMan
13 hours ago

Wareham

As a hardened sauna slut I have no problem with guys watching, in fact I encourage guys I'm with to leave the door open

. Things that really irritate me are endless marching round and round as if something is more exciting round the corner, and opening the sauna door, letting a draft in , staring for 10 seconds and walking away not even closing the sauna door properly.

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By *ustOneBearMan
12 hours ago

Neath

"As a hardened sauna slut I have no problem with guys watching, in fact I encourage guys I'm with to leave the door open

Same with the steam room. Window shopping.

Come in or shut the door.

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By *londebiguyMan
12 hours ago

near Southport

"Has anyone ever gone to a sauna and just watched? I want to go to one but I’m worried I will get too nervous and freeze. "

Just go.

I suggest Northwich.

Go earlier in when it's busy.

Tuesday or weekend is the best.

Plenty for you to live out your voyeuristic fantasies there

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By *tevieG73Man
11 hours ago

Codsall

Take a small bittle, even if you don't use it yourself.

If you find yourself alongside a guy you fancy, offer it to him.

If he takes some, he is interested.

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By *airyDivDadMan
11 hours ago

Whiston

"Has anyone ever gone to a sauna and just watched? I want to go to one but I’m worried I will get too nervous and freeze.

Just go.

I suggest Northwich.

Go earlier in when it's busy.

Tuesday or weekend is the best.

Plenty for you to live out your voyeuristic fantasies there"

That's great advice. Northwich is probably the best in the country. Clean, vast, great facilities and usually pretty busy.

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By *immySplashMan
10 hours ago

Coventry

I too want to go and just watch to see what happens and to see if i'm brave enough to involve myself

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By *nickerslover69Man
10 hours ago

chard

I’m dying to go try a sauna! Really want to take cock for the first time but just nervous I guess x

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By *iwarwicksguyMan
10 hours ago

Warwick

My first time was fucking brilliant,had a really enjoyable time! It's always best to go to a smaller sized sauna first if you can otherwise big ones might just be a little bit too much.My first experience was at the now closed Unit 2 in Birmingham which was adequate in terms of activity so I just went with the flow and after that kept going back!!

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By *raig_KJMan
10 hours ago

Southport

"I’m dying to go try a sauna! Really want to take cock for the first time but just nervous I guess x"

Read the messages on here.

No first timers have regrets about, biting the bullet and going into a Male only Sauna.

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By *ustinaTV/TS
10 hours ago

cardiff

Naturally my first visit to a sauna made me understandably nervous but I was so desperate to be with other gay guys I easily overcame my nervousness.

Just be yourself. Find a darkened room where other guys are playing and if you feel like joining in then do so. Gradually you will get more confident and almost certainly find guys who will want to play with you.

Once I found a guy who wanted to fuck me on a big bed and before I knew it there were other guys entering the room who were happy to watch us perform while having a wank.

Don't put any pressure on yourself, just walk around and you'll know when the time is right to join in.

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By *obbertMan
10 hours ago

In a world of my own

Just visit if you wish, no pressure on either side, and ‘no’ means ‘no’ from each too, just enjoy the atmosphere and undoubtedly sexy, naked guys on view!

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By *ead BioMan
7 hours ago

Frinton-on-Sea

Always wanted to go to a sauna but so nervous, I just don't think my anxiety would let me enjoy it - probably just stay in the room lol. Anyone got and tips or stories about there first time going to sauna, love to hear from ya.

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By *tar33Man
7 hours ago

North London (outer)

"Always wanted to go to a sauna but so nervous, I just don't think my anxiety would let me enjoy it - probably just stay in the room lol. Anyone got and tips or stories about there first time going to sauna, love to hear from ya."

There are dozens of these stories, in this thread and others. All are positive so stop procrastinating and walk through the door.

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By *ustinaTV/TS
5 hours ago

cardiff

All I can say is once you've made the effort to go there once, you will go back time and time again.

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By *odomyLoverMan
5 hours ago

Coulsdon

"Has anyone ever gone to a sauna and just watched? I want to go to one but I’m worried I will get too nervous and freeze. "

Just go and enjoy

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
5 hours ago

Bedford

Sometimes I go as sam not sammy so in man mode and I don't want anything except a sauna x

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