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"good place to ask questions if you can't ask your mates X" Err ... if you can't ask your mates then ask a mate?? 🧐 | |||
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" - struggling with everyday routines, like washing yourself ..." Are you struggling with everyday routines like washing yourself, OP..? | |||
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"good place to ask questions if you can't ask your mates X Err ... if you can't ask your mates then ask a mate?? 🧐" Yes, that bit was a bit recondite to me too. What you need to do is set off the two sets of mates against each other, then sit back and enjoy the fireworks. | |||
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"sometimes people are a bit embarrassed, ask a mate on here.." if you're a bit embarrassed to ask a mate "in real life" most times you can ask on here and someone will help out with their prospective. Few pop up with sarky comments but generally most people are helpful X | |||
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"I want to ask my mate to fuck me 😬" 🤣 | |||
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"good place to ask questions if you can't ask your mates X Err ... if you can't ask your mates then ask a mate?? 🧐 if you're a bit embarrassed to ask a mate "in real life" most times you can ask on here and someone will help out with their prospective/ perspective. Few pop up with sarky comments but generally most people are helpful X" But profiles in an online hookup site Forum chat where 95% are faceless and anonymous (like yourself) are NOT actually your “mates”. It’s potentially unwise and even dangerous to consider them as such. You don’t know what their motivations are. It’s certainly unwise to consider their advice as more salient and valid than people you know in real life and with whom have established real-life connections. Especially to seek advice from unknown internet strangers on “embarrassing” questions. This is psychologically foolhardy. Hence we get bizarre threads on here where people are asking totally anonymous strangers online about sexual health matters or about medications or sometimes psychological trauma when they should be speaking to trained professionals. Naivety personified. I’ll expect you’ll think my reply here is “sarky” and “unhelpful”. But that’s because you are away with the fairies thinking the internet is full of “mates”. | |||
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"sometimes people are a bit embarrassed, ask a mate on here.." Andy's man club is the place to air and share your deepest concerns not here | |||
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"I want to ask my mate to fuck me 😬" I’ve got my eyes on a few of my mates lol, but I doubt anything will come of it sadly xx | |||
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"Good luck fella X Blokes can be a banterish and come across as a bit stand offish or offensive sometimes and tbh I'm not very experienced either and struggle with it. You really shouldn't get any shit about being gay or bi or asking questions about bi / gay sexuality on here" we're / they're not all mates but pretty friendly | |||
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"What’s this shit? 🫤" asking a mate about shit if you're not sure | |||
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"love a mate for being a mate, no matter what X" Even if he stabs you..? | |||
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"What’s this shit? 🫤 asking a mate about shit if you're not sure" I did, I showed this thread to a friend and he said similar to me… What’s this bollocks? 🫤 | |||
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"ask a mate post - did it make sense?" Eh? | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems." Well said 👏 | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems." What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems. What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! " opinions vary of course 🙄😂 | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems. What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! opinions vary of course 🙄😂" Your opinion varies on whether it’s better for a socially vulnerable or mentally struggling person to use an established help resource like the trained professionals at the Samaritans in confidence rather than splashing their problems at random anonymous strangers with doubtful motivations in the FabGuys Forum, and where you yourself say some users will take the piss out of them? | |||
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"sometimes people are a bit embarrassed, ask a mate on here.." Would you invest in my new business venture? £50,000. It's a niche male stripper agency. I need a car to get to gigs and some custom thongs with velcro. If you were a real friend you would. | |||
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"sometimes people are a bit embarrassed, ask a mate on here.. Would you invest in my new business venture? £50,000. It's a niche male stripper agency. I need a car to get to gigs and some custom thongs with velcro. If you were a real friend you would. " You’re so predictable. Always cutting corners and keeping the cash for cake... “custom thongs with velcro”… Typical Temu cheap shit, made by child labour in Indonesia. “I’m out.” | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems. What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! opinions vary of course 🙄😂 Your opinion varies on whether it’s better for a socially vulnerable or mentally struggling person to use an established help resource like the trained professionals at the Samaritans in confidence rather than splashing their problems at random anonymous strangers with doubtful motivations in the FabGuys Forum, and where you yourself say some users will take the piss out of them? " you read far too much in to peoples comments and seek argument, ive come across your sort before, just angry with everyone, peace be with you my friend, i hope you find more positivity in the world and reduce your quest to argue with anyone or anything around you, have a nice day 😊 | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems. What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! opinions vary of course 🙄😂 Your opinion varies on whether it’s better for a socially vulnerable or mentally struggling person to use an established help resource like the trained professionals at the Samaritans in confidence rather than splashing their problems at random anonymous strangers with doubtful motivations in the FabGuys Forum, and where you yourself say some users will take the piss out of them? you read far too much in to peoples comments and seek argument, ive come across your sort before, just angry with everyone, peace be with you my friend, i hope you find more positivity in the world and reduce your quest to argue with anyone or anything around you, have a nice day 😊" I have zero anger. I don’t need to find positivity in an already happy life but thank you so much for your wishes. Why would I seek an argument with a faceless person in another part of the country whom I’m never going to meet on a site Forum? All I did was take your words at face value and presume you meant them and stood by the points you made. Maybe that’s where I’ve gone wrong. Do I take your comment that I “read far too much in to people’s comments” to mean you are no longer prepared to stand by what you said? On the [actually quite serious] issues at hand here - is becoming reliant on a virtual world potentially dangerous? - is it necessarily a good thing to treat anonymous strangers on the internet as your friends? - is the Samaritans a safer place for someone struggling with real embarrassing problems than the FabGuys forum? - you’ve said absolutely zero. I presume because you can’t. Have a lovely evening! | |||
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"Basically if you’re struggling with something that’s on your mind and you don’t have anyone outside this website you can confide in then ask someone here, your hearts in the right place OP, problem is people on here would rather take the piss instead of taking the post seriously, call it a defence mechanism to hide behind their own problems. What a load of arrogant rubbish! I’m taking the OP’s post VERY seriously. If you have something on your mind and you don’t have anyone to speak to in your life about it - this is a very serious and concerning thing. A] is addressing that lack and finding all means and help to socialise better in real life with people who can support you. Online friends are NOT your real friends. You can’t replace real-life interactions with online interactions only. All psychological studies have shown this can prove very dangerous and actually make someone more withdrawn in real life and reliant on an unreal virtual world. Danger lies therein. B] there are places to speak to properly trained people who can give support. Phone the Samaritans for goodness sake. People in the FabGuys Forum are not trained professionals who understand mental health issues. Seeing them as your “mates” is foolhardy in the extreme. This is not a remotely controversial view. One look at the news will give you umpteen stories about the dangers of the internet and social media for any mentally vulnerable people. Setting out these uncontroversial and salient points does not make me a “piss-taker”. It does not show I am “hiding my own problems” through a “defence mechanism”. Grow up! opinions vary of course 🙄😂 Your opinion varies on whether it’s better for a socially vulnerable or mentally struggling person to use an established help resource like the trained professionals at the Samaritans in confidence rather than splashing their problems at random anonymous strangers with doubtful motivations in the FabGuys Forum, and where you yourself say some users will take the piss out of them? you read far too much in to peoples comments and seek argument, ive come across your sort before, just angry with everyone, peace be with you my friend, i hope you find more positivity in the world and reduce your quest to argue with anyone or anything around you, have a nice day 😊 I have zero anger. I don’t need to find positivity in an already happy life but thank you so much for your wishes. Why would I seek an argument with a faceless person in another part of the country whom I’m never going to meet on a site Forum? All I did was take your words at face value and presume you meant them and stood by the points you made. Maybe that’s where I’ve gone wrong. Do I take your comment that I “read far too much in to people’s comments” to mean you are no longer prepared to stand by what you said? On the [actually quite serious] issues at hand here - is becoming reliant on a virtual world potentially dangerous? - is it necessarily a good thing to treat anonymous strangers on the internet as your friends? - is the Samaritans a safer place for someone struggling with real embarrassing problems than the FabGuys forum? - you’ve said absolutely zero. I presume because you can’t. Have a lovely evening! " i will 😂 | |||
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"My forum post was, ask a mate (on here). If you're a bit not sure it's a good place to start. If you want help with health go see a doctor but it's good to chat rather than not, and hear other people's opinion. Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X" Delete your other thread then, ‘times I’ve been horrible to other blokes,’ as it’s clearly not true. | |||
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"My forum post was, ask a mate (on here). If you're a bit not sure it's a good place to start. If you want help with health go see a doctor but it's good to chat rather than not, and hear other people's opinion. Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X Delete your other thread then, ‘times I’ve been horrible to other blokes,’ as it’s clearly not true." I have clearly not been horrible to other blokes and my refusals were polite an courteous | |||
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"This isn’t going very well, is it..? " Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X I don't know what you want. please stop trolling / bullying me | |||
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"This isn’t going very well, is it..? Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X I don't know what you want. please stop trolling / bullying me" In what way am I bullying you here?! | |||
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"This isn’t going very well, is it..? Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X I don't know what you want. please stop trolling / bullying me In what way am I bullying you here?!" you really need to read your own posts if you can't understand it. You come across as very negative, aggressive and never say anything positive. Fill your boots, but not at my expense. If you don't like my posts, jog on, you don't need to read or respond to them and I really don't appreciate your condescending posts. There is a real person here and consider how you might affect someone else before you comment. Am I being horrible to you? no | |||
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"This isn’t going very well, is it..? Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X I don't know what you want. please stop trolling / bullying me In what way am I bullying you here?! you really need to read your own posts if you can't understand it. You come across as very negative, aggressive and never say anything positive. Fill your boots, but not at my expense. If you don't like my posts, jog on, you don't need to read or respond to them and I really don't appreciate your condescending posts. There is a real person here and consider how you might affect someone else before you comment. Am I being horrible to you? no" You’ve just accused me of all sorts of unpleasant and nasty behaviour but claim here and elsewhere you’ve never been horrible to anyone. The disconnect is bizarre. You are posting in a public forum. Other users are allowed to comment. You can’t control who comments and who doesn’t. You have expounded your theory here on the benefits of people using FabGuys “mates” to help them. I have critiqued that theory and pointed out the real concerns I have with this way of thinking. You can’t control things so you only receive agreement and no disagreement here either your ideas or suggestions. If you write something I can agree with I will react to it positively. You don’t seem to understand the difference between users disagreeing with you and some terrible personal attack on you. That vulnerability worries me most of all. It’s exactly why I’ve taken the time to make the points I have above. I’m certainly not your “mate”. But I’m also not your enemy. Dividing the world up in such simplistic ways is something we grow out of after childhood. | |||
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"This isn’t going very well, is it..? Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X I don't know what you want. please stop trolling / bullying me In what way am I bullying you here?! you really need to read your own posts if you can't understand it. You come across as very negative, aggressive and never say anything positive. Fill your boots, but not at my expense. If you don't like my posts, jog on, you don't need to read or respond to them and I really don't appreciate your condescending posts. There is a real person here and consider how you might affect someone else before you comment. Am I being horrible to you? no You’ve just accused me of all sorts of unpleasant and nasty behaviour but claim here and elsewhere you’ve never been horrible to anyone. The disconnect is bizarre. You are posting in a public forum. Other users are allowed to comment. You can’t control who comments and who doesn’t. You have expounded your theory here on the benefits of people using FabGuys “mates” to help them. I have critiqued that theory and pointed out the real concerns I have with this way of thinking. You can’t control things so you only receive agreement and no disagreement here either your ideas or suggestions. If you write something I can agree with I will react to it positively. You don’t seem to understand the difference between users disagreeing with you and some terrible personal attack on you. That vulnerability worries me most of all. It’s exactly why I’ve taken the time to make the points I have above. I’m certainly not your “mate”. But I’m also not your enemy. Dividing the world up in such simplistic ways is something we grow out of after childhood. " I am certainly not your enemy either, after reading your replies to my posts, I am really not interested. Please desist as this is not constructive and can someone please let admin know I have repeatedly asked him to stop (hope he's not admin) | |||
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"I want to ask my mate to fuck me 😬" he’s a lucky mate I’d say | |||
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"My forum post was, ask a mate (on here). If you're a bit not sure it's a good place to start. If you want help with health go see a doctor but it's good to chat rather than not, and hear other people's opinion. Think a while back I was getting a few messages from blokes and politely said no thank you and a few may have been mixed up but my intention was never to offend, and if I have. then I apologise X" Did you ask a mate before posting that? | |||
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