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"Just do a search for threads you have commented on - should show it up." Sorry. “ threads you have posted to” on forum search. | |||
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"Just do a search for threads you have commented on - should show it up. Sorry. “ threads you have posted to” on forum search." Did that, And a search. It’s not overly important, just like to know. | |||
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"It might not have been your post at all. If your thread is used by other discussing women or anything taboo or untowards it will be deleted. So you may have been a casualty of other's behaviour" Oh, fair enough, cheers. | |||
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"Threads inviting blokes to wank over the starter's wife or gf tend to get deleted because they don't belong here, was yours one of those? Obviously anything illegal gets stomped on pretty quick. " No, it was called “fancy women, crave cock”. I do know sometimes mentioning women gets frowned upon. | |||
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"If they discuss illegal activities they will get deleted. " Cheers. Not sure how it could have got that bad, hopefully it didn’t. | |||
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"It might not have been your post at all. If your thread is used by other discussing women or anything taboo or untowards it will be deleted. So you may have been a casualty of other's behaviour" I've had this many times. Thread with nothing out of the ordinary on it gets fully deleted because some sad little keyboard warriors deliberately hijack it. I dont take offence though as the mods generally do a good job (especially with the likes of those grim stepson posts recently) | |||
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"If they discuss illegal activities they will get deleted. Cheers. Not sure how it could have got that bad, hopefully it didn’t. " On here you shouldn't be surprised, some just don't have any concept of what is or isn't appropriate. | |||
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"Often the sexual fantasy or when was your first time?, some guys cross the line to inappropriate / illegal. Stick to over 18, consenting and unrelated adults and it should be fine. " ….Woah, I didn’t get anywhere near that stuff. 
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"Often the sexual fantasy or when was your first time?, some guys cross the line to inappropriate / illegal. Stick to over 18, consenting and unrelated adults and it should be fine. ….Woah, I didn’t get anywhere near that stuff.
"I'm guessing in the thread you were in, someone started bringing wives/girlfriends into the conversation and or wanted to swap pictures of said wife/girlfriend | |||
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"Often the sexual fantasy or when was your first time?, some guys cross the line to inappropriate / illegal. Stick to over 18, consenting and unrelated adults and it should be fine. ….Woah, I didn’t get anywhere near that stuff.
I'm guessing in the thread you were in, someone started bringing
wives/girlfriends into the conversation and or wanted to swap pictures of said wife/girlfriend"Gotcha! | |||
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"Often the sexual fantasy or when was your first time?, some guys cross the line to inappropriate / illegal. Stick to over 18, consenting and unrelated adults and it should be fine. ….Woah, I didn’t get anywhere near that stuff.
I'm guessing in the thread you were in, someone started bringing
wives/girlfriends into the conversation and or wanted to swap pictures of said wife/girlfriend
Gotcha! "It’s unfortunate, but some posters seem to feel they are “entitled” to post whatever they want just because the site doesn’t automatically block them - I’ve had a few people come back with that argument in the past when pointing out to them it is not appropriate for this site. When they do that part way down a thread and the mods/admins pick it up the delete the thread or as they have done a few times close the thread with a message saying why it has been closed, unfortunately the offenders seem incapable of taking the hint and just start up another thread with more of the same - now they just seem to be deleted. Not sure if they get a time out, or not, but it doesn’t seem to stop some of them. Simple rule of thumb should be if you want to talk about sex involving women (or women’s bodies) do it on the swingers site, if you want to talk about sex with men only do it here. | |||
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" Simple rule of thumb should be if you want to talk about sex involving women (or women’s bodies) do it on the swingers site, if you want to talk about sex with men only do it here." I'm on Fabswingers and can assure you a lot of what is said on this site about women wouldn't go down well on FS, the women on there wouldn't stand for it. | |||
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"I'm on Fabswingers and can assure you a lot of what is said on this site about women wouldn't go down well on FS, the women on there wouldn't stand for it." Well if it wouldn’t go down well on the swingers site because the women there wouldn’t stand for it, why should it be acceptable here just because there are no (real) women here to see it? | |||
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"Threads inviting blokes to wank over the starter's wife or gf tend to get deleted because they don't belong here, was yours one of those? Obviously anything illegal gets stomped on pretty quick. " Wow, didn’t know this. So even though sexuality can be bisexual on the profile drop down menu on here, one cannot then create a topic of bisexual activity? | |||
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"Threads inviting blokes to wank over the starter's wife or gf tend to get deleted because they don't belong here, was yours one of those? Obviously anything illegal gets stomped on pretty quick. Wow, didn’t know this. So even though sexuality can be bisexual on the profile drop down menu on here, one cannot then create a topic of bisexual activity?" I think it’s frowned upon because of possible consent issues | |||
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"I'm on Fabswingers and can assure you a lot of what is said on this site about women wouldn't go down well on FS, the women on there wouldn't stand for it. Well if it wouldn’t go down well on the swingers site because the women there wouldn’t stand for it, why should it be acceptable here just because there are no (real) women here to see it?" I didn't say it was acceptable on here, as far as I'm concerned it's not, the levels of sexism and misogyny in some of those threads is off the scale, I was simply saying it wouldn't be tolerated on Fabswingers. | |||
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"Threads inviting blokes to wank over the starter's wife or gf tend to get deleted because they don't belong here, was yours one of those? Obviously anything illegal gets stomped on pretty quick. Wow, didn’t know this. So even though sexuality can be bisexual on the profile drop down menu on here, one cannot then create a topic of bisexual activity? I think it’s frowned upon because of possible consent issues" But that perceived problem would still exist with a gay male couple where only one of that couple is a member on here but starts a thread about gay couple sexual activity. 🫤 | |||
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" I think it’s frowned upon because of possible consent issues But that perceived problem would still exist with a gay male couple where only one of that couple is a member on here but starts a thread about gay couple sexual activity. 🫤 " Consent is still an issue, however, this is a site for men to have sex with men, the banner at the top of the page says' "Fun, Free and Fabulous For Gay Guys" it doesn't mean you can't be bisexual, just don't start threads about sex with women, female celebs and female politicians, chat about sex with women doesn't belong on here, Fabswingers is the place for that, though some of the female related threads that go up on here wouldn't go down well on Fabswingers because of the the levels of sexism and misogyny contained with in them. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ " Talking about them isn’t the problem. However there are no women members. So swapping pics etc gives obvious consent issues. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ " Read my post rather than misquote me, it relates to talking about women in a sexual way. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Read my post rather than misquote me, it relates to talking about women in a sexual way." But bisexuals do and bisexuals are an option on here. I’d agree with your interpretation if bisexuals were not an option but they are. Not having a go, just confused as I didn’t know this. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Talking about them isn’t the problem. However there are no women members. So swapping pics etc gives obvious consent issues." But that can happen with a man from a gay couple where both are not members, only one. | |||
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"I'm on Fabswingers and can assure you a lot of what is said on this site about women wouldn't go down well on FS, the women on there wouldn't stand for it. Well if it wouldn’t go down well on the swingers site because the women there wouldn’t stand for it, why should it be acceptable here just because there are no (real) women here to see it? I didn't say it was acceptable on here, as far as I'm concerned it's not, the levels of sexism and misogyny in some of those threads is off the scale, I was simply saying it wouldn't be tolerated on Fabswingers. " Wasn’t having a go at you, I was making the point that if it wasn’t acceptable on the swingers site, why should they think it is acceptable here just because there are no (real) women allowed on this site. As someone has put quite eloquently on another thread in the feedback forum, this is (supposedly) a safe space in which Bi men can explore the man on man side of their sexuality, not a place to talk about shagging their (or others) wives/gf’s etc. or engage in the sort of talk they have been behind their partners back - they have the rest of the internet for that. | |||
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" I didn't say it was acceptable on here, as far as I'm concerned it's not, the levels of sexism and misogyny in some of those threads is off the scale, I was simply saying it wouldn't be tolerated on Fabswingers. Wasn’t having a go at you, I was making the point that if it wasn’t acceptable on the swingers site, why should they think it is acceptable here just because there are no (real) women allowed on this site. As someone has put quite eloquently on another thread in the feedback forum, this is (supposedly) a safe space in which Bi men can explore the man on man side of their sexuality, not a place to talk about shagging their (or others) wives/gf’s etc. or engage in the sort of talk they have been behind their partners back - they have the rest of the internet for that." I was just clarifying my comment, no offence was taken. As for the thread in the feedback forum, apparently we are the Gay Mafia and bigoted against Bi men, what load of baloney. | |||
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"Often the sexual fantasy or when was your first time?, some guys cross the line to inappropriate / illegal. Stick to over 18, consenting and unrelated adults and it should be fine. ….Woah, I didn’t get anywhere near that stuff.
I'm guessing in the thread you were in, someone started bringing
wives/girlfriends into the conversation and or wanted to swap pictures of said wife/girlfriend
Gotcha!
It’s unfortunate, but some posters seem to feel they are “entitled” to post whatever they want just because the site doesn’t automatically block them - I’ve had a few people come back with that argument in the past when pointing out to them it is not appropriate for this site.
When they do that part way down a thread and the mods/admins pick it up the delete the thread or as they have done a few times close the thread with a message saying why it has been closed, unfortunately the offenders seem incapable of taking the hint and just start up another thread with more of the same - now they just seem to be deleted.
Not sure if they get a time out, or not, but it doesn’t seem to stop some of them.
Simple rule of thumb should be if you want to talk about sex involving women (or women’s bodies) do it on the swingers site, if you want to talk about sex with men only do it here."Well, that escalated… My original post was basically saying that, even when I’m alone I can’t stop looking at women, have a bit of an ogle whenever I get the chance and given the opportunity I would sleep with them. Every time I get home and fancy some me time, my go to is this site and gay porn and I’m constantly thinking about giving bj’s. And guys with similar feelings were chatting.. I don’t see anything wrong, even if the chat did turn bi, the guys involved in the chat may be on here looking for other guys but turn ons still involve women. The general consensus seems to be the thread was deleted as someone said something that was against the rules… | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ " Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. " What if a married gay man was on here without other half and doing the same thing? 🫤 | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. What if a married gay man was on here without other half and doing the same thing? 🫤 " Equally seedy. It's the knowledge and consent thing really. Like I said above, candaulism (posh word for swinging I suppose, although it's defined as deriving sexual gratification from offering a partner to others) is a super hot kink if the partner is aware and consenting, but if they're not it's just a plain old chargeable offence if you get nobbled. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. What if a married gay man was on here without other half and doing the same thing? 🫤 " True, and we'd never know however what is certain is that women can't have accounts on here and therefore no implied consent | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. What if a married gay man was on here without other half and doing the same thing? 🫤 Equally seedy. It's the knowledge and consent thing really. Like I said above, candaulism (posh word for swinging I suppose, although it's defined as deriving sexual gratification from offering a partner to others) is a super hot kink if the partner is aware and consenting, but if they're not it's just a plain old chargeable offence if you get nobbled." Looks like someone was pissed no one asked what candaulism was when it was mentioned earlier in the thread! I am also on Fabcandualisers. | |||
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"Why does talking about women ‘not belong on here?’ Because the vast majority of the time it's just blokes talking about other blokes wanking off into their wives' knickers, or swapping them, or slagging their wives off for not putting out any more, and the vast majority of the time done without the wives' knowledge or consent. What if a married gay man was on here without other half and doing the same thing? 🫤 Equally seedy. It's the knowledge and consent thing really. Like I said above, candaulism (posh word for swinging I suppose, although it's defined as deriving sexual gratification from offering a partner to others) is a super hot kink if the partner is aware and consenting, but if they're not it's just a plain old chargeable offence if you get nobbled. Looks like someone was pissed no one asked what candaulism was when it was mentioned earlier in the thread! I am also on Fabcandualisers. " Just here to educate the thickoes! You're welcome | |||
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"…I don’t see anything wrong, even if the chat did turn bi, the guys involved in the chat may be on here looking for other guys but turn ons still involve women. The general consensus seems to be the thread was deleted as someone said something that was against the rules…" FabguysOfficial recently posted (pretty much) the following: "For information, talking in general about a female is fine (e.g. for someone in the news). Talking about anything sexual with a woman/swapping pics of a woman/asking for private chat about wives/GFs/posting stories that contain a woman etc. etc. is not allowed." | |||
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"They really shouldn’t offer bi as an option then.. " Try and let that bee out of your bonnet: this site is not about/for/inclusive of WOMEN. Bisexual men are capable of ‘putting women on the back burner' whilst using this site, NOT discussing women or their attraction to women and WELCOME to explore and use this site for other options  | |||
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"They really shouldn’t offer bi as an option then.. Try and let that bee out of your bonnet: this site is not about/for/inclusive of WOMEN. Bisexual men are capable of ‘putting women on the back burner' whilst using this site, NOT discussing women or their attraction to women and WELCOME to explore and use this site for other options "Trouble is some of them seem incapable of controlling themselves. | |||
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"They really shouldn’t offer bi as an option then.. Try and let that bee out of your bonnet: this site is not about/for/inclusive of WOMEN. Bisexual men are capable of ‘putting women on the back burner' whilst using this site, NOT discussing women or their attraction to women and WELCOME to explore and use this site for other options
Trouble is some of them seem incapable of controlling themselves."No need anymore: Fabguys are about to announce the removal of all female/feminine content and are even considering removing bi-curious/bisexual profiles in order to simplify things going forward 🥳 🤥 | |||
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"They really shouldn’t offer bi as an option then.. Try and let that bee out of your bonnet: this site is not about/for/inclusive of WOMEN. Bisexual men are capable of ‘putting women on the back burner' whilst using this site, NOT discussing women or their attraction to women and WELCOME to explore and use this site for other options
Trouble is some of them seem incapable of controlling themselves.
No need anymore: Fabguys are about to announce the removal of all female/feminine content and are even considering removing bi-curious/bisexual profiles in order to simplify things going forward 🥳 🤥"If only, but it is 1st April 🤣 | |||
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"But some guys do like to talk about women whilst they’re with men.. does it matter if those guys talk about it.. bi should t be an option if you going to alienate them. Whilst we’re on that subject, isn’t about time the site differentiates between tv and ts? " It is quite possible that some Bi men don’t want to talk about sex with women when they are with another man, they are getting away from that side of Bi and exploring their man on man sex side of it. Bi is an option here to provide (what should be) a safe space to explore the male sex side of being Bi, which of course can be shared between Bi AND Gay men. As others have pointed out there are plenty of other sites that cater for the mixed sex groups, this isn’t one of them, and (as the mods have made quite clear now) all the Women/GF talk is not allowed. Agree that TV’s and TS’s should be separate categories. | |||
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