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By *ohnsy2022 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Chorley

I've arranged to meet a guy at a b n b, but he has no verifications. I asked why, he said its because it's his first time. Started chatting to him on the phone and he let slip that he uses the b n b regularly. I'm a bit suspicious, what do people think? He's been on here 6 months.

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By *arridMan
4 weeks ago

Brighton

You know what? Listen to your guy instinct. You already have doubts.

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By *oe_66WFMan
4 weeks ago

Darton


"You know what? Listen to your guy instinct. You already have doubts. "

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By *oose1Man
4 weeks ago

doncaster

Proceed with caution

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Where there's doubt there is no doubt.

Go with your gut

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By *MB9Man
4 weeks ago

Northampton

Above all else stay safe x

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By *amplighter1Man
4 weeks ago

ryde

Akways go with your gut

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By *ildwestheroMan
4 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

If you don't want to risk it then don't. I might add that we all had to start somewhere. Being on this site does not guarantee a meet. Getting a meet does not guarantee a verification. However the choice is yours.

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By *iassloverMan
4 weeks ago

Rugby


"I've arranged to meet a guy at a b n b, but he has no verifications. I asked why, he said its because it's his first time. Started chatting to him on the phone and he let slip that he uses the b n b regularly. I'm a bit suspicious, what do people think? He's been on here 6 months."

He's lied to you about it being his first time if he uses it regularly. If you go, have a backup plan like a sauna or something in case he turns out to be a prat

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By *dstefiMan
4 weeks ago

Solihull

Why not just meet beforehand somewhere public like a pub or coffee place and gauge him in person while you still have the option of walking away if needs be?

I mean every first meet is just that, a first meet and just because someone has a cartload of veris here doesn't guarantee you'll like them any more than meeting a total newbie means they'll be a shit show.

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By *dstefiMan
4 weeks ago

Solihull


"I've arranged to meet a guy at a b n b, but he has no verifications. I asked why, he said its because it's his first time. Started chatting to him on the phone and he let slip that he uses the b n b regularly. I'm a bit suspicious, what do people think? He's been on here 6 months."

So did he say it's his regular shag pad, or just that he uses it regularly? I mean people who stop over on business like a place they feel comfortable at and familiar with.

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By *ohnsy2022 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Chorley

Thank you all for the advice. I've gone with my gut instinct, and told him its not going to happen.

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By *hagmenowplsMan
4 weeks ago

Hereford

Let someone who you know who knows you play know what is happening

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago


"So did he say it's his regular shag pad, or just that he uses it regularly? I mean people who stop over on business like a place they feel comfortable at and familiar with."

I did wonder about the other possible reasons, if he was Bi, might have gone there with the other sex, and his was his first time with a man. If he was from out of the area he may stay there while visiting friends and family, may travel with work and stay there.

This is where a lack of honesty or openness comes in and creates doubt. There again they could just be a liar or a mad axe person - you just don’t know.

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By *ig3Man
4 weeks ago

Maldon

Meet him in public first

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By *oxleyMan
4 weeks ago

Wetherby

Plenty of others

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By *dstefiMan
4 weeks ago

Solihull


"This is where a lack of honesty or openness comes in and creates doubt. There again they could just be a liar or a mad axe person - you just don’t know."

Exactly why when I do first meets I've either done a lot of messaging and gauged someone's trustworthiness by how they speak (it's never let me down yet) or for more short-notice things met somewhere open first, even if the small head's telling me I want sex.

I honestly scratch and shake my head over the idea of people just hooking up and expecting sex with no real idea of how it might go.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bedford

This is the reason I only go to saunas and take it from there. X

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By *mudgesterMan
4 weeks ago

Godalming


"I've arranged to meet a guy at a b n b, but he has no verifications. I asked why, he said its because it's his first time. Started chatting to him on the phone and he let slip that he uses the b n b regularly. I'm a bit suspicious, what do people think? He's been on here 6 months.

He's lied to you about it being his first time if he uses it regularly. If you go, have a backup plan like a sauna or something in case he turns out to be a prat"

Could be his first time using fabguys but has used the BnB loads of times for normal purposes

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By *iBobOxonMan
4 weeks ago

Thame/Aylesbury


"Why not just meet beforehand somewhere public like a pub or coffee place and gauge him in person while you still have the option of walking away if needs be?

I mean every first meet is just that, a first meet and just because someone has a cartload of veris here doesn't guarantee you'll like them any more than meeting a total newbie means they'll be a shit show. "

This is good advice.

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By *teelballsMan
4 weeks ago

orpington

My view would be that if the person sounds interesting then i would invest an hour in going to see . What’s the worst that can happen ?

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By *oodpeckerMan
4 weeks ago

Visiting


"My view would be that if the person sounds interesting then i would invest an hour in going to see . What’s the worst that can happen ?"

This is bad advice.

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By *teelballsMan
4 weeks ago

orpington


"My view would be that if the person sounds interesting then i would invest an hour in going to see . What’s the worst that can happen ?

This is bad advice."

It’s not advice, i am merely saying what i would do.

As far as i understand he may possibly have told a lie but really doesn’t make him the mad axe murderer.

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
4 weeks ago

Bargoed

The trouble is, as interesting as verifications are and nice to read, not everyone gives/receives them.

I've seen profiles where they say they dont give or expect verifications as its no one's business who they have met. I know you have the option of not displaying them too.

We've had meets where we gave a verification but didn't get one back.

Plus fab guys isn't the only place online where guys meet up from.

I've had more meets via the G app than here from guys who aren't on fab, does that make me less genuine?

As you've spoken on the phone that is definitely a plus, but I'd message and express your concerns and maybe meet for a coffee first then take it from there.

If hes genuine then it shouldn't be a problem

I know you've said its not going to happen now, but message again and see what happens.

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By *0yguyMan
4 weeks ago

Cumbria

Just make sure somebody knows where you are going and when you might be back.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago


"My view would be that if the person sounds interesting then i would invest an hour in going to see . What’s the worst that can happen ?"

They could turn out to be another Dennis Nilsen!!!

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By *lexieMan
4 weeks ago

Just north of Southampton


"Thank you all for the advice. I've gone with my gut instinct, and told him its not going to happen."

ffs, if you any security concerns on a first meet... then meet in a public place first. Tell him out front, you have concerns; if he won't agree to meet in a pub or cafe... bail out!

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By *im le2Man
4 weeks ago

aylestone leic

When I first joined many many years ago I'd met half a dozen men before I got my first verification. Like me none of the guys had verification so couldn't do me. When I did get verified I went back and verified all the guys I'd met. Only a couple verified me back. Some guys will never verify unless you ask.

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By *amagedgoodsMan
4 weeks ago

Halstead/ Karsiyaka N. Cyprus

I had verifications on my first profile which somehow dissappeared, no one has bothered since then

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