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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Tidworth

I find it so frustratingly difficult meeting, what with having the wife and unable to ever accommodate. If they don’t either then I’m basically stuck with meeting outside (which I’m not a big fan of). I’d share the costs of a room but with it already being difficult getting away that too is difficult. What do others do?

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By *oxleyMan
8 weeks ago

Wetherby

Day Use room

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By *otcleanguyMan
8 weeks ago

Manchester

Usually at guys who can host

Sometimes a third guy who lets me use his place for sex

Occasionally book a hotel - Dayuse is good

I never host and never play in the car

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
8 weeks ago

Visiting

Try finding a sauna you can reach. Loads of marrieds in there

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By *dstefiMan
8 weeks ago

Solihull

I'm honest with my wife that I'm bisexual and like cock.

She naturally wants me to be safe, not invite headcases into our life and for me not to bring it home so I can't accommodate either, but she is understanding of my needs.

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By *ylonfun72Man
8 weeks ago

Douglas


"I'm honest with my wife that I'm bisexual and like cock.

She naturally wants me to be safe, not invite headcases into our life and for me not to bring it home so I can't accommodate either, but she is understanding of my needs."

Exactly the same situation for me.

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Tidworth

Would be solved if mine was as understanding but she definitely wouldn’t be. Our daughter is out as lesbian and that’s no issue for her but your partner coming out as bi is a different kettle of fish… hmm, have to think about sauna

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By *i_guy_WBayMan
8 weeks ago

Whitley Bay


"I'm honest with my wife that I'm bisexual and like cock.

She naturally wants me to be safe, not invite headcases into our life and for me not to bring it home so I can't accommodate either, but she is understanding of my needs."

Same here, wife and I have been Non Monogamous for decades and are both bisexual, we are very open about our sexuality and sexual needs. We have a long standing rule we don’t bring dates home so always meet at their place, a hotel, outdoors or a sex club/sauna

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By *jh59Man
8 weeks ago

Stoke Golding

I'm retired but wife still works ,hence plenty of time to meet

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By *ollo007Man
8 weeks ago

Pontefract

Very rarely unfortunately. It's been over six months since my last cock fun ( my first mmm). The only regular time I get free every week and I can't accommodate is not ideal for most guys ( midweek afternoon). And other than that it's usually a last minute opportunity that's usually not ideal for my friends here.

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By *ucker.27Man
8 weeks ago

Swansea West

On the really rare occasions with guys who can accom

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By *teve811Man
8 weeks ago

Newport

It is difficult! As others have said day use hotels are good, someone who can accommodate is great but there are a load of timewasters who promise to meet and never show up. Like others I never meet outdoors or in the car, so my best option is a hotel.

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By *aceyisback2Man
8 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I retired 4 years ago and could accommodate daytime weekdays

My wife has now retired total stop to my fun it's really difficult and can't believe how much I miss the meets with some lovely genuine guys

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By *eon7Man
8 weeks ago

Swadlincote

My wife knows and doesn’t mind but can’t bring anyone home.

I have no objections to her going out with other guys. It works quite well as honest with each other

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8 weeks ago

With difficulty my Mrs wants to know everything she is a bit of a control frek

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By *till watersMan
8 weeks ago

Stirchley

Very difficult, especially as my wife is now permanently at home

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
8 weeks ago

Tidworth


"I'm retired but wife still works ,hence plenty of time to meet "
My wife did work, which is how I’d managed to meet the few I have met (all of 2 guys in 2 years!) but since being made redundant I’ve found it so difficult to hook up again. Been waiting an absolute age to be fucked, and fuck, for the first time and it’s so frustrating

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By *loudnineMan
8 weeks ago

Hereford/Powys

Its so difficult being both at home all day.

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By *ornymwellbiMan
8 weeks ago

Motherwell

When Mrs and stepdau are staying at her sisters it's play time lol

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By *ayhubbyMan
8 weeks ago

liverpool

Any time I can I try to meet … even a quick meet to suck

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By *artin1963Man
7 weeks ago

London

Married here but love a guy to cum with.

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By *evanianMan
7 weeks ago

Gogledd Ddwyrain Cymru

How do all you married men meet?

Ans = With due caution and discretion!

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By *amsoonMan
7 weeks ago

stornoway

My wife knows and accepts my sexuality. Due to where we live she is fine with me having men here to meet with me only being very bi herself.

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By *oxmenMan
7 weeks ago

east kilbride

Still trying to make the move and meet a guy, done plenty on cam and just started swapping stuff last couple of month.

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By *ornycheating maleMan
7 weeks ago

Bolton

Sneak

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By *arrogateDadMan
7 weeks ago

Harrogate

Mainly through contacting Sexy Guys on here & irregular Sauna visits. I can travel for meets & sometimes Accom - my Mrs is out fairly regularly meeting friends etc & works a part time job. I work from home most days now.

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By *excessMan
7 weeks ago

Sleaford

I have a group of local guys who are reliable, flexible and all accommodate.

Isn't always possible to meet but I just enjoy the opportunity when I can.

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By *ike 57Man
7 weeks ago

clonmel

Sauna visits..much fun to be had in them?

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By *ndtimeMan
7 weeks ago

spalding

I work away so stay in hotels more than I’m at home most weeks, makes it a lot easier to have fun

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By *aseMan
7 weeks ago

Gloucester

I told my partner I’m bi she said do whatever makes you happy so she meets bi men and loves it problem solved

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By *bloxhamMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow

They fuckin cheat. Simples.

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By *tar33Man
7 weeks ago

North London (outer)

I'm retired but regularly have ad-hoc work that takes me all over the place, mainly if different London locations.

Quite often these jobs can mean long, 12 hour days, sometimes I'm only out of the house for 4 hours and I only really like a couple of jobs a week.

Some of the jobs only come in the night before, and only I know if they're genuine or not.

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By *anDadBodMan
7 weeks ago

Speke

Just let the wife know i’m heading out for sex 👍🏻

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By *ardy62Man
7 weeks ago

Weymouth


"I'm retired but wife still works ,hence plenty of time to meet "

Same here

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By *ndtimeMan
7 weeks ago

spalding


"They fuckin cheat. Simples. "

Some do it with full permission…

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By *orthfieldsnickMan
7 weeks ago

West London

With difficulty

I only play when my wife’s away and the other guy can accommodate

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

She does go out randomly eg seeing friends, mother etc but they’re such random short notice trips I can never seem to find anyone around right then when I’m free. If only she’d get another job ☹️

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By *radie73Man
7 weeks ago

Aberdeen

100% it’s a struggle . Trying to balance work and home life means very little free time

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By *ubtitsMan
7 weeks ago

hyde

Similar position married look after grandchildren had more time when I was working lol

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By *est cock suckerMan
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

My wife works 8am till 5pm i work shifts so get a few hours alone to suck guys off at mine while she at work

When shes away with the girls I get guys over to small group gatherings

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By *wbtmMan
7 weeks ago

South west


"She does go out randomly eg seeing friends, mother etc but they’re such random short notice trips I can never seem to find anyone around right then when I’m free. If only she’d get another job ☹️ "

And if you do know sometimes in advance, and try and arrange something, then they change their plans so you posshave to cancel, which then make you appear as a time waster. This happened to me just 10 minutes ago, fortunately the guy I was meeting understands my situation, but it's don't,very frustrating for everyone.

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By *erasusMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow


"She does go out randomly eg seeing friends, mother etc but they’re such random short notice trips I can never seem to find anyone around right then when I’m free. If only she’d get another job ☹️

And if you do know sometimes in advance, and try and arrange something, then they change their plans so you posshave to cancel, which then make you appear as a time waster. This happened to me just 10 minutes ago, fortunately the guy I was meeting understands my situation, but it's don't,very frustrating for everyone. "

Exactly this 👆🏻

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By *lymouth guy 55Man
7 weeks ago

south glos

So honesty is the best policy. I think you are one of the lucky ones though.

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By *EE96Man
7 weeks ago

Folkestone

With difficulty. Ok if a mate can occasionally host. Usually stuck to weekdays only. Otherwise a quick trip to the woods instead of the gym. A rare trip to a sauna if I can get an excuse to be out long enough as none local.

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By *ernne2Man
7 weeks ago

shoebury

I guess the easy way for you gents is to find someone on here that enjoys the same things as you and can accomadate

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By *igray999Man
7 weeks ago

Southampton

In the past used to stop at public loos on way home from work. Used to have a few regular guys waiting to use me.

Now harder, get to play when she's away at friends or if i go out for a bit.

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By *eversayNever200Man
7 weeks ago

Kendal

Join a club which means you can be legitimately out at night. Encourage potential players to join too. Problem solved.

I also used to request viewings of commercial property after office hours, hoping they would lend me a key to have a look. Then I’d take a guy with me for fun.

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By *luvnylonstockingsTV/TS
7 weeks ago

portsmouth

Ive found the sauna is my go too,dress in my own time and get very rewarded for my efforts

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By *eversayNever200Man
7 weeks ago

Kendal

Sauna is ideal really but it’s a long way to my nearest one in Carlisle. I’ve been to Northwich once & that was really good fun. Very liberating.

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By *arriedbiMan
7 weeks ago

Aldershot

Saturday usually my pub day so that's my only chance

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By *ittlecock321Man
7 weeks ago

Southwell

It is difficult

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

Mine has actually just now decided to go to a class Tuesday morning so potentially will have an hour and a half free. Chances of finding a hook-up… 🤔

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By *iMarried24Man
7 weeks ago

Devon

I used to have fun in the London adult cinemas when they were open. I think there was always a very high percentage of married men that used them. They were perfect for play without needing to accommodate.

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By *0yguyMan
7 weeks ago

Cumbria


"Sauna is ideal really but it’s a long way to my nearest one in Carlisle. I’ve been to Northwich once & that was really good fun. Very liberating."

I could tell NeversayNever200 somewhere local to Kendal……. but he’s blocked me . His loss.

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By *tokerY2OMan
7 weeks ago

Bournemouth

I have a few married FB that I host but TBH most married guys make do with cruising/cottaging/car meets.

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By *DPDRTMan
7 weeks ago

Bristol

Fortunately, I have met a few guys from Fabguys, who are now close friends. They can accommodate, or if not we meet outdoor in the summer or sauna in the winter.

I have a few ficticious " ex- workmates " and that is who I meet up with, when I'm actually meeting my gay sex friends.

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By *orkDefenderMan
7 weeks ago

Wakefield

Very carefully

With good planning

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By *eefandfurMan
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Shame the coal mines aren't still open. Easy fun in the showers after a shift.

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By *uffolkbiguy69Man
7 weeks ago

Newmarket


"Fortunately, I have met a few guys from Fabguys, who are now close friends. They can accommodate, or if not we meet outdoor in the summer or sauna in the winter.

I have a few ficticious " ex- workmates " and that is who I meet up with, when I'm actually meeting my gay sex friends. "

I could have written this. I am thinking about taking up metal detecting as a hobby, so that I will have more opportunities to be in remote wooded areas

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By *eefandfurMan
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"Fortunately, I have met a few guys from Fabguys, who are now close friends. They can accommodate, or if not we meet outdoor in the summer or sauna in the winter.

I have a few ficticious " ex- workmates " and that is who I meet up with, when I'm actually meeting my gay sex friends.

I could have written this. I am thinking about taking up metal detecting as a hobby, so that I will have more opportunities to be in remote wooded areas "

Remember to take your metal detector with you when you leave.

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By *lluredByMatureMan
7 weeks ago

Glasgow

Like a few others I see in this thread I'm fortunate that my wife knows I'm bisexual and is supportive of it. As long as I'm open with her about what I'm doing and safe she doesn't mind. She doesn't want me inviting strangers to the house though which is fair enough. If I'm lucky enough to find a guy for more regular meets she would probably be ok with me accomodating.

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By *hades Of GreyMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds


"How do all you married men meet?"

Saunas are great places to meet.

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By *weetpee9853Man
7 weeks ago

Exeter

The sauna or got day off in week play when mrs at work.but not at home

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth


"How do all you married men meet?

Saunas are great places to meet. "

Although apprehensive I’d love to visit a sauna as I’m near Touch in Swindon. Again, presently lucky to get an hour or two free from the mrs once a week much less a morning or an afternoon. Such is life… oh to swap wives with one of those understanding ones mentioned above

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By *dstefiMan
7 weeks ago

Solihull


"Such is life… oh to swap wives with one of those understanding ones mentioned above "

You're not having mine, she's brilliant and a keeper.

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By *uriousguy18Man
7 weeks ago

Goole

Outdoors, theirs, van, zometimes mine

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By *PH1956Man
7 weeks ago

Colchester

With detailed planning!

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By *okiak69Man
7 weeks ago

Felixstowe

Very discreetly and not often!

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By *obbieg60Man
7 weeks ago

Nr Faversham

I used to be a rep and was able meet quite often as I ran my own diary. I now have a job with set hours things are more difficult. Usually have to wait until wife is having a day out so I can visit a gent who hosts.

What is really frustrating is when a meet gets cancelled at last minute !!!!! Grrrr

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth


"I used to be a rep and was able meet quite often as I ran my own diary. I now have a job with set hours things are more difficult. Usually have to wait until wife is having a day out so I can visit a gent who hosts.

What is really frustrating is when a meet gets cancelled at last minute !!!!! Grrrr"
Yeah, had a few of them, taking up what precious little valuable time I already have 😡

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By *ust looking.Man
7 weeks ago

clacton.

I work random shifts,

So its fairly easy, or on a local nudist beach,

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By *ustPeekinMan
7 weeks ago

Alresford

With planning!

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

Woo hoo, she’s actually going out for an hour ish tomorrow morning. If anyone local to me is up for it…

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By *owerplay823Man
7 weeks ago

Old Town

Not as often as I’d like

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By *ammy57TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Stevenage and Telford

Planning helps, as dose a shared hobby.

Getting time away from a possessive wife is hard. But if it's something she hates then it can work well. Mind you if all the other guy wants is a fuck and go then he probably not interested in anything that complex!!

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By *hubbyGinger76Man
7 weeks ago

Halesowen

Getting out the house without being questioned why is difficult, I went for a walk yesterday to see how long it was before getting a call. Lasted 15 mins.

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By *eepeter4Man
7 weeks ago

Bournemouth

In a decree Waitrose car park on a Friday morning while the wife is doing the weekly food shop.

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By *anillamanMan
7 weeks ago

Dalbeattie


"I retired 4 years ago and could accommodate daytime weekdays

My wife has now retired total stop to my fun it's really difficult and can't believe how much I miss the meets with some lovely genuine guys "

My position exactly!

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By *offeenosugarMan
7 weeks ago

Over you knee

Mine too but 3 student kids who always seem home is a problem

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By *illmymouth300Man
7 weeks ago

fleckney

Wait until she is going out. Not ideal because not always someone wanting to meet

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

Well, not a single offer for a rare morning away from the wife tomorrow so far… probably be months before I get another opportunity

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By *irralGuy20Man
7 weeks ago

Wirral

Try & find guys who can accommodate or ones happy to go to hotels with you.

It also helped that I confessed to my bi curiosity and she was pretty cool with it.

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By *d_deeTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chester

Most only meet midweek, if they are doing a job that let's them travel, or self employed.

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By *aucey04TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Bletchingley

My wife works so since I retired meeting has become So So much easier.

I can now 'play' and can accommodate most weekday daytimes

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By *eilcl59Man
7 weeks ago

Hartlebury

I'm lucky .I work in small company and alone lot of the time .I've met a few here. .always seem to get cock pushed down my throat. Anyone passing Hartlebury cum say hi

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By *lumb30Man
7 weeks ago

Warrington

On snapchat haha. I've only been with one man as it's just too hard atm

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By *outh Brum cocksuckerMan
7 weeks ago

Birmingham

I can only travel to meets and meet other men who can accommodate which makes things difficult .

I have done car and outdoor meets I love car meets .I occasionally use a hotel on my own so I will accom and see if I can attract local lads to my room.TBF as a cocksucker being able to accom greatly helps the frequency of meets.There are lots of married straight(ISH) men who are looking for a blowjob on the DL .They all want to travel.

Tbh HS2 has helped lots of workmen with hotel rooms .Their away from wife looking for some male company while away .

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By *urious912Man
7 weeks ago

Bognor/Chi

I have only had one meet with a guy, which was when I was on a training course and stayed in a hotel.

However, I have had a female FWB and of course had to sneak around a bit.. made excuses, stayed late at work, met “friends” for a drink down the pub, booked days off work and said it was a training course and so on.

You almost have to live a double life when you are married and want the extra bits in the side. I hope you find something that works for you! Find someone ina similar situation to save any agro and leave each meet quite fluid… as things can change really quick. The last thing you want to o is raise suspicion of anything.

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By *tevejbMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

You married guys would be better off if you were honest with yourselves and your loved ones!

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By *lackbootzMan
7 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"In a decree Waitrose car park on a Friday morning while the wife is doing the weekly food shop."

Who decreed you should remain in the car park: your wife or Waitrose..?

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By *hloxbeautMan
7 weeks ago

edinburgh

Not easily to meet.when married, you just need to be ready and take your chance i think

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

Well, after scoring a rare hour or so of freedom from the wife tomorrow all I’ve had are offers from way too far away. So if anyone reading the thread just happens to be close ish to me and is free tomorrow…..

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By *enfunMan
7 weeks ago

Ayr

I wait until They are out and I have a few hours alone

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By *arrogateDadMan
7 weeks ago

Harrogate

Er …..make contact with someone you fancy & arrange a time & place to get together. Sometimes Home, Sometimes Away. A very straightforward & time honoured process I find.

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By *anontheroadMan
7 weeks ago

working in the area next month

Gay saunas, go to the one in Swindon or Bristol

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By *ave6565200Man
7 weeks ago

Leeds

It is frustrating not being able to accommodate, you have to take any opportunity to fulfill your desires xxx

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By *onamebiguy99Man
7 weeks ago

Buxton

Not easy, hense why ive only ever had 2 meets in my 15 year marriage, even those filled with guilt. Yet im still looking..hoping opportunities arrise like they had in past...works night out where i had to get room for night or another married guy taking a risk and inviting me round while i was passing on my own.

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By *um4usenowMan
7 weeks ago

Wymondham


"You married guys would be better off if you were honest with yourselves and your loved ones!"

No Steve, we would be divorced!

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By *ilverlicker60Man
7 weeks ago

kettering

With difficulty

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By *noncumdump1969Man
7 weeks ago

Hersham

I accom when wife stays out over night once a week at her sisters so have a free place to meet

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By *ig3Man
7 weeks ago

Maldon

Difficult but not impossible

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By *dinrightnowMan
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I can’t host and very open to car fun but it’s mainly at theirs.

Yeah it’s hard being married with family and working full time, but if you want it enough, you’ll make it happen.

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By *ornyKent48Man
7 weeks ago

kentTown


"I accom when wife stays out over night once a week at her sisters so have a free place to meet "

You sure she’s at her sisters? 😂

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth


"I accom when wife stays out over night once a week at her sisters so have a free place to meet

You sure she’s at her sisters? 😂"
Very suss 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Back when I was married I was lucky to have a second job that meant I was out till late some evenings and sometimes away weekends. So I used to arrange meets and use the excuse I was out working that evening and/or weekend. Luckily we had independant bank accounts, so she never knew I wasnt getting any pay for the nights was was working/not working.

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By *altnsand60Man
7 weeks ago

Dover


"Would be solved if mine was as understanding but she definitely wouldn’t be. Our daughter is out as lesbian and that’s no issue for her but your partner coming out as bi is a different kettle of fish… hmm, have to think about sauna "
I guess the question for you is how you would feel if she came out as Bi and you weren't 🤔

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By *rgnbtmMan
7 weeks ago

Bettystown

Where can you get them??

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By *uriousSwitchMan
7 weeks ago

Basingstoke

It's hard when you have family at home and a full-time job. For me, the answer is usually a regular visit to a London sauna. Obviously, it's a bit hit-and-miss as to who is there, but it's proved to be more reliable, more discreet and more convenient than trying to arrange local meets. I always leave the sauna happy

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By *igfitMan
7 weeks ago

Derby

Yep, saunas are my go to. At least they were, before the Sheffield one shut. That was so handy for the extended lunchtime visit, usually with some excellent lunch!

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By *otnew16Man
7 weeks ago

Dartford

Love my local sauna. Never been short of cock to watch or suck. So relaxed and so much fun, we’re all there for very similar reasons.

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By *aul648kMan
7 weeks ago

Minehead

I use the local swimming pool as an excuse to get out and meet guys, or wait until shes out of the house for a while.

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By *ungandMan
7 weeks ago

daveyhulme

It’s never easy and working shifts make it even harder to meet

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By *ellowbladeMan
7 weeks ago

Grantham

I’m semi retired and she works so that works well

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By *hubbyGinger76Man
7 weeks ago

Halesowen

I might have a chance Friday, unless the Mrs changes her plans, which she often does.

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By *amplighter1Man
7 weeks ago

ryde

Newly retired do bloody impossible to meet now

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By *ocbigMan
7 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Well, not a single offer for a rare morning away from the wife tomorrow so far… probably be months before I get another opportunity "

…and yet soooo many offers when sat next to each other… well maybe not THAT many, but you get my drift

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By *oleMan
7 weeks ago

Douglasa

Meetings when I can outside or in someone with a location

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By *rSmedleyMan
7 weeks ago

Telford

I recently took up swimming twice a week, so I'm hoping I can use that as an excuse

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By *amsoonMan
7 weeks ago

stornoway

Makes it easier when the wife plays too. My wife at 80 has stopped playing but she accepts I have needs so no worries meeting other men

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By *hil96Man
7 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Very rare for me to meet. What with work and home life. Very frustrating

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By *eandevonMan
7 weeks ago

exeter

Home life and working loads. It’s very difficult to find any time for anything else to be honest.

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By *tar33Man
7 weeks ago

North London (outer)


"I recently took up swimming twice a week, so I'm hoping I can use that as an excuse "

I swim 3 or 4 times a week following a long gym session. I don't look for anything when I'm there, but it gives me a chance to arrange to meet for an hour or so afterwards.

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By *otsure03Man
7 weeks ago

witney

In the woods on my weekend walks while everyone else is sleeping

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By *ll foxMan
7 weeks ago

WORKSOP

It’s difficult for me!

Although I can usually find one day of grace , but not every week

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By *eryCuriousGuy OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Tidworth

Jealous of all you guys who have multitude ways and means to meet. Since the wife was made redundant, and my not having any active social life or many friends, I’m lucky to get an hour and half free (less if not local) every other week whilst at a class

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
7 weeks ago

North East

The one thing that stops me from meeting guys

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By *atterupMan
7 weeks ago

rlb

I have a regular fb I meet at his place on his day off and weekends

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By *iuk74Man
7 weeks ago

Leicester

With great difficulty

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By *vionxMan
7 weeks ago

Nuneaton

Still trying to find someone who can accommodate or find a hookup place

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By *wadbisexualMan
7 weeks ago

Castle Gresley

How about this for limited availability, I'm married, i work full time on nights & my mrs is already retired !

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By *ig3Man
7 weeks ago

Maldon

I can occasionally accommodate but only if the wife is working and that's not very often so outdoor or car meets the only other way

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By *rassy-ArseMan
7 weeks ago

Rushden


"I find it so frustratingly difficult meeting, what with having the wife and unable to ever accommodate. If they don’t either then I’m basically stuck with meeting outside (which I’m not a big fan of). I’d share the costs of a room but with it already being difficult getting away that too is difficult. What do others do?"

I hope these married men are tested really well. Their poor wife has done nothing wrong but because they can’t get a ‘bit’ at home the men risk her health. Selfish bastards.

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By *aul648kMan
7 weeks ago

Minehead


"I recently took up swimming twice a week, so I'm hoping I can use that as an excuse "

That's my excuse too, And if the guy don't turn up (many don't) I go for a swim, if he does then I go use the swimming pool shower afterwards. xx

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By *rishgigngerMan
7 weeks ago

Ashford


"I find it so frustratingly difficult meeting, what with having the wife and unable to ever accommodate. If they don’t either then I’m basically stuck with meeting outside (which I’m not a big fan of). I’d share the costs of a room but with it already being difficult getting away that too is difficult. What do others do?

I missed the bit where each one of them said they do it bareback 🙈 and if they aren’t getting it at home how are they putting her health at risk ?

I hope these married men are tested really well. Their poor wife has done nothing wrong but because they can’t get a ‘bit’ at home the men risk her health. Selfish bastards."

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By *erscumdumpMan
7 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

Just get a hobby that means you can go out without her, its not exactly complicated.

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By *ornymwellbiMan
7 weeks ago

Motherwell

Use the old going golfing excuse or play when Mrs and stepdau away for weekends

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7 weeks ago

I have 2 regular sissy subs who both accom so meetings quite easy at the moment.

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By *lackbootzMan
7 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"Just get a hobby that means you can go out without her, its not exactly complicated. "

Exactly.

Owl-spotting explains any late night cruising and trips to woods with binoculars.

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By *eemcrMan
7 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm self employed work in the trades so I can arrange meet ups between jobs during the daytime, sometimes get one in during my lunch break at a job.

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By *eorgesdadMan
7 weeks ago

Nottingham

I live on my own so can accommodate anytime but getting genuine men is difficult yesterdays no show blamed me for not turning up and blocked me🥸

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By *erscumdumpMan
7 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers


"Just get a hobby that means you can go out without her, its not exactly complicated.

Exactly.

Owl-spotting explains any late night cruising and trips to woods with binoculars. "

Photography and bird-watching are the 2000s version of pampas grass

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By *enpleasetomeetyouMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds ,kippax

Its hard to meet sometimes , i like regular guys who can accom

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By *lackbootzMan
7 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx


"…yesterdays no show blamed me for not turning up and blocked me🥸…"

So… you thought he was coming to you… but he thought you were coming to him… ..??

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By *IPMANMan
7 weeks ago

West London

In my experience, gay saunas have more than a few happily married curious bisexuals in regular attendance

Saunas should give Nectar points, keep the wife happy

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By *anontheroadMan
7 weeks ago

working in the area next month


"With difficulty my Mrs wants to know everything she is a bit of a control frek"
go to the Greenhouse Sauna and tell her fuck off

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By *amantha CumdumpMan
7 weeks ago

Oldham

Work away a lot so playtime for me then luckily

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By *udepaganMan
7 weeks ago

essex

I use to be able to a lot but sadly with family members working from home I rely on random meets

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By *igroundassMan
7 weeks ago

Fife (KY11)

I made my peace with that from day one. It is what it is, and you have to be happy with any chances you get. The other option is divorce.

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By *ld.fuckerMan
7 weeks ago

Southampton

I rely on guys who can accommodate or starting to try some outdoor fun.

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By *ennysouthMan
7 weeks ago

Bristol

I travel with work so normally look who's around when I'm in the hotel. I went to Stuttgart last year and spent a few hours in a sex cinema sucking and wanking.

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By *ust_havin_funMan
2 weeks ago

mine

As a married guy I'd live to meet more, my problem is not my wife, as she knows and is ok with me meeting guys. My problem is finding an excuse for being out cos of my older kids so they don't ask questions. As much as there are times I could accommodate, I have very nosy neighbours

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By *andy XXXMan
2 weeks ago

Staveley

Down the pub after the game just like everyone

It's the only afternoon with an excuse

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By *ason-DMan
2 weeks ago

Bromsgrove

I live with my teenage granddaughter (my wife died a few years ago and my son who was a single parent sadly passed from pancreatic cancer late last year).

My granddaughter put an app on my phone so that I can see where she is, but alas she can see where I am! I’m going to have to get a burner phone and “accidentally” leave my usual phone at home when I go to meet a guy!

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By *amsoonMan
2 weeks ago

stornoway

My wife is aware of my sexuality and is fine with having men to meet me at home for sex in the evenings now that I have the guest room set up.

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By *ndy52Man
2 weeks ago

Hartlebury

Wife and I have an open marriage. We each see whoever we want. She knows I go to saunas and sex cinemas too. Works well for us

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By *icurious51Man
2 weeks ago

Beverley

I know the feeling never met as can’t accom as married love cam but would love to meet a married guy who cam accom xxx

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By *otsure03Man
2 weeks ago

witney

Very difficult

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

West London

They seem to go to every gay sauna I know of

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By *odge66Man
2 weeks ago

rotherham

My wife knows I'm bi so no issue there, I used to have a van which was great for meets, or I'd have to meet someone who could accommodate

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By *westkinkyMan
2 weeks ago

Southport

Wife and i have different shift patterns so i meet when i can during weekday daytimes

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By *nchsolentMan
2 weeks ago

Fareham

With difficulty!

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By *e25bottomMan
2 weeks ago

Croydon

I'm in the a similar situation to a lot of the other replies. I'm allowed to have sex with men but I'm not allowed to bring anyone to the house. Most of the time I end up travelling to Sailors or LockerRoom because I rarely find a top who can accommodate on here.

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By *eicesterBCMan
2 weeks ago

Leicester

Hotels or sauna

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By *emma xMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Wife constantly here , if goes out I try to hook up but easier to win the lottery x

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By *heffbagMan
2 weeks ago

Rotherham

Work alone so easier for me I guess but yes can be hard . Makes it more worth it when it happens

And more of a piss off when you get ghosted

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By *s12Man
2 weeks ago

Swindon

I have a van with tinted back windows so is quite good for meets and you can meet in supermarkets car parks

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Stay away with work a fair bit so that helps!

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By *moothshyMan
2 weeks ago

A14 West corridor


"I live with my teenage granddaughter (my wife died a few years ago and my son who was a single parent sadly passed from pancreatic cancer late last year).

My granddaughter put an app on my phone so that I can see where she is, but alas she can see where I am! I’m going to have to get a burner phone and “accidentally” leave my usual phone at home when I go to meet a guy!"

What will be your excuse when she rings you, you aren't there to pick up, then you eventually return home to find her and the police standing in your front room because she thought you'd dropped down dead or something? lol

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By *ishop666Man
2 weeks ago

ls19

Don’t see a problem

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

Brighton

I’m arranging a social in Brighton for married bi guys. Interested?

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By *arcus BezzantMan
2 weeks ago

North Ayrshire


"Usually at guys who can host

Sometimes a third guy who lets me use his place for sex

Occasionally book a hotel - Dayuse is good

I never host and never play in the car"

I do this, let guys who can't accommodate use my double bed and bedroom

Started doing it for a teenage workmate (19) and his boyfriend (21) who both lived with their parents.

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By *tar33Man
2 weeks ago

North London (outer)


"I live with my teenage granddaughter (my wife died a few years ago and my son who was a single parent sadly passed from pancreatic cancer late last year).

My granddaughter put an app on my phone so that I can see where she is, but alas she can see where I am! I’m going to have to get a burner phone and “accidentally” leave my usual phone at home when I go to meet a guy!

What will be your excuse when she rings you, you aren't there to pick up, then you eventually return home to find her and the police standing in your front room because she thought you'd dropped down dead or something? lol"

If he takes the SIM out of his usual phone and puts it into the burner phone he won't have that problem. That said, he could just put the phone in flight mode when visiting his 'friend' but in any case I doubt the granddaughter would check on him anyway.

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By *ick_RyderMan
2 weeks ago

lenton

Well usually "we dont".

It is really hard if you cant accommodate

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By *ust4inchesMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

Fight Club …… oops!

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By *ust4inchesMan
2 weeks ago

Shrewsbury


"I find it so frustratingly difficult meeting, what with having the wife and unable to ever accommodate. If they don’t either then I’m basically stuck with meeting outside (which I’m not a big fan of). I’d share the costs of a room but with it already being difficult getting away that too is difficult. What do others do?

I hope these married men are tested really well. Their poor wife has done nothing wrong but because they can’t get a ‘bit’ at home the men risk her health. Selfish bastards."

Are all gay married men 100% faithful or are they selfish bastards too since you are being judgemental.

Look at the number of verifications many gay men on here have and look how many those verifying them have etc.. it’s like a spiders web. Testing is only good for the day it’s done.

The fact that married men find it difficult to get away greatly reduces their contacts, who may incidentally be the gay men with hundreds of verifications from men with loads too. So if you’re going to moralise and be so self righteous at least do it properly.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

Brighton

Bi and married. Best of both.

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