FabGuys.com forum: Bi/Married/DL men

By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

While fab is obviously a means for you to hopefully find your release - do you feel isolated as I’m guessing in your ‘real’ life, you don’t have anyone to discuss your desires etc with, or do you just compartmentalise it and don’t think about things until you’re feeling the need?

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By *uriohornMan
3 weeks ago

Kettering

"While fab is obviously a means for you to hopefully find your release - do you feel isolated as I’m guessing in your ‘real’ life, you don’t have anyone to discuss your desires etc with, or do you just compartmentalise it and don’t think about things until you’re feeling the need?"

Do you find people arent gravitating towards you in the way you would like during family and other social gatherings and events? 🤔

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By *tar33Man
3 weeks ago

North London (outer)

I don't feel isolated at all. I can quite easily find what I want whenever I want either through Fabguys, saunas or from time to time cruising. There's nothing I need to discuss either, I just get on with life and keep myself busy.

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By *fcdTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Southend

DL?

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By *tar33Man
3 weeks ago

North London (outer)

"DL?"

Men on the down low, look it up.

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By *ammy57TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Stevenage

A part of me is hidden and yes I'd love to have pals that accepted the secret part of me.

It's not an issue really I have a whole life apart from it but on the rare occasions where I can be a fem and let a man take the lead in my life it has been hugely reassuring and enjoyable.

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By *mblerMan
3 weeks ago

Goole

I compartmentalise it totally, I fulfill a need and once I have done that I move on, don’t look back and don’t think about it again.

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By *orthfieldsnickMan
3 weeks ago

West London

In compartmentalise it, but fab also helps a lot and I talk to my counsellor about it sometimes

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By *ubtitsMan
3 weeks ago

hyde

I dont tend to overthink things it is what it is and love it on here all the sexy guys the OP is very sexy .

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By *ayhubbyMan
3 weeks ago

liverpool

Try and keep it seperate .. although getting difficult with cravi ng cock more

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"I dont tend to overthink things it is what it is and love it on here all the sexy guys the OP is very sexy ."

Ha that’s kind of you to say x

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By *atchmo_Jizz!Man
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

No I don’t feel isolated, I enjoy having my secret life and I can get action quite easily when I want it.

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By *hrisk75Man
3 weeks ago

gateshead

I resonate with all these comments

While I’m outgoing and sociable I do feel lonely and isolated a lot of the time, I’m not sure if people notice, when I click with someone on here and can chat openly I find it helps a bit

And I do compartmentalise, to a degree that surprises me, sometimes I feel like part of me is actually someone else.

Often overthink…..I do wonder why I’m like this, nature versus nurture and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

99.9% of the time compartmentalise. Occasionally its nearly crossed over into 'real' life and thats a bit of a panic.

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By *oungotter31Man
3 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

If you guys ever need help working through your feelings with a horny 25 year old, let me know!

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By *arriedbiMan
3 weeks ago

Aldershot

I'm lucky as even tho I secretly gay a few close friends know n support me so that helps X all they said was don't hurt wife

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"I resonate with all these comments

While I’m outgoing and sociable I do feel lonely and isolated a lot of the time, I’m not sure if people notice, when I click with someone on here and can chat openly I find it helps a bit

And I do compartmentalise, to a degree that surprises me, sometimes I feel like part of me is actually someone else.

Often overthink…..I do wonder why I’m like this, nature versus nurture and all that."

I think it’s trying to fit into societal norms

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By *PH1956Man
3 weeks ago

Colchester

Although my missus knows I'm Bi she accepts it but doesn't want to the details and my discretion is paramount.

Which makes meets a little difficult as they have to be planned.

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By *excessMan
3 weeks ago

Sleaford

I knew I was bi from about 17-18 and never felt the need to make it public.

Still don't at 59, and I'm perfectly happy in my own skin.

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By *dstefiMan
3 weeks ago

Solihull

I enjoy the chats and banter here and obviously the occasional meets, but feel no need for it to be part of my daily personal or professional life. So I guess I compartmentalise pretty well.

I don't believe anyone who knows me in vanilla life would imagine I'm a cock sucking, shaft riding slut when my lust takes over, and that's probably for the best

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By *uriohornMan
3 weeks ago

Kettering

Do you find people arent gravitating towards you in the way you would like during family and other social gatherings and events? 🤔 "

Please accept my apologies for replying like a facetious cunt.

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By *hil96Man
3 weeks ago

Portsmouth

We all need someone to talk to .xx

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"We all need someone to talk to .xx"

Yeah that was my thinking- it must be harder when it’s a completely hidden other life

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By *arrysmiffffMan
3 weeks ago

Colchester

It’s just my little secret, between 8am and 4pm then when she get home I’m just “ me “ again.

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By *iimmybMan
3 weeks ago

Widnes

I feel fine being bi when I get the urge to be sucked off ill go the sauna or pick someone up of here or g indr the one that iam most thoughtful of is getting exposed so I keep my circle small consisting of married bi guys that like sucking cock and the odd young lads who aint out yet so there's less chance of them outing me

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By *llyxxxMan
3 weeks ago

york

For me it’s just sex I love fucking the wife and her pegging me and I like sucking cock and being fucked by guys I don’t need to discuss it

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By *udgepackMan
3 weeks ago

Manc

I don't feel isolated at all, then again these days I refuse to have friends/partners who don't accept my sexuality - been there done that.

Not everyone who is Bi is married/hides their sexuality

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

No- but the question was more for the ones that are

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By *asha73Man
3 weeks ago

Largs

I have just split from my long term partner and recently told a friend and his wife about my bisexuality, it’s the first time I have told anyone close to me about my double life

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By *eicjaseMan
3 weeks ago

Derby

Definitely compartmentalised.

Most of the time it's not a problem,

BUT..... I have always loved one particular straight friend and find it hard not to talk about him to others or not let him know how I feel about him.

We have been friends for many years and the thought of losing him if, I told him how I feel about him, is too much.

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

I’m sure it’s painful as he’s so near yet unobtainable. But don’t tell him. It would end badly x

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By *ndyfy7Man
3 weeks ago

Fleetwood

Im a professional masseur for men and a lot of guys chat to me about their “situation “ and I listen to them, and advise them if I can

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By *lways horny123Man
3 weeks ago

Salisbury

I hate the fact I am living a lie, not to myself but my wife and family. It's not as easy to just say fuck it and come out saying i prefer cock because I love fanny too, but the hurt they would feel and I would feel ashamed. I often think it would be easier if I was to be knocked over one day so it ends.

Whenever I've had a meet I feel dirty and all I think if is my family but they didn't get a second thought while I was undressing or playing with the cock.

Am I the only one that feels this way?!

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"I hate the fact I am living a lie, not to myself but my wife and family. It's not as easy to just say fuck it and come out saying i prefer cock because I love fanny too, but the hurt they would feel and I would feel ashamed. I often think it would be easier if I was to be knocked over one day so it ends.

Whenever I've had a meet I feel dirty and all I think if is my family but they didn't get a second thought while I was undressing or playing with the cock.

Am I the only one that feels this way?!"

Not at all. I imagine there’s a lot of post nut clarity going on.

I’m gay, but I guess the married/ bi men struggle with being with one and wanting the other and vice versa. That gets compounded when you can’t talk about it too

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By *om9Man
3 weeks ago

Saint Helens

I find it hard my fwb died 2yrs ago after a 10yr romp but there's no one i know who knew her so can't talk about her and still miss her everyday

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By *rient_top OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"I find it hard my fwb died 2yrs ago after a 10yr romp but there's no one i know who knew her so can't talk about her and still miss her everyday "

I’m sorry for your loss x

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