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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X" I couldn’t agree more! | |||
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"Us fellas eat with out eyes. Couldn't agree more. " How many times have you gone out for dinner thinking you’ll have the chicken, maybe even struggling to decide… and then the waiter walks past with a lamb dish for another table that looks incredible, and suddenly, decision made? It’s very much the same on here. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol!" You've got 7 verifications! | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol!" Great posed image, maybe add a few more. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol!" One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. " Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau" He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… " We all “accidentally” end up there, sure, I get it. But what he actually wanted was attention, and he used my post as a stage to make it about himself. And if we’re being honest, that might explain why people don’t exactly rush to meet him. Some people just don’t have that social charm. Conversations quickly circle back to them, their stories, their experiences, always bigger, always louder, rarely listening. It’s exhausting. Zero meets and seven verifications doesn’t exactly scream authenticity either. A picture might earn you the first glance, but everything after that, from message to meeting, from meeting to anything more, comes down to how you make someone feel. Seen. Wanted. Desired. And equally, how you let them do the same to you. As someone said above, men eat with their eyes, but they listen with their ego. We pretend to be tough, but the right words land every time. And yes, let’s be honest, seduction isn’t exactly a national sport here. Compliments get deflected like bullets. But there’s always a way, it’s just about finding the combination that actually works for you. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… " Perhaps they're the elusive "fake" verifications?  | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X" Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet  but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
"Yes, but read the profile, read the verifications. If you want to see and know more, just ask. I know a lot of profiles that have only one or two public photographs but the opportunity is clearly stated to find out and view more. That’s something the gentleman with the single b/w photograph asking above should make clear on his profile if he just wants to stick with that photo. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol!" So those veris from April aren't real then?  | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… Perhaps they're the elusive "fake" verifications? "I think we’ve made this too much about one person. The real conversation is the post itself. Pictures shape perception. That’s not superficial, that’s sociological. From Facebook to Instagram, TikTok to Fabguys, visuals are the first filter. A strong profile becomes a visible profile. People might claim they’re not influenced by social media, yet they still consume curated content daily, whether it’s polished TV, selective news, or well-produced apps. Presentation is everywhere. The issue is that many people don’t realise how easily perception becomes belief. Few ask where information comes from, what angle it carries, or how it’s framed. Factuality, bias, and coverage matter, yet they’re rarely part of everyday conversation. And ironically, there are plenty of platforms that break things down clearly and objectively, if people choose to engage with them. Bringing it back to profiles: a good picture sells because we are visual, emotional creatures. We respond instantly to what we see and how it makes us feel. Since posting earlier, I’ve had over 100 new profile views today, up from around 50 when I started writing. A small percentage were what I’m actually looking for, some were clearly fake, but the majority reflected exactly what I described before. No clear photos. Extreme close-ups. Low-effort shots. Messy environments. Details that signal lack of care, and by extension, lack of trust. It may not be a popular opinion, but it’s an honest one. If even one in ten people take something from it and improve how they present themselves, that’s already a shift. And small shifts, done consistently, are how spaces like this actually evolve and can reach their full potential. | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
"Very well spotted. The negative reactions were expected, especially from those who fit the description. I wasn’t aiming to be liked by everyone. If anything, the response shows that a fair number of people actually agree. That’s enough. On my side, my profile does exactly what it’s meant to do. It reaches the right people. Those who can hold a proper conversation get to see more. It’s a filter, not an accident. At the end of the day, it’s just a strategy. Take what’s useful from it and leave the rest. The negativity can stay with those who enjoy turning everything into social media ping-pong. | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… Perhaps they're the elusive "fake" verifications?
I think we’ve made this too much about one person. The real conversation is the post itself.
Pictures shape perception. That’s not superficial, that’s sociological. From Facebook to Instagram, TikTok to Fabguys, visuals are the first filter. A strong profile becomes a visible profile. People might claim they’re not influenced by social media, yet they still consume curated content daily, whether it’s polished TV, selective news, or well-produced apps. Presentation is everywhere.
The issue is that many people don’t realise how easily perception becomes belief. Few ask where information comes from, what angle it carries, or how it’s framed. Factuality, bias, and coverage matter, yet they’re rarely part of everyday conversation. And ironically, there are plenty of platforms that break things down clearly and objectively, if people choose to engage with them.
Bringing it back to profiles: a good picture sells because we are visual, emotional creatures. We respond instantly to what we see and how it makes us feel. Since posting earlier, I’ve had over 100 new profile views today, up from around 50 when I started writing. A small percentage were what I’m actually looking for, some were clearly fake, but the majority reflected exactly what I described before.
No clear photos. Extreme close-ups. Low-effort shots. Messy environments. Details that signal lack of care, and by extension, lack of trust.
It may not be a popular opinion, but it’s an honest one. If even one in ten people take something from it and improve how they present themselves, that’s already a shift. And small shifts, done consistently, are how spaces like this actually evolve and can reach their full potential."An active demonstration in how participation in the forums leads to conversations, which lead to views, which lead to meets. Shove up anpic of 'action' and you're laughing all the way to the bedroom, or wherever else you choose to hump like a rabbit. | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
"Yes, but it's a nice photo with a good hint of knob in his joggers..... I'd risk it for a biscuit 😉 | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Very well spotted. The negative reactions were expected, especially from those who fit the description.
I wasn’t aiming to be liked by everyone. If anything, the response shows that a fair number of people actually agree. That’s enough.
On my side, my profile does exactly what it’s meant to do. It reaches the right people. Those who can hold a proper conversation get to see more. It’s a filter, not an accident.
At the end of the day, it’s just a strategy. Take what’s useful from it and leave the rest. The negativity can stay with those who enjoy turning everything into social media ping-pong."Yep, thanks for this interesting thread. I even put one up a few weeks ago about basking in another's glory - so my profile isn't amazing and I probably do myself a bit of a disservice by how it is and I get a few views a day, and maybe a few more and been active on the forum and made some salient and/or interesting point. But my views skyrocket when one particular guy posts a photo on his profile, he's mid 60s, hot AF, and I meet him as often as our schedules align. Why do my views surge when he posts a pic? Because people flock to his profile which has stunning photos on it and is well laid out and they view his verifications to see just who he spends his time with - I'm one of those, so they view me too to see just what is floating his boat. I find that really interesting. | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X" What the real nerds are wondering here is: is that a Linn LP12 turntable strategically placed in your background? | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Very well spotted. The negative reactions were expected, especially from those who fit the description.
I wasn’t aiming to be liked by everyone. If anything, the response shows that a fair number of people actually agree. That’s enough.
On my side, my profile does exactly what it’s meant to do. It reaches the right people. Those who can hold a proper conversation get to see more. It’s a filter, not an accident.
At the end of the day, it’s just a strategy. Take what’s useful from it and leave the rest. The negativity can stay with those who enjoy turning everything into social media ping-pong."I suspected that your single pic, conveniently illustrating some of the pitfalls mentioned in your original post was part of your "strategy" (in this thread) and there's not much to disagree with in your proffered advice. I found the irony amusing, especially since I'm fairly sure that I've seen earlier versions of your profile WITH photos? 🤔 | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
"If only decency was still considered attractive, and “shoot yer muck ower ma coupon” wasn’t seen as a solid opening line. I completely understand discretion. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things private. A picture can be shared one to one, when there’s mutual interest and a bit of trust. Personally, I’d rather keep my body for people I’d actually want to see naked myself. Yes, I only have one photo on my profile. That’s intentional. I prefer a more controlled kind of exhibitionism, where I know who I’m sharing with. If you have no photos, you don’t get access. Simple as that. Effort should go both ways. I’m not here to be a free-for-all for men who can’t take responsibility or come to terms with their own desires. But I am here to say this: it’s completely fine to be sexy. It’s fine to be bigger, slimmer, hairy, smooth, any skin colour. Own it. What I don’t understand is the mismatch. Why lead with a close-up and hide everything else, then expect reality to somehow work in your favour when you meet? Attraction doesn’t appear out of thin air just because you’ve shown up. At the same time, I’ll always back men who are trying to build confidence, trust themselves more, and feel comfortable in their own skin. Nobody deserves to be torn down by people who body shame for entertainment. Confidence grows when you stop hiding and start owning who you are. | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Yes, but it's a nice photo with a good hint of knob in his joggers..... I'd risk it for a biscuit 😉"I too noticed the "hint of knob" 👀😅 | |||
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"It's hard to educate those who aren't interested or want critique though. The sheer laziness in the vast majority of pics here kind of proves the point. I sometimes show a face pic, but always body shots otherwise, I only have a couple of cock closeups, and take a bit of care with lighting, focus, cropping and backgrounds and usually bin a few attempts before settling on a concept I'm happy with. I know I'm one of those demonic lingerie wearers who are crowding all the genuine burly gay chaps out but my snaps do get me more interest than I'd care to handle, even if I'm not in the same league as the girly t-girl superstars of Fab "If your profile gets you what you want, it doesn't matter and you dont need to compare to anyone. They are not you after all. Too much interest can be a bit of a headache tbh (said boastfully but tongue in cheek). | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Very well spotted. The negative reactions were expected, especially from those who fit the description.
I wasn’t aiming to be liked by everyone. If anything, the response shows that a fair number of people actually agree. That’s enough.
On my side, my profile does exactly what it’s meant to do. It reaches the right people. Those who can hold a proper conversation get to see more. It’s a filter, not an accident.
At the end of the day, it’s just a strategy. Take what’s useful from it and leave the rest. The negativity can stay with those who enjoy turning everything into social media ping-pong.
I suspected that your single pic, conveniently illustrating some of the pitfalls mentioned in your original post was part of your "strategy" (in this thread) and there's not much to disagree with in your proffered advice. I found the irony amusing, especially since I'm fairly sure that I've seen earlier versions of your profile WITH photos? 🤔"Yes, I remember you were quite interested in my pictures before. The answer is still no. You’re not what I’m looking for, and even less so now. What puts me off more is the need to turn a straightforward point into conflict. You’ve chosen to ignore what was constructive and instead look for an argument where none was intended. That says enough. It feels less like you’re trying to debate and more like you’re trying to defend yourself, probably because you recognised your own approach in what I described. The post wasn’t an attack. It was meant to be helpful. You chose to take it personally. That reaction speaks for itself. Some people instinctively centre everything around themselves and feel the need to prove a point, even when there isn’t one to prove. I’ve already explained why I present myself the way I do. It’s a choice, and I’m fully entitled to it. | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Yes, but it's a nice photo with a good hint of knob in his joggers..... I'd risk it for a biscuit 😉"Voila, someone got it 😍 | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X What the real nerds are wondering here is: is that a Linn LP12 turntable strategically placed in your background?" Oh, you’re good. Who are you BEAST? | |||
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"I’d appreciate genuine, truthful and blunt advice on what others think of my profile as may need improving as 0 meets since I joined. Starting to think I’m not liked at all lol! One single completely anonymous photo which is cropped to be just a torso so doesn’t give you any shape or balance. You cover your groin with a hand so no goods on show, but no face to see if you were being seductive or coy. With other shots of you, that photo would be fine. With zero other shots, that’s your only descriptor. It doesn’t tell us anything. There is nothing wrong with your profile text. Honest and well-expressed. You’re going to have to find a way to show yourself more than that whilst maintaining discretion, which is perfectly possible. Gurl. You went all Miranda Priestly there…. Chapeau He said he wanted unvarnished critique. 😉 I didn’t comment on the 7 verifications from someone who said he had 0 meets which I note somebody else has now done above. Perhaps they were all accidental verifications… Perhaps they're the elusive "fake" verifications?
I think we’ve made this too much about one person. The real conversation is the post itself.
Pictures shape perception. That’s not superficial, that’s sociological. From Facebook to Instagram, TikTok to Fabguys, visuals are the first filter. A strong profile becomes a visible profile. People might claim they’re not influenced by social media, yet they still consume curated content daily, whether it’s polished TV, selective news, or well-produced apps. Presentation is everywhere.
The issue is that many people don’t realise how easily perception becomes belief. Few ask where information comes from, what angle it carries, or how it’s framed. Factuality, bias, and coverage matter, yet they’re rarely part of everyday conversation. And ironically, there are plenty of platforms that break things down clearly and objectively, if people choose to engage with them.
Bringing it back to profiles: a good picture sells because we are visual, emotional creatures. We respond instantly to what we see and how it makes us feel. Since posting earlier, I’ve had over 100 new profile views today, up from around 50 when I started writing. A small percentage were what I’m actually looking for, some were clearly fake, but the majority reflected exactly what I described before.
No clear photos. Extreme close-ups. Low-effort shots. Messy environments. Details that signal lack of care, and by extension, lack of trust.
It may not be a popular opinion, but it’s an honest one. If even one in ten people take something from it and improve how they present themselves, that’s already a shift. And small shifts, done consistently, are how spaces like this actually evolve and can reach their full potential.
An active demonstration in how participation in the forums leads to conversations, which lead to views, which lead to meets. Shove up anpic of 'action' and you're laughing all the way to the bedroom, or wherever else you choose to hump like a rabbit."People seem to forget that behind every profile picture there is still a human being. Some of us even come with a bit of intellect attached. I’m here to demolish that assumption 😜. The internet has turned into a space where negativity travels faster than empathy, and instead of helping each other grow or connect, too many rush to tear down or reduce everything to the lowest denominator. Yes, it’s a sex platform. That doesn’t mean we abandon basic education, self-awareness, or any sense of respect and turn ourselves into one-dimensional creatures driven only by impulse. The saying “the horny man is the dumbest animal” proves itself a little too often around here. A bit of kindness goes a long way. The person on the other side might simply be looking for a moment of relief after a difficult day. What you do and how you do it is your choice, but it should never come at the expense of others’ safety, dignity, or the wider community, especially in a time where hostility and homophobia are creeping back into spaces that should feel safe. | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
If only decency was still considered attractive, and “shoot yer muck ower ma coupon” wasn’t seen as a solid opening line.
I completely understand discretion. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things private. A picture can be shared one to one, when there’s mutual interest and a bit of trust. Personally, I’d rather keep my body for people I’d actually want to see naked myself.
Yes, I only have one photo on my profile. That’s intentional. I prefer a more controlled kind of exhibitionism, where I know who I’m sharing with. If you have no photos, you don’t get access. Simple as that. Effort should go both ways.
I’m not here to be a free-for-all for men who can’t take responsibility or come to terms with their own desires. But I am here to say this: it’s completely fine to be sexy. It’s fine to be bigger, slimmer, hairy, smooth, any skin colour. Own it.
What I don’t understand is the mismatch. Why lead with a close-up and hide everything else, then expect reality to somehow work in your favour when you meet? Attraction doesn’t appear out of thin air just because you’ve shown up.
At the same time, I’ll always back men who are trying to build confidence, trust themselves more, and feel comfortable in their own skin. Nobody deserves to be torn down by people who body shame for entertainment. Confidence grows when you stop hiding and start owning who you are."I quite like that pic of my bum!!!! | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Mate, you've got one public pic on your profile and its not the greatest if we are being honest. Sort yourself out before slagging others." We already had this chat above. Read everything before you tell people to “sort themselves up”. And no, I’m not your mate. Have a lovely day. | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
If only decency was still considered attractive, and “shoot yer muck ower ma coupon” wasn’t seen as a solid opening line.
I completely understand discretion. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things private. A picture can be shared one to one, when there’s mutual interest and a bit of trust. Personally, I’d rather keep my body for people I’d actually want to see naked myself.
Yes, I only have one photo on my profile. That’s intentional. I prefer a more controlled kind of exhibitionism, where I know who I’m sharing with. If you have no photos, you don’t get access. Simple as that. Effort should go both ways.
I’m not here to be a free-for-all for men who can’t take responsibility or come to terms with their own desires. But I am here to say this: it’s completely fine to be sexy. It’s fine to be bigger, slimmer, hairy, smooth, any skin colour. Own it.
What I don’t understand is the mismatch. Why lead with a close-up and hide everything else, then expect reality to somehow work in your favour when you meet? Attraction doesn’t appear out of thin air just because you’ve shown up.
At the same time, I’ll always back men who are trying to build confidence, trust themselves more, and feel comfortable in their own skin. Nobody deserves to be torn down by people who body shame for entertainment. Confidence grows when you stop hiding and start owning who you are.
I quite like that pic of my bum!!!! "I must say, it does confirm my point above. Well done | |||
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"Not everyone here knows how to sell themselves. Some just take 158 photos of the same erection and post it on repeat, as if people won’t notice. But once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. The truth is, some guys absolutely nail their shots and you can tell by how much attention they get. And here’s the thing: there’s a much bigger audience than people think. Plenty of men are into older guys, bigger bodies, dad bods… more than you’d expect. A lot of men hide their bodies and focus only on one thing because they’re afraid of being judged. But there’s nothing wrong with your body. Some people will like it, some won’t, that’s just reality. The ones who do? They want to see you. A good, sexy photo sells. Show a bit more. Free the nip, free the body. At the end of the day, people aren’t hooking up with just one part, they’re drawn to the whole person." Speak for yourself, it works for me | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
"But a very (in my opinion) sugestive, fully clothed picture. It kind of makes you want to peel away the layers and discover whatever is temptingly covered in plain sight. | |||
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"I deleted my original response as it wasnt worded great. But then saw you had already replied. I just found someone slating others for lack of, or poor quaility pictures, whennthry onky have one poor quality picture on display themselves was a bit hypocritical. I know my pics are shit. But i'm also not criticising others for theirs. Not everyone is an extrovert. A lot of people on here are pribably very shy about this whole thing and are afraid to show too much. I do agree however, that they then shouldnt complain about not getting any interest. That ok MATE?" I’m not here to judge your comment. My intention was to offer something useful, based on years of experience in this field. I expected a mix of reactions, and as you’ve seen, most have been positive so far. You’re entitled to feel offended, of course. That’s your call. I can’t assess your reasoning because I don’t know your perspective, but if this felt like a personal attack, it might be worth reflecting on why. There’s nothing inherently wrong with anyone on this platform. Even those who come across as harsh or engage in body shaming usually carry context we don’t see. That’s exactly why a bit of awareness matters, so we don’t end up misrepresenting ourselves or others. To be clear, this was intended as a helpful thread, not a critique. I’ll leave it there and wish you well. As for your photos, there’s no need for me to criticise them. Not everyone approaches this with the same level of professional background or recognition, and that’s perfectly fine. | |||
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"All this unsolicited (though not entirely useless) advice from a user currently displaying one, fully clothed, pic in profile!
Very well spotted. The negative reactions were expected, especially from those who fit the description.
I wasn’t aiming to be liked by everyone. If anything, the response shows that a fair number of people actually agree. That’s enough.
On my side, my profile does exactly what it’s meant to do. It reaches the right people. Those who can hold a proper conversation get to see more. It’s a filter, not an accident.
At the end of the day, it’s just a strategy. Take what’s useful from it and leave the rest. The negativity can stay with those who enjoy turning everything into social media ping-pong.
I suspected that your single pic, conveniently illustrating some of the pitfalls mentioned in your original post was part of your "strategy" (in this thread) and there's not much to disagree with in your proffered advice. I found the irony amusing, especially since I'm fairly sure that I've seen earlier versions of your profile WITH photos? 🤔
Yes, I remember you were quite interested in my pictures before. The answer is still no. You’re not what I’m looking for, and even less so now.
What puts me off more is the need to turn a straightforward point into conflict. You’ve chosen to ignore what was constructive and instead look for an argument where none was intended. That says enough.
It feels less like you’re trying to debate and more like you’re trying to defend yourself, probably because you recognised your own approach in what I described. The post wasn’t an attack. It was meant to be helpful. You chose to take it personally.
That reaction speaks for itself. Some people instinctively centre everything around themselves and feel the need to prove a point, even when there isn’t one to prove.
I’ve already explained why I present myself the way I do. It’s a choice, and I’m fully entitled to it."You are SO wide of(f) the mark! Lol, did I Fab something which you mistook as interest, rather than a simple compliment (IF I did?)? It seems that you are the only one (I suppose, unsurprisingly) turning anything into a conflict. I ignored nothing and you've somehow imagined that you made straightforward and constructive points (not everyone will feel that way). Adding more irony, I thought you made many sensible points, illustrated by my "not entirely useless" comment 
Feel free to feel whatever you like but you are, quite simply, wrong in thinking I "chose to take it personally." 🤣
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"Not everyone here knows how to sell themselves. Some just take 158 photos of the same erection and post it on repeat, as if people won’t notice. But once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. The truth is, some guys absolutely nail their shots and you can tell by how much attention they get. And here’s the thing: there’s a much bigger audience than people think. Plenty of men are into older guys, bigger bodies, dad bods… more than you’d expect. A lot of men hide their bodies and focus only on one thing because they’re afraid of being judged. But there’s nothing wrong with your body. Some people will like it, some won’t, that’s just reality. The ones who do? They want to see you. A good, sexy photo sells. Show a bit more. Free the nip, free the body. At the end of the day, people aren’t hooking up with just one part, they’re drawn to the whole person. Speak for yourself, it works for me " It’s perfectly fine, we’re all free to take or leave advice. You can choose to be inspired or not. My intention was simply to help, based on experience. What you do with that is entirely up to you. Your opinion doesn’t affect my perspective, just as mine doesn’t have to affect yours. That’s the beauty of it. What does stand out, though, is the choice of tone. When someone leans into pettiness or aggression, it tends to say more about them than anything else. If there’s nothing constructive to add, it’s unlikely it’s coming from a particularly positive place. I genuinely hope you find that, because it makes everything, including interactions like this, a lot better. In the meantime, I’ll leave the space open for those who see value in shared advice and want to take something from it. | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
If only decency was still considered attractive, and “shoot yer muck ower ma coupon” wasn’t seen as a solid opening line.
I completely understand discretion. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things private. A picture can be shared one to one, when there’s mutual interest and a bit of trust. Personally, I’d rather keep my body for people I’d actually want to see naked myself.
Yes, I only have one photo on my profile. That’s intentional. I prefer a more controlled kind of exhibitionism, where I know who I’m sharing with. If you have no photos, you don’t get access. Simple as that. Effort should go both ways.
I’m not here to be a free-for-all for men who can’t take responsibility or come to terms with their own desires. But I am here to say this: it’s completely fine to be sexy. It’s fine to be bigger, slimmer, hairy, smooth, any skin colour. Own it.
What I don’t understand is the mismatch. Why lead with a close-up and hide everything else, then expect reality to somehow work in your favour when you meet? Attraction doesn’t appear out of thin air just because you’ve shown up.
At the same time, I’ll always back men who are trying to build confidence, trust themselves more, and feel comfortable in their own skin. Nobody deserves to be torn down by people who body shame for entertainment. Confidence grows when you stop hiding and start owning who you are.
I quite like that pic of my bum!!!!
I must say, it does confirm my point above. Well done "I don't see it as a missmatch though, i think that's probably over thinking it as everything else isn't hidden. I must admit that i am more seated in reality, in myself and others so that probably feeds into what i put out there and how i view things. I prefer that to style over substance. A lot of the original post rings true though i'd add, if there was a restaurant and there was a picture of an enticing meal but on entering i found the establishment empty, i'd be equally disappointed. If you put your original post alongside another thread you initiated - "Show us your big belly" that would appear more of a missmatch? In one you say "show me your big belly", the other you say "Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of come close" You wanted to be shown a big belly, i have a profile pic of my big ol' arse. Its following your remit just a different body part. Unless the big belly you wished to be shown was behind a torso sized folding hand fan, hidden in half shadow, or hinted at behind some sheer muslin? | |||
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"Agreed! I was gonna ready the whole thready but my rotted brain gave up.. but it's absolutely true. I get messages from nearly blank profiles.. no pics.. I simply don't care anyone and end up getting blunt. This paints me in such a bad light as my usual attitude is quite bubbly and upbeat, but damn I'm so tired of being asked for more pictures or something by lazy guys jacking off, holy shit go watch some porn.. I have so many pictures with such a variety and I've barely been a 144p blurry picture of your cock from top down so it looks like a lil mushroom.. "do you wanna meet?" No of course I damn well don't wanna meet you! Excuse the ranting because in all serious I get not having a face picture, but a body or cock pic.. decent ones not cropped and taken from a phone from the early 2000s goes a long way.. Also add SOMETHING to your bio that gives me an idea of how your personality is, sexual or not.. blank slates don't scream 'fun to be with'." Yessssss, yessss, fudging yes. This is exactly what this post is about. Offer what you expect. Ask for what you’re actually bringing to the table. Be polite, be genuine, and take responsibility for it. And by all means, rant. Some will agree, some won’t. That’s the beauty of it. Say your piece, have your moment. If anything, you gave me a laugh, so thank you for that. | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X What the real nerds are wondering here is: is that a Linn LP12 turntable strategically placed in your background? Oh, you’re good. Who are you BEAST?" Nah, just a retired hifi nut who figures somebody from Scotland with a turntable naturally has Tiefenbrun's finest! | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X Totally agree...I could do better though, haven't nailed down my "vibe" yet but i'll put the effort at some point.
But i have put enough up for people to get a realistic idea of what i'm like...it should be fairly obvious i'm a bear with a few extra pounds, bit hairy, probably got a bit of facial hair, and that's what i want guys to be clear about. No surprises lol
Thats what i would like to see about others.
I'd want to see more of a guy than just a cock and a bum hole. We all have things we prefer or not.
And NO pics?? I understand discretion, i don't have face pics on mine but i can give it straight away in chats.
If you have something about your body that is easily identifiable then fair enough but there must be parts of you that you can show.
I'm mulling over adding some 'scene' or action pics to give more of a feel for what i prefer, because if i see that in a profile i find it helps.
If only decency was still considered attractive, and “shoot yer muck ower ma coupon” wasn’t seen as a solid opening line.
I completely understand discretion. There’s nothing wrong with keeping things private. A picture can be shared one to one, when there’s mutual interest and a bit of trust. Personally, I’d rather keep my body for people I’d actually want to see naked myself.
Yes, I only have one photo on my profile. That’s intentional. I prefer a more controlled kind of exhibitionism, where I know who I’m sharing with. If you have no photos, you don’t get access. Simple as that. Effort should go both ways.
I’m not here to be a free-for-all for men who can’t take responsibility or come to terms with their own desires. But I am here to say this: it’s completely fine to be sexy. It’s fine to be bigger, slimmer, hairy, smooth, any skin colour. Own it.
What I don’t understand is the mismatch. Why lead with a close-up and hide everything else, then expect reality to somehow work in your favour when you meet? Attraction doesn’t appear out of thin air just because you’ve shown up.
At the same time, I’ll always back men who are trying to build confidence, trust themselves more, and feel comfortable in their own skin. Nobody deserves to be torn down by people who body shame for entertainment. Confidence grows when you stop hiding and start owning who you are.
I quite like that pic of my bum!!!!
I must say, it does confirm my point above. Well done
I don't see it as a missmatch though, i think that's probably over thinking it as everything else isn't hidden.
I must admit that i am more seated in reality, in myself and others so that probably feeds into what i put out there and how i view things. I prefer that to style over substance.
A lot of the original post rings true though i'd add, if there was a restaurant and there was a picture of an enticing meal but on entering i found the establishment empty, i'd be equally disappointed.
If you put your original post alongside another thread you initiated - "Show us your big belly" that would appear more of a missmatch? In one you say "show me your big belly", the other you say "Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of come close"
You wanted to be shown a big belly, i have a profile pic of my big ol' arse. Its following your remit just a different body part.
Unless the big belly you wished to be shown was behind a torso sized folding hand fan, hidden in half shadow, or hinted at behind some sheer muslin?"Very well pointed, you’ve clearly done your research, chapeau to that. However, both topics are essentially the same subject, just approached differently. Some are written better than others, but both aim to push back against body shaming and raise awareness around dysmorphia, which is a rapidly growing phenomenon. From faux influencers to self-absorbed individuals on these platforms, there are people genuinely struggling, hiding behind heavily edited images and, in doing so, often self-sabotaging their original intention for being here. The restaurant you’re walking into is often a risk you have to take. Thankfully, this website offers a review system that can help guide your decision. Of course, you’re still required to apply a degree of emotional intelligence to filter through them and decide for yourself what is genuine and what isn’t. Sometimes, if the marketing, the music, the interior design, the hygiene, and the overall concept are convincing, it may well be worth giving it a try. You’ll never truly know until you experience it yourself. There is something to be said about allowing yourself to be pleasantly surprised. I’ve personally come across some incredibly good “restaurants” here, where a simple conversation was enough to convince me to make a reservation. And those tend to be the most special ones. Some people are exceptionally skilled at cooking that meat (see what I did there), yet have little interest in, or awareness of, how to turn it into a successful “business”. That’s precisely where my advice comes in. Unfortunately, I’ve also encountered places that were overhyped and overpriced, often praised by those who are content with less and unable to distinguish between quality and quantity. If I’m honest, my previous thread was rather grobian. Perhaps I was just horny 😜 | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X What the real nerds are wondering here is: is that a Linn LP12 turntable strategically placed in your background? Oh, you’re good. Who are you BEAST? Nah, just a retired hifi nut who figures somebody from Scotland with a turntable naturally has Tiefenbrun's finest!" Impressed with your knowledge, and it’s exactly what makes this place genuinely worthwhile. People can actually socialise, discuss, and interact without defaulting to impulse, aggression, or rudeness. That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂" Hmm, dunno, it might get political | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political "Everything is political these days, and people will argue over absolutely anything. There’s less and less rationality, empathy, compassion or sense of community left online, and not much more outside either. People don’t help each other, don’t clean after themselves, don’t do small things that could leave the world a bit better than they found it. It’s all about themselves and their needs. Civic participation is almost non-existent. People expect others, paid by them, to clean the streets, when in reality they could simply hold on to their rubbish for a bit longer and dispose of it properly. It’s small things, but they say a lot. Football used to be something to celebrate and be proud of, now people end up hating their neighbours over the colour of a t-shirt. Religion has always separated communities, even though it teaches love. Gays sometimes hate other gays, straights blame gays to distract from their own issues. Politics use the gays to distract from their corruption. People hate their neighbours for having a different skin colour, or because their parents gave born to them somewhere else. Nationalism is becoming a sort of social illness, and often the most affected are those who have nothing personal to be proud of, so they lean on borrowed identity instead. Unfortunately, everything feels political, so why not acknowledge it. Sometimes it feels like we’re heading straight into a Wall-E kind of world. Maybe I’m one of the few still trying to leave something good behind, because at the core, we are still capable of being beautiful. Unity makes strength, l’union fait la force. Yet politics often benefits from division, from people turning against each other. I’d rather stand with those who are tired, those who feel a bit worn down, those who need a hand to get back up. I’ve said it before, this won’t change much. But if at the end of the day, when this thread disappears into the void, I’ve managed to inspire even one person to shift something, even slightly, then it’s been a successful day. And regarding the thread, go for it. There might be someone out there quietly looking for exactly that kind of advice. | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political "Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform "Please don’t turn this into something political. In a democracy, people are free to support whoever they choose. Back in the 90s, when this was bought it was a different story. Please keep politics out of my threead, there are plenty out there where for people to bite their heads off… 🌺🌼🪻🪷🌹🌈🦄🏳️🌈 | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform "Just in case ....that was me having a bit of fun.. just in case the wink gets missed
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform
Please don’t turn this into something political. In a democracy, people are free to support whoever they choose. Back in the 90s, when this was bought it was a different story. Please keep politics out of my threead, there are plenty out there where for people to bite their heads off… 🌺🌼🪻🪷🌹🌈🦄🏳️🌈"Apologies...consider my bum spanked severely  | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform "Oh, I see what you were doing now, I was a bit slow there. Still, let’s keep politics out of my thread. | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform
Please don’t turn this into something political. In a democracy, people are free to support whoever they choose. Back in the 90s, when this was bought it was a different story. Please keep politics out of my threead, there are plenty out there where for people to bite their heads off… 🌺🌼🪻🪷🌹🌈🦄🏳️🌈
Apologies...consider my bum spanked severely "Amen to that, anytime I’d be delighted to. But please forgive me for I have been slow to your sense of humour. I missed the timing. 💋 | |||
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"Your Photos Are Why You’re Not Getting Laid Plenty of people complain they can’t find sex on here, so here’s some unsolicited, slightly blunt advice. Think of it like being hungry and walking past a restaurant with terrible photos of the food. Even if the food is actually good, you’re probably not going in unless you already know it. That’s your profile. Make people want to click. Close-up dick pics all look the same. Close-up holes all look the same. Random shots between the legs where no one can even tell what they’re looking at because “it’ll do”… it won’t. People choose with their eyes first. If it looks bad, they assume it is bad. Show a bit more. A bit of body, a bit of mood, a bit of “come closer.” Make it feel intentional, not accidental. When someone’s looking, they’re not just focusing on one detail, they’re taking in the whole picture, the energy, the vibe. Not everyone has the “perfect” body, but that’s not the point. Presentation is everything. Make it erotic, make it attractive, make it sell. There’s no point being a Michelin-star experience if your marketing looks like a dodgy takeaway menu. Also, discreet doesn’t mean invisible. There’s a difference. Give people something to work with. And honestly, effort shows. If the photos are lazy, people assume everything else might be too. Try reviewing your profile, make a few changes, let that camera work with your fantasy and thank me later. X What the real nerds are wondering here is: is that a Linn LP12 turntable strategically placed in your background? Oh, you’re good. Who are you BEAST?" Could have been an Ariston rd80. Very similar look in profile. Well, if we are in nerd territory | |||
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"Oh, you’re good. Who are you BEAST? Could have been an Ariston rd80. Very similar look in profile. Well, if we are in nerd territory "Ariston ... and on ... and on. There's an advert I'd completely forgotten till now. | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform
Please don’t turn this into something political. In a democracy, people are free to support whoever they choose. Back in the 90s, when this was bought it was a different story. Please keep politics out of my threead, there are plenty out there where for people to bite their heads off… 🌺🌼🪻🪷🌹🌈🦄🏳️🌈
Apologies...consider my bum spanked severely
Amen to that, anytime I’d be delighted to. But please forgive me for I have been slow to your sense of humour. I missed the timing. 💋"It does get me in trouble occasionally | |||
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Ariston ... and on ... and on. There's an advert I'd completely forgotten till now."Told you, make your own thread | |||
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" That said, it might be an idea for another thread. You should start it 🙂 Hmm, dunno, it might get political
Didn't Linn give a donation to Farage?
I mean..er..the political party Reform
Please don’t turn this into something political. In a democracy, people are free to support whoever they choose. Back in the 90s, when this was bought it was a different story. Please keep politics out of my threead, there are plenty out there where for people to bite their heads off… 🌺🌼🪻🪷🌹🌈🦄🏳️🌈
Apologies...consider my bum spanked severely
Amen to that, anytime I’d be delighted to. But please forgive me for I have been slow to your sense of humour. I missed the timing. 💋
It does get me in trouble occasionally "Not as much as it gets me, ND here. 😜 | |||
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