FabGuys.com forum: No Shows: how do you react?

Kendal

I’m sure we all hate getting stood up, as I was at 12:30. I have messaged the guy to see if there’s a reason but I’m not expecting an honest reply, if at all.

So, do I name&shame? Would you?

Also I’m now very horny & I can feel my standards falling rapidly. People I would not normally meet are in with a chance. This always happens. How do you react?

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By *erasusMan
3 weeks ago

Glasgow

Just shrug the shoulders and accept it as part of the experience

Block them obviously!

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By *ubbdaddyMan
3 weeks ago

London

Just view it as you dodged a bullet - for no shows, whoever it was behind the keyboard you were talking with is not someone you want to be intimate with. Lots of frauds, flakes and scammers just learn from the interaction and move on. Genuine people looking for real hookups will never ask you for money or 'favours'

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By *lipitinMan
3 weeks ago

worksop

I just think glad they never got over my front doorstep like mentioned above they are not genuine

Strangely similar think has just happened to myself and while waiting for a message I’m contacting by someone else on the site

We get messaging then he cleverly puts in a message he wants paying.

He doesn’t use any wor like cash or payment but I’m wise enough to see through him

Anyway I act daft and he falls for it and reveals how much he wants

I’m never surprised at what some get up to

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By *lipitinMan
3 weeks ago

worksop

Sorry for some errors in message

Have mislaid my specs lol

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By *issy SiMan
3 weeks ago

Horsham

Naming and shaming could get you a ban

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By *upertedMan
3 weeks ago

Nelson,, Caerphilly

I prep for a meet as give the benefit of the doubt.

Last few no shows tho and I've headed out cruising or usually have another nice fella on the go for a meet.

I had one fella comment how clean i was when we hooked up within 10mins of a message.

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By *urvMan
3 weeks ago

christchurch Dorset

Just think there loss and not worthy of meeting you . They might be really scared of meeting someone . Just remember there the ones with a problem not you

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By *ustOneBearMan
3 weeks ago

Neath

If they don’t turn up, it’s because they wouldn’t have been able to deliver what they promised. Saved yourself a huge disappointment in the bedroom

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By *aster CaneMan
3 weeks ago

bridgemary Gosport

Two weeks ago I had a just leaving mine now. Never arrived. No further communication. This morning I get a good morning from him.

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By *erscumdumpMan
3 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

Block and move on to your next conquest.

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By *roy1701dMan
3 weeks ago

London

I always try to have a back up plan as I go to a lot of trouble prepping before hand so am nice and fresh, usually a gay bar or cruising somewhere.

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By *eabodyMan
3 weeks ago

Walthamstow

The last one I reported as I drove to the address, he then texted me the door number and when I texted back to say see you in a min he had already blocked me. I assumed the door number was fake so I left.

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By *amie1402Man
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

I call them a useless timewaster and block them.

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By *actilePigMan
3 weeks ago

LINCOLN

Never happened to me...yet.

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By *rum39Man
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

It happens to me all the time it’s ridiculous I’m ready to delete my account

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By *enjonMan
3 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"It happens to me all the time it’s ridiculous I’m ready to delete my account "

If they have no verifications, then I insist on a phone chat before the meet.

It takes a while but you can usually out the. keyboard wankers who have no intention of meeting they. just want more wank fodder so say anything to keep you messaging.

If im travelling I tend to do a drive by a few times to get the feel of a place, one time drove to the address given, house and garden in bad state of repair, looked unlived in or neglected, anyway parked up the rd messaged to say I was there, looked back and 3 guys lurking by side of house, I messaged again and saw the phone being used. I messaged and told him the police were on their way, 3 lads off and running and I dont know why but the guy disappeared off the site!!!

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By *sexMan
3 weeks ago

ipswich

pisses me off when I have spent time getting ready, sometimes drove half an hour and then they don’t turn up and don’t even tell you. Nothing I can do so move on and don’t let it wind me up.

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By *evanianMan
3 weeks ago

Gogledd Ddwyrain Cymru

As much as a no-show leaves me a tad annoyed and downhearted, it’s just how things go sometimes. I put it down to experience, shift my focus elsewhere, and move on with a “nothing ventured, nothing gained” attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Block and put it down to life lessons and tighten it up next time. It’s shit but it comes with the territory and you start understanding signs

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By *otjam1Man
3 weeks ago

Havering area

Love the horny devils who suddenly go radio silent when it comes to the moment of do you want me to visit or not.

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By *utcock61Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow

BLOCK.

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By *b72Man
3 weeks ago

Moray

I just see it as their loss and they certainly don’t get a second chance no matter what excuse they come up with

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By *norguyMan
3 weeks ago

W Norfolk/N Cambs

from experience...

I dont arrange meets with fairly new profiles, ones with no pics or unverified ones now.

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By *excessMan
3 weeks ago

Sleaford

Move on.

There's no mileage in getting mad or upset.

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By *ustinaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

cardiff

It takes a fair bit of convincing for me to agree to a meet as I put a lot of effort into getting ready. Dressing and putting on my make-up takes time so it's particularly galling when they're a no show. But over the years it's happened a lot. In fact I'm more surprised when they actually show up up !

I have noticed however that during the initial contact phase, the ones less likely to show are the ones who bombard you with intimate questions. They seem to be the ones who are just out for a cheap thrill, with no intention of ever meeting up.

I tend not to name and shame but I do block them.

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By *ralBiguy63Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

Block them and carry on,

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By *ig3Man
3 weeks ago

Maldon

Just block them

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By *dysseus1969Man
3 weeks ago

Beckenham

Sorry about the no show. Block and move on. It’s an unfortunate part of the game. Don’t name and shame or rail about no-shows in your profile because negativity and embitterment are turn-offs. Done to the extreme, it can also make you look like the unstable one.

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By *ajkumarkapoorMan
3 weeks ago

London

A blessing in disguise.

I won't allow myself to absorb any negative energy out of disappointment that he failed to turn up or made an excuse at the last minute not to meet.

I just move on. It is all part of the experience. For those who met me I gave them a sexually satisfying experience they will always remember.

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By *licequeenbear891Man
3 weeks ago

Teddington

Oh I sort of anticipate now if someone going to be a timewaster or not, so it doesn't affect me really

I usually just block

I get many reasons, people get cold feet, someone's just a timewaster, someone is clearly not interested, someone's a keyboard enthusiast. Just a simple block after

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By *ustinaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

cardiff

Someone on here was quite persistent with his replies, always asking whether I like this or that. In the end I just asked him why so many questions and he said something along the lines of it's good to talk. Regardless of how interested he appeared to be I knew we would never meet so I blocked him.

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By *55uk4yngrMan
3 weeks ago

Chester

Sadly part of online hookups now a days.

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By *ishop666Man
3 weeks ago

ls19

True

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By *eedsbearmanMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Roll my eyes

Tut loudly

Write to my MP

Have a nice cup of tea

Block and delete

Get on with my life

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Berkshire

You can usually spot the ones who have no intention of meeting. Like previous people have mentioned, too many questions, zero verifications, dodgy looking pics, refuse to swap numbers, strike up a conversation then the radio silence then get the same user message again the following day. Thankfully it’s not happened to me but I think that’s down to sussing them out straight away. Definitely block though 👌🏼

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By *ildwestheroMan
3 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

A mixture of annoyance, disappointment and relief. The house needed a good clean anyway. The bed sheets were probably due for a change. Douching wasn't an unpleasant experience. He was probably an ugly, smelly idiot anyway.

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By *arti G xTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Chandlers Ford

It is annoying, especially for a bottom as you get yourself prepared & dressed & don't show, had four in one week 😆

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By *ocbigMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Move on.

There's no mileage in getting mad or upset."

Someone in a totally different context told me to stop ‘hating/ getting wound up’ about a person…A) because they either/neither know or care, B) long term it’s like drinking poison & hoping someone else dies.

Saved me a lot of wasted anger & resentment over the years.

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By *asyman321Man
3 weeks ago

north east

Totally pissed off and no further contact as there blocked

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