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"So I'm just wondering are tops especially older ones afraid of fucking a guy for first time. Obviously there's more bottoms then tops. Just general question ⁉️" I wonder why there are more bottoms that tops | |||
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"Im not sold on the notion that bttms are lazy. Most douche and put in more preparation than a top has to do. If you're lucky a top might give his cock a rinse under a tap, preferably a running one, or fling a wipewipe around his bellend. I'm more inclined to go with the theory that many bttms simply enjoy being penetrated. I think there's also a cohort of bttms who are anxious about their cock size or body image." Fair points made. But I meant lazy during sex, arse up and that is pretty much it! | |||
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"Im not sold on the notion that bttms are lazy. Most douche and put in more preparation than a top has to do. If you're lucky a top might give his cock a rinse under a tap, preferably a running one, or fling a wipewipe around his bellend. I'm more inclined to go with the theory that many bttms simply enjoy being penetrated. I think there's also a cohort of bttms who are anxious about their cock size or body image. Fair points made. But I meant lazy during sex, arse up and that is pretty much it!" Oh hell yeah, I've even been that lazy bttm at times. | |||
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"Im not sold on the notion that bttms are lazy. Most douche and put in more preparation than a top has to do. If you're lucky a top might give his cock a rinse under a tap, preferably a running one, or fling a wipewipe around his bellend. I'm more inclined to go with the theory that many bttms simply enjoy being penetrated. I think there's also a cohort of bttms who are anxious about their cock size or body image. Fair points made. But I meant lazy during sex, arse up and that is pretty much it! Oh hell yeah, I've even been that lazy bttm at times." lol👍 | |||
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"If you're turned off by being asked to top, then you're not a top..." See, here's an example. If you just remove the labels and ask 'are guys scared to fuck' then the answer is that yes, some are. Some guys do lack the confidence. There can be various reasons for this... The quote above is an example of expectations to live up to. Theres the usual questions like, am I big enough, will I be hard enough, will I last long enough? Theres the scenarios painted by the profiles and photos here, guys looking for fit guys only, hung guys only, under this age, over that age. You're comparing yourself to the 10inch dildo they have photos of on their profile etc. The general culture is to order sex like a product from amazon. Guys know what they want in a meet. They want this and that and come online to get a guy to do it for them, rather than just seeing a guy they fancy and click with and taking it from there. Then there's performance pressure,the nerves of meeting a stranger, maybe being in someone else's house, do I feel safe here, do I feel relaxed. Is there foreplay, is there enough foreplay, does the guy kiss, or will he just bend over and want me to shove my cock up him... the pause in play to put a condom on... All that sort of stuff. Of course a lot of this applies to guys getting fucked too. And of course all of this isn't a problem for some guys at all. But my limited experience of talking to guys about this is that performance pressure puts at least some guys off. That they aren't experienced enough to feel like they are good enough at it, which stops them meeting guys to get the experience etc etc Basically I think its down to online culture of clicking on each other like a finished product and expecting it delivered like a pizza, not giving much room for exploration and developing skills. You've got to have experience to get the job, but can't get the experience because you haven't got the job, kind of thing. | |||
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"I’d love to test the theory,any tops let me know" Be careful what you wish for some of these guys can really pound ass hehe  | |||
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"Im not sold on the notion that bttms are lazy. Most douche and put in more preparation than a top has to do. If you're lucky a top might give his cock a rinse under a tap, preferably a running one, or fling a wipewipe around his bellend. I'm more inclined to go with the theory that many bttms simply enjoy being penetrated. I think there's also a cohort of bttms who are anxious about their cock size or body image. Fair points made. But I meant lazy during sex, arse up and that is pretty much it!" There is a lot of work to do on my knees before it's bottom up then it could be on knees again before the top has finished then it's on to the knees again. Or being a bottom riding a top, the top just lays there while the bottom does all the work. I work hard to get my verifications. There is a lot more effort to please a top than just arse up. Miss Smith 💋💋💋 | |||
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"So I'm just wondering are tops especially older ones afraid of fucking a guy for first time. Obviously there's more bottoms then tops. Just general question ⁉️" Not sure about the question. Do you mean the tops first time or the bottom’s first time? If it’s the former can he be called a top? If it’s the latter why would he be afraid? | |||
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"Im not sold on the notion that bttms are lazy. Most douche and put in more preparation than a top has to do. If you're lucky a top might give his cock a rinse under a tap, preferably a running one, or fling a wipewipe around his bellend. I'm more inclined to go with the theory that many bttms simply enjoy being penetrated. I think there's also a cohort of bttms who are anxious about their cock size or body image. Fair points made. But I meant lazy during sex, arse up and that is pretty much it! There is a lot of work to do on my knees before it's bottom up then it could be on knees again before the top has finished then it's on to the knees again. Or being a bottom riding a top, the top just lays there while the bottom does all the work. I work hard to get my verifications. There is a lot more effort to please a top than just arse up. Miss Smith 💋💋💋" Totally agree. It's a ridiculous notion to suggest that total bottoms are that just because they're lazy. There's all that faff with the prep for starters and unless the top prefers me to be sub i'm quite an active bottom and don't expect them to do all the work.  | |||
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